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Ex-Boy problemsss
18/f
So me and my ex boyfriend went out for over a year. I broke up with him 6 months ago because feelings faded. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. For his benefir we didnt talk for a few months he clearly wasnt over me. Hes been dating a girl for 2 months and he thinks he loves her. I was legitimately happy for him. We started talking again.
She left him a week ago and hes come to me for support. As he describes his lost relationship, it makes me feel miserable, jealous, remembering what we had. I just dont know how to comfort him without rekindling old wounds.
What should I do?
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I know you think it's your job to be there for him and what not, but if you don't feel comfortable in talking to him about his relationships and it makes you remember you guys, you shouldn't put yourself in that sort of situation. It's not smart to do something you know you'll regret doing. I know you feel bad but you can only do so much you know? I don't want you to end up as a rebound you know? Just say a few inspiring words, but let him have time. Time heals all wounds. Good luck.
- Lacey
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If you are worried that bad feelings will be brought back to you in helping him, you really don't HAVE to help him.
Sure, it would be the nice thing to do, but in that situation, awkwardness is sure to happen, and I would try to avoid it.
Let him down gently by saying that you don't feel comfortable helping him, because you don't want to remember what you two have been through. There's really nothing wrong with saying that, in my opinion, as long as it's not in a bitchy way.
I know if my ex came to me for consolation, I would feel really awkward about it, and like my mom always says- you NEVER have to put yourself in a situation you don't want to be in.
--Jack
(16/m)
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You have to help him get over what he had with this girl and you the reason he came to you for comfort is because your his security blanket and he needs you but you need to tell him that because your just friends you can only comfort him a little you have to seperate yourself from him i knoe you feel bad when he talkes about his relationship but you cant become all miserable and then end up doing something that will make him think that there is something is still between you two just let him be for awhile make yourself seem busy so he cant come to you for comfort and doesnt make you doing something stupid take my advice i went through the exact same thing with my ex and even tho it was hard i got through it and so do u.
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