Hi..my name is Skyla. I'm 18 and I luv 2 give and recieve advice and just luv 2 talk. So, if you ever have a question or need advice, i'd luv 2 hear from u. I'm not the brightest person in the world, but I'll try to fill u in on what I know... or if you ever wanna just talk, you know where to find me!! =)
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The first time I ever had sex was when I was 16 and I lasted 30-40 minutes in the early years. But as years pass by, it seems like the duration keeps getting lower. Now I last only about 20 minutes and I feel very ashamed of it(sometimes less). I want to make my partner feel the pleasure as much as I do, but sometimes, I just lose control and let it end. It lasts longer when I use a thicker condom, but I can't really feel anything if I do. If I use a really thin one or don't wear one at all, it feels good for me, but it doesn't last a long time.
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masterbate before sex and dont let urself get too excited. if u half to just think disgusting nonsexual thoughts and u should last longer.
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What's your opinion and why? (link)
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Of course everyone has their own opinions, but I don't think that you should. You really shouldn't do it, because say you just had like a one night stand with them, then find someone you really like a week or two later, your gonna wish you had never done that with the person before. You need to find someone that you could see yourself with, or possibly even marry, then share that special bond with them.
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My best friend just told me something really bad tonight that I am not supposed to tell anyone. But its really bothering me and i need someones help on what i should do. & i dont wanna hear that I am a bad friend for saying this online when i wasnt supposed to tell anybody.
My friend went to her 20 year old sisters house to hang out with her. She met this kid while being there and took him back to meet her sister. One thing led to another and the two started making out in another room. Her sister and her boyfriend walked in and her boyfriend ripped my best friend off of the other guy and started taking off her clothes and feeling her up. the kid she met who she was making out with started joining in while her older sister watched and encouraged this to keep going in order to have a foursome. She doesnt want to tell her mom because she says it will ruin the family. Should i keep it a secret like i promised or say something to her mom? I don't want her to be mad at me but no matter what i need to do whats right. (link)
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You need to tell her mom! Tell her that if she don't you are going to! I was almost raped, well sexually assualted back in January. I waited a week to take it to the police, and of course hey didn't do a dang thing about it. The guy ended up getting away with it! But, hopefully, if this gets out sooner, then something can be done with it. The guys that were doing it NEED to be punished and behind bars, or even in the pen! And the sister definately needs to be punished as well! I mean, I know she's going to feel like she can't tell anyone, but if she doesn't tell, then it's gonna bother her for a long time. Trust me, what happened to me bothers me a lot!
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I haven't had sex and im 15... Am I a freak? Cause it seems like all my friends are talking about having sex and I don't even WANT to until I am married.
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Having sex is a personal decision for everyone. Now days, kids are doing it at a younger age. It's ridiculous. Having sex at the age 15 is way too young. I got pregnant when I was 17 and had my baby boy when i was 18. I mean yea, he's my blessing and my life, but if I could change time, I would have waited to have him. You also got to think about, "what if I get pregnant, and the guy leaves me?" You've got to think of all the consequences of having sex before you actually do it. People say they're having sex, but a lot of those young kids aren't actually doing it. They're kind of like you, they think everyone else is doing it, so they just say they're doing it too. But the most important things is, if you don't feel comftorable doing it, then DON'T do it, no matter what ANYONE else tells you. Trust me you need to WAIT, and follow your instincts!
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ever since i've been a teenager i've been having confusing thoughts and doubts about my religion. i'm methodist christian, and was raised that way. we go to church on sundays, but we're not overly religious. like, my parents drink and stuff, we cuss, they party, i party, we're not like all "ZOMG DON'T SAY GOD'S NAME IN VAIN" or anything of the sort. okay in all honesty, i'm probably the worst christian alive. but from what i was raised to believe, that doesn't matter as long as i'm on the right path. and i wasn't worried about anything up until about 3 or 4 years ago.
i had found out that my closest friend was an atheist and it scared me. i didn't wanna picture the thought of a sweet girl like her burning in hell for eternity. but i couldn't change her mind!! no one could. so i finally gave up a year ago and just let her believe in what she wants to. and after i switched to public school and saw how everyone was either atheist or satanist or wiccan or something, and only a choice few were still christian, i started thinking in terms of more of an atheistic point of view, and if not that, agnostic. i want to believe anything will happen to me when i die. i mean, living for however many years and then going straight to the ground for eternity? what fun is that? i mean, i know dying isn't supposed to be fun, but what about those 4 year old kids that get run over or die of pnuemonia or something? they barely have any memories and they're just going to the ground, never to live again? i want to believe that there is a heaven. and i suppose if i believe there is a heaven, then there has to be a hell. but then i started thinking, how could any of this be possible? if god is real, well then why can't i hear him? i've tried to, and at times when i thought he was talking to me, its just been my own thoughts or my imagination. i find it really unfair that jesus was able to prove himself to everyone in the bible, so that they knew what to believe. well what about the rest of us? what do we have to lean on?! i have ABSOLUTELY NO PROOF of anything, and my clock is ticking! i don't want to stop believing, just to find out i was wrong and then go to hell for it, but i don't want to keep believing, and find out i was wasting my time on the wrong god, or that there is just no god, period. i need help and i need it fast. i have other things to worry about and this helps absolutely nothing. and everytime i turn around, one of my friends stop believing. the love of my life just said he didn't know if there's a god at all, and how can i help him if i can't even help myself? i don't want to lose him like i did with my other friend. it was too late to change her mind but i want to save him. (link)
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Well, I agree with howard. The Bible does state that we don't need to hang out with the unholy ones, because they can influence our decision on God. Like the predicament that you are in right now. I know, I've been there. I never stopped believing, but it influenced my decision on how I lived my life. But with your atheist friend, I've been through the same thing. I had a close friend that went atheist. I never gave up on her. It took time though, but she eventually changed, 'cuz i never gave up on her. So don't give up on your friend.
All you can do is continue to pray. God will eventually speak to you. God has a plan for everyone. You've got a good start because you know that there could be a heaven. Others don't care of they don't believe that there's a Heaven. Continue to pray for the one that you love. Continue to pray and God will help you find yourself, then you will be able to spread the word and minister to people and share your story!!! I'll keep you in my prayers. Just continue to pray, read the Bible, and keep CHRIST FIRST in your life!!!!
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i am insanely scared of the world ending. i am soo scared that 12/21/12 is true. is it true? if it's not true, what is proof that it's not true and what are some sources to lead to the idea that it's not true. (link)
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There are several sides to this story. People may have several dates to where they think that the world is going to end. you can find in revelations and several other places in the Bible stating that no one knows when the world is going to end except for God himself. So who can say that the world is going to end 2012? No one has the authority to say that. Well, we can all say what we want. The Bible states that no one knows the day nor the hour that Jesus will come back for his second coming. It may be today, tonight, or maybe 10 years from now. But the Bible does state that it will be unexpected though.
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Im 17 and i know ill be losing my virginity this summer. But apart of me still thinks HE is too good for me. And that im not that beautiful and skinny enough to have sex. Has anyone ever felt this way? How should i get over these feelings? (link)
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First of all, you need to know if your ready. You should never just have sex with someone, at least make sure that you can see yourself with that person in the future, not just for a one night stand. And if you are ready, then if the guy really cared about you and not what you looked like, he wouldn't care if you were skinny or not. We are who we are. No one has a perfect body. We are all unique in our own way!
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I have a flat stomach but my hips are huge. Do you have any tips on how to get my hips smaller? (link)
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Well I'm really not for sure on how you would get your hips smaller. I know hips are common to be bigger on girls than they are guys. The older the girls get, the bigger they're hips get..well that's common. I have a similar problem. My stomach is flat, but I have a large chest. My hips are descent size. I'm just living with it though. God wanted me like this for some reason.....lol
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My boyfriend broke up with me ..2 and a half days ago.The only communication we had was a text he sent me the next morning and i responded and he responded one more time and I didn't write back.He's away on a mini vacation right now but I'm playing my cards right and not texting him and giving him space because that's his reason for breaking up with me.I miss him like crazy and I've never been so depressed ever.He told two of my friends(separately) that he's sad and misses me too.I wrote him a two page letter but I don't know when the right time to give it to him is. I don't know if he plans on talking to me when he gets back and I won't see him until school starts again (in like a week) unless we hangout ..which is doubtful.The letter isn't begging him to take me back..it's actually a letter thanking him for all the fun times we had and saying that I miss him and stuff like that.He has some of his stuff at my house and in my locker at school,so should I slip it in there? or wait for him to talk to me first? How should I do the letter? (link)
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I would also write on the note that you have some of his stuff at your house. Just kinda throw that out there to him. Just make sure he gets it somehow, whether that means sticking it in his locker or whatever. You need to give him the space that he says he needs. Give him time to think about what he wants. If he really likes you and wants to be with you, then he will talk to you. He will want to come back, and he will have to get ahold of you somehow if he still wants to be with you. If he doesn't, don't stress, trust me, there is plenty of guys out there that would love to have a girlfriend!
Hope everything turns out for the best! Good Luck!!!
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I sleep around (link)
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YEP. If you sleep around with several guys then yes. And if you sleep around with other guys when your in a relationship, then yes, you are DEFINITELY a slut!
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im always wearing a sports bra even when im sleeping and i was wondering if it was binding down my breast from growing? (link)
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No, wearing a sports bra even when your sleeping isn't going to keep your breast from growing. I usually wear a sports bra and a regular bra all the time.... sometimes even when I'm sleeping as well. Trust me, it hasn't kept me from growing, and it won't keep you from growing.
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so... my boyfriend and i are probably going to have sex pretty soon, and i don't know if i'm supposed to be shaving or waxing or anything down there.. i heard somewhere that you can just leave it but i don't know what most people do. i don't want him to be grossed out or anything if i just leave it how it is. please help, thanks (link)
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Most guys like it cleaned up. You can either shave it completely or just trim it. But it's like Bri said, if the guy really loved you then he wouldn't care. But just kinda bring the subject up, and see what he likes then you'll have an idea of what he would like you to do. hope i helped
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ok i like this guy and i need advise to help me get his attention and to actuall y notice me. (link)
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Just try to hang around him more and just be yourself.. If he doesn't notice you while your being yourself, then I wouldn't worry about it because he's not for you. But try to find ways that ya can be together more often or hang out more often, then it'll give him a better chance to notice you and see who you really are.. hope i helped =) * Skyla *
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I REALLY like this guy at school,Ryan, but he doesn't like me the same way.He only wants to be friends.I really want to go out with him though. What should i do? There is also some other,way prettier girls,lookin at him and I want him. :-] Any advice? (link)
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If Ryan doesn't have a girlfriend, try to hang around him more often. Get to know him a little better. Then maybe more of a connection will pop up and he'll see if he really likes you as well as you really like him. Don't worry about the other girls, you try to move in and get to know him better and go from there... hope it helps.. try not to give up too early keep your head up hehe =)
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Ok so I'm 16 female and I am having some boy problems. I am totally ready for a boyfriend and I have liked this guy for a really long time. I have only had one boyfriend for a few weeks and It was a bad experience and I am really ready to move on. The guy that I like keeps giving mixed signals. He acts flirty and stuff and idk if he even knows I like him or not. I have tried everything and he can rarely hang out cause his parents are divorced. I want him to know how I feel but he gets really shy and embarrassed. We have a sweet 16 coming up and I want to know how to act around him to maybe win him over. I just would love to go out with him and I need some advice on how to get him to either like me back or tell me how he feels. Even though sometimes I feel like he likes me, I also feel like there is something holding him back and idk what it could be. HELP! oo we are also pretty good friends if that makes a difference. thank you =] (link)
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Well, in situations like these, being good friends makes a big difference. This gives the other person a better chance to eventually tell you how they feel or just to be themselves around you. You should wait until your both hanging out, usually when your not around a lot of other people, and just ask him how he feels about you. Of course it's going to be awkward, but atleast if you get it out in the open, he won't give you mixed signals anymore. Of course he may be alittle shy, so try starting out like telling him he's a great guy and everything and kinda go into detail, but without pushing him away... you know wat i mean? then maybe he'll open up to you and tell you how he feels about you and if not, just kinda hint around about asking him... See if this works then tell me okie dokie... hope it helps
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so i really don't know you that well what so look for in a person and what are the main things you look for in a person huh just wondering (link)
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um. well, you could probably start out by telling me who you are lol.. um, I look for honestly and pure-heartedness in somebody. I dont' like fake people...
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I always try and show God's love to everyone through how I treat them, but last year at school I started having real problems doing so because of something that started happening. There's a guy at my school who's basically nice, but he can't take a hint at all. He tries to be BFF's w/ everybody, particularly girls, and whenever we get our school pictures, he always orders a whole bunch, and then gives all these girls, myself included, pictures of him, even when some girls obviously want nothing to do w/ him. He's done this now to all of us in 6th, 7th, and 8th grade, and I guess he'll do it again this fall when we're freshman. he's given us all so many pics of himself that he has basically become a joke at our school for doing so. Last year, a lot of the girls he gave pictures to starting throwing them into the toilet in the girls bathroom, and leaving them there for everyone to see and make fun of the guy, and he never had any clue what was happening. Some of the girls even pressured me to do that to my picture of him as well. A few times, I almost had accidents b/c I had to change stalls to avoid those pictures floating in the toilets. I wanted to know for future reference how to best show God's love to both specifically this guy, and also to the girls who have started doing this to his pictures and want me to do so, as in what could I say or do that would best convey God's love to them? I mean, is the more loving thing to do to tell the guy honestly what is happening to his pictures bluntly, or to not? What's the most Christ-like loving way to respond when the girls start pressuring me to flush my copy pf his pic also, or to respond when I see his pic that they thrown in the toilet when I have to go? (link)
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Well, these girls just sound like a bunch of jerks. But every school has them. I would just tell them that what they're doing isn't right. Your going to have to be the person that will be there for this guy. It's going to take a lot of course, especially when everybody else around you is hurting his feelings, without him even knowing it. Just talk to the girls and tell them that what they're doing isn't nice, or right at all. Just remember, try not to get pressured into what everybody else is doing, no matter how hard it seems. Look up 2 Timothy 2:22. Always keep that verse in your head for reference, even though it may be hard, if we put our effort in, God will bless us in the end. I know it's not much, but I hope I helped!! Write me back and tell me how it went....
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Ok so i like this guy named daniel hes really cute and and funny the problem is that he just got broken up with by my friend marygrace and he says he still likes her but might like this other girl. Im going to ask him who he going to dance with at our school dance and see if he says me Is that a bad idea? We are pretty good friends but im not sure if he likes me and is over marygrace. (link)
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No, there's no problem with you asking him. This way if he says that he planned on taking you, then you have a good chance of him liking you. If your pretty good friends, then that'll be an even better reason for you to ask him, and a lot easier. Also, if your pretty good friends, then it'll be easier for you to hint around the bush on who he "currently" likes lol..
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Okay...me and my bf r deeply in love with each other..we've decided that when we have the chance we will have sex. i really love him with all my heart and this is my first time..its his first too.If i give him my virginity it is my all. he told me he really loves me too...i know..guys can lie..but i know for sure my bf is not that type of person. Last time...he fingered me and when he was not deep..it didn't hurt but tthen he moved in it started to hurt...if we have sex will it really hurt? he said it will but he'll hold me really tight..me and my bf might have unprotected sex...he told me to get pills but i dunno where to get them...but if we really do have unprotected sex...what is the chance of me getting pregnant? is there a day we shoujld have sex to lower the chance? is there a way to have sex to lower the risk? what should we do? also...can someone please teach me how to give a guy an oral...i dunno how.. (link)
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Yeah, it probably will hurt if he fingered you and it hurt when he went in deeper because obviously when you have sex it'll more than likely go in pretty deep. Yeah, it'd be better to have protected sex by using a condom 'cuz if you don't it's really likely that you could get pregnant. You could get on birth control by going to the doctor. If you didn't want your mom to know that you wanted the pills for that then just tell her that your periods are irregular or that if your breaking out it's supposed to cure it. It's also suppose to get your periods regular, too. If you tell the doctor that, then he should give you some birth control pills. And for the last part, when the time comes you'll just know what to do, it'll come naturally.. our wonderful natural instinct lol..
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I havent had my period for 2 months, I usually get it every month on the 25th. A month ago I had light bleeding(not my period, I know for sure) and I vomited 1 time, but after that I got no other symptoms, they just went away. I've taken at least 4 Crystal Clear pregnancy tests and they've been coming up with a very faint line and Im not sure if it's positive or an Evap line.
People keep telling me to try the ClearBlue Digital test but others say they give one result on one day and a different result the next day then someone told me that the First Response pregnancy test is the best one out there. I don't know which one to use. My boyfriend and I agreed to take 2 more home tests and then get a Blood test. I've been told that any line, even a faint one, means Positive but I have no symptoms except light abdominal pain. No vomiting, no sore breasts...Im confused, Which home test is more accurate? (link)
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Ok.. I believe you should take the ClearBlue test. It usually comes with 2 in there for about $10 and it isn't always changing when you use it. It should stay the same if your for sure pregnant. Take one one day and then take another one 3 days later. This will tell you digitally if your pregnant or not. They're very accurate. Now, if you are pregnant, you may be one of the lucky ones that don't have symptons even when you hit 5 months pregnant. Everybody is different. And you may be lucky enough to where you don't even show at 5 months. There are some people that don't put on the weight until later..later on. But, I would take that test and it should give you the accurate answer.. Good Luck!!!
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