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pregnancy
ok well for some reason im extremely worried about getting pregnant. and i always think i am or i could be i let it interfere with alot of other things in my life...i even told my fiance that we shouldnt have sex until i get on birth control or wait til we get married but sonehow we always get in the moment and i cant help myself...i mean we dont use condom b/c i dont really like them even though i know we should and he pulls out everytime....but idk what to do to get over this...or to get it off my mind besides not having sex or using a condom...is it rare to get pregnant if he pulls out??? any advice??
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I don't know why people have it embedded in there heads that the pull out method is always going to work...It doesn't always work. This is how people get pregnant and have babies that they aren't ready for. All I can say is if you don't use a condom eventually your luck is gonna run out whether you want it too or not. I advise you to start using condoms or don't have sex at all
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If you absolutely do not want to get pregnant, you
are correct to be worried if all you are using is the withdrawal method. Failure rate for using it as birth control is 28% for typical users.
You need to get on the birth control pill or get a depo shot if you want to be free of worry. Call your doctor on Monday or go to your local health department, planned parenthood or free clinic in your area. Get information and get protected.
Just as avoiding sex while in the moment is difficult, so is stopping, for a guy who is about
to ejaculate. It is a very unreliable form of birth control & your worries are not at all silly.
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
Your current form of birth control is the least effective method of preventing pregnancy. While the withdrawal method may keep your fiancé from ejaculating in you, the pre-ejaculate contains several million sperm. When he climaxes the ejaculate contains several million sperm. While the odds of pregnancy increase with the number of sperm, it still only takes one sperm to fertilize one of your eggs.
The information below was found on the following website. It is a question similar to yours and the answer given. You may want to visit the site for more information.
www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/can_pre_ejaculate_cause_pregnancy
QUESTION: I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 28. We've been having sex for a year now and we have not been very careful at all. We never use condoms! It's weird though cause I have not gotten pregnant. He usually doesn't ejaculate in me LOL but still. . . . I always joke and tell him he's sterile but now I'm really thinking he is. Since I haven't gotten pregnant does this mean there is something wrong with my boyfriend or me? Or does it just mean I'm lucky?
Heather replies:
If you are not looking to become pregnant, then chances are good you have just been very lucky so far. Generally, in one year of sex without any method of birth control, around 80 - 90% of young women will become pregnant. So, for now, it seems you've been that 10 - 20% of women who haven't...so far.
However, it doesn't sound like you haven't actually been using NO method at all, you've been using withdrawal, just not consistently. According to sound sources like Contraceptive Technology and Planned Parenthood, used perfectly, withdrawal is around 96% effective, but in typical use (the way most people use methods), it's one of the two least effective methods there are: it's only around 73% effective with typical use.
My advice is: If you do not want to use condoms and your doctors will prescribe hormonal contraceptive for you that you ask your doctor to do so. The Pill is the most effective form of birth control we have today. When the male contraceptive pill is marketed it will be even more effective than the female pill but that is still several years away.
As long as you continue this method of birth control you are going to continue to worry about pregnancy. You say you do not like condoms but do not say way. If it is not due to a latex allergy you might try different brands until you find one you both like. Until you find a safer form of birth control the worry of an unwanted pregnancy is always going to be with you.
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Well, to begin with, the withdrawal method (or as you call it, the "pull out" method) put you at about 14% to 19% risk of pregnancy, 17% to 22% if he is inexperienced. This is because during intercourse (while he's in heaven) he may secrete "pre-cum."
"Pre-cum" is a fluid secreted from the Cowper's glands. It may contain sperms, too, though as much as the final "Big Bang" (if you know what I mean, hehehe).
And as for sex without much worry about pregnancy, you two can try and do that while you are on "the pill" (Combined Oral Contraceptive Pill). Birth-control pill's failure rate is only 1% to 3%, depending on whether you are a perfect user or a typical user. (Most people are typical users).
Birth-control pills' down side is that you cannot use them if you are a smoker or over 35 years of age. If you have high blood pressure or cholesterol, you cannot use it either. And of course, if you have cancer or if you are pregnant, you cannot use it.
Besides condom and the pill, there are also a few more not-as-common methods such as vaginal contraceptive ring, but they usually require visiting a doctor so . . . whatever float your boat or whatever you think is convenient for you two.
As for how to get the "sex" idea off your mind, I don't know. Another columnist will have to answer that, because, you see, when the mood is right and you got horny, it takes a punch in the face to get your reasons back into your mind again (if you know what I mean).
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