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Ex Boyfriend
My ex boyfriend and I broke up recently. He broke up with me for a really complicated reason involving the amount of freedom i am allowed to have due to my overprotective parents. I've felt pretty horrible the last week because of it, kind of been having this aching feeling in my stomach. We agreed to stay best friends because there can't be any other way. However, it's complicated, and I know people always say you can't be friends right away but if I don't talk to him not only will I feel bad but he will think something is wrong. The point is that we both love eachother still and I'm hoping we could get back together in the future. We talked about it and he says he wants to but that the situation right now can't allow for it. But right now not only have I not seen him in forever, but I find that he is talking about how "cute" certain girls look. It's really annoying me on the inside and I have this urge to yell at him for it, but how can I? I feel kind of hurt but I'm trying to suck it up and just go along with it. It's just really hard sometimes. :(
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Aww :[ I'm sorry. I know the whole "controlling parents" thing blows. It's hard to have a relationsbip with that kinda stuff [i know :(] okay, anyways, I think that he's bringing up these "cute girls" because he wants to get a reaction out of you ... maybe a jealous reaction. Because he knows you still love him, he probably just wants you to say it to him more often and beg for him to come back to you, and for him to say that the timing just isn't right. If this is bothering you, you should probably subtly bring it up in one of your conversations. or just straight out tell him that it really bothers you when he talks about how cute some of the girls he knows are. if you don't speak up, he won't listen or he won't know it's bothering you. He might also be trying to convince himself that he's moving on from you for the time being when he really isn't because he misses you, so his way of forgetting that he misses you is by telling you how cute all these girls are. and he may also be saying this to get you both back into the friends zone and not the relationship one. boys can be clever that way. Don't yell at him .. if you talk to him nicely about it at first and he's being an ass about it, then yell at him, and take your anger out, i don't advice you to do that first though. haha, it only leads to more problems.
Never keep your feelings inside, if you want to say something to someone, say it or you'll be wondering for a while "what if..." and that's the hardest part. Don't just go along with it, he probably WANTS you to say something, and is just waiting for you to. I know it's hard, it's relaly tough and I give you ALOT of credit for sticking it out this long without saying anything, but i think nows the time to say it so you can clear the air and your mind.
good luck, and if you need anything else, just inbox me :] ! hope i helped, and remember, communication is key, xxo.
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hmm, well i think you should briefly mention it in your conversations.
like say
yeah, i just need to let this out really. but it bothers me when you say how certain girls are cute. you know im still not over you.
he's probably trying to make you jealous, but sometimes that really hurts.
you'll get through this!
hope i helped!
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