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my boyfriend (weve been dating about a month) has TONS of posters of halk naked, playboy girls all around his bedroom. Like, "hot" girls in skimpy bikins and sexual poses. and of course, way more gorgeous and curvy than regular girls. the posters make me so uncomfortable. he also sometimes talks about other hot celebrities and such around me. it somehow makes me feel, like, not good enough. ill never look like one of those girls on his walls and it makes me feel so horrible. what should i do about this?

You just need to remember:
Every single picture on his wall has been edited to hell. Celebs have hair and make up professionals - of course they're going to look good. Fake, but good.
Just tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable when he talks about others. He should understand. He's your boyfriend after all.
You shouldn't be made to feel inadequate due to silly posters and what not. You're fine as you are. and real. :)

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what if youu went in the back were clearance was, took off alll the hollister tags from a flip flop, and put the flip flop in your pursee?

You'd most probably be caught stealing.
If you do get caught, the punishment varies. You can get a warning, be banned from that particular store, your parents will be notified etc.
So.. is it really worth it.. for a flip flop?
Not really.

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how do i get my girlfriend back?

You need to be more specific. Why did you break up?
If you provide more details, you are sure to get more answers explaining things you can do.

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hey i have this guy were like really tight and hes my best friends brothers friend. he is 3years older than me and one night we were watching a movie and all at my friends and we got pretty far but not too far. he says he loves me and hes really into me and im into him. what should i do?

Hi, thanks for your question.
Well if you like each other, what's stopping you from going for it?
Just tell you like him if you haven't already. and ask if he'd consider a relationship.
Remember if you're a minor he could get into trouble for having a sexual relationship with you - so if you do get together, it cant really be physical until you're of age. If he's willing to wait for that, it shows he really IS into you and not just after sexual things.
Good luck. :)

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f/13
i want to go farther than a makeout w/ my boyfriend but i asked him how far he would go & he said nothing past makeout. i understand that everyone moves at their own pace or w/e. but is there any way that i can get him to want to go farther?

Seriously, by respecting his decision to not want to go further. Just tell him that's fine and don't push him. Trying to get him to do something will only push him away.
When he's ready, he will say, okay?
Don't worry, you're only 13. There's plenty of time for doing more.
Don't rush things.

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Female 15
Hello,
Umm i was wondering does anyone know how i can enhance my breast size with out taking pills or getting implants like certain foods i can eat or something? Or like certain tea i can drink?
Please and thanks.

No.
Gaining weight would be a way. but that would go to other areas of your body as well.
Becoming pregnant is another - and I doubt you'd want that.

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Is it true that only women get migranes?

No, it's not true. but studies have shown women are more susceptible to them than men.

Read this for an in depth answer:
http://newsroom.ucla.edu/portal/ucla/Why-Women-Get-More-Migraines-Than-8133.aspx

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i have a nikon N2020 camera and i just got it from a friend he didnt have the instructions and i seriously pushed every button on this camera and i cant figure out how to open the back theres a screw thing but when you un screw it its where the batteries go... does anybody no how to open the back?????

http://www.devicemanuals.com/guide/Cameras/Nikon/Nikon-N2020-Instruction-Manual-TmpNek9UQT.html

The instruction manual is here.
Just scroll down a little bit and enter the code.
(You have to do it exactly the same. Some letters might be in capitals, whereas others aren't).

There's lots of pictures and I could be wrong, but it seems to open from the left side.

Here is a print screen for you:

http://img187.imageshack.us/img187/8485/camerali0.jpg


Good luck.

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* be prepared, its kinda long.

ohk, so my best friend, who i have known for about a year and a half, we've been really rocky lately.

let me explain:

she is a VERY clingy person. she will cling to 2-3 people for long periods of time. it annoys the shit outta me, but i live with it. we're friends. ive tried telling her, but whenever i try, she always gets so mad + gets VERY defensive. so wuht should i do about THAT problem?

wait, theres more.

2 weeks ago, she had a movie night, she didnt invite me, + she always does, i didnt do anything to her, i wasnt mad at her or anything, + she invited kids who she barely talked to, which i really didnt undertstand. i texted her asking her, + she was just all pissed off, so i just didnt text her anymore.

we rarely talk anymore, + if we do, its alkward. wuht should i do about THAT problem?

theres more:

++ then, we were on the bus coming back from a basketball game, this girl, asked me, "hows yer boyfriend emily?!, i said really good, and then my friend pipes in, and goes, "EW, HES SO UGLY!" + she said much more stuff about that, and i got REALLY mad. wuht should i do about THAT?

two more things:

im nothing but a friend, and a good person to her, and all she does is treat me like shit, so i told her, that ive never gotten so much disrespect from a person, no one has ever treated me with so much disrespect like she does, and that she should be ashamed of the way she treats me. was that good to say?
+ one more thing:

we are going to philladelphia, for a class trip, and i wanted to room with her, so i asked her, she said yes, and then she got put with me, and got all pissed off, because i guess she had already made arrangements with her other friends, which she didnt because i was the first one that asked her, and she keeps denying it. + she wouldn't talk to me + she got all pissed.
wuht should i do about THAT?

thats it, but from wuht i have observed, if she needs to cling to people, shes really insecure, + has low self esteem.

but, i need some help + peoples opinions.

thanks SO much everyone.

1st problem:
You've told her it annoys you how she clings on to people. You can't do much more than that, I'm afraid. So the option is to deal with it and hope what you've told her makes her realize something.

2nd problem:
So what if she invited other people to her movie night. I know you were probably hurt since she didn't tell you about it, but she's free to have other friends, too. Who knows.. maybe giving each other space is actually a good thing for you both - because it seems like everything you guys do annoys each other.

3rd problem:
What she said was down right wrong and I'm sensing a bit of jealousy here. Ask her why she feels the need to say these harsh things to you. It's not like it's HER boyfriend, so she doesn't have the right to say things like that. Friends don't put each other down like that, let alone best friends.

4th:
"im nothing but a friend, and a good person to her, and all she does is treat me like shit, so i told her, that ive never gotten so much disrespect from a person, no one has ever treated me with so much disrespect like she does, and that she should be ashamed of the way she treats me. was that good to say?"
Perfect. and you know what? You don't have to put up with it. Make sure she knows that.

5th:
She said yes.. then changed her mind. It's not your fault. It's only a room arrangement and to be honest, you will barely be spending much time in there anyway. If it bothers her that much, see if you can change.


I reckon if you just leave her to her own thing for a while, hopefully she will realize something is up and she is being a bad friend. I commend you for putting up with her crap, because I wouldn't.
If she keeps up with her selfish, rude ways, then so be it. You don't need someone like that in your life - it is NOT what friends do.
She may be going through a rough time at the moment and you may not know about it, but it's still no way to treat you so bad.
If you want to salvage your friendship, write her a letter. Write down everything you are feeling. Don't make it sound like you're having a go at her.. just tell her the things she does and says upsets you and ask her WHY she does it.

If she doesn't seem to change - she doesn't deserve your friendship.
I know it's sad, but sometimes, friends just grow apart. Maybe that's what's happening with you.

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okay so one day this guy txted me out of the blue and weve been txting each other everyday ever since and he says hes 13 likes soccer like me and it seems like we have alot in common but weve never actually met in person or even talked on the phone just txting but dont know how to tell if hes telling the truth or not and i really want to meet him in person but what if hes not who he says he is thanx ahead of time 13/f

So, some "kid" just randomly started txting you? How did he get your number?
If I were you, I'd just stop with the txts, because you're absolutely right - HOW do you know he's really a 13 year old boy and not a 30 year old paedophile?
It's risky business. and whatever you do, don't meet him - especially on your own. If you do, it MUST be with an adult.
Also, I assume he knows quite a bit about you already, but do not give out any other personal details, such as your address, because if he's not who he says he is, he could easily track you down.
Scary, isn't it?

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Any ideas on ways to make fake dust? Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!

What's it for?
*Baby powder. You can spray it grey/brown etc so it's not white.
*Chalk. Again, you can change the colour.
*Brown or white flour.
*Saw dust - although you have to be careful if you choose this option. It can get in your eyes, irritate your skin.. and could be chemicals in it. As I've said, it depends what you need the fake dust for.

Good luck with whatever you're doing, anyway!

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when I give my boyfrind a handjob and he cums and then fingers me with some possible sperm on his hands, could I get pregnant by that?

If there's sperm on his hands, then yes.
Sperm + vagina = possible pregnancy.

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Well every guy i date wants to have sex with me
but im really scared and want to wait till i find the right guy or im married and they dump me should i just give it up to them?

No. Once your virginity's gone, it's gone. and you'll most likely regret it if you just give it to anyone.
No one should pressure you into doing it. You should do it when you feel completely comfortable and you're 100% ready. Not to mention they WOULDN'T dump you if you said "no". If they do - they're not the right guy for you.
Just wait.

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recently i've had sensitive nipples and i know that its a sign of early pregnancy but that is highly unlikely because my boyfriend has never ejaculated inside of me and i don't want to drive myself crazy thinking i'm pregnant. i also saw online its possible that its just a sign of getting your period soon. i should be getting period in a weekish, but i've never had this symptom before. could this just be a new symptom of pre-period? thanks!

It could be a symptom of your period coming, yes.
Or something like wearing an uncomfortable bra.
There's nothing stopping you to take a pregnancy test to put your mind at ease though, right? Unless you're 100% sure you're NOT pregnant.

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OK i have this friend.. And i want my hair like her hair. Her hair is blond. mine is brown. i wanna keep brown but i want her style.
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=20196991&albumID=73628&imageID=18913249
Its kinda diffrent now she just doesnt have a geed pic o her hair stright. its like thinner on the bottom to. i dont know how to explain it.
maybe layers but its not like layers i dont know.

I dont know if it would look right on my hair. Cause her hair is thin and mine is thick.
OK this is what my hair looks like.
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=93545057&albumID=1720782&imageID=21286057

Will this work?
And If it will what do i tell the hair dresser?
i have no idea.. =/
and if that does not what about this?

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi260.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fii12%2Fjay-zed%2Fhair.jpg&searchTerm=hair&pageOffset=13

I LOVE THE BANGS. ok but NOT THAT SHORT. like my length but that? would that look weird.. ok what about my friends hair with those bangs.
im sorry if this is alot i just really have no idea what looks right.
can you help?

The profiles are set to private. You can ask the question again, with pictures that work.
I'll answer what I can:
I understand you have thick hair. What you need to do is ask your hair dresser to thin it out.
Also, if you can, take the picture along with you, or ones with similar styles. That way, they will be able to understand WHAT you want and HOW you want it - mistakes hair dressers always seem to make.
The bangs.. well, it depends on your face shape. If you have a round face, avoid short ones - it makes your face appear smaller.

I'd be happy to help further if you send pictures that work.

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does blow drying your hair cause split ends?
i know straightening does but im not too sure about blow dryingg.

Yes, because it's heat. and it can make hair break off causing split ends.
It's not as bad as straightening, obviously, because it doesn't come into actual contact with your hair etc.
Letting it dry naturally is the safest option, but if you must use a blow dryer, a cool setting would be better.
Either way, use a heat protection spray before you blow dry. It helps.

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Ok, I'll give you the complete awkward truth: the guy i had my first kiss with and first uhh..other stuff.. with, told me he wnted me to let loose during the year until i see him again (which i guess means he wants me to make out and fool around with alot of guys so i'd get better at it so hell like it next year) now there's this guy who is obsessed with me and ould do anything for me to "do stuff" even if it didnt mean anything to me..so technically I could use him to "practice on" and when i meet the guy i acutally like it wont be as bad and awkward this year.. but im hesitating.. i dont think i want to be that kind of girl. i dont want to kiss someone i dont like. but then again- i do want to be good at kissing for when i see him again. so he wont get disapointed again.

please help me

Just no.

*You'll most probably end up hurting the one you use to "practice on"
*If the guy you shared your first kiss etc with had any respect for you, he wouldn't have told you to "let loose" just so it benefits him. It flat out sounds like he's using you.

Respect yourself.

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okay so ive heard from a lot of people that they iron their hair with a normal iron...but my questions are is it bad for your hair? are there any special tips or advice you can give me so i wont burn my hair or anything ? does it work better than straightening ? is it faster ?

Using an iron is worse than hair straighteners. Hair straighteners now are normally solid ceramic or at least ceramic plated - as opposed to metal which just basically singes your hair. Not good.
The only plus side of using an iron is it's probably quicker because they have a large surface area - allowing more hair to be straightened at a time.

My advice:
Just use a good hair straightener and heat protection spray.

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If I have gone to 2nd or 3rd base (hand job, blow job, or if my partner performed oral/manual sex on me) and the doctor asks me if I'm sexually active, do I say yes?

By the way I'm not doing any of these things, but I probably will be in the future.

17, female

Yes, because you can contract infections/diseases from what you are doing, assuming you ever get one and go to the doctors with odd symptoms. :)

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i cut myself and the scars kind of turn white and they wont go away.im mixed with black and white.how do i get the scars to go away.


and dont say anything about "cutting is not good for you" and "you shouldnt cut yourself".if i want your opinion on that i will ask


say nothing more than the answer to the question i asked.

Bio Oil. It's for scars, uneven skintone and stretch marks. They sell it in most places. I've used it and after a while, you start to see a difference.
If the cuts were quite deep, the scars may never go - just so you know.

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