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Due to assholes on the site and people who have no idea what the hell they are talking about I have left the site. Ahem, Dangernerd...Who likes to make assumptions about people when they do not know them ;) Then has brass balls to go search up whatever information he can gather so he has back fire to use whenever he feels like starting a little hissy fit. Let me remind those who read this, Dangernerd has a nasty tendency of using what you post on the site against you if you where to ever have a problem with someone on the site. Mind you, He likes to gather false information in a way that he thinks will benefit him in the long run. This site is run by someone who doesn't have class, Who likes to pigeon hole people. The same guy who supposedly is running an "ADVICE" column but somehow has pre-teens asking about sex and how to do sexual things to their "partners" this site is also filled with people giving advice that is NOT helpful or use full in any form rather than most encouraging the young ones. Well lets get to the bottom of it, This site is a laughing matter. Dangernerd is a joke and couldn't be a bigger clown ;)
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So I'm still a virgin and it's kind of a big deal.
So, out of curiosity I was wondering when did you lose your virginity (what age you were) and how did it happen?
Give details please, not on the actual sex but on how it happened. For example, don't just say 'with my first boyfriend' or 'at a house party', say exactly how it happened.
And if you're still a virgin, would you please say so too and say your age and how you feel about losing your virginity? For example, do you think you're ready to? Do you want to? Why do you want to or why do you want to wait? Do you feel pressured?
Thanks, x
When I lost my virginity I was just shy of 18, I had been in a relationship for about 7 months. We started out kissing then came the sweet talk then the touchy feeling etc. we were alone and then it just happened and I was not pressured. Having sex is something that should be special between two people who love and trust each other and have a strong relationship there should be no pressure. Loosing your virginity is not something you just do because you want too, It's something you always remember and most of all you remember who it was with. I am also from Massachusetts but I don't currently live there.
I want a profile picture, but I don't want an actual picture of me because of the whole other people seeing me thing.
Every picture I try to upload is to big! Can someone give me a picture I can get!
Go to Tinypic.com it will have an upload the picture and shrink sizes available.
i have heard that if people don't look you in the eyes while they tell you something, they are lying.....when a guy tells you he likes you, is it still the same thing? does he not mean it if he is not looking you in the eye? i know it just depends on how shy the guy is, but lets say the guy is really outgoing,and you guys are kissing, and then he tells you that....what do you guys think?
When people don't make eye contact it doesn't always mean they are lying. Some guys feel nervous, uncomfortable and sometimes embarrassed when they confront the one they like. The guy that told you he likes you well he could be outgoing but that doesn't mean he doesn't have any weak spots. I'd give the guy credit for trying ;)
17/f I've liked this one guy for almost three years. He's two years older than me and we're pretty close friends. He's away at college, and every time he comes home to visit friends, he flirts with me. I'm not gonna complain about that, but he's told me a million times that he doesn't want a long-distance relationship. It's quite annoying.
I've been trying to accept the fact that we'll probably never seriously date, but his flirting keeps giving me false hope. Should I continue to pursue a relationship with him or give him up for good?
If he says he doesn't want a long distant relationship than respect his wishes and continue to be friends with him. Maybe in time he will change his mind and come around.
The truth is long distant relationship normally don't work out and long distant relationships while in college are rocky. Not only do we try to devote our time into relationships but we study, we meet new people and try to make time for friends on top of some people who also hold jobs while attending college. It's what I like to call hectic. If he flirts with you and it is annoying you because he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now than simply tell him that you'd like to hold off on the flirting for now but if you pressure him..it will only scare him off.
can u tell me/describe how it is?
i think i want to move there. i visited a few years ago and loved it.
how is the weather?
the people?
the jobs?
the rent? lol or general expenses?
thank u!
I have never lived nor been to Marblehead but I have lived in Boston. Alston,Milton as well as the Quincy area. I don't know if there is a difference but from my experience of living in Massachusetts it is not cheap and rent for apartments alone from what I have seen do not usually go no lower than 1100. I'm sure they have lower apartments but they can't be easy to find seeing I have looked online and in papers. Depending on where you live...
The city is loud, Apartment complexes you are very lucky if you get peace and quiet. It is nice in a way were almost everything is distance but sometimes the city is overwhelming.
If you live outside of the city well it will be quieter but still it certainly isn't cheap.
Jobs, Well again depending on where you live..The city always has job openings.
The weather here is currently in the 70's where I am.. but in the city keep in mind the weather is about 2 times colder than it would be outside of the city.
I had unprotected sex on October 4th. This past Wednesday through Thursday I've had cramps that knocked me to my knees along with nausea. I get cramps with my period but they're nowhere near as bad as this and I never get nauseous from it. Today I got my period 2 weeks early, I normally get it the last few days of the month into the first few days of the next. And I normally get a warning brown spotting for a day. This morning I had nothing and my discharge was completely clear and then suddenly around 6pm I got my "period" and it was bright red.
Was it a miscarriage?
It could be, but we are not doctors. You should call a doctor and schedule a ultra sound asap.
I'm 17/f and I have (or had) this best guy friend named Paul. Just to make this clear, we weren't together or dating and I never had any type of crush or romantic feelings for him, we were just best friends for like almost all of high school. Over this summer, especially we hung out all the time and went shopping and stuff. He was always the one I could vent my complaints to about other people and he did the same to me because we almost always shared the same views and didn't have other people who agreed with us. So there are these two friends that we have, Holly and Dani. They were pretty much his best friends next to me and I was (and still am) really good friends with Holly. The whole junior year, he started to get fed up with them and would complain about them all the time. Over this past summer when we would hang out all the time, all he could talk about was how annoyed he was with them and how he was "seriously considering not being friends with them anymore". I honestly didn't mind his complaining about them and even agreed with some stuff. but i said to him why did you get yourself into a whole friendship with them in the first place if you don't like them? I know, though that he didn't feel that way about me because I know we had a connection and could really, really relate to each other which him and Holly or Dani never did.
So then the first day of senior year comes. I'm really, really good at reading peoples' attitudes and have a really good sense of when people are being even the slightest bit snippy or moody or avoiding. From the first week of school until the fourth week of school this was the case with him. It wasn't too bad but I could tell he had a slight change in attitude towards me from what it was during the summer. He even canceled on me like twice when we were supposed to hang out, for reasons like, "now I don't have time" and "I'm too tired". AND every single time I turned my head I would see him with Holly and Dani. Like, if he could pick either me or Holly to walk in the halls to class with he would walk with Holly and not bother waiting for me. I mean, don't get me wrong we still talked all the time the same as we always did but it was just different from what it was over the summer. And the thing is, I did absolutely NOTHING that he could be potentially annoyed or upset with me about. So it's not friendship breaking material but definitely something he should be confronted about.
I call him and try to talk about it in a very calm, civil manner, trying not to make that big a deal and before I can even really say anything he's like, I don't wanna talk about this now, you're just in a bad mood. So I had no choice but to take the immature route and write him a fb message about how I felt. I was so annoyed that he was too immature to handle talking to me on the phone. I decided, I said what I have to say, now it's his turn to say something to me. It's been almost 4 weeks and he hasn't said anything to me. I really feel like he just doesn't care or he's too immature to have the balls to talk to me and confront the situation. I just feel really let down. I really don't want our friendship to end, but on the other hand, if he doesn't care it's not worth it right? In a way I feel like if he really wants me as a friend, he would talk to me but then again maybe he's just being immature, so if he's that immature i really shouldn't be friends w/ him anyway, but then should I let his immaturity in this one situation ruin our friendship? Should I say something to him or still wait for him to say something to me? This situation is just so middle school-esque but I feel like I shouldn't spoon feed him by talking to him. From the bottom of my heart I really want it to work out but idk if that's realistic. What should I do??
It doesn't really sound like it has anything to do with maturity, It sounds like it is clearly peer pressure. It COULD be that Dani and Holly might of said things that made him think twice. Despite you being friends with Holly almost EVERYONE talks about someone at one point or another behind their backs. I'm not saying this is the case but it very well could be. If this IS what happened then you're right he should of been man enough to discuss this in a private manner. The next possible reason could be that he might be feeling overwhelmed with the amount of time you two had spent together and just might need some time away for awhile and if this is the case again he should of told you he needed a break. All you can do well...You could try to talk to him it has been about 4 weeks now and that is plenty of time to give someone who needs space. If he doesn't respond back, gives you the cold shoulder, or makes up excuses well then you at least get a hint that he is not interested in making the friendship work. If this happens at least you tried and you were the bigger person for trying to make things right
could starting birth control and getting your nipple pierced around the same time frame have any effect on one or the other?!?!?!
No
is red lipstick too bold to wear to school? i love it and i wear it all the time out side of school, but i've never worn it to school, it makes me look better, but i don't know. what do you think? 17/f
I don't think red lipstick would be a problem, Red lipstick should not be violating the dress code as it is not like you are revealing yourself. It is just lipstick if you like the color then I say go for it
So I am a freshman in college and I've been on a couple dates with this guy who really likes me a lot. I think hes adorable and sweet and stuff, and it's not like there are any other guys in my life right now, it's just that I don't want to be tied down in a relationship, at least for my first year in college. Is it selfish of me to want to continue dating him but not be labeled his girlfriend? and even so, i have a feeling hes going to ask me to be his girlfriend soon, so how on earth do i tell him how i feel without hurting his feelings?
I think the best way is too tell him for now you would like to remain friends. If he asked why? Then tell him why you have a lot going on in your life right now but when things start to settle down you would like to try taking the friendship to the next level. Simply put and I'm sure he will understand were you are coming from
When going out to eat with a group of people at a restaurant, is there any other way to pay for yourself besides cash when getting the bill? Can everyone just put in a credit card so they will split the bill for you that way?
Does it depend on the restaurant?
You can use a credit card, If you just want to pay your half of the bill then you would ask the waiter/waitress for separate checks.
Okay so this is a typical situation I think, but one thats killing me
I have been with my partner for 2 and a half years.
We have had a bad bad time for most of it, and admittedly he treats me very bad, I have everyone telling me he treats me really bad, and even I know it, but its like I am stuck to him, I couldnt imagine life without him, seeing him with someone else would break my heart, and hes like my rock.
I have known someone called Fraser for 5 years, and we never used to talk, but I got very close to his Mum, and she was very much like my second Mum. He works in New Zealand, so spends most of his time there, but when he came home, and I met him for the first time ever since about 3 years, we got on like a house on fire, and turns out, he admitted having feelings for me, and I also too have feelings for him. And they are not small feelings, I feel really strongly for him, I am going to miss him more than words can describe next week, as he is due to fly to NZ again for 3 months. We have discussed it but he wants to get together when he gets back if we both feel the same, I know I will, and he said he is pretty sure he will. But the thing is, I will never leave my current boyfriend, I have told him this but he said he is hoping if I care about him enough, I will see how badly my current boyfriend treats me and I will leave him, but I know I wont :( , I just know it. I have tried splitting with him before and I find it basically impossible. I am not sure what to do now because I have so many feelings for Fraser, but I also don't want to jeapordise our friendship, or make things awkward if I want to go over and see his Mum and he is there, I am hoping, if me and Ben do ever split up that Fraser will be single and maybe we could give it a go, what would you do? What have you done if you have been in this situation? I am so lost, I just keep crying, not understanding whats best :(
You basically said that the relationship you are currently in needs to end. If he treats you badly than clearly it is not a healthy relationship. I know it would be hard to end it, I have been in that situation once before. I came to realize in time that when it comes to difficult relationships sometimes it is best to be single for awhile than to deal with the stress and pressure from the current relationship because in the long run it only brings you down. The guy that is from NZ I know you said you two started to develop feelings for one another but if he is going back to NZ for 3 months then you know that there is a possibility there that even that will not work out. You're best bet is to get out of the relationship that you are currently in now because if it is as bad as you say it is than you know that it will never work out anyway and the more you stay with him the more you prolong the pain. I would get out now take sometime to heal and than try to find happiness that is close to you and will work out and is healthy.
my family has never really had problems, but lately, it's just been like one thing after the other. at the beginning of last year, my cousin and grandmother had cancer. i was so stressed with everything happening in my life that i was doing horrible in school and i became anorexic, because it was just the only thing that was resulting from all the stress. Thank God that my cousin and grandmother were cured by a miracle and are both doing perfectly fine. I recovered from my eating disorder. I ended school well, graduated, and started college this year. I still live at home, but I go to a state school, I was working, but I stopped because right now, my schedule was a little too hectic and hopefully when it changes, it will be easier to earn a little extra cash on the side.
I feel terrible about this, but the day of graduation I had a huge fight with my mom. We woke up the next morning and were still fighting. Those who know my mom understand that she doesn't let go of things. She'll say something is okay, and make up with you, and the next day, she'll give you dirty looks and won't talk to you. So, that's exactly what happened the day after. I remember I woke up at like 1 in the afternoon because i had a long night. She kept on with her looks, but i ignored her because I knew better. Until she started screaming and throwing her tantrum where she throws herself to the floor and screams. I was so angry that I just cried and told her I hated her and that she wasn't my mother and that i wanted my mother. I know it sounds mean and all, but you weren't there and everyone says things they dont mean every once in a while.
well anyway, by that i meant that she wasn't acting like herself. that she was being impossible, and that wasn't the same person I knew. Then she told me "you're right, i'm not you're mother." and that's how she decided to tell me that i was adopted. Ever since that day, I get these sparatic bursts of anger. It's like I get really mad and if anyone comes near me, i scream. I burst into tears, throw myself on the floor,cry like a madwoman. Then, when it's all over, I don't remember what happened. My mom asked me why it is that I get so angry. I told her I think it's because I felt lied to. Everyone in my life knew about it: aside from my parents/grandparents and other obvious family members, my best friend knew, her parents knew, my boyfriend knew, his parents knew, my cousins, who have been like brothers/sisters to me knew. They all knew! So it's just that I feel like everyone kept all these secrets from me... i think it's normal to feel angry.. not necessarily that they didn't tell me I was adopted, just the fact that everyone in my life has been keeping secrets from me. I understand and am grateful and everything like that. But imagine, that for 18 years, all those people knew, and NO ONE said ANYTHING! It was so well kept, i didn't even SUSPECT! i even look just like my mom. And I'm angry that she didn't tell me in a loving way. She told me in a fight.
Needless to say, she got mad, hasn't spoken to me all day. She doesn't deal with things or feelings of others,s he just gets mad and doesn't speak to anyone. So, I don't know what to do. My family has never had so many problems, and I don't know why it's starting now. i don't know why I get those sudden bursts of anger, but I don't like it. It scares me and I can't control it, it's like I just can't stop crying.... and loud cries. And when anyone tries to console me, I push everyone away. I'm about to lose my whole family to a mental issue I can't control..... what can i do? i've never been this type of person. This isn't me and I"m scared. I'm a nice girl: honor roll, cheerleader, dean's list, go to college, same friends since i was 6. Same boyfriend since i was 16. I'm not a trouble-maker. I just don't know what's wrong!
Any comforting words are appreciated.
Thanks.
You mentioned that you just graduated High School, It could be that you are growing up and becoming an adult and your mother does not know how to handle it. The whole adoption thing well it wasn't exactly the nicest way to come out and tell you that you were adopted no, but we can't change what happened. I myself was adopted also and I did also did not find out until I was about 17 years old. We all have mixed feelings when we are told that we come from another family but that doesn't mean we were lied too. The fact is it is probably best not to know until you have reached the age of 18 when you become an adult. Why? because adoption is supposed to be kept private and information is supposed to also be kept private for your protection. You should not be mad at your mother for not telling you you were adopted because she kept it private for your sake. Don't forget blood related or not she raised you, was there for you, and put a roof over your head. You can try to talk to your mother in a calm manner as that is the way to solve and fix things. Tell her how you feel and most of all tell her you love her. You becoming an adult can't be the easiest thing for her to handle and sometimes the words "I love you Mom" are exactly what a mom needs to hear.
Last weekand. I was hook up with a guy name z. and my freind set me up with. he very nice. and we been seeing eachter over a week. he met my parent. i know that shorta soon. but I dont drive and well if he take me place, sure they like know who taken me. we went out this weekand to the mall and was my frist real date. he is 28 and I am 24. Last night i met his sister and I haven't met his parent yet. we are try keep it slow. he seem like me alot I know he is a talker and I know he like that with everyone. He very intereress learning sign lanuage becouse I am hard of hearing and I can hear with my hearing aids. he very nice and polite and he never been in real Relationships. and I haven't eaither. i only had one bf when i was younger. maybe young teen years. so it like new both of us. he told me that he hase 2 past girls he like. one was messing around and other one ithink took adavange of him. frist night we watch movie together i know we held hands and even this weekand at the mall. we share chines food. i know maybe were rushing just little. i think becouse were kinda excited meet eachter and hopley it work out. thing is i am not good at notice signs and i need some tips. i really like him but i am wanting to get to know him more. becouse i know when u get to know somone and there always a doubt in the future. i know that why people souldn't rush. I mean right now we are talking alot and that a good thing i know that. i like to talk to. I like somone option what i said and wonder what to do make it seem more you know. becouse were try becareful not to rush.and i want know what i sould not do sard him away lol. sould i let him be more charge what plans ideas and things like that? I am new at this and well i shorta had realationship with guy i grow up with he was my best friend and now things change he change his way and i know now it never work otu and i always like him like borther now.. anyway i like somone give me some Realtionships tips thanks..
The first thing about any relationship is that it should be 50/50 it takes two to make a relationship work. If you are looking for long term, than you and your partner need to be fully committed and know that there will be bumps in every road you take in life. If you and your boyfriend have been dating a week and you think that you are taking it a little to fast than slow it down a little bit. A week into a relationship is almost like a trial period it is when you are still getting to know your partner. I do not think that you should let your boyfriend be more in charge at this time because it is still very early in the relationship and like I said it should always be 50/50. Also a little tip honesty, trust and communication are the two biggest things in a relationship. As far as the sex goes my advice is to try and wait as long as you can. Make sure your boyfriend is the right one, you fully love and trust him 100% and there is no pressure or doubts.
Some tips below..
Make sure there is no pressure into sex
He is trustworthy and honest
Reliable and opened to communication
Red Flag: Watch out for guys who talk about or have any contact with ex girlfriends they are the ones who are likely to cheat and become unfaithful in a relationship.
if your calling from canada to the US does it cost a lot per minute if you dont have a plan? and what is the approximate cost per minute?
thanks
kaaitlyn
Yes it does cost a lot if you do not have a payment plan. It all depends on what you are using to make the phone call is it a cellular, home phone, pay phone etc. Your best bet is go buy a phone card it would save you on money.
i was with someone for a year and a half and about a month and a half ago he broke up with me. i handled the situation pretty well and i've met someone new who i really like (he was always in a two year relationship and was broken up with).. but i often find myself comparing him to my ex. like, i'll be like "my ex would never do that for me." and i find that the new guy compares me to his recent ex as well..
are we both ready for a new relationship? do you think we're over our ex's?
It sounds like you still have feelings for your ex. and the truth is we cannot completely fall in love with somebody if we are still thinking and comparing one another to a previous boyfriend/girlfriend. How long does it take to get over someone? Well...everyone is different and everyone takes things in different ways. I am going to have to say I do not think you are ready to be in another relationship and I do not think you have given yourself enough time to heal. If someone rushes into another relationship after they had just gotten out of one than the chances are the next relationship will probably not work out. I think you need a little bit more time to yourself once you are fully over him and you aren't thinking of him anymore than maybe you can try again.
does a body wrap actually work?! i want one and might get it done today but idk! any info please! how long does it last? is it worth the money?!
I watched a show awhile back about body wrapping, However I do not know everything about it. The little that I do know is that body wrapping can be potentially dangerous. Depending on how often you do it.
Depending on what you use to wrap the body with here are some of it's downfalls
Dehydration (Due to loss of body fluids)
Bruising
Toxins to the body (When plastic is heated it releases toxins to the body)
I personally do not know if it is worth the money as I have never had it done to me. I will say that if you plan on going through with it make sure you go to someone who knows what they are doing.
f/16
Its not the first time i have done it but im freaking out a little.
My boyfriend rubs me down there and yesterday i went down on him for the first time and he went down on me. I also jacked him off for the first time and he cummed. He said he didnt touch his cum because i put my towel over his penis when he was cumming...so i let him rub me down there. Could I get pregnant like this.
Ps He dosent finger me he just rubs my clit and a little lower then that.
No, You didn't have sex.
i heard it on the radio
i think its by lil wayne and the dream or something but he keeps on saying something like "that gangsta girl, that that that ganster girl" or something
help!
If it is the song I am thinking of than it's called Gangsta Girl by Big Tymers
Here is a link to the lyrics below
http://www.metrolyrics.com/gangsta-girl-lyrics-big-tymers.html
Hi folks, looking for any and all advice. My question pertains to my web site. http://www.shannoncassidy.co.uk All the information I have is contained within three main pages, story pt1, pt 2 and latest. My question, is after you have read the site what do you think I should do? What options do I have? How much effort should I put in? Should I leave it till she's older? lol, loads of questions, guess I'm just looking for advice. Anything will be appreciated and thanks for your time in getting this far.
ADDED INFORMATION: Again, I think you need to realize your actions, You made a website for your daughter to see. I get that...BUT your daughter is only 9 years old she is a minor and by you posting a website about her personal information you are violating her privacy possibly exploiting her to perverts like Mangy had said below me. If you really want a relationship with your daughter than I think you really need to handle the situation PRIVATELY. God only knows what she will think when she gets older...finding out that her own father had posted a website with intentions to finding her. "In my opinion, Creepy" Not only would I probably NOT want to get to know you but I certainly wouldn't be happy with you making a public website containing information for EVERYONE to see. I said it once I'll say it again grow up and start acting like a parent.
If I remember right this post sounds familiar and DN had suggested that this question should be taken to court?
Anyway,
I think you need to stop asking the question because this is a matter that really is out of our hands and should be resolved between you and the father as well as a lawyer and a court. Right now from the website you have posted your daughter is a minor and underage therefore if you want to wait until she gets older that is up to you. You ARE the parent and it is your job to make choices and raise your child. However, I think you need to stop exploiting your child on the internet because that IS what you last complained about in your last question that was posted a few months back. This matter needs to be handled privately between you and her father you are the parents start acting like it.