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how do you know if your having a miscarriage ? because im like 2 months preg. and im having the abortion in 2 days .. and im getting really sharp pains in like the lower area of my stomach & its killing me .. like if im walking & i get the pains i have to sit down and i don know what to do; it feels like someones like stabbing me and its driving me nuts .. is there anyway to get rid of the pains or am i going to have a miscarriage ?
no one can really say. it could be pregnancy pains or other things. here's a website-
http://www.pregnancyloss.info/possible_signs.htm
those are most of the signs/symptoms. you should really go to the doctor.
sorry that you need an abortion. if there's any other options, i'd highly suggest using them.
-hope that helped!♥
I had only been dating my bf for a couple of weeks. Normally he is pretty nice to me; but this one time he yelled at me and said I wasnt listening to him. He was really good for about a month after that. Well a couple of nights ago it was one of his friends birthdays. We all went out for drinks. His friends were all being really crude and disgusting so I left the table. My bf followed me and I told him I wanted to go home because his friends made me uncomfortable. Well he got mad; stuck his face inches from mine and slowly but loudly said in an angry voice "I"M SO SORRY". It kind of freaked me out. Do you think my bf has potential to be violent with me?
no one really knows if your bf could be abusive or not. if you are having ANY doubts, tell someone asap. it's only been a couple of weeks, so you really don't know for sure. but seriously, if you feel like he's being abusive & you are unsure [which you are because you wouldn't of asked this question] you need to tell someone & get out of it. there's too many cases of this. a man kills a woman every 6 seconds in the world. i was watching a movie on lifetime the other day called No one Would Tell. basically it's about an abusive relationship. you might want to watch it. i'm not saying your bf is abusive, but you can't stay with him if you have doubts. talk to a friend or a family member about this.
-hope that helped!♥
hey I just started my period this month and I told my mom and everything but I am to embarrased to ask her when I can start using a tampon to go swimming so is it to soon to start useing tampons on your 2nd period?
hmm..it depends. not really, like if you're ready for a tampon because you need it for swimming, then use it. you should start with pads like during the day & what not, but for swimming, use a tampon.
-hope that helped!♥
what do you do with your tongue when you make out, like how do you move it?
umm this is an interesting question. i guess you don't move it a certain way. that would be a bit weird & uncomfortable for both of you. juss go with the flow. usually there's someone that 'leads' with it. basically you both follow each other.
-hope that helped!♥
I always had straight hair...or that's what I thought. Since I was little I always had hair long as my butt and it's been straight or well that's what I thought.
When I decided not to take a bit off but cut until my chest area...I realised I really needed a straightener and so I bought one the same day!!! I had no advice on it and when I got home it worked but it took atleast 1 and 1/2 hours to finish and that's something I'm not willing to take. My hair is thick and still longish but I want to cut it a bit and in steps.
I'm not sure if I will cut it though but I need to buy a new straightener and that's a fact...cause I'm on vacation right now and my hair is a mess w/o my old hot iron. Please tell me a good type that will be fairly cheap. Around $100 CND-$ 100 US.
Something professional maybe with a ceramic heating plate?
i use Revlon. my hair is thick & curly & it straightens it really well. it was cheaper than $100. here's a website-
http://www.nextag.com/Helen-of-Troy-2-63997970/prices-html
try that site out.
-hope that helped!♥
Im a female and Im 15 years old. Me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday and it was my first time. And it was unprotected sex and I was on my period. Is there a higher risk now that I could get pregrant?
if you have sex unprotected, no matter what, you have a chance of being pregnant. obviously, it isn't 100%, but you should watch out & maybe get a pregnancy test at a local drug store in a few weeks. next time, use protection.
-hope that helped!♥
So it's my first day of work.
I'm wearing a pink tee and jeans from the store and belts and shoes I bought from elsewhere.
I want to do pink makeup.
The last time I saw my manager was at the interview and I wore a black skirt, a beige camisole and a black shirt to layer it and beige shoes and purse, neutral makeup. So I think I should do a pink girly look for tomorrow.
Also, I have longish-side bangs. Should I tie my hair up? Or braid it or leave it down or what? I left it down for the interview.
you should wear your hair up. why?? make it look like you're ready to work!! the pink girly would be good. you could also braid your hair if you wanted to. i think you should bring the most possible juss incase. you wouldn't want to forget something at home & look stupid. im not sure what exactly they will need. some retail stores are different than others.
-hope that helped!♥
okay, well, im just gonna say it: im really popular at my school. i think im pretty, and so does everybody else. im not gonna go into detail. cuz you know how popular kids are. well, this girl at school thinks that shes better than us!! WE dont even have that attitude!! we dont talk about how rich we are, or whatever, we just like to have fun and hang out!! she is always like screaming through the hallways, "omg jenny, do you have my ipod and louis vuitton bag??!!" and everybody else can see that shes trying to impress us. but we dont know why. shes really slutty and only has a few friends. she moved into my neighborhood a few years ago, and i asked her to hang out with me and my friends. after she did and we went back to school in the fall, she felt like she had to impress us. why is this??!! because she always copying our websites and stuff and badmouths us!! she is soo annoying!!
umm..ignore her?? i mean really, what else can you do. if you lash back at her, she's juss going to keep doing it because she knows it bothers you. if you ignore her & the things she's saying, then she'll stop.
-hope that helped!♥
i don't get what pushup bras are. like i know they make your boobs look bigger, but when i saw a picture of them, they just looked like normal bras. i know there're like sports bras and normal bras, and they just looked like normal bras. are there two diff types of bras that look like normal bras, or are they the normal bras??
they aren't normal bras. pushup bras do what they say. they push up your boobs to make them a bit more full & look bigger. they look normal, but when you're wearing them, your boobs will look a bit different. also, it depends on the type of pushup bra you get. obviously some are better than others.
-hope that helped!♥
my friend doesnt change her underwear for like, 2 weeks, and besides being incredibly gross, is it harmful?
uhh yes that's really harmful. why?? because it's not like a shirt or pants. its your underwear which has a lot of bacteria & what not. you should change it at least once a day. i change it up to 4 times though cause i run & what not.
-hope that helped!♥
Hi does anyone remember the title of the song in Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 1 that said in the chorus "I am the ambassador of kickyour@$$ador."?
Thanks
it's called Euro-barge by the Vandals. here's the lyrics-
http://www.jencomics.com/artist_v/vandals_the_lyrics/euro-barge_lyrics.html
-hope that helped!♥
Hey ya'll.
About three weeks ago, my friends went to the mall and I bought this sweatshirt. Well my one friend really likes it and she keeps saying she is going to buy it.
Then today, me and the same freind went back to the mall and she was buying this skirt and I liked it so I was like do you mind if I buy it but in a different color? And she just nodded her head yes but only a little bit.
Why did she get mad about that?
Why can she buy the clothes I have but I can't buy her clothes?
thanks and i will rate
yes, i've been in this situation too many times. don't think anything of it. girls are like that & most likely always will be. really, don't pay attention to it. i wouldn't bring it up either. she'll get over it because it's a really dumb thing to get mad at.
-hope that helped!♥
Just a warning, this is gonna be really long.
So if you're afraid of long-winded questions, stop reading and keep scrolling.
Thanks in advance if you're still looking at this.
Okay, the basics: I'm 18/f. My boyfriend and I "broke up" like a month ago. But we're still fooling around and have kinda turned our relationship into a friends with benefits deal.
The thing is, near the end of the relationship something in him changed and he, to put it bluntly, turned into a complete asshole.
He has this character that he plays when he's around people. The character's a cocky asshole, and he like, lost the line between himself and his character and turned into the character.
He and I talked about this whole friends with benefits thing once, and he said that he just didn't want a relationship right now, and I said I didn't either, and he said he didn't believe me.
I told him I didn't want a relationship because the him I wanted to be with didn't exist anymore, and it really upset him. He called me later that night and just bitched to the point that I almost couldn't get a word in edgewise for about 5 minutes. He sounded like me when I'm hurt by something he says. In the middle of the conversation, he said something like "I still care about you, I still have feelings," or something. I really wish I could remember the context of that, but I know he said it. It kinda took me by surprise, but I knew...just like I knew he loved me before he said it. I could see it in his eyes.
Every time I mention something about him changing he gets really defensive and tries to like, kick me out of his life. He always apologizes and says he didn't mean it, though, and makes an effort to keep me where I am in his life.
Another thing, since we've broken up he keeps saying things like "there's no saying we won't get back together in the future," which makes me think this is just a hiatus, and that as soon as this identity crisis he seems to be having is over, he'll want to get back together.
One reason we broke up is that he was never happy with my body, and neither was I, but in the end that doesn't seem to be a major reason, since we're still fooling around.
Sometimes he says and does things like we're still in a relationship. Like we went out for coffee awhile ago and I made origami cranes and he was like, running the wing up my leg and all this stuff...and I was just gonna hug him the other day and he went and kissed me. He still flirts with me, and the way he looks at me hasn't changed since we broke up. I still see love in his eyes and feel it in his touch, which is part of why this is so hard.
Once we were talking on line, and he said "wish me luck" and I was kinda patronizing him, and said "Good luck, dear =P" or something, and he said something like "You never used to say dear. You used to always say love." I called him "Love" like as a pet name, sort of thing...and I said "I didn't think you'd want to hear that now," and he said "I wouldn't mind."
But then, sometimes he just acts like such an asshole I don't know what to do. Like the other day he was in pain and felt crappy, and actually said "I just wanna lay around and possibly cuddle something or someone," which was a blatant hint, so I took the bait and said "I can come over for awhile after I work out." So we decided on that, but then he was napping, and then he went out to dinner with his brother - he invited me, and sounded like he wanted me to go, but I had no money so I declined...by the time I got there it was like 11. We chilled for awhile, watching movies and whatnot. He and I were touching somehow the whole time, but the closest we got to cuddling was at the end of the night, when he was taking up the whole couch, and I like leaned on his knees, and kinda wound up laying on my back between his legs and he had his arms kind of around me for a few minutes. I pointed out that he wanted to cuddle, and then didn't, and he was like "I was content without the cuddling, so it wasn't really an issue." Which is not the meanest thing, granted, but it's selfish...
Anyway...
I want him to realize what he's turned into. I want him to see what's wrong here and I want him to fix it, and I don't know how. I feel like this fwb is a bad idea, and it'll only make him think that he doesn't have to be in a relationship with me to be with me...I want him to value me more...but the thing is I don't want to be in a relationship with who he is right now.
So I really don't know what to do. I want him back...technically I never lost him, but I want him back as my boyfriend. Don't say "move on", please - I'm not going to. I've never connected with anyone the way I still do with him, and I don't want to lose it.
this is a weird situation because love is a whole lot more than most people think. there's a lot of sayings that do go with this situation. love is only half the battle. meaning for some couples, love isn't enough. it takes time & effort to make a relationship work. if you truly love him, you can deal with his character changes because you know the real him inside. it is important how he acts towards you, so if he acts differently around his family/friends, there's not much you can do. he shouldn't act mean towards you & if he does, then he might not care as much as he says. maybe he does truly care, but can't express his feelings like you can. he seems to be going back & forth. if that is really happening with his emotions, it would probably be a bad idea to get into a relationship. also, if he says "oh we can get back together eventually", you don't know if hes dragging you along, hoping to not hurt your feelings, which is really making it a lot worse, or really wants to try later on. basically, you need to sit down & talk to him about all of these things. maybe even show him your question you asked to us. if you can share this with complete strangers [not saying its a bad thing], why couldn't you with the person you love?? really, he needs to know this & then you guys can decide what would be the best.
-hope that helped!♥
ok im 14/female and i have a boy friend who i love, but in the past i have been cheeted on alot and one of the prople who my boys friends cheeted onmy with was my best friends sister, whome i dispize at the moment, because she is flirting with my boy friend sooo much and it hurts and every thing cuz she was my friend and every thing, ok but like a yesterday my boy friends gave her one of his shirts, a really nice one that costed him like 50 dolloars and when i asked him about it he said it was no big deal and that he just didnt want it any more, and since i love him i decided fine w/e ill belive him, but i know that him givin that gurl a shirt makes her feel like he is interested, and now my boyfriednd told his sister is i cant trust him and if i keep on askin stuff like if in cheeting on him he will break up with me and i just really love him but i dontknow i just have trust issues cuz i never had a really good relation ship with anyone, so my question is basicly what would you do if you were in my shoes?? i talked to my best friends sister abou it and thay didnt help, plus she made me feel like i was being stupid and that i should trust her and it made me feel bad, and i dont wanna keep asking my boy friend stuff anf have him get mad at me... so what should i do??
signed, confused in love
look, why would he give her his shirt that cost $50 if he "didnt want it anymore"?? wouldn't he give it to you?? do yourself a favor & talk to him about it. i don't know him myself, but i really do think he's lying. you can't have a bf that gets mad at you for something like that. if you stay with him [its your decision] & he does cheat on you, you'll feel worse & you would've wasted your time. seriously, there's a lot better guys out there for you & if he doesn't want to treat you that way, you should find someone that will. you seem like a good person dealing with it maturely but really, tell him. he shouldn't get mad at you for this & if he does then you should break up with him.
-hope that helped!♥
Ok, i hope you all understand how hard(as in embarrassing) for me this is to ask, but i dont have any other option really. one of my nipples has gotten all hard and dark, kind of like a scab. im really scared, is this a disease that could really affect me? or just some infection that could go away. i already told my mom, and she said we'd go to the doctor next month, because we're quite busy these days. im 16/f if that helps. i have no idea wat this could be. so if anyone could tell me wat it is, thx.
thx a lot. and please, no stupid comments to make me feel scared or stuff like "you're gross"
hmm..i know a few situations this could be. you should see a doctor before next month though. okay, a lot of mothers get the scab thing during breastfeeding soo yeah obviously not, but if you are sexually active & you weren't safe, then this could be it. obviously if you aren't pregnant, then you can rule that one out. it could be from the type of bra you use. if it's the wrong material, too tight, a reaction, allergies, etc. the most likely possibility is breastfeeding though & yeah since you don't im not quite sure. definately get it checked out.
-hope that helped!♥
15/f. A couple of questions about birth control pills:
- Which ones work the best?
- Which have the least side effects? I would like to avoid gaining weight if possible.
- About how much does it cost?
- Is a prescription required?
- If it is, is my doctor required to keep it a secret or can he tell my parents? (If he can, he probably will.)
i don't take birth control [a few of my friends do] & each pill brand is different & the side effects are also different for each person. the price range is also very different. they aren't cheap. for this, you should go to Planned Parenthood. you can go by yourself [or a friend/relative/bf/parents] & the doctor won't say anything. i think you juss have to be 13 [depending on where you live]. google your area & see where the closest Planned Parenthood is. they will answer all of your questions depending on your health & what not. it would be a lot better doing that than getting advice from us, since they're doctors. you could go to your doctor, but they might let your parents know where Planned Parenthood is totally confidential.
-hope that helped!♥
i didnt see this in the faq, but i was wondering how often are more users turned into moderators
( PS i am NOT asking how to BECOME one..)
well, to be a level I moderator, it doesn't matter [juss depends on a few things]. you do that yourself. to be a level II or higher, it depends on when moderators are needed. for example, if a few decide not to participate with the site or don't want to be a level II moderator or higher, a new one will be picked. maybe if there's an overload of questions & they need more help, others will be picked. so you can't really say this is how many people get turned into a moderator.
-hope that helped!♥
i really want white etnies or white and grey. i saw white and grey ones at journeys a few weeks ago when i was with my friend, but i didnt have any money so i couldnt get them. so yesterday i went with my mom and they didn't have them (it was also in a different mall, so idn) I also tries pacsun. what are some other stores that they could be in? thanks
etnies are in a lot of stores. here's a list of a few-
pacsun
army & navy
alloy
zappos
etnies store
you can buy them from the etnies store online. it might be a lot easier than going to each store.
-hope that helped!♥
i have verizon right now
and i have 500 text messages a month
do they have like 700 a month or anything higher
but not too high where it will cost tooo much
thanxx.
you can get 1000 text msgs for $15.00 a month, which is only $5.00 more than what you're paying for the 500 text msgs. also, it includes unlimited IN texting so whoevers in that you call/txt it's free & it doesn't use any of your plan minutes.
-hope that helped!♥
I've been dating my best friend for almost a month. I really care about him, but right before we started dating i met another guy. At first i had no interest in him, and now that ive gotten to know him, im really beginning to like him. I'm 16, my boyfriends 18, and this other guy is 22. I really like this 22 year old guy, and he really likes me. Today one of his friends took me and my best friend and the guy I like out to the woods to walk on some trails. The guy I like and I were holding hands like the whole time. On our way home, we stopped to get food and drinks and I was alone with this guys friend. I was asking him about the guy i like and he told me that hes never seen him act like that around a girl. He's never been the type to walk around holding hands and to show affection.
Should I break up with my boyfriend and just be friends with him and date this other guy? Or should I leave it alone and just stay with my boyfriend??
well, this is kind've a tricky situation. first, you are only 16 & he's 22. that can get him into big trouble [if you choose to date]. even though your bf is 18, that's only 2 years. you have to totally trust this guy before you even think of doing anything. since you're confused, you should probably tell your bf this & break up. it wouldn't be fair to him to drag him along if you might break up with him anyway. so be honest. you probably wouldn't feel that great if you break up with your bf & this other guy turns out to be a loser. your parents might not be too happy with this [only because he's over 18] & what not. maybe try making a pros/cons list. you need to figure out all the situations before you decide. definately talk this out with your bf & the other guy though.
-hope that helped!♥