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Q: I am a girl and 13 and i'm obsessed with a 41 year old actor, (Johnny Depp). Is this a bad thing to want to be with a man that much older than I am?

You dont want to be with him. You just probably think he is hot. Or something. I do to. I think he is hot. But not obsessed. Try to find someone younger. Like that babe ashton. Now he's a hottie. Or even younger you could go for Jesse. hes alright. Just try and look for someone more your age and better yet someone you know! And haev a chance being with-trix

Q: last nite, the guy i like (lets call him bob) asked me if i liked him... im starting to get over him, but i still like him. bob is a sophmore and im a freshman but we are good friends that get along great. i know bob doesnt like me becuz i asked him who he likes... (its sum girl who alredi has a bf) i kind of want to try to get bob to like me even tho i know he doesnt. last nite wen he asked me if i liked him, i said no... i was wondering if i made the rite decision because, now i know bob wont like me becuz he thinks i dont like him... but i dont rele want to tell him i like him because i dont want things to change between us... WHAT SHOULD I DO??

-- confused girl w/ a 1-way crush

hey confused girl w/ a 1-way crush may you be confused no longer.. well i can try anyways.. lol. Maybe he does like you but i know when someone i like asks me if i like them im not going to say yes because i would feel to wierd.. So maybe you saved yourself emberassment. So what. But he might have done that to when you asked him. he might have feelings for you. Why else would he ask you? Why did you ask him.. because you wanted to know? right. I would talk to him about it i mean if you like eachother and you both dont know then that would suck later because you passed up a awesome chance. I wouldnt want to pass that up. Talk to him about-trix (plz rate) hope i helped-

Q: my bedroom tends to gets really messy.There is not enough closet space for all my clothes & not enough storage space for all my belongings. my room isn't that big and i need some ideas on how i could organize my stuff. any ideas are really appreciated. thanks so much!!

~~~Chelsey~~~

Good thing i could help you on this. I have alot of clothes and alot of stuff. I went through all my clothes that i barely where that I could give to the needy. I gave away like half a drawer... it helped. I didnt really have a closet.. it was like a cabinet.. which is also where i put my clothes.. so it was a dressar and closet combined. My room was actually so small before i moved my family thought about turning it into a walk in closet.. emberassing i know :-\ but i got these clear drawer things from like wal-mart or whatever and they are white n clear and have wheels. They have like 3-4 drawers. Just get those are get shelves-trix hope I helped-plz rate!

Q: guys always use me and then dump me! i am sick of it, i can never have a real relatioship! they just like my looks! what should i do? its not like i give them any sometimes only

If you are giving off the impression that youar easy try not to. Dont flirt as much. If you wear low cut shirts. DOnt as much. Just try to be more careful. Some guys are like that. But the ones that arent are hard to find so keep your eyes open! good luck! plz rate-trix

Q: My best friend has OCD... and she reminds me of it like 24/7. Whenever she leaves the house she asks like over and over if she left sumthin on and such. I keep reminding her that OCD is just that she is detailed and stuff like that (my parents are both doctors and explained it). It's driving me NUTS! help! what do I do?

I dont know if you really can do anything about it. Other then constantly remind her. I know it will be annoying. Maybe you could talk to her about it but seh cant really change that-trix

Q: what are some good sleeping pills (probably presription) that are good for teens? yeah i DONT sleep. thanx

I would go get checked by the dr. I heard there are some bad side effects to the sleeping pills.-trix

Q: okay so i know that i'm not like, overweight, but theres some extra fat around my hips and stomach, does anyone know any good excercises to get rid of this? ty so much!

You are talking about your love handles. To get rid of your love handles you have to stretch that. Sometimes at night i turn the top of my body while standing up really fast left then right left then right but hold a broom.. i dontk now why you have to hold a broom but it works haha. Do crunches for the stomach.-trix (plz rate)

Q: when you tell somebody that you "like them like them" , would (and or should)timeing be everything? because i feel thats how it's going with this one guy..

Timing is everything just make sure they are in a good mood. But just talk to him and let him know. But you kinda confused me. Sorry-trix

Q: ok so i always like a guy and i always want a bf and then i flirt to make them like me. then i go out with them and like 2 weeks into it or so i stop liking them and want 2 break up with them and after like a month+ i finally break up with them and then i realize taht i still like themand sometimes i go back out with them and sometimes i don't. but then as soon as i don;t have a bf i want 1 again. why do i do this? and how do i stop?

I used to be like that. Well actually Ive been taken for 8 months now.. So maybe it takes a few serious relationships for you to actually move past that stage. You are just flirtacious or whatever they call it! You'll pass that! Trust me! You are a mini me! :-P-trix (plz rate)

Q: Me and my mom made a dealy bribe about the PSAT; I read a big book on it and take a practice test, and I could get somethin special. She had been really adamant about not getting a second hole before (I'm 13), and this is the first time shes actually said that I could (I've done a bunch of bribes before that she held out on.) But also, she said, instead that I could get a new, fancy schmancy cell phone instead of a second hole, maybe even she would split the price on a laptop! (But that would be all my $$.) What should I do? lol
-Bribe schmibe

I would get a new phone :) but thats just my idae.. I have no idea what this question is totally asking.. but thats cuz im blonde.. extremely sorri though!!-trix

Q: ok... i have a wonderful b/f and we don't fool around or nethang which im not that kinda person to fool around like that lets say his name is "todd". Todd is a very funny person and like the attention but then sometimes he can be the sweetest guy ever. the thing is i don;t like how he flirts with all of my best friends which thats jus the way he is but i wish he didn't do that cuz when he talks to them he's like "Hey sexy" and stuff and he doesn't really say jus kiddin, ya know? what should i do?

I get what you are saying my guy friend is like that. Hes cute. But anyways. I would just talk to todd and be like hey i dont know i just feel wierd when you say hey sexxy to my best friends i feel like you might like them or something.. i dont know.. just talk to him about its really all you can do. trix -plz rate

Q: i like this guy and i have for awhile. and then someone finally told him that i liked him and he said that he liked me a little. and then it became vacation and i havent talked to him in a awhile but i still like him and i don't think that he will like me @ all nemore. how do i make him like me? should i still like even if he doesnt like me?

I would just talk to him after all when you go back to school you'll have alot to catch up on just ask him the famous questions. How was x-mas? How about new years? What did u get? and ect. What did you do over the break? I wish break was still here. Things like that. Get his sn or msn email or whatever and talk online on the phone whatever. Hang out with groups of friends-good luck hun!-trix plz rate

Q: ok the other night i was at a party/sleepover and me and my friend got dared (for 10$ each) to make out with each other. we did it because we figured it wasnt a big deal and we were getting ten dollars each. but then everyone started taking turns doing it and i ended up doing it at least three times. im not lesbian or bisexual but i feel like what i did makes me one now. not that its a bad thing but its just not what i want to be. does what i did make me a lesbian? i dont know what to think about myself anymore.
please help!

Well it didnt make you a lesbian but it was a lesbian thing. But its nothing that can turn you into one. Only if you liked it then you could be bi. Which i doubt you are-trix

Q: EVERYONE i know always says that your first love will always stay in your heart no matter what, etc.. Do you guys think this is true? Even after a year or longer after breaking up and gotten with new ppl and not talking at all, you think that those feelings for your first love are still there?

Yeah my first love is always in my heart and i wont forget him i still love the kid but not love love you know just a friend love no matter doesnt matter if you dont talk to you still think about him. I think it is true. We have been broken up for about 2 years now. I dont wanna go back out with him but i would like to be good friends-trix

Q: How can i start publishing a book??? Does it cost any money??

you have to contact a publication company and then copyrite your book usually publishers help u with that sort of stuff for a small but profitable fee.

Q: im 14/f and i really like my brothers best friend. we are always flirting but i know my brother gets really mad. i wouldnt care what my brother thinks but we recently started talking more and gotten close..my brothers friend is 16..i dont know if i should pursue my secret crush on this boy or just back off?

Well i would talk to your brother first about it and just let him know that you like him alot and you want to give it a try and that you want him to not be mad-trix

Q: Okay, 3 of my very good friends think they're fat... and they're NOT!!! we're only 13 years old and they've been going on all these diets. They hardly eat anything at lunch! I cant convince them that they're not fat! I'm really afraid they're going to go anorexic or bulemic. I dont know what to do, or what to say to them to convince them they're not fat. I've talked to them MANY times about it, but they just dont believe me. It really bugs me that they think they're fat, cuz they're not fat AT ALL! please help me!

I would get adult help if you think that this is extremely serious-trix

Q: I have the weirdest problem. Everytime I have a little sickness, I think it's huge. Like if I have a headache, i think it's a brain tumor. If I have a stomach ache I think I'm gonna hurl or that I have the flu. Yes, I know it's weird and freaky. But I need help!! i wanna stop. Please help me

So you freak over the little things? I do that to.. well use to I just asked my mom what do you think is wrong? Can i die? Am i gunna be ok? Would you take me in if you thought something was wrong? I just talk to my mom which really helps weather you think it would or not-trix

Q: Hey sorry its kinda long guys if you can help go for it den and please dont judge me by this question and say something mean.. well okay um i'm wit this guy.. i've been wit him a while and have had sex wit him i love him wit all my heart and he means everything to me.. abd i enjoy bein wit him.. but when i have sex wit him its like i dont enjoy it or something.. but i love bein wit him.. and i don't wanna tell him like i don't like having sex wit you.. cause its not like that.. and he's not small or anything.. and he's the first guy i've had sex wit.. i dont know whats wrong wit me or if he's not doin it right or what which really i dont think its that.. i think its me.. so if you have any advice on like how i can enjoy it as much as he does let me know please.. and oh yea well he gives me oral i like that and thats like about it... so please help thanks BUNCHES!

Maybe you just arent ready for this.. that is just my guess-trix

Q: ok lately my boyfriend has been telling me hell call me back in 10 minutes...and he wont for like 3 hours...i know things come up and ive talked to him but he still does it...we were on the phone pretty late last night an d he was like hey can i call u right back?? and i was like ok and we hung up...and he never called back...he still hasnt called...im supposed to call him @ 12:30 and we were goning to make plans..but i dont know if i should just call ..or if i should just do what he does to me and not call him....but the thing is i dont know if his dad said he couldnt call me back last night...because it was pretty late...what do i do??

Yeah my boyfriend last night kept telling me he would call me back he always did but then today he was going to call me after he left his dads but didnt know what time that would be.. and he hasnt called today.. so i am pretty worried myself i just kept telling myself its not worth worrying over him no matter the feelings for him. I mean just tell yourself that i keep thinking bout callin him but then wen i do call him ill be like god trix .. you shoulda let him call you-trix (plz rate)

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"