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Okay...me and my bf r deeply in love with each other..we've decided that when we have the chance we will have sex. i really love him with all my heart and this is my first time..its his first too.If i give him my virginity it is my all. he told me he really loves me too...i know..guys can lie..but i know for sure my bf is not that type of person. Last time...he fingered me and when he was not deep..it didn't hurt but tthen he moved in it started to hurt...if we have sex will it really hurt? he said it will but he'll hold me really tight..me and my bf might have unprotected sex...he told me to get pills but i dunno where to get them...but if we really do have unprotected sex...what is the chance of me getting pregnant? is there a day we shoujld have sex to lower the chance? is there a way to have sex to lower the risk? what should we do? also...can someone please teach me how to give a guy an oral...i dunno how..
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no no no. DO NOT have unprotected sex. you WILL get pregnant. the whole point of having unprotected sex is to get pregnant. use a condom. just do it. it may not be as great for the guy, but ask him if he would rather wear a condom or be a daddy? also, birth control pills are necessary too. you can ask your doctor for them or you can go to planned parenthood and get them. go on this website:
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good luck, be safe. :)
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Do NOT have unprotected sex. A large number of the people who end up pregnant before high school finishes make exactly the same mistake you are about to make.
The answer is, if you have unprotected sex you very possibly could get pregnant every time you have sex.
Though, for your own edification, ovulation usually happens 2 weeks after your period. During and immediately after ovulation is when you are at your most fertile, though sex before ovulation or long after even up to the start of your period could potentially get you pregnant. This is, however, completely unreliable to you. Why? Teenaged girls bodies are still developing, and often have not settled into a regular rhythm. You could ovulate early, or late. Your period can come faster or slower than the "28 day cycle" that doctors quote as normal.
Use a condom. Do not let ANYONE have sex with you without a condom. Pregnancy is not the only thing to protect yourself from, and guys will lie about how many people theyve been with depending on the results. Ive known guys who said they were virgins or very inexperienced so as to not intimidate or be asked about STDs, and virgins who have lied about being with lots of girls to seem cool.
He is obviously not the most brilliant guy in the world. If hes considering having unsafe sex and told you to get pills as if that was the end of it, he's not taking your or his safety into account very well, he just wants to get laid.
As much as it sucks, it is YOUR responsibility to protect yourself, because you cannot trust anyone else to do it for you 100% of the time.
If you choose sex, you need to at least get 2 things.
1) Condoms with spermicidal lubricant. I recommend Trojans, Ive never had problems with them thus far.
2) Vaginal Contraceptive Film (VCF). Highly recommended. VCF is a little breath strip looking thing you put inside yourself 15 minutes prior. It dissolves into a small amount of spermicidal gel and is quoted to be about 80% effective in preventing pregnancy during unprotected sex that otherwise WOULD have resulted in a pregnancy.
What its there for, is if the condom breaks you have a second line of defense to at least keep you from getting pregnant. Its nowhere near fool proof, but VCF works fine with latex condoms and it gives you that much more protection.
Both can be found on the contraceptives isle together.
Part of doing "adult" activities is taking adult responsibility. I do not recommend you have sex, you do not sound like you are ready for it, but if you choose to despite advice not to then please protect yourself.
Oh, and there is no position that is "less" likely to make you pregnant, regardless of what anyone says. If you get semen in you you can get pregnant, end of story. Anyone who tells you different is lying through their teeth because they are ignorant or/and they just want to get laid.
If you get in the moment and you didn't get condoms, and he didnt get condoms, WAIT. If nothing else, send his ass to the store to get what he needs. I can promise that if you tell him he isnt getting anything without being safe, he WILL be safe. If he refuses... well can you honestly tell me that a boyfriend who just wants to get off and is stupid enough to be willing to risk all kinds of ruination to your lives loves you?
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Yeah, it probably will hurt if he fingered you and it hurt when he went in deeper because obviously when you have sex it'll more than likely go in pretty deep. Yeah, it'd be better to have protected sex by using a condom 'cuz if you don't it's really likely that you could get pregnant. You could get on birth control by going to the doctor. If you didn't want your mom to know that you wanted the pills for that then just tell her that your periods are irregular or that if your breaking out it's supposed to cure it. It's also suppose to get your periods regular, too. If you tell the doctor that, then he should give you some birth control pills. And for the last part, when the time comes you'll just know what to do, it'll come naturally.. our wonderful natural instinct lol..
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It probably will hurt. Especially your first time. It is a VERY goos chance. He should take responsibility too and get some condoms. No, there isn't really much you can do. Just taking the pills and getting a condom. But make sure you are positive you want this too. And for the last thing it will come automatically most likely.
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