Ahh, the infamous cliques. What highschool would be complete without them? (Sorry, that is dry humor and meant to be funny.)

It is good that you are able to relate to different people in different groups, but you shouldn't be made to feel like you have to choose one over the other. Obviously you like all of your friends equally, you just feel more comfortable in one group over the other. You need to tell all parties in both groups that you will not choose to hang out solely with one group over the other. That if your frienship with the other is not causing conflict in their life, then you don't see why it is doing more harm then good. Just because they refuse to get along, doesn't mean that you can't refuse to not choose sides.

If you feel like you MUST choose a group, then you should go with the one that you think you will be more comfortable in. Just know that your actions have consequences and you could loose a potential life long frienship in the process.

You are very mature in being able to recognize that you have a problem, and wanting to get help for it on your own. There are grown men that can't even do that, so I commend you for that. Obviously your parents have noticed your anger problem. Go to them and tell them that you recognize that you have a problem, and you want to take anger management courses to learn how to control your anger before it gets too out of control. One day, someone could make you mad, and you could just snap and turn all of your anger towards that person, resulting in an ugly situation for both you and your victim. Believe me, it has happened before. Keep pursuing this issue with your parents until they seek out and get the help for you that you need. I wish you nothing but the best in your efforts.

It is not bad to be angry. It is what you do with your angry emotions that is bad.

I seriously doubt that sleeping with a light on can give you lukemia, but to reassure yourself, ask your mom or dad to call your family doctor and explain your situation to him and ask him about it. If you use a high voltage light, try switching to the lowest voltage as possible without hurting your eyes.

Not to sound rude, but you can just stop talking about him around your friends. You know it has gone too far when your friends are starting to get annoyed by your frequent talking about him. When you catch yourself about to start a sentence with him as the subject, stop yourself or change your sentence.

Killing or cutting yourself is never the answer, to any situation no matter how bad it may seem. You need to talk to your mother when both of you are calm, cool and collected and tell her how she makes you feel when she yells at you for no reason at all. Tell her that you love her, no matter what, but that she should take your feelings into consideration. Let her know how her yelling affects you emotionally, because if you don't, she will only keep yelling at you and the situation will on get worse.

It sounds like you have a few symptoms of depression. The only person that will be able to help you right now is a therapist or psycologist. Talk to your parents and tell them exactly how you are feeling, and that you think you need to talk to someone professionaly because this is not normal for you. Hopefully they will take you seriously and seek out the help for you that you need. If you want to talk to a school counselor first and then have her make an appointment with you, the counselor and your parents. Depression si very common, and with the appropriate counseling and/or medications, you will start feeling better really soon.

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This is 2005 dear. It is okay for a girl to make the first move. If he is a shy person, then he could be just like you, waiting for you to make the first move. And in that case, neither of you will kiss because you will be forever waiting for the other one to do it first. The next time you think it is an appropriate time for a kiss, lean into him and start to kiss him. Either he will return your kiss back, or pull away. Either way it goes, you can tell from his reaction whether or not he is ready to kiss you, and more likely then not, he will return that kiss.

Hey hon. I know exactly what you are going through, me having been married for four years and now seperated from my husband for two months because of lack of communication. I am going to address everything in order, so please listen carefully.

If your husband really loves you, then he will return back to you, but you need to stop hurting him with your words. There are other words besides curse words that you can use to make him understand you and to explain to him where you are coming from. The key in every relationship is communication, and since you have been married for three and a half years, I can see that regular communication is not the problem here, but communicating when angry is the real problem between you two.

Have you ever tried talking to him when both of you are calmed down, and will to talk rationally about how you feel? Cussing at him only pushes him away from you instead of bringing him closer to you. Compromise with him. Tell him that you love him enough to not cuss at him anymore, but you want/need him to show you some more affection. Tell him that you hate how he doesn't show you every once in awhile that he loves you, and that you miss how you all were in the beginning; with the dating and the gift giving. One thing that me and my husband tried to do at least twice a month was to have a real date night. Fancy resturant, nice clothing, flowers, cards, candy, the whole shebang. Maybe that is what you all need to start doing. Dedicating certain nights out of the week for just the two of you time, where you act like a real couple and not just a oh-we-are-married-now-we-don't-have-to-be-romantic couple.

Call him again when he gets off of work and tell him that you miss him, that you understand where he is coming from and that you all's marriage is more important then cuss words, which you will (

It is time for you to move one. Focus your attention on someone who can return it back. If he is emotionless then it could take him forever to respond back to, therefore wasting your time and the time of other potentials trying to 'befriend' you.

My favorite pet names are babe, baby, hon and sweetie. They're not too femine, but they are cute enough to throw them into a conversation every once in awhile. Just try out one at a time, and see how he responds to them. If you get positive feedback from him and notice no difference in the way he talks to you, then continue to use that. If he is like WTF?, then hold off for a minute. Pet names are cute, and you will find one befitting of him soon.

I have a lot of experience in infidelity, and even though your boyfriend apologized to you, that doesn't mean that he won't do it again. You have to question his integrity and judge for yourself if this is someone you want to trust with your heart. You are making a smart choice by staying away from him for now. I know that you have to be hurting right now, and you have to heal before you can even think about pursuing a relationship with him again. The choice for him to come up is one that you will have to think about long and hard. If you think by seeing him, it will make your relationship stronger, then go for it. But while he is up there, you should talk to him face-to-face and tell him exactly how you feel and let him know that you will not tolerate anymore cheating from him from that point on.

Whoa, this is a lot to be going through for someone who is only 14. If you want to know the truth, it sounds as if this guy is only using you so he won't feel lonely in the summers while he is away from his girlfriend. And then, by him hinting at if the feeling is right-something could happen between us shows me that he only has one thing on his mind when it comes to you.

It is easy to say that you love someone in order for them to get you to do what they want. If he loves you, then he can prove it by the way he acts towards you. And that is not proving it by staying with his girlfriend. If he loves either one of you, then he will let one of you go. What he is doing is playing both sides, and having his cake and eating it too. If he wants to have sex with you, when the summer is over he will have sex with his girlfriend.

There are so many strikes against this relationship. Number 01. The distance that you two live apart can make for a very hard relationship, and Number 02. The age difference. You should take into consideration finding someone closer to where you live and your age, who can adore you for you and be with only you.

Please, don't sleep with him. Save your treasure for someone who is really deserving of it. Having sex is a big emotional deal, and it needs to be done with someone who can be there for you afterwards for more then six weeks.

I hope you make the right choice for yourself. Think long and hard, because in the end, the person's who feelings get hurt will be yours, not his. He has someone to go back home to.

You are definitely not a slut. I think that you should take this time away from your boyfriend to see what is out there. You don't want to get in a committed relationship with him, possibly ending up in marriage, and then always be left wondering and maybe even cheating on him. Your intentions here is not to sleep with anyone, but to be free, and there is nothing wrong with that. By you saying that you and him have been on-and-off for a year and a half goes to show that there is something in you guy's relationship that is missing. It looks as if you are not ready to settle down, and you shouldn't have to. There is nothing wrong with dating people. This is how you find out what you want and do not want out of a relationship. Explain to your ex that you need time alone to grow and experience things on your own without him having jealous and negative thoughts about you. Like the saying goes: 'If it was meant to be, you can let it go and it will come back to you.'
Good luck.

Hon, not everyone in High School will like you, that comes with the territory. But if you truly want to be friends with these girls, then maybe you should try building onto the friendship that you already have with the few girls out of the group. I like to call it the "Waterfall Theory": You become friends with them - they go back and talk about your positives to the other people in the group - new friendships start developing - the process repeats over. It could happen like this, but then again, it couldn't. Maybe you should try facilitating weekend activities with the girls that you are friends with. Invite them over on the weekend on sometime during the week. If you want a friendship, then initiate effort instead of waiting for someone to initiate things first.

Ok, first of all, you shouldn't use the term "best-friend" when referring to this "faux friend". She has no resepect what-so-ever for you or your feelings. This matter shouldn't be let go, but you can go about exposing her snide remarks in a mature, but yet in-your-face, manner. By letting her get away with what she said about you, you are only letting yourself down. When, or if, she calls you back, let her know that when she tried to switch over on her call-waiting that she didn't do it properly. That you heard everything she said about you and that you would appreciate it if from now on, she could come to you with a problem or at least stop talking about you behind your back like a child. You can still be friends with other people and just regard her as an associate. Don't bother calling her or trying to make plans with her from now on, because now you know how she really perceives you. Put your efforts into another friendship and regard her "faux-friendship" as her lost.

Oh, this is a difficult situation. I know that this may hurt your friend in the beginning, but I think that it is best that you tell her first before she hears about what happened from someone else. She may not take it so good, but it wouldn't be as hurtful as hearing it from another. Then on top of that pain, she would be wondering why you are keeping things from her and if this was the only incident in which this happened. Fifteen seconds is a very long time to kiss someone. That is not a peck, that was a lingering kiss. When you tell her, make sure you do it privately, away from other people. She is already going to be upset, and you don't want to make an already ugly situation uglier by having a crowd present. If your friendship is strong enough, it will last through this, but it will take some time.

This quote is going to work perfectly in your situation:

'If he does it to her, what makes you think he won't do it to you?'

Seriously. If he can cheat on his girlfriend, what makes you think that he will treat you any differently when, or if, he decides to leave her and be with you? This guy has no moral fiber. Not only is he letting you sneak around behind everyone's back, but he is not even trying to make a move toward correcting his relationship so he can be with you openly. It really looks like he is using you for nothing buy sex. But you have to take some of the blame also. You know that he is with someone and that he has a child by this someone, but yet you let yourself get involved with him. You made plans secretly with him behind her back, knowing beforehand his living situation. You are just as guilty as he is.

Both of you need to be ashamed of yourselves, and you need to get yourself out of this unhealty relationship. Ultimately he has commitment and fidelity issues, and he is using you to act upon them. You are young, and you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you openly and publicly.

I can tell you that there will not be anything remotely close to Spanish or Chemistry on your SAT test. I suggest that you go to your local book store and buy and SAT prep book. I found those really helpful when I was in High School. Here are some websites that I found helpful:

http://www.collegeboard.com/student/testing/sat/prep_one/prep_one.html
http://www.number2.com/

Both of those sites are free to join and give you sample tests and questions to answer.

I think it would be unfair for your guy friends to have to sleep in a tent after you invite them to come and visit you. If your mother doesn't approve of the guys staying in the cottage, then maybe they can rent a hotel room instead. If not, then try to stay in touch with them through email, letters and telephone calls. Of course, if the guys don't mind sleeping in the tent, then I suggest you take that suggestion to your mother.

One of the girls in your needs to talk to her one-on-one before she turns everyone away from her and looses all of her friends. It sounds to me that your friend is really immature and is craving attention she gets from your group. Her use of the word b*tch and wh*re is not called for, especially when referring to her friends. The person in your group that is closest to her needs to talk to her. Tell her honestly but with tact what she does that makes everyone in your group uncomfortable around her. Maybe she doesn't realize how annoying she really is being. Don't let the discussion turn into an argument, and if you see that she is becoming offended, reassure her and let her know that you all still love her and want to be friends with her, but she is making it difficult to be around her.

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