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new year, new me?
In exactly one week, I will be going back to school. I want to go back exuding confidence. Right now I am very confident, however, a little more confidence never hurt anyone :D. So basically, I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on how to be more confident. Thank you!
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Aside from what everyone else has said, maintain good posture and keep your head up. You don't have to actually be confident to look confident, and when people perceive you as being confident, you'll become more confident.
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Even though the answer below me was a well thought out, good answer, I don't think the bottom answer was terrible.
Assuming you want to be confident in every aspect of your life, here is some tips in lamen's terms:
1. Always smile at people. Talk to people that look lonely or sad, and make as many friends as possible. Not only will it make you a generally more happy person, but it will also make other people notice your confidence in yourself.
2. Study and do well in school. I know when I get good grades, I feel great about myself. That is a really wonderful feeling, because nothing is better than being proud of yourself.
3. Understand that no one is perfect. You are going to make mistakes, but that shouldn't make you any less confident in yourself.
Never forget every person on the planet is special and has great features about them. Find out what yours are, and be proud of them! =]
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The bottom answer is terrible.
No, you aren't going to not doubt yourself. For anyone of moderate intelligence, thats impossible. Even stupid people have enough sense to be self conscious sometimes.
Heres your problem. In simple terms. You don't know what you're capable of. Lack of self confidence is not pure negativity, its a lack of self knowledge.
The answer to this is experience. Trying it out. Finding out what works. Experience is does not come without failure or pain, but when you screw up, and you learn something new, thats one less thing you are going to screw up next time.
Given enough work and experience, you don't screw up at things very often.
So, how do you do this? As ridiculous as this sounds, you throw yourself headfirst into uncomfortable situations. In time, even the sense of discomfort begins to fade. You get used to being in wierd situations.
I'll give you an example. I used to be terrified of meeting new people. Because unless someone started a conversation, I could never figure out what to say.
So I started talking to new people. I tried stuff out. I asked questions, I made statements. In time I learned what people reacted well to, and how to get them to react.
Now, I am confident in my ability to walk up to almost anyone and start a conversation about almost anything. I'm not saying I always succeed,but my failure level is pretty low, and when I DO screw it up I usually know why it didnt work, and am OK with it.
So thats basically all you have to do. Do things that make you uncomfortable. Do them often. And resign yourself to failing at times.
Best way to approach life in my opinion.
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okay to be even more confident than you are now,you could try to be optimistic about everything you do.stay positive through all those years of school and never think about the negativities. and when you have tests,just say to yourself ,"I can do this.I can pass this test." that's what I always do. so think positively through all the years of school or whatever you do.I hoped I helped and remember:stay POSITIVE & be OPTIMISTIC! :]!
xoxoxo-believe in yourself:)
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