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me and my mom's conversation
okay me and my mom just had a conversation about me having sex for the first time. she started crying and was upset that i had lost it so young. but we have such a good reltionship that it doesnt feel like it could affect us at all. shes been acting really close to me now but im kind of afraid she'll hold it against me. do you think she will?
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I highly doubt that, she was just upset for the moment because she probably felt, like most mothers feel about their children wether boy or girl but mostly girls losing their virginity especially at a young age. She probably felt that you should've come to her to express your feelings or intentions, but her most concern was that the person you were with was gentle and nice and wasnt pushy or made you do it , and mostly hoped that you used protection to prevent diseases or pregnancy. But I doubt she'll hold it to you, and if anything she probably feels closer to you because she feels that if you did use protections and if you did do it because you wanted to, and you were comfortable, that you truly bloomed into a mateur adult, and that probably gives her great joy and makes her proud that she raised you into the person you are.
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Oh do I wish I could talk to my mom about me having sex!
By the way you talk, I don't think she'll hold it against you, the reason she may act it is because your her little girl, she may not know what to say or how to talk to you without you feeling awkward...if that makes sense.
Dont be offended by her caring, even though it may seem to you like something else.
Be sure to assure her that your safe, get on birth control, and use condoms.
Be careful!
Hope I helped!
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Understand, you are your parent's "special little flower" or however you want to term it. One of the fun things about kids is the innocence. The fact that they haven't been touched by adult concepts that could hurt them.
You've stepped into that world. Shes worried about you. She went in one conversation from fine to having a hundred new things to worry about.
Its all based around the fact that you are her kid and she wants to see you happy, healthy, and whole. And with sex, she can't guarantee that. Its an area of your life over which she has little if any control, and its scary for her. She doesn't know for sure you'll be ok, because she does know for sure that there are things in the world you aren't prepared to handle at whatever age you happen to be.
And sex can bring alot of those things with it.
A side note, this kind of communication is excellent. It will bring you closer to her, and give her opportunities to help with her own fears. Ask her if you can talk to her about it again, and ask her if theres anything she thinks she should tell you, anything she thinks you should learn. Or maybe anything you both should learn, and you can go on a google safari for sex information or something. Its going to be awkward at first, but keep talking and she sounds like the kind of mom who is going to be there for you however she can.
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Shes your mom...
She really shouldnt.
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my mom found pregnancy tests and beer in my room on separate occasions. she'd hold it against me. but she and i arent close at all. if shes really as close as you say she is, she'll understand and drop it.
why dont you just ask her if she can forget about it. you're not pregnant, you're not infected with and STD, and just tell her everything is fine. she'll understand. especially if the relationship bond is that strong. nothing can break it. :)
take care.
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i would think that if you are responsible about having sex, and are really careful, and also sensitive to how she is feeling about the whole situation, she won't hold it against you. shes not angry so why would she. just be careful. use a condom. even if you are on birth control. sometimes you forget a pill. your mom sounds awesome. its cool that you can tell her things like that. make sure and tell her how much you love her and appreciate her.
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