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Maybe I'm a dang idiot? or afraid of falling in love?
This guy and I have been dating for almost three months now.Is it weird we haven't kissed yet?
He asked me if I wanted to and I was like well, I don't know. Some of me wants to, but the last person I kissed was a girl, and I was basically, pressured into that. I think the only reason I haven't is maybe I might have a fear of not feeling something or possibly feel something. And I thought maybe I should have kissed him, and maybe I'm a dang idiot, but too, I feel like it should be unexpected. What do you think?
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Well I think that the reason why your pulling yourself back from kissing him is because you might not be ready and there's nothing wrong with that its just who you are . If he really likes you he'll understand and wait till your ready. A kiss should be unexpected not a hobby.
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A strong relationship requires a strong foundation. It has become popular today to forget how AWESOME real love is. Most people just tend to try out everything before marriage, (even if it is a serious relationship like it sounds you want to have), and then blow it when married life doesn't offer anything new.
Serious guys go for a girl (like dating & stuff) only if they want real commitment. They wouldn't want to hurt the girl, themselves, or other people by making the wrong choices. A cracked foundation doesn't make a house to stand strong. So what I'm saying is, it's not good to get into relationships just to be in on it. Break-ups really do hurt much more than when we try to be honest with ourselves and go only for a serious relationship.
You seem to really like the guy. If you want a great relationship now, and plan to keep it strong until even marriage, then please keep it pure. Even such small things as kissing will be sacred parts of your heart that you r giving away. Don't do it now. Pre-marriage romances so often end up hurting rather than building relationships (statistics show us the sadness of so much divorce). Every person has a beautiful rose in their hearts, if we give away every petal now, we won't have anything left to give when we decide we want the real thing.
I hope this works out for you. Just remember, don't blow it. A real guy who wants a real relationship with a great girl will do everything from his side to build a strong foundation and a passionate love. If he's the one, then he will understand.
If you're serious about this relationship, tell him you want commitment, and if you don't think he's really the guy then it's best to look for someone else (as hard as that might be). Romance shouldn't only be kissing and sex (especially before marriage). Good feelings like this tend to hurt afterward. It's better to love someone much more creative than a guy who fulfills only his own desires by pressuring the girl. Don't feel like you have to show him love by kissing or even sex if he ever mentions it. The purpose of wonderful romance is to build strong relationships and have real love.
Believe me, it's so romantic to tell your guy on your wedding night that you r a virgin and that he's the only person you've ever kissed! even if it sounds bland now. If you stay committed to someone who is committed to you, it will we the best kind of relationship ever (promise)! Strawberries have to grow before they are truly sweet. So, us too. We've got to wait before fully tasting the sacred, only then are we satisfied.
The most important thing is this: Keep it pure and it will be strong, and don't forget, your kisses will be so much sweeter after you make that mutual promise. Such commitment is rare, but honestly the best of relationships. If you are willing to strive for real love, then it's truly worth it.
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lol you totally shocked me with the I kissed a girl part. Maybe your afraid if you kiss him, your realize you like kissing girls more. So what I'm basically saying is, maybe your afraid of realizing your into chicks.
But I mean, its been three months. I think you should kiss already! :)
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