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Should I give up?
17/f I've liked this one guy for almost three years. He's two years older than me and we're pretty close friends. He's away at college, and every time he comes home to visit friends, he flirts with me. I'm not gonna complain about that, but he's told me a million times that he doesn't want a long-distance relationship. It's quite annoying.
I've been trying to accept the fact that we'll probably never seriously date, but his flirting keeps giving me false hope. Should I continue to pursue a relationship with him or give him up for good?
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i know how you feel, it can be very irritating! i think the best thing to do is give up on him. he has said that he doesn't want a long distance relationship, so unless you made a move to his college, then it's unlikely that he wants to be with you. it's unfair that he flirts with you when he comes back home but i guess that's just what some guys are like. stay friends, but don't flirt back with him else you will get hurt! good luck <3
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Give up, and shut down the flirting.
You've learned something important about yourself: You don't take alot of pleasure in pointless flirting. Some people really like it! But you don't.
Cool. Damn good self-knowledge to have.
So, when he flirts, give a bit of a cold shoulder. If he asks why, tell him straight up "You've told me you don't want a relationship, and I'm not really interested in a lot of pointless flirting. It gives people the wrong idea, including me! Let's just be friends okay?"
And then, just be friends.
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If he says he doesn't want a long distant relationship than respect his wishes and continue to be friends with him. Maybe in time he will change his mind and come around.
The truth is long distant relationship normally don't work out and long distant relationships while in college are rocky. Not only do we try to devote our time into relationships but we study, we meet new people and try to make time for friends on top of some people who also hold jobs while attending college. It's what I like to call hectic. If he flirts with you and it is annoying you because he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now than simply tell him that you'd like to hold off on the flirting for now but if you pressure him..it will only scare him off.
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