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does my bf have potential to be abusive?
I had only been dating my bf for a couple of weeks. Normally he is pretty nice to me; but this one time he yelled at me and said I wasnt listening to him. He was really good for about a month after that. Well a couple of nights ago it was one of his friends birthdays. We all went out for drinks. His friends were all being really crude and disgusting so I left the table. My bf followed me and I told him I wanted to go home because his friends made me uncomfortable. Well he got mad; stuck his face inches from mine and slowly but loudly said in an angry voice "I"M SO SORRY". It kind of freaked me out. Do you think my bf has potential to be violent with me?
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I wouldn't jump to such a drastic conclusion just yet, he may be a little rough around the edges, I've dated guys like them, it makes it a bit easier to talk to him, maybe tell him he scares you sometimes and you don't like when he yells at you. Try to get through to him and makes things work if he's still starting to scare you, I suggest moving on, because the chance of him becoming violent with you may increase.
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Yes. Get out while you still can. Even if he never hits you, the verbal abuse will eat at your self-esteem. You don't ever have to take that crap from anybody. The next guy you date should treat you with respect. Do not let anyone talk you out of what you deserve. He will not change. You don't want to waste years and maybe have kids with a creep.
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Yes.
Anyone has the potential to be violent in a relationship, when they think they can yell at you or boss you around in anyway, or act like they can control you in some situation.
I would be careful, and stand your ground,
remind him you are your own person and you have feelings, and that if he's not going to treat you nicely and the way you should be, then its over.
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It seems like he could have the potential of being violent with you, but I don't know if he will be or not. I think he just has a really bad temper that he doesn't know how to control. That could cause problems in the future (if you're still together) and that could lead to him being abusive or violent with you.
I'd give him a few more shots and see how everything works out. Talk to him about this and explain to him that it really scares you when he gets like he does. Tell him that if he keeps acting that way, he'll lose you.
If YOU think he is getting out of control and you're too scare, then end it. It's better to end it before it gets WAY out of hand. I rather be out of the relationship, then to say in a relationship where you're getting hit and punched everyday. ♥
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Hmm. I think he has thee.. potential. But, I don't really think he will be. Because, it seems, hes just getting angry with you. He probaly has a temper. But, does he cool off right after then? If he does.. I don't think you have much to worry about. But, if he like storms off, & like doesn't talk to you or something.. then, he most deff. has the potential to be. But, I don't know. Talk to him, & be like.. "Why do you get like that?" or whatever. If he does get abusive, leave him for sure.
K hope I helpedd. bye
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he has the potential to be..but it doesnt seem like he is abusive. i would say give him a few more chances and tell him how you feel (but dont tell him that you have __more tries.lol) and if he continues to yell at you leave..its not fair for him to take over you and taking it out on you. i hope i helped..rate me high!! <3
(: Rachel
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Maybe he could be violent, but you don't need to wait for him to hit you to decide this relationship isn't working.
He is being a jerk now! Most people are on their very best behavior during the first month of a relationship. If getting into your face and screaming at you is his very best behavior, can you imagine what his bad behavior looks like?
I for one wouldn't want to stick around and find out.
Don't wait for someone to cross the obvious line. If you aren't happy, that's a plenty good enough reason to end a relationship.
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no one really knows if your bf could be abusive or not. if you are having ANY doubts, tell someone asap. it's only been a couple of weeks, so you really don't know for sure. but seriously, if you feel like he's being abusive & you are unsure [which you are because you wouldn't of asked this question] you need to tell someone & get out of it. there's too many cases of this. a man kills a woman every 6 seconds in the world. i was watching a movie on lifetime the other day called No one Would Tell. basically it's about an abusive relationship. you might want to watch it. i'm not saying your bf is abusive, but you can't stay with him if you have doubts. talk to a friend or a family member about this.
-hope that helped!♥
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I can't answer your question of him being violent because its impossible to tell, but what he is doing is obviously making you feel bad and hes being really disrepectful!! He isnt considering your fellings, even worse, he is making you feel guilty over your fellings. I suggest having a talk with him and telling him how you feel, if things continue like this though you need to get out of the relationship and find someone who cares about you! best of luck hun :)
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