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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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ok so im 15 female i would say and i was wondering like say you get your period one month on the 17th the next on the 18th i thought ur supposed to get ur period like ever month on the same day rite idontgetit???!!

Actually if it's a day late like that- you're going to die... of embarrassment. Haha I'm just kidding.

That's actually a fairly regular period. It's not the same "number" day- it's SUPPOSED to be every 28 days, so every 4 weeks, but hardly anyone's period is that regular.

Relax, you're completely fine =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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okay so my boyfriend is in trg (tiny rascal gang) and I don't really care. I mean he's everything I'm looking for in a guy. but do you think it's bad I'm dating a guy in a gang?what should I do?

It might not be bad, but I don't see any benefits from it.

Trust me, there are plenty of guys out there who are "everything you're looking for in a guy", and who aren't in gangs. Gangs are dangerous things. It's probably best that you don't associate yourself with one.

--Jack
(16/m)

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my bf says it's really hot when i finger myself, && i've heard it from a few guys..

i was just wondering. why is this so hot?

Honestly, it's not hot at all. It's rather sick. I guess to some guys it might be, but you'll only know why it's hot to HIM if you ask HIM. We could give you a general idea, but he will give you the better answer.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Ok my volleyball team needs warm up songs and i need to pick one. The thing is the song has to be clean, so if you have any ideas please tell me!
thanks! :)

Hmm. I don't really listen to warm up songs that much. I don't really exercise xD.

And really what you consider a warm up song is something rap or hip hop or r&b.

The only music I listen to is Christian Rock and Alternative Rock.

But bands like The Rocket Summer and Relient K and Cartel are pretty awesome and I always wake up to them ;].

Sorry if that wasn't much help =/. But thanks for inboxing me =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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http://splashspirit.com/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=LSC&Category_Code=LipGloss


are you a fan of splash's lipglosses?

Honestly, no.

My reason is that I'm a guy, for one, but the main reason is that GUYS DO NOT LIKE GIRLS WHO THROW ON A BUNCH OF MAKEUP. Okay sorry I had to get that off my chest, but seriously- guys would prefer you didn't wear all this fancy stuff because it just makes you girls look fake.

It's disgusting, it's nasty, and it's not necessary. Sure, wear a little bit of makeup, I'm not telling you that you should forget it completely, but what I'm saying is don't try so hard to find something everyone likes or something that will make you "hot". Wear what you feel comfortable with and what you want.

--Jack
(16/m)

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how come channel 4 always has a new episode of the olympics?
ut too?
i hear about the olympics all THE TIME.


is august olympic month or somethin?????
whats the buzz abo

August isn't Olympic month. This summer happens to be one of the summers where the Olympic games are played. The summer games are played every four years, and so are the winter games. This summer they are in Beijing, China, and we have athletes competing against other countries in different sporting events.

The Olympics are in "episodes", they are live broadcasts every night from 8p-12a.

If they annoy you, just don't watch them. But NBC has always been the Olympic-coverage network.

--Jack
(16/m)

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16/m
hi there.my problem is that i need to break up with this girl . i have been going out with her for about 6 months but i do not feel the same feelings for her that i had before. this is the first time i have had a girlfriend so i am not sure how i should go about doing it. i realy have to do it soon as she realy likes me but i do not like her and i cannot let this continue, i want to do it in the easiest way. i do not want her to get hurt though i know that would be quite impossible. any help here please. thanks for any advice

Dude- been there and done that.

What I suggest you do is next time you see her in person [or if you don't see her in person often, next time you talk online or on the phone] just be honest with her and tell her that you don't have the same feelings for her.

It's perfectly alright for that to happen- it's normal. Sure she can be mad all she wants, but you can't help how you feel, right?

If you try to send signals to her, it won't work. Just say what you're feeling and it will be easier than making up excuses.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Im 16 and my boyfriend is 18. I had a babyboy 2 months ago and i feel like im ready to live on my own. My boyfriend works and so do i, so we have everything figured out. the on ly problem is, my mom doesnt think i can handle it....is she right??? what do i do

I think for the sake of the baby and for the sake of you, I wouldn't live on your own until you are both ready to completely support yourselves and the child. You don't want to have the baby growing up in a household that isn't completely structured yet, if you know what I mean.

If you two are going to be together for the rest of forever anyway- I don't see the reason you have to rush to be off on your own.

--Jack
(16/m)

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so this guy slipped it in with no condom for a minute or less and i told him to stop because i didnt want to become pregnant. then he did it again about 2 weeks later and i told him to stop after a minute..
i am supposed to get my period today but it didnt come and its late at night. it might be a couple days late...it sometimes is
what are the chances of me being pregnant from precum?!!?

HELPPP :)

Actually the chances are higher than "very slim", because pre-cum still contains sperm in it, and therefore you can still become pregnant.

Wait about a week and take a pregnancy test.

Please next time practice SAFE sex.

--Jack
(16/m)

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18/f
I've been bloated for like 2 months now. Its so bad everyday I have a really painful stomach and it looks really fat. It's really uncomfortable. But if i dont eat I feel like fainting.

What can I do?

I would just skip any medication for right now, and just go to your doctor. None of us can really diagnose you, we can try, but we aren't medically inclined for the most part.

Your doctor may prescribe some sort of medication that will help better than anything over the counter.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I am an avid coffee drinker. On a normal day I drink one to three cups of coffee at any time of the day and it never affects me. It doesn't give me energy, keep me awake or anything like that. The last time I had Monster energy drink I was sick after literally two sips. I got a terrible headache and ended up spending the rest of the night feeling miserable in my bed. I've only had half a Red Bull, at the most, and it has never done that to me, nor has it given me energy.

It's been about a year or so since my Monster experience and I want to give it a try and see if it will wake me up in the morning. Do you think it will actually give me energy or will it just make me sick?

I suggest you don't go back to Monster. If it made you sick before, it will probably do that again, and then you're left wondering why you drank it xD.

If coffee isn't doing you any good, I've actually read numerous places that eating an apple in the morning wakes you up faster than a cup of coffee, and it's completely good for you and gives you a lot of energy.

Energy drinks are good for if you want to get really energetic really fast, but only for like an hour or two. They really aren't the best if you want to wake up and be productive at school.

Fruits in the morning really help, and so does eating a full breakfast. Like cereal, toast, waffles, pancakes, etc.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I'm 15 and I really don't know where to look for a job. I could really use some suggestions. I would rather not hear about babysitting, mowing lawns, etc. I just would like to know if anyone knows any good places i should go to that will hire at my age. I live in Florida if that helps. THANKS!!

You don't need to get a job at a big chain. In fact, most of them don't hire until you're at least 16. So really all you can do is the jobs that you said you didn't want...

You can do the simple jobs like babysitting for friends and family. [You can charge more for more kids the more troublesome they are]
Walk dogs of friends. [The more dogs at once the more money you get! ;)]
Mow lawns in the summer.
Rack leaves in the fall.
Shovel snow in the winter.
All jobs people hate. =]
Get homemade fliers and put them around the neighborhood.
For old people give them the fliers. They are old and can't go far =].

Use this search:

only search advicenators.com



Sorry I know you said not babysitting and such, but you can make some pretty good money there. Other than that, the only place I know that hires 15 year olds is McDonald's.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I want to add a forum to my sight and a membership sign in, how do I do this? Please tell me in the simplest way because I'm new at this.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=512673


That was a question I asked Theymos awhile ago. Learning how to do that will take months, and implementing it will take even longer.

But you can get a free forum here:

http://aceboard.com/

--Jack
(16/m)

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14/f

i finished breaking dawn by stepehnie meyer,

i want to know how you guys liked it.
i loved it!

Honestly, I liked it, but the book was a little too predictable.

Like everyone knew they would get married. We all knew she could get pregnant [because having sex always leaves that possibility open when you're human]. We all knew she would become a vampire. And we all knew the Volturi would come back and try to be all cool, but then we knew there wasn't actually going to be a fight, but we knew if there was, Bella/Edward's side would win, and no one on their side would die.

Personally, the only thing that really surprised me a bit was that she finally could let Edward read her mind, but personally, now that I've thought about that, that was also predictable.

I hated Book Two. Jacob is a stupid character and the whole "werewolves" thing just ruined the series. I liked Twilight because Jacob wasn't really a character and it was just about vampires. Jacob was unnecessary drama.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I decided I would like to start a fashion blog. However, I don't have much of an idea of where to begin. Is blogspot.com the best host for a free blog? Furthermore, what features should I include? I was thinking of doing an "outfit of the day" sort of thing about what I'm wearing and whatnot. Furthermore, I would probably interview other girls with great fashion sense from my school. Does anyone have any other ideas? I want the site to mainly focus on teenage girls having style beyond the regular Hollister and Abercrombie tee-shirts. Thanks for any input!

Blogspot is TERRIBLE.

Use wordpress.com

It's easier to manage and it's a lot cooler.

As for the fashion idea things- I think your ideas are good.

If you use pictures of your outfit or whatever- that would be a good idea.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Okay i'm going into eleventh grade, and I feel like I should sorta kinda know what im gonna do as a career, or at least how to start off in college or something. So as some background info, I have ALWAYS wanted to do something with medicine. And children. Like pediatrician. But then, as I got older I started thinking about school, and the pressure of being a doctor and everything. So I started leaning towards child psychologist. I have always been very interested in understanding the development and thinking of the child. But on the other hand I really really want to HELP children, and I've heard that pyschologists can't really do that. So im thinking, is there anything else sort of like this that I can do that doesnt even have anything to do with medicine, but just helping children, like mentoring as a job? thanks

I wonder if you've considered this:

Becoming a teacher. Sure, teachers don't make much of a salary [everyone knows that], but they help out kids in a way that most people never will. They provide kids with an education that can help them accomplish amazing things. Teachers are often looked to as some of the most inspiring people in history, and even looked to as heroes.

It's definitely a rewarding career, not always, but most of the time. Especially when the students are good ;]

CONGRATULATIONS ON BEING MY 2000th QUESTION ANSWERED!

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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how can i check who goes onto my facebook?

No. Just like the supposed "Myspace Tracker", it's all a scam.


Congrats on being my 1999th question answered =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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how do i tell a girl how i truly feel about her?

YOU tell her. It doesn't have to be to her face, but that is probably the best way to do it if you wanted to be more personal about it.

Be honest with her and just tell her everything you like about her, even things that may seem a little embarrassing.

Like if I liked a girl, if she made me smile every time I talked to her or she crossed my mind a lot, I would let her know. Things like that are really cute to girls.

Trying to send her signals won't work, so that's why talking to her about it directly will be best.

But if actual conversation is too much for you, I suggest writing a poem about her or a short story ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Hi, everyone! My name is Narae and I have a question. Starting a few weeks ago, I've been going to be around 3 or 4 in the morning and waking up aruond 12 or so, and I hate it! Lately, I've been feeling tired all the time now! But I get like, 12 hours of sleep! I don't understand! School's starting in like, a week and I was wondering what would be a good way to get back to the way I was before I became nocturnal and how do I stop being so sleepy all the time!? Thank you!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=504821

From there:

Well, what I would do it gradually start going to sleep earlier and earlier. Rather than 1 o clock, tonight go to bed at 12:30. Then tommorow try 12:00, then the next day 11:30 and so forth until you go to bed at the time you're aiming for. Gradually increase because your body needs to adjust to the time changes.
Then, start waking up earlier. You really only need 8-9 hours of sleep a night, but some people (like myself) prefer more. This is fine unless you're getting around 13-14-15ish hours, which can cause your body to get really tired then really hyper and go all out of whack. Trust me, it's not fun.
Fall into a routine once you've started going to bed at your ideal time. Every night go to bed at the same time, and wake up at the same time. Your body should get used to it. Then hopefully, you won't feel like you're wasting your days.
Good Luck! =]


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=504782

From there:

Well, no one can MAKE you go to bed or wake up if you don't want to. Try having an adult or someone give you a curfew- nothing too unreasonable at first. I used to do that too, but I decided I also didn't like wasting my day.

What I did for a while, is no matter what time I went to bed, I would wake up at 9:30 in the morning. After I was continuously sleepy all day, I'd just.. fall asleep earlier, not even on purpose, which made me naturally wake up earlier.

Try that, see if it works.




--Jack
(16/m)

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14/f ok so im tired of always being akward around guys especially ones that i like so i need flirting tips... thanks muddymidfielder

1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the guy won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let him talk about himself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;].
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls be complete bitches. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Guys don't like bitches.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the guy if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The guy will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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