My name is Jen, I go to school, and occasionally learn things. I love James Dean, Hanson, Sloppy Firsts and Second Helpings by Megan McCafferty, Fall Out Boy, Elton John and Billy Joel. These make me overly qualified to give advice ESPECIALLY since I spend the vast majority of my time watching and obsesing over Oprah.
I've been through some stuff, and watched even more drama on TV, so I can help with your problems, no matter what your story is Wishbone.
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okay, so im 14. and i have a loving boyfriend. we get really close sometimes and well, once we werent protected. my period is late and i cant get a preg test. i think its about 5 weeks late now. i was wondering if i just cut back eating for a week or so, if it would.... stop me from being pregnant? if i am. im not skinny, im like mediumish. not fat. will this help? i have no idea. im so scared.... (link)
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no no no! not eating will not cause you to have a miscarriage. If anything it will just harm the development of the fetus.
Go to planned parenthood. They'll give you a pregnancy test for free, and they'll help you with your options if you are indeed pregnant.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/
you can find a centre near you on the website
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has anyone ever gotten a wax while on their period and having a tampon on.i want to get a wax this week and i just got my period 2 days ago and i want to go in 2 days and i dont kno if its possible or if professional places do it while your on your period..im just curious if anyones done that b4 (link)
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I'd call and ask the place as well. I think a bikini wax might be possible on your period, but a brazilian given the nature isn't a great idea.
But for your own sake I wouldn't recommend it. That area is more sensitive when you have your period, increasing the pain factor.
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when on a dinner date, how should handling the check go?
should i, the woman, grab the book and look at it, or should i wait until my date picks it up?
should i ask him how much it is? should i take the money out of my purse? how do i handle a credit card ? (link)
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I think you can usually get the gist of who's going to pay while you're on your date. If he opens the car door for you, waits for you to sit down and stuff like that, chances are he'll pay, and expects to pay.
However if you don't get obvious clues like that I'd say smile, and offer to go halves.
If you invited him though, I'd offer to pay the whole thing. General rule of thumb is inviter pays.
Once you get more comfortable in a relationship this whole thing gets easier.
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Heeey all :D
Okay, thanks to everyone who answered my Family History question, and now to my new question.
The thing about writing an essay on my family history is that..I have none. My family is pretty screwed up. My parents basiccaly "divorced" from their families, and know nothing about them. So I can't contact their parents to know any more about my ancestors either.
So I figured, I'll just go with the little I have..you know, make the best of it. But that means, since my essay will suck, I have to do a really GREAT introduction and summary/ final words. But how can I start it off?
My first though was to say something like "Not many people know alot about their family history..bla bla bla" but that made it really hard to start talking about my family. So I gave up on that and figured I'll do "In ((insert graveyard name) there's 94 graves, 5 of them belonging to my family. In grave number 1 theres "name" who did this, moved there, had these children e.t.c e.tc" You get the picture, right? Go from one grave to the other until I've told about my whole family..ending with me. But that didn't work either, so what do I do? What CAN I do? How do I start off this essay? And is there any good ways to end it? Like I need to make it fun to read, or atleast make sure its worth remembering/reading again..since the rest will suck. Is there any "final sentence" that can make it kind of dramatic or whatever?
Any ideas? Thank you alot ♥ (link)
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It might be a good idea to make your last paragraph about how it's been growing up without knowing your family history. Talk about whether you feel like you can make a fresh start anywhere, or whether it's caused you problems and made you feel rootless. Point towards the future, say you want to keep memories, and photos of your family that way your children don't have to go to the graveyard to look for their beginnings.
Maybe if you're feeling ambitious even tackle how important it is to know your background, especially today when many diseases have been linked to genetics.
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I weigh 130 and I have soo many stretch marks. And I've had these huge huge huge patches on my legs since 7th grade but I gained 2 pounds since last year and got 18 more stretch marks on my sides. And its really hard because I'm trying to eat better and exercise and every time I see the stretch marks it makes me unhappy and it makes me want to give up and stop caring and I sit there and cry and cry because its so ugly and it makes me ugly. And its swimsuit season and I cant do this I cant live like this anymore but I have no options and it is really hard I feel so terrible about myself but nobody understands because nobody else I know has my problem and has stretch marks like me. When I look at them I just want to take a knife and cut the stretch marks out of my body. I know this is bad and that something is wrong and I'm not sure what to do about it because I'm too embaressed to tell my mom about my new stretch marks that are really depressing me because it means I failed.
I feel miserable, please help. I'm desperate. (link)
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your stretch marks aren't from weight gain, they're from growing taller, and your hips broadening. Every single woman has them. And every woman who has ever been pregnant has even more. They're a fact of life, no one is going to stare or point.
You can use something like vitamin e oil to lighten them and make them less noticeable however, but they won't disappear.
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i'm 17/f (well, almost 18), my boyfriend is turning 19. instead of buying him something that he'll never use (i don't like the tie idea, and he's got all the music and movies he could ever want), i'm going to take him to the park for a picnic tomorrow afternoon. luckily, it will probably be a very nice day!
but i'm having trouble thinking of things to bring along, mostly food-wise. any ideas?? and also, do guys like doing this at all (provided there's enough delicious food, of course... :P )?
thanks in advance! (link)
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I think it's an awesomse idea, who doesn't love eating and hanging out with their boyfriend/girlfriend?
Sandwiches are always a good picnic food, but you can always go to a grocery store and pick up the rotisary (I so spelled that wrong) chicken, potato wedges, and coleslaw, that would be equally good. Go for his favourites. Bring some sparkling water, and fancy glasses to make it feel like wine. Make sure it's all travels though, like jello is probably not a good idea, and that it doesn't spoil easily. Stay away from eggs and mayo unless you plan on packing the food and eating it right away.
I'd make dessert at home though. Even if it's one of those cake mixes from a box, it'll show you really put time into it.
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On May 17th, is a banquet, I have been waiting for this for quite awhile now. Ok the dress is a size 6, when I first bought it, it fit perfectly now, my stomach is a little pudgy, I NEED HELP FAST!. What can I do to make it go down. What should I help. Please help, it's in 2 weeks. Thank u,n 5's for anything useful. Please dont come at me with going to a gym because I cant get to one. Thanks again (link)
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Spanx, or other tummy sucker in underwear will help. It also gets rid of VPL, and makes your clothes lay smoother. Oprah wears Spanx so you know they have to be good.
You could try jogging, and doing crunches for the next two weeks, and drinking lots of water, but I don't know how effective they'll be in the limited time. Underwear like Spanx are a good investment though, you'll wear them under every formal outfit.
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When I saw both jessica simpson and kelly clarkson had proactive testimonals I was thinking about gettin proactive:S. I know it's expensive but that's not a problem.
My face doesn't break out badly...only my forehead gets 4-6 pimples and my cheek might get one or two. It's not a big problem and I never broke out really bad...
I was wondering if I shuld buy proactive? or should I get a next 3 step program (can u give me a name of it 2).
PS- I've tried loreal pure zone and yeah it works but I don't like the cleanser (wid micr beads) because the beads are tiny! So i switched it with neutrogena invigorating scrub...so please help me! I was thinking 4 2mrw evening? (link)
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Proactive does work, but it's really expensive. I've used my sister's a couple times, but I'm really not a fan of how the cleanser feels- it's slimy and kind of grainy. The toner and the moisturizer are nice though.
I'd try something cheaper first, since it doesn't seem like you have bad acne. Avon has a pretty similar system, try their website to find it.
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i have a Yo momma compititon on Tuesday next week, i have to have at least 10 yo momma jokes made up by me this is all i have...
1 yo momma is so fat when she went to bed she smashed the pillow!
2 yo momma is so stupid when she tried to turn to the light off she turned it on!
3 Yo momma is so fat and hungrey when the ice cream man came she didnt eat the icecream she ate the truck.
4 yo momma is so fat her pants dont even fit!!
5 yo momma is so dirty the only time she is clean is when she is in the shower, and when she is in the shower she doesnt even smell good!
6 yo mommas teeth are so crooked she has to wear braces!
7 yo mommas hair is so curly she has to straighten it!!!
thats all i have i need 3 more, should i edit some of mine?? idk? thanks for the help (link)
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those are all pretty terrible. What is wrong with straightening hair?
Try and make them relevant to the person you're insulting at least. I was watching that stupid Wilmer Valderama show "Yo Momma" and a good one was "yo momma so ghetto when her water broke it was kool aid" try something along those lines, you know something that hasn't been heard a hundred times.
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wow, i definitely made a mistake, and i was at a house where people were drinking. i only sipped a few thing but i didn't even like it so i didn't drink and i didn't get drunk. i should have called my parents and had them pick me up, and i didn't so now they don't trust me at all. this is gonna spread around school quickly and i don't know if i can deal w/ what kind of stuff people could say. i really want to earn my parents trust back but i know that is gonna take a LONG TIME! i wish i could take everything back. what should i do? (link)
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talk to your parents, and explain to them that you know it was wrong, and you regret it, and you're disappointed in yourself. Talk to them about what you should do if you end up in a situation like that again. Chances are they're a little upset because they feel like what they taught about alcohol you didn't stick.
It will take a long time to earn their trust back like you said, but try being responsible in other areas- get your homework done, try not to fight with your siblings, make an effort not to hang out with the people who got you into that situation etc.
You sound like a mature kid, so chances are your parents will come around after they get over their initial anger.
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im going to be getting my lip double pierced and was wondering how long it has to stay if for befroe u can take it out (link)
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I think I already answered this question for you, but I'll do it again.
You have to keep your jewlery in for anywhere to two to six months- two months at the least, it all depends how you heal. Even when you do take it out, there will be noticeable holes. There are clear acrylic retainer jewlery that you can wear instead of studs or rings that are more discreet, but you won't be able to wear those for the first month. You might want to talk to your piercer about this, or check out the FAQ and stories at http://www.bmezine.com
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whats that song that goes
"california here we come, right back where we started from...."
band/song name please!! (link)
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it's by Phantom Planet, and I think it's called "California".
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im really smart, and so what is an above average or average iq for 14/f (link)
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An average iq is about 120. Anything above 140 (possibly 130, I can't remeber off hand) is considered genuis.
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Hey!
I was wondering if anyone knows where to get airwalks, you know, the shoes like crocs only the holes are dimonds and they are less money. I googled it but I couldn't really find anything. Please help me becuse I really want those shoes! Thanks if you do help me though!
-----> Mars (link)
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payless sells airwalks. I don't know if they sell the specific ones you are looking for, but check the website, or ask your payless if they plan on getting any in.
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DOES any one know any good books, me as a teenager would LiiKE?? iiF SO TELL ME WUT THE AUTHOR iiS AND WUT THE BOOK iiS CALLED, AND PLEASE PLEASE GiiVe me a little summary of wut the book is about.
x3KayKay. (link)
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http://www.teenreads.com
tonnes of boOKS AND SUMMARIES
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I want to get my nose pierced during the summer (nothing too big, just a small piercing on the side) but I want to make sure I'll be able to take it out at school.
How long do you have to wait after getting something pierced before you can take it out? (link)
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everyone heals differently so there's really no set time before you can take it out. It'll be about two months before you can change the jewlery, but some people will find depending on how they heal, they'll never be able to go very long without a stud or ring before it closes up. However, since your nose is cartilege, the hole will still be there, you'll just have to poke through the skin a bit to get it in, after not wearing it for a while- which if you're squirmish might be a pain.
If you have other piercings like your ears, how long you can go without wearing them will be fairly accurate of how long you can go without wearing your nose ring.
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I'm going on holiday in three weeks. It's a four hour flight each way. So I want a book to read, but don't know what. I don't want something that'll make me sad because I'm going on holiday and don't want to be put in that kind of mood. I want something happy and girly that'll be fun to read and not too serious. I'm in England, so it'll need to be released here too and hopefully able to get on ebay cheap because I'm skint. Does anyone have any ideas or knmow of any books like that for me? (link)
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Gossip Girls are good books, but I find them a little to repetitive to read them back to back.
I'd check out Sloppy Firsts, Second Helpings and Charmed Thirds by Megan MCCafferty. They're three different books, about Jessica Darling a sarcastic New Jersey teen growing up. They're really funny, but have some substance to them, and they're pretty damn realistic too. The first book starts out with Jessica's best friend moving across country, and Jessica dealing with her psuedo friends, and Marcus Flutie, a character I dare you not to fall in love with.
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Hi, I'm from Italy. I met my girlfriend about 7 months ago and I love her very much.She is a very friendly girl and got lots of friends. she is still in contact with some of her exs and that drives me mad.she says they are still friends and if the relationship didnt work well between them does not mean they are bad people and thats why she still is in contact with them, she is also telling me she needs to see them sometimes as the are friends and she miss them but I really don't like it.I don't know how to react and what to tell her or ..maybe I'm wrong.please give me some advice.thanks (link)
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Just because a relationship doesn't work out doesn't mean someone is to blame for it. Sometimes the people just weren't meant to be romantically involved, it doesn't mean they can't be friends. They obviously had stuff in common if they dated. I highly doubt you are attracted to every female ever, so why would your girlfriend be attracted to all males?
I'd back off a little, she needs her space, and not to be constantly worried that you're going to get mad at her for smiling at someone the wrong way.
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If I get my belly button pierced soon, how long do I have to wait to be able to go in the ocean and a swimming pool for long periods of time? Summer is commming soon but I want my belly button peirced, BUT not if I can't go swimming! Also, how long does it take for your belly button to completley heal after you get it peirced? DO you suggest getting your belly button pierced or nah? Thanks for the advice! (link)
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I was told to avoid chlorine and salt water for 2-3 weeks when I had my lip done, but I imagine the time period is longer for belly buttons, as they'd be directly in the water.
http://www.bmezine.com has tonnes of personal piercing experiences, and you'll be able to find out about shops in your city.
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im a 14 year old male nd i am going to get my lip double pierced and i waned to know if anyone had any way for my parents not to see it i know about putting a clean stud in but are there any other ways for it to not be that noticable when the rings arent in (link)
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Unless you never see your parents I doubt this piercing is going to be feasible for you. While there are acrylic studs that you can put in your hole when you cannot wear a piercing, no decent shop will use it as the intial jewlery. And for God's sakes, DO NOT PIERCE YOURSELF. Especially your lip, you can screw up your teeth and errode your gum line if you don't have it at the right angle.
I have my lip pierced, and even when the jewlery is out, there is a fair sized hole, and it can't really be concealed. It's a hole, and it's in my face, it's there to stay. But like others said you can't take the ring or stud out for the first couple weeks (a month and a half at least!). Plus for the first week, your lip swells, and you have to adjust to eating with it- your parents will notice something is up.
I might wait a bit to get your lip done, or at least only get one at a time. Like others said, you're only 14. Good piercers won't pierce 14 year olds without permission, you might end up with subpar work. Or you might even regret it. While I haven't left my out long enough to see if it closes up, the girl who pierced mine still has a fair sized hole from hers, even though it's been out for a while. And if you look for a job in the upcoming years, it might be harder to find, some employers aren't piercing friendly.
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