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how long does it take to get over someone?
i was with someone for a year and a half and about a month and a half ago he broke up with me. i handled the situation pretty well and i've met someone new who i really like (he was always in a two year relationship and was broken up with).. but i often find myself comparing him to my ex. like, i'll be like "my ex would never do that for me." and i find that the new guy compares me to his recent ex as well..
are we both ready for a new relationship? do you think we're over our ex's?
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You said, "my ex would never do that FOR me." Does this imply you prefer the behavior of the new guy but just keep comparing? Eg. Your new guy buys you flowers and the old guy didn't?
That's different than "my ex would never do that TO me." That would imply the new guy isn't treating you as well as you'd like.
I think it depends on what you naturally compare. When selecting a bf, it's desirable to acknowledge better traits than what you've left behind with other bf.
You're recently broken up and right back with someone else - so maybe it is a bit soon, but if you both really like each other, don't over think it.
While it's natural to compare, if the new one isn't measuring up, let that just tell you that you can do better. That doesn't mean you aren't getting over your ex.
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It sounds like you still have feelings for your ex. and the truth is we cannot completely fall in love with somebody if we are still thinking and comparing one another to a previous boyfriend/girlfriend. How long does it take to get over someone? Well...everyone is different and everyone takes things in different ways. I am going to have to say I do not think you are ready to be in another relationship and I do not think you have given yourself enough time to heal. If someone rushes into another relationship after they had just gotten out of one than the chances are the next relationship will probably not work out. I think you need a little bit more time to yourself once you are fully over him and you aren't thinking of him anymore than maybe you can try again.
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if you keep thinking about your ex and compare other guys to him then your not over him. what your doing is treying to find someone just like your ex but the thing is you wont,hes one person.in my opinion i think you shouldnt rush into it until you and your ex are fully over because if not itll never really work out with this guy youll always be thinking about your ex and without knowing youll probibly keep talkign about him too until your new bf gets sick of it. just wait abit you cant just erase a year and ahalf just like that you need time to yourself to think it through.when your ready youll know. the same goes for this new guy too
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