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i have two lovers right now, and ive always believed this to be wrong, but i love my girlfriend, karla, and when my best friend james asked me out i couldnt say no b/c ive liked him even longer than ive liked karla.
whats YOUR OPINION on this...is it ok for someone's who's bisexaul to have a bf and a gf at the same time????
Being bisexual does not mean you have a get out of jail free card when it comes to monogamy. If you "love" Karla, why would you feel the need to screw James on the side? That is not a normal thought process.
What happened to you in your childhood that would completely warp your views on relationships, love, and attraction?
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php
Find out.
Matt, i know this is long but please answer if you can. im so lost any suggestion would be amazing.
the first boy ive ever loved, kissed, gone out with, all of that is still in my head. we started daitng 3 years ago (wer both 14 now) and hes been in my head ever sense. i know he feels the same way and its scary because no matter how many times we break up we aways go back to eachother. it feels like we were destined to be together. and ithink we might be eventually. but...
whenever we have a relationship it gets so serous that im scared to even talk to him. if i do, we flirt nonstop, make all of these plans, and im scared where ittle leade. ive never been able to really get over him, i get butterflys just looking at him and i know he feels the same way. but i dont want to lose a high school experience by being with him, it hurts to talk to him because i feel it getting more serous and stronger by the minuite, but it hurts not to becayse i miss him so much. and i see him in shcool everyday and he just makes me laugh and hes never broken up with me i always break up with him because i feel myself getting too attached and i get scared and run away. i think i might really love him even though i know its not likely at this age. i know i love the way he makes me feel but icant let myself accept it. and he says he dosent want a relationship now but i know i could talk him into it but im not sure whats best. do you think theres a way i could really get over him? not talking to him isnt really an option, it would just be really awkward. hes in my classes so i have to see him everyday. i know i could try to get over him, but im not sure how to get over him for good. the second he looks at me or texts me all is lost and i fall for him again. please help
In my opinion, the high school experience is a load of crap. It's something made up by those that graduated a long time ago as a way of dealing with nostalgia. It's spewed at those currently in high school as a bar of fun and enjoyment that they must clear. In reality, high school is not fun and games; most of the people I know hate high school and are ready for college.
So, take a step back for a moment. Would you rather go through high school with him, or would you rather go through it without him? Which memories do you think would be more valuable and cherished when you're older and someone asks you about your own "high school experience"? You seem to be able to keep things in perspective, so why suffer while hoping that maybe things will be even better? If you have a good thing, don't ruin it just because you're "supposed to".
why are people so upsessed with tanning..like my sister goes tanning everyday and it makes her look gross. like her skin looks like leather. and whenever i go to the mall i see girls that are like orange, and all dried out. I don't understand why people don't stay with their natural skin tone...and if they want a natural glow or a little more color why cant they just get a tinted mostiurizer...then you can skip the whole cancer thing? idk it just makes so sense to me at all, if anyone goes tanning or knows why people do these please explain it to me
In a society based on appearance and superficial worth, frequent tanning is a quick fix.
So I've been messing around with a guy for a long time now. Like we're friends but we don't talk about any of the sexual things we do. So I can't ask him.
But we've done everything (let your imagination wander) and he's never ejaculated! Never!
I'm not asking how to make this happen but could it be something with him, or that I'm doing something wrong? And is it really weird?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_ejaculation#Prevention
My really good friend, lets call him 'SAM' was
talking to me on MSN 2day. We got talking about
nothing... like i should go back out with my ex, shit like that.
anyway, as a joke he sujested me, him & my
bestfriend -lets call him 'BILL'- had a 3sum, so i said "haha, yeah but i dont think he'd go 4 it"
And it went on from there.
Like he really wants this.
Whereas im not sure, i do want it. but, I'm sorta
scared that me & my bestmate wont be BESTmates
anymore...
Please dont say things like "if you dont want it
dont do it"...
because i do want it.
I'm just uncertain...
i need a few opinions.
This is a terrible idea. It will ruin the entire friendship for everyone, and sexual gratification isn't worth it.
If you're all in such a need to get off, use your hands, not each other.
Okay, for my english class we had to read "The Martian Chronicles" over the summer. As a project in relation to this book, we are making a sort of TV show/Radio show, about a certain part of the book.
My group's part is about the following:
+ People from Earth began heading to Mars to build towns.
+ Trees and plants were planted in order to produce oxygen.
+ Changing the names of the Martian towns/mountains/oceans.
I was thinking anything that has to do with destructive change.
If anyone has an idea for a song that has to do with any of these, it would be greatly appreciated.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-j39ABZyzek
That's pretty destructive on a personal level. Great video too, my favorite of all time.
http://www.metrolyrics.com/one-lyrics-metallica.html
my friend is going on a 40 hour DRIVING hours. ROAD TRIP! and im really excited for him but i need help thinking of music i can get to make him some mixed CDs. jazzy, popy, rock, instralemntal, dance, oldies, 80s, 70s, anything i just need as much help thinking of artists or songs. so ANYYYYHELP. thaaaanks so much
Tool (progressive metal)
Albums: AEnima, Undertow, Lateralus
Metallica (thrash)
Albums: Master of Puppets, The Black Album, Ride the Lightning, ...And Justice for All
Interpol (alternative)
Albums: Turn on the Bright Lights, Antics
Smashing Pumpkins (alternative/psychedelic rock)
Albums: Siamese Dream, Mellon Collie and the Infinite Sadness, Gish
Primus (thrash funk alternative metal, AKA really freaking bizarre)
Albums: Sailing the Seas of Cheese, Frizzle Fry, They Can't All be Zingers (greatest hits)
The God Machine (progressive metal)
Albums: Scenes From the Second Storey, One Last Laugh in a Place of Dying
is 19 grams a lot of weed?
According to my druggie friend who was also once a columnist here, it is a lot of weed.
trisspoke (1:34:16 PM): how long would 19 grams last?
smirkingrevengeA (1:34:45 PM): a long time
smirkingrevengeA (1:34:49 PM): very long time
smirkingrevengeA (1:34:51 PM): thats like
smirkingrevengeA (1:35:00 PM): a huge fuckin bag
so like i like this guy. and he nows ive dated 4 girls in my whole life. well im not bi i was just seeing if i was. and like he likes mehh the only thing dat is keeping us from dating is he thinks im bisexual. but again IM NOT!!!
I have issues with the idea that it took you four girls to figure out you weren't into girls at all, but whatever.
Any guy that has such large issues with the gender of who you dated in the past is honestly not worth your time or effort in the first place.
In exactly one week, I will be going back to school. I want to go back exuding confidence. Right now I am very confident, however, a little more confidence never hurt anyone :D. So basically, I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on how to be more confident. Thank you!
Aside from what everyone else has said, maintain good posture and keep your head up. You don't have to actually be confident to look confident, and when people perceive you as being confident, you'll become more confident.
why does everybody say suicide is not the answer? that's all you say! suicide is not the answer.. suicide is not the answer.. that's not a good enough reason for me.
why the f-k not??
An answer is a response to a question. Suicide is the refusal to acknowledge or ask a question.
do most people use the old or new facebook? this is more of a poll.. but for advice purposes, why do you like or dislike either of them?
i just wanted to know so i could get adjusted.. i hate the new facebook
I use the new one, and it's much better. Everything is more accessible, it saves space, it runs smoother, etc.
Is there a site online, where I can share my writing for free and recieve feedback, without having to enter any of my personal info, beside the basic, email etc. But not my school, adress, phone # etc. ? Thanks
DeviantART is the only thing I can think of. If you're good, you'll get your feedback.
Did Miley Cyrus (aka Hannah Montana on the Disney channel) do nude photos? I heard she was doing some naked photoshoots and got in a lot of trouble. A while back I saw that she missed a Disney red carpet event since she did a sort-of revealing photo shot (racy photos) for Vanity Fair that was topless. Was Miley Cyrus really topless in Vanity Fair photos or is that a rumor too?
If she did take some naked/nude pictures...WHY?! Why would she do this sort of thing?! I mean, it's going to ruin her career! I don't understand!
http://www.shallownation.com/images/miley-cyrus-vanity-fair1.jpg
ok i have XxKatieKnockoutxX but someone stole my original name
so i need a new scene name
can anyone help?
Hah, original. Even if you don't mean it that way, it's still funny.
XxMyName'sKatiePleaseKnockMeOutxX
So, not too long ago, I was watching a movie in the local theater called American Gangster (stars Denzel Washington and Russell Crowe, just for reference). I know there are plenty of movies about the mafia, gangsters, and mobsters but one question really hit me during the movie:
Is the mafia actually real?
I mean, seriously, does the mafia exist?
Was the mafia made up for television and movies by Hollywood?
In some movies you hear about the Russian mafia, the Italian mafia, etc. I even know there are also television series based on the mafia like The Sopranos. So, IF the mafia is real--they must be lots of different kinds, right? Would that mean that the Russian mafia is located in Russia, the Italian mafia is located in Italy, and so forth?
Any information is appreciated because I'm pretty clueless. Thanks!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/St._Valentine%27s_Day_Massacre
As you can see, it's just as glitzy and glamorous as portrayed on television.
i want a scene name my names lacie
some ideas please!?
LacieTotallyCameUpWithThis
http://www.thespoof.com/news/spoof.cfm?headline=s4i28020
by zac efron!??
is that true? honestly.
This sort of makes me want to vomit and cry at the same time.
1) The date of the "article". This was written in December, when apparently Tisdale was already a month pregnant. If she hadn't given birth yet, don't you think you would have noticed her third trimesterness by now?
2) The website is named using a word that means "1. a mocking imitation of someone or something, usually light and good-humored; lampoon or parody: The show was a spoof of college life.
2. a hoax; prank."
3) I'd type more but my fluid mixtrue is braeknig my kyebardo,/
Okay so, theres a boy named lets say," Justin", and his best friend;s name is umm, "Nick"...
In the beginning of the year, i liked Nick, and Justin was just weird.
But all summer, i've been talking to Justin and hes been flirting with me and we've been talking about Nick.
I found out, Nick and I have a lot in common, but i dont think he likes me.
But Justin and i get along and he might like me. Somehow, i told him ill only go out with someone if HE makes the first move... so he might do it..
but one more thing. Nick is a virgin, and Justing ISNT.
But we're all only 14.
so should i go out with Justin, or ask him to ask Nick if he likes me?
Justins been telling me a lot how pretty he thinks i am, and i know that means a lot, considering hes the type of guy who only uses hot and sexy.
But Nick is more attractive then Justing.
and they've been best friends since 4th grade, and I NEED HELP!
please help me out and you'll get a high bonus! :))
Uh, you should go back to being 14 and study your Algebra or something.
Stay away from the 1! Yea, you shouldn't go for either because that would sabotage the friendship you all have. Tada!
Ok, so really everyone does weed at least once in their life. Even if it's just a hit. I smoke weed, not alot but enough. But theres this girl who is best friends with one of my like really good friends, and she hates me cause i smoke weed, but it's my life. I dont make other people smoke or anything. She just hates me. Idk what to say to her now, i wanna talk to her but i dont wanna make her hate me even more. What should i do?
The first two sentences of your question are unnecessary and are not relevant to what you're asking. So why did you include them? Because you are making excuses and rationalizing your actions because what you're doing you deep down see as wrong.
So if you yourself see it as wrong, why is it such a stretch for someone to hate you for doing it? The only thing that will make her stop hating you is to quit all together. So what's more important? This girls friendship, or a drug that burns through your money and screws with your life?