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where can a girl at age fifteen get a condom without ID or something?

you don't need an I.D to purchase condoms and there available at walgreens , cvs, any corner store.

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i love it when boys compliment my boobs, i enjoy boys playing with my boobs and i always get my tits out for the boys. does this make me slutty ?

Yup

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iv ben with my boyfriend for almost a year. its not working out anymore and i kind of wana break up but im scared to do it, hes my best friend and i wana stay bestfriends. hes unstable and has anger management so im scared on how to, i dont want him to freakout. should i give him another chance? hes leaving for vacation for the next two weeks on friday. what do i do :(

Try writting a "break up" letter to him and in the note sortve let it all out and how you feel about the relationship and how you care enough to stay best friends the least he can do is ripp it but just so he reads it don't tell him its a break up letter . Start out nice , and end it with nice & sorry.

Goodluckk :]

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is it considered cheating if i let my ex girlfriend shit and/or piss on my chest?
or sniff and lick their butthole?

Eww. & yeah.

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Okay, well I wasn't really sure where to put this but uh here goes. So I'm 13/F and he was 14/M. He is an awesome friend but he's always been a perv. Anyway, he took it too far this time and I flipped out. We were walking in a group and some other guys that we were with were making fun of him about how he "can't get a girl" and he says "I can get any girl I want!" so he grabs me, pins me against a wall, and sticks his hand down my pants. I freaked and kicked him in the balls... He looked like he was in severe pain. I almost felt bad but not really cuz what did he expect? But now he's super pissed at me. I don't think he has a right! Does anyone else think I was out of line?

No not at all..what you did was nothing wrongg he touched you when you didn't want to be why should you have to take what he did?? I would've personally kicked him too and I would've done it HARDER. Don't let anyone touch you if you feel uncomfortable its your body and you shouldn't feel like you did something wrong because you didn't who cares if he's upset with you he shouldn't of touched you ! Let him be pist off he'll get over it and if he doesn't then forget about him don't ever let a man silence you from anythingg they do to you .

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Okay. My boyfriend's sister, "A", is turning seventeen on July 13th. I've been with my bf for ten months and am always at his house, so I see her a lot. We aren't really close friends, but we're the same age. She has dyed my hair for me numerous times free of charge, and let me borrow money one time when I wanted to make a purchase. My birthday just passed and she didn't get me a gift, but she did decorate my ice cream cake. She doesn't really get gifts for even family members because she doesn't have much money. I want to get her something nice and am looking for ideas. I'm willing to spend up to thirty bucks. Her favorite color is green. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Well it really depends the kind of stuff she's into ..you could try getting her something she likes forexample I'm into crafts and photographyy I like candles andd picture frames and reallyy bright colors try finding out what she likes, you could take her out and have her pick out a "birthday gift", or a giftcard from somewhere so she could spend it her own way with a hallmark card

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I want honest answers because I don't know if I've turned into a crazy girlfriend or am I thinking right.

Over the summer me and my boyfriend have this unwritten rule that during the day he hangs out with his guy friends and then I come over around 4. Well recently he got a car and it needs work and he hasn't stopped working on it all week. Today I went shopping with the girls and he was working on cars with the guys and we agreed to meet back up at his house around 4 as usual. I get there and he wasn't there, so I hang around for an hour and there was no sign that he was coming home so his sister and I decided to go into town and shop around for an hour before all the shops close. One of the stores stayed open for us so we ended up being out for two hours. We came back and my boyfriend still wasn't home so I went to go watch tv alone in his room and after getting the third "I'll be home soon" text from my boyfriend I got bored and fell asleep. He woke me up at 8 when he came in and he had one of his friends with him which annoyed me the minute I woke up. He had the nerve to bring his friend back after hanging with the guys all day and I only had about an hour and a half before I had to go home and he knew that. So for an hour we went back and forth with the "What's wrong?" "Nothing" thing. I kept saying nothing because I was really annoyed and didn't want to start anything in front of his friend. Well he finally figured out that I was mad because A)I was only going to see him for 2 hours. B)he brought his friend with him. BUT! not long after he made that great discovery his friend called him (the one whos house he's been at all day) and he asks what time they were going out. Now this pissed me off and I'm going to sum it up for the sake of making this simple.
-boyfriend is with the guys from 10am-8pm working on cars
-has "time with me" that includes his friend
-boyfriend leaves at 9:30(his friends wont let him wait until 10 which is when I leave). and he goes to a underground street car show an hour away with the same friends he's been with all day.
-i go home and then at 1am get a text from him complaining that he barely saw me today.


Am I turning into one of those controling girlfriends or do I have a right to be annoyed?

This situation was the one that really pissed me off but I've been hearing about this car for weeks now. I'll start a conversation or talk to him about an actual problem that I have and he'll change the conversation out of the blue to talk about the car and for a while I actually showed interest.
And we haven't had a day to ourselves without one of his friends showing up in over a week.


Other info:
We're both 18. Been dating for 5 months.

I agree with christina (below me) you have every right to feel the way you do and you are not being controlling in any form of way what he did is rude and he is the one to blame you didn't do anything . If my boyfriend did this to me I'd be upset too but I'd go with trying to seriously talk to him about it and how you both made a commitment and he refused to go on with it that day if you don't talk about it its only going to get worse and if he really likes you he'll respect your feelings and won't do it again

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This guy and I have been dating for almost three months now.Is it weird we haven't kissed yet?
He asked me if I wanted to and I was like well, I don't know. Some of me wants to, but the last person I kissed was a girl, and I was basically, pressured into that. I think the only reason I haven't is maybe I might have a fear of not feeling something or possibly feel something. And I thought maybe I should have kissed him, and maybe I'm a dang idiot, but too, I feel like it should be unexpected. What do you think?

Well I think that the reason why your pulling yourself back from kissing him is because you might not be ready and there's nothing wrong with that its just who you are . If he really likes you he'll understand and wait till your ready. A kiss should be unexpected not a hobby.

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I have a girlfriend but i'm falling for another girl again and i really like them both what should i do?

You have to pick between the both ..are you sure that the girl your falling for isn't just lust ? If you really like your girlfriend you'll try and work things out between the both of you

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Do you think that it is ok to go to prom w/o a date? 17/f

I would muchh rather go to my prom alone rather than with a date because when you take a date you'll basiclly be limited to what you can do because you'll be with someone rather than when your alone your free to do what ever

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Recently, I became good friends with this girl. She's fun and really awesome to hang out with and usually it's hard for me to get along with girls (all the drama, etc). The big problem is, I met her boyfriend who she's been with for many years, and he's perfect. He's all the qualities I want in a guy and he knocks me off my feet. I never fall easily for guys, so when I do, it's serious. He'll flirt with me constantly and one time while we were alone he kind of hinted that he was tired of the relationship. I don't know what to do and how to act around him now. If my new friend found out, it'd be a disaster since we have a whole group of mutual friends now and she'd definitely kill me! What do I do? I'm infatuated with him, but she's been really nice to me. (19/F)

Think about who's more important.. The guy or your new friend. I mean do you really think its worth starting problems with someone you just met over a guy? Why hurt her when she didn't even do anything to you? You have to really think about this..are you positive if he were to leave her for you that he won't do the same for another girl he meets? Karma's going to bite you really hard ..personally I'd stop flirting with him and I'd keep the friend.

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Is it okay to kiss my g/f on her forehead while we hug? Would she find that weird or ok? I love her a lot and want to show more affection for her. I don't want to make her uncomfortable or unhappy though. What are your thoughts on a guy kissing his girlfriend on the forehead?

Its a plus ! I loveee when my boyfriend does it I think its the most cutest thing ever ! It makes me feel so loved and warm don't feel weird about it its perfectly fine and she'll love it =)

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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..

last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?

Your a drama queen bitch. Grow the fuck up and leave him alone.

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where can i download it or watch it for FREE?

www.watchfreemovies.com
Or .net not sure try both.

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I want to break up with my girlfriend, but I have no idea where she lives, her parents blocked my phone, I don't know any of her freinds to carry the bad news to her, and it's summer for us. How can I break up with her?

Hmm sounds like your caught in a real tough position...does she have any network like myspace facebook? Or an aol screename? If not then just simply try movingg on till she calls and then explain that you triied getting in contact with her but that you couldn't find a way. I'm sure she's moved on herself. But just try and move on.

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sorry i didnt know under what category to put this.

so i bought nair today. and when i apply the way and pull it off with the strip the hair still doesnt come out!!?
what am i doing wrong?
i pull it off right away. should i wait or smth???

Apply it and let it sitt for 3 minutes ....it should say the exact amount of time you should let it sitt for but I have nair and it works fine. . Try reading the back of the product.

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ok so everytime im on the phone with my boyfriend and we are going to get off he says hell call me back and ends up not doing that i dont know what to do ya duh talk about it but i sorta dont know how to start with it without sounding like a biotch i think its so stupid to get angry over this but i am and i want it to stop. o and by the way my number is so simple to remember its not even funy the last 4 digits are all the same like it 5555 its ANNOYING

The next time he says he'll call you back joke about it.... for example you could try saying something like " don't forget to call this time hahaha " or kinda hint it out that he doesn't call you but you could just come straight out with it to him in a non bitchy way it doesn't hurt to know right?

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i need help i babysit and the child acts really sweet while the parents are around but hes a devil when they leave what should i do



signed
baby distress

you should talk to the childs parents about his behavior changes ..the person below me is somewhat right it looks as if the child is lacking attention from his parents ..try doing fun things with him such as , playing or reward him for every good deed he does. The kid is just asking for attention but I'd deff talk to his parents about it.

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what do you do when someone breaks your heart?:(

The best thing to do is move on as much as its hard to do so its the only way you"ll be able to be ready for the next relationship. Try distracting yourself listen to happy moving music or go for walks with a friend , try going shopping or even exercise ! Those types of things help me move on ...try not to think about him and soon you'll forget about him.

Hope I helped =)

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okayy. there is this girl and she has been my best friend since she was born. but she is stating to become very bitchy. she doesnt get her period and she is only in 6th grade.
but she was a big copier.
last year she copied me none stop.
now she isnt, but ever since she had these new 'friends' [i think they are using her] she has been not talking to me like i'm her friend.
she makes me feel like crap sometimes.
but its not like i can just ditch her.
our parents have been bff's since 7th grade!
what do i do?

Have you tried confronting her about how you feel? Tried taking her aside away from her new friends and talk to her tell her that you don't like the new person she's changed into and that you feel like she's pushing you aside if she won't listen to you then try writng her a letter explaining everything and how you feel . If not then try talking to your parents about this.

Hope I helped =)

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