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drinking
wow, i definitely made a mistake, and i was at a house where people were drinking. i only sipped a few thing but i didn't even like it so i didn't drink and i didn't get drunk. i should have called my parents and had them pick me up, and i didn't so now they don't trust me at all. this is gonna spread around school quickly and i don't know if i can deal w/ what kind of stuff people could say. i really want to earn my parents trust back but i know that is gonna take a LONG TIME! i wish i could take everything back. what should i do?
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Ok, first, don't worry yet about the school people. You have to talk to your parents and tell them the truth and how you swear you are telling the truth, but make sure you tell them everything, including that you had a sip of a drink. explain that you were wrong and that you should have called them, because parents like when their kids realize they did something wrong. trust me my parents and i fight a lot. hope this helps
Alan
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You're right in thinking that it'll take a long time to earn your parents' trust again because it will. All you can do to make them trust you again is to not do anything that's disobedient. People at school probably won't judge you as harshly as your parents will because a lot of kids drink on the weekends these days. I'm not saying that it's a good thing, but they probably won't say anything about it to you. I would advise you to take your own advice the next time you're around people who are drinking and don't want to be a part of it. Just call your parents and ask them to come pick you up. If you're honest about the situation upfront, they won't be mad at you.
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about kids at school, a large majority of people drink. no one is going to look at your differently. they are going to forget it anyway. just tell the truth if anyone asks you about it. i really wouldn't worry.
about your parents, just ask them to hear you out and tell them your story. if they aren't going to listen, or if you aren't sure if you can get your point across, write a note. you can never be interrupted in a note! tell them everything you told us. make sure you tell them that you are really sorry you let them down. you'll earn their trust back.
you're going to be fine. i promise.
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hey, just let your parents know that you should have left. but also let them know that you made the right choice by not drinking so much. explain to them your point of view. as for the people at school finding out just tell them the truth. thats all you can do. dont waste your time lieing about it. cait♥
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At least you realize what you should have done in the first place and you realize that it's going to take a lot to get your parents to trust you again.
The only way you can really let your parents know that you can be trusted is to just wait out your punishments and not complain about being grounded or yelling. When a mature person knows that what they did was wrong, they show that by taking their punishment and not complaining like a child.
I don't know why this news would go around in your school, but if it does, then you'll have to just deal with it and ignore it and they'll think of something else to gossip about.
But, sometimes it takes mistakes like these to realize that it wasn't a smart move and that's just what you have to think of this as. Your actions can really cause a lot of damage, but it's important to realize it was wrong and make things right again and prevent it from happening again. I think that you should let your parents know that you are truly sorry and you are willing to do whatever it takes for them to trust you again and they'll probably feel better that you know what you did wasn't right.
-TheTeenGirl
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talk to your parents, and explain to them that you know it was wrong, and you regret it, and you're disappointed in yourself. Talk to them about what you should do if you end up in a situation like that again. Chances are they're a little upset because they feel like what they taught about alcohol you didn't stick.
It will take a long time to earn their trust back like you said, but try being responsible in other areas- get your homework done, try not to fight with your siblings, make an effort not to hang out with the people who got you into that situation etc.
You sound like a mature kid, so chances are your parents will come around after they get over their initial anger.
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Well at this point, there's probably not anything you can say that's going to help. However, if you haven't already, just sit them down and explain what you did and that you realize you did wrong. If that doesn't work you'll just have to wait it out and show them that they can trust you, don't rush it.
♥ Evy
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