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Q: anyone know where i can get these necklaces online, or the name of them. i heard each other is suppose to stand for something different too.

thanks a lot.

http://tinypic.com/r/fp9wgl/3

I'm not even sure that you can get them online.
I've seen them around here, and everyone I have asked, has made them.
All you use is thread..I'm sure you can look the instructions up on the internet.
Its not that hard to do...

http://quazen.com/recreation/crafts/string-necklace-design/

Q: okay so im feeling like a change and just want some unbiased opinions since my friends are all split down the middle...

should i go lighter and curlier?

http://img189.imageshack.us/i/blondecap.jpg/

darker and straight?

http://img31.imageshack.us/i/brunettez.jpg/

or keep it the way it is...

http://img40.imageshack.us/i/img5727u.jpg/

(sorry for the weird faces, i tend to do that in self pics)

I agree with the user below me elw, or els one lol. The blonde on your hair makes your eyes, blend in. And its really damaging your hair. With the darker color your hair looked so much healthier.
Either way I like the brown, & straight.
Hope I helped!
AA

Q: Okay, well I wasn't really sure where to put this but uh here goes. So I'm 13/F and he was 14/M. He is an awesome friend but he's always been a perv. Anyway, he took it too far this time and I flipped out. We were walking in a group and some other guys that we were with were making fun of him about how he "can't get a girl" and he says "I can get any girl I want!" so he grabs me, pins me against a wall, and sticks his hand down my pants. I freaked and kicked him in the balls... He looked like he was in severe pain. I almost felt bad but not really cuz what did he expect? But now he's super pissed at me. I don't think he has a right! Does anyone else think I was out of line?

Honestly, you could get him into alot of trouble over that ; considering its sexual harrassment. I would just talk to him, tell him you don't want to be friends anymore that he was way out of line. You should let him know that your not sorry for what he did.

& you shouldnt be sorry. He was touching you, when you didnt want him to. He deserved to be kicked in the balls, no matter what JACK said.

-AnonymousAdvisor-

Q: At what point does it become normal to just say happy anniversary every year and not like every month? my boyfriend used to be really good about remembering to say it every month, sometimes better than me... but we've been going out for six months and he dosen't say it anymore... he stopped saying it at five... is that normal? thanks in advance :)

Its normal. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and 2 months, and he stopped saying it after ten months, lol. Its kinda funny, because he gets so carried away when I have to remind him. & When I remind him, he says it all day long. Just remind him that it makes you feel happy when he says it, and it makes you feel like he cares because he remembers.
Hope I helped.

Q: Okay, I'm on the pill but lets just say that i'm not so good about taking them at the same time everyday, i always take it between 7-10am though. So, i got done with this last pack and when it was time for my period... nothing... next day.... nothing. What does that mean? Could i be pregnant? my pack only has four pills for the days when your supposed to have your period so if it never starts do i just start my next pack? If i am pregnant couldn't that be really bad for a baby? Bottom line is I really don't want to be pregnant.

I'm not sure what pill your on, but it takes me around 2-3 days to start my period after I take the first menstrual cycle pill. But you really need to get into the habit about taking it at the same time, thats the only real chance you have to prevent pregnancy. Just set your cellphone to have an alarm go off at a certain time everyday.
Be careful, & I wouldn't worry just yet.
Hope I helped.

Q: Is that we have to be careful of our deit when trying to conceive?What shold be daily diet chart and how will it increase chances of conception?

While my cousin was pregnant, she was doing the "weight watchers pregnancy diet".
The way she done it was she estimated her "points" for weight watchers, and added a few points. She ate healthy. She was fine. Eat healthy, and everything should work out.
http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-healthy-eating

Q: how do they get their hair like this? and dont say a curler becuase ive tried it and it looks no where near the same thing.

http://i242.photobucket.com/albums/ff28/gimmemore2007/Ashley%20and%20Mary%20Kate%20Olsen/mary_kate_olsen.jpg

http://i242.photobucket.com/albums/ff28/gimmemore2007/Ashley%20and%20Mary%20Kate%20Olsen/mary-kate-olsen.jpg

http://i242.photobucket.com/albums/ff28/gimmemore2007/Ashley%20and%20Mary%20Kate%20Olsen/Ashley_Olsen_boots.jpg

http://i242.photobucket.com/albums/ff28/gimmemore2007/Ashley%20and%20Mary%20Kate%20Olsen/Olsen_Mary_Kate___Ashley_Cid037556.jpg

I'm almost 100% sure that theyre hair is naturally straight.
So, they probably just scrunched it with mousse when they get out of the shower.
Either that, or they have a perm.
Hope I helped!
AA

Q: This questions for the girls and guys, mainly guys though.

Well, i was having sex with this guy and its not the first time ive been with him, but we didnt have a condom. He said he didnt mind and he would just go in me, and i am not on any birth control or anything and he knows that. He said it was up to me, and he said he really wants to. Other times when we've had sex, he would always hint it, or say something like, "I just want to go in you so bad" or something along those lines.

What does this mean exactly? Is there something he is trying to tell me? Were any of you in this situation before? Or guys, did you do something like this? Why did you?

Thanks everyone :]

Like the others said.
If he cums in you, your probably going to end up pregnant.
Be safe!
Don't let him, unless of course, you want a child.
AA

Q: Does anyone know where i can get leather boots (black* or brown) with a heel thats about 3 inches but that ISN"T like a stiletto heel...but no like super fat either. And that go to like a little bit below the knee?

A lot of the boots i have found are like cheap looking, or they look plastic. I am looking for boots that cost under $200-ish.

Thanks so much!!

I don't really know your style, but heres a pair I found that comes in numerous colors.

http://www.wetseal.com/catalog/product.jsp?categoryId=109&subCategoryId=206&productId=16194

Q: okay so i really cant afford the ugg cleaner right now, how do i clean them?!

They have a mix of dirt and throw up(new years lol)

Can someone like clearly explain to me how you clean them!?

im so desperate,i love my boots :(.

thank you.

Wet a bar of soap.
Wet a wash cloth, with warm water.
Rub the wet part of the cloth with the soap.
And scrub your boots.
After all of it has came off, wet another cloth, and get the remainder of the soap off.
Sit them aside & let them dry.
Goodluck
AA

Q: Hey, im 16f.
You know how when you have a best friend and you tell eachother you will never let a guy come between your friendship? Well, what if your 'friend' totally dumped you as a friend for a guy... and on top of that, this guy she dumped you for is your brother! .. :/ What would you do? Obviously she never was my friend to begin with if she would do this.

I have two solutions

IF this is her first serious relationship, it is normal for her to blow you off.
Every girl does, its a natural thing.
I would just go about my business, when she realizes what she's lost, she'll try to get it back, and then, maybe you'll be in a relationship, and you can show her, how she treated you.

OR

You can sit your brother down, and tell him how this is hurting you. Maybe he'll try to talk to her, you can never underestimate, the effect people have on others.

Hope I helped!
Goodluck!
AA

Q: okay me and my mom just had a conversation about me having sex for the first time. she started crying and was upset that i had lost it so young. but we have such a good reltionship that it doesnt feel like it could affect us at all. shes been acting really close to me now but im kind of afraid she'll hold it against me. do you think she will?

Oh do I wish I could talk to my mom about me having sex!
By the way you talk, I don't think she'll hold it against you, the reason she may act it is because your her little girl, she may not know what to say or how to talk to you without you feeling awkward...if that makes sense.
Dont be offended by her caring, even though it may seem to you like something else.
Be sure to assure her that your safe, get on birth control, and use condoms.
Be careful!
Hope I helped!
AA

Q:
My boyfriend doesnt call me when I ask him too. He always yells at me about something. He hurts my feelings 24/7 and expects me to wait on him hand and foot. I do everything for him and yet that still isnt enough. everything he has iv bought it. I feel worthless and I get stressed out with him and we get into screaming fights because he wont let me do what I want but I have to let him do what he wants. He used to be friends with this guy and I cheated on my boyfriend with him like 2 years ago. I know it was wrong and I admitted it but this "friend" of his keeps lying to him. and everyone thinks im the liar. What should I do?

Obviously it would be crazy to be with somebody, if they treated you like that!
If my boyfriend didn't call me when I asked, there would either be some serious problems, or he would have to be seriously sick! Don't you get tired of someone always yelling at you, and putting you down?
You and me both know, you don't want to be with this guy, and you don't need to get on some advice column for us to tell you. Its not fair that you have to do what he says, and he can do whatever he wants.
When I was in the seventh grade, I was in a relationship like this.
They suck! & Usually the guy comes crawling back.
You need to break up with him, and when he comes back tell him why you broke up with him and you dont want to be with him. He should believe you over his friends if he really cares about you.
Don't put yourself through this any longer, end this, before it gets worse.
Hope I helped!
AA

Q: me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 months now he wants me to give up some of my closest friends and family and even worst he trys and forces me to have sex when i say no more then 5 times he acts all sad and i give in why does he do this to me i really love my boyfriend but im thinkin of starting the new year right by telling him good bye i moved in with him a month after we started going out i think thats what messed up our realtionship but im not really sure i want to fix things with him what should i do or should i just leave it alone?

It doesn't sound like he's doing anything to try to make you stay.
It's not healthy for you, mentally, physically, and emotionally, for him to try to keep your family away from you.
If he forces you to have sex with him, when he KNOWS clearly that you don't want to, that should be a wide eyed alarm to get the hell out of there!
Yes, moving in after only a month was a terrible mistake. It takes a little over two months, for a couple to completely come out of their shell, and then they usually start having arguments.
My advice, leave him, before it gets worse.
If your afraid of leaving him, because you think he could be somewhat dangerous, have some of your family to come with you while you remove your stuff. He can't STOP you from leaving him, and right now, leaving him sounds like the best thing for you to do.
Goodluck, hope I helped!
AA

Q: I just got the Pantech Matrix for Christmas and I love it! Except one little issue. Actually, it's a big issue, at least for me. I can't figure out how to put homeade ringtones on the stupid thing! I mean, I can get them ON it, but it won't let me set it as a ringtone :( I used the website Zedge.com to create a really cool one, and I got it on there and it saved to my phone, but I can't make it set as a ringtone! PLEASE help me! I don't have internet on my phone yet, so that's why I can't just shop ringtones :( All answers rated!

It may just be that your recording too much of the song.
My cellphones like that.
It will let me record a full song, but it wont let me use it as a ring tone because its too much memory or whatever.
My advice, record the CERTAIN part of the song that you want, then you should be able to use it as a ringtone as long as it doesnt exceed the limit.
Goodluck
Hope I helped!
AA

Q: I have dark brown hair, an oliveish complexion, and my lips are naturally a little more darker red/pink than most people's. But I really like the whole nude lip thing, but everytime I try it, it just looks.. really.. weird. I've tried pale lip glosses, concealor, I don't know, are there any tricks or anything to keep me from looking like a clowN?

I'm sure it just looks weird, because your not use to it.
Put it on, wear it around the house, get formiliar with it by looking at your lips in the mirror often.
If that doesnt work, invite a friend over, and ask her for her advice.
Hope I helped!
Goodluck.

Q: I'm about to begin tanning at a Planet Tan. I haven't signed up yet, but am planning on doing so within the next week. I was wondering if there is a certain age limit on tanning. (I'm 17). What do I need to bring when I tan? What do I need to wear? Would it matter if I have makeup on or not? Do you get sweaty? Are the lotions they offer really necessary, and if so, is there anywhere else I can get them so theyre cheaper?

Any other information is welcome. Thanks.

Theres no age limit.
You can bring anything you want, you can lay in your bra and underwear, or you can lay nude. You don't nescessarily need to bring anything. I'm not sure if I would wear make up, each time I'e wore make up in the tanning bed, its either burnt my face, or I got acne/rash. The sweatyness? Your going to sweat if this is your first time laying. Your going to sweat each time you lay. Especially if the bed has good bulbs. The lotions they offer aren't nescessary. You can bring regular lotion, or cocoa butter lotion, anything to moisturize your legs before you lay in the tanning bed. You may also want to bring face moisturizer, it can prevent your face from drying out. You can buy tanning lotion anywhere. Sallys, Walmart, Ebay, you name it, you can buy it.
Hope I helped!
AA

Q: What are some good country music.
Music that sounds like:

Picture - Kid Rock & Cheryl Crow
Simple Love - Allison Krauss

Please no Carrie Underwood or Taylor Swift stuff.

-If you see him/If you see her-Brookes & Dunn & Reba McIntire

-Best days of your life-Kellie Pickler

I dont miss you at all-Norah Jones

I really think if your looking for a love song where each person misses each other, If you see him/If you see her...is what your looking for.
Its a great song.
Hope I helped!
AA

Q: Ok so i gave my bouyfriend a hand job
but my stepdad came downstairs right after i was done so he didnt get to do anythign to me.
i washed my hands and everything
but i fingered myself later that day
could i be pregnate?

I'm sure that there would have been a chance, if he ejaculated, and you didn't wash your hands.
But, you washed your hands, and you waited until later that night to finger yourself.
You're safe!
AA

Q: what about the straightner professional 35? my mom just bought me that for christmas.. i know the chi is mad good lol my gay friend uses it all the time but he bought his for like 200 hundredd.

I'm sure it works just the same as a CHI.
I looked it up, it looks to be a good one.
Hope I helped!
AA

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Whats to say? I'm not so anonymous!
I'm a fifteen year old girl, that lives in the middle of no where, seriously! My parents are the best ever! They are the ones I go to for advise. I have an older sister, by three years, and a younger adopted brother, by 6 years.
I enjoy riding horses, swimming, camping, fishing, tanning, shopping, and hunting! So, I'm not your average girl. I HATE pink!
I have a best friend, of 6 years. She's beyond crazy! She inspires me in so many ways.
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