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ok here it is...i moved into a two family house,,,the people downstairs are related to the peopl i lived with upstairs but they have no relation to me...understand? well, the girl downstairs has a baby and a boyfriend. i always had a crush on him but ignored it because i knew it was wrong, but one day we made plans to hang out without everyone else and kept it a secret and thats how it all began and now i have moved out of that house but i continue to see him on the low. i still go to that house because my family still lives there and i am close to this guys daughter and girlfriend, i love him so much and i know how wrong i am! and i always feel bad because im hurting all these ppl around me but no one understands that i really love him! plz no negativity i just need some point of view! i hurt so bad because i am in love with him but i cant keep going like this! i tried breaking it off with him but i just love him so much and i cant turn away and say no to him!
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Well, first I don't think this guy should be cheating on his girlfriend.. I mean, he probably 'loved' her at the time they got that baby. If the two aren't going to get married though I think maybe it'll be time to move on.. He can still help out with the girl and her child. I really think you should try your hardest to distance yourself from him and date someone else because you may love him, but what your doing is really wrong in my opinion. I'm not flaming you or anything but it sorta is.. *sigh* If I were you, I would do my best to break it off with him for a while and trying to find someone to go out with that's a little younger.. I mean.. 18 and 23 is still sort of a significant age difference. You've got to let the two that are together right now, work things out before you make a move.. it's the cold hard truth..
- I tells it like it is
!Sarah
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This quote is going to work perfectly in your situation:
<b><i>'If he does it to her, what makes you think he won't do it to you?'</b></i>
Seriously. If he can cheat on his girlfriend, what makes you think that he will treat you any differently when, or <b>if</b>, he decides to leave her and be with you? This guy has no moral fiber. Not only is he letting you sneak around behind everyone's back, but he is not even trying to make a move toward correcting his relationship so he can be with you openly. It really looks like he is using you for nothing buy sex. But you have to take some of the blame also. You know that he is with someone and that he has a child by this someone, but yet you let yourself get involved with him. You made plans secretly with him behind her back, knowing beforehand his living situation. You are just as guilty as he is.
Both of you need to be ashamed of yourselves, and you need to get yourself out of this unhealty relationship. Ultimately he has commitment and fidelity issues, and he is using you to act upon them. You are young, and you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you openly and publicly.
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you have to be strong and think about how it would feel if you were in this guys family's shoes.
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My answer isn't going to endear me to you AT ALL!
This guy is using you and you are letting him.I'd be willing to bet he isn't going to split up his family anytime soon.But, he can have 2 girls for the price of one so hey, he's going to do it.
He is living with and taking care of a woman who has what I assume is HIS child.Hasn't married her but isn't completley irresponsible I guess.But, if that isn't going to get his loyalty do you really think you will?
I know you love this guy.I believe you.But you are on the fast track to nowhere here girl.He is going to use you just as long as you will let him.If the girlfriend finds out about it who do you think is gonna pay? You thats who.
You are 18 years old.There are men in the real world who will lie to you and use you.Go find yourself a man who will love only you.I think deep down you already know this is what you have to do.You deserve better than this guy is EVER going to give you. Enough said.
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I think you need to get away from that guy, I know he lives there, but stay away from him as possible. He actually made plans with you to hang out without the others? No, thats wrong. Its ok to crush on a guy, but its not ok if it doesn't stay a crush. This guy has a kid, and a girlfriend, hopefully he will stay with his family instead of picking on a little girl, 'tried breaking it off with him?' You guys are dating? Um, wow, break it off now, you are hurting people, oh man, this is wrong. Please break it off, can you imagine the girlfriends look on her face if she found out?
-TheTeenGirl
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you luv him right.so is he active wit his g/f if so see how far it goes. if not you shouldn't let go.
**jessi**
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