If I were in your shoes, I would talk to him and let him know that it was a one-time thing, and that I really wasn't ready. Bring it up gently, and let him know that he can't expect that.
Just tell him what you're thinking right now. Honesty and the willingness to communicate lead to great relationship.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It's just a sexual preference. *Shrug* I'm straight myself, but I see nothing wrong with having a different sexual preference.
-Siren =)

You might ask them not to talk about their attachments so much when you're around because it makes you feel lonely.
You can ask your friends to try setting you up with someone, or help you guy hunt. Sometimes even looking for guys can be fun and take your mind off of wanting a guy.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Try talking to your parents, and explaining why you did break up.
You may be surprised at the way your parents react. My parents have been known to shock me every so often.
Try opening up first. If that doesn't work, ask them why they won't accept it. Sometimes it works to answer a question WITH a question. Lol.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Nicole,
does your guy realize what his ex is trying to do? If not, you might want to point it out to him that you think she's trying to jump back into the picture, and it's making you feel uncomfortable. He may be able to reassure you that nothing will happen between him and his ex.
If he doesn't reassure you in any way, shape or form, you might want to confront his ex. Save that as a last resort, though. Last thing you want is a feud between you and your guy's ex. Not fun.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Honey, I'm the same size you are, and my boobs aren't small.
I'm currently dating my "one," we talk about our future, and he likes me just the way I am. Never change to please a guy. He can learn to love everything about you.
If you're gonna get implants, get them to please YOURSELF. Not your guy. Are you happy with your size? If so, leave it alone.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Alrightie.
You need to tell her the truth. Just explain to her your reasoning for lying (like you wanted to sound experienced, or whatever) and apologize profusely.
Tell her you really, really don't want things to get awkward between the two of you, and just be really gentle about it. Look in her eyes when you talk to her. Helps strengthen the feeling of honesty. Tell her you don't want to lose contact, but you're willing to accept the fact that she may be mad at you.
She'll think this is horribly mature, and may not get AS mad.
Know this, though - she very well may get mad at first, but she'll eventually live with it and probably thank you for opening up and being honest with her. I mean, if my guy lied to me, then told me the truth, god knows I'd be pissed, but I'd learn to live with the fact that he told me the truth in the end.
Honesty really is the best policy in relationships like this, and you need to be honest.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

You should talk to him and find out if he likes you or not first. A lot of guys, I'm sorry to say, will make out and/or take a handjob from any hot girl they come across. I'd be careful and figure out if he likes you first before you get to making out. If he doesn't, but just wants to make out, you could end up with a bit of heartbreak on your hands.
As for the actual making out, you don't necessarily have to tell him...
A lot of guys actually like it if you're just really provocative and tease them a lot. (Mine's very responsive to that...Lol)
Then just go for it.
You could actually work in talking to him about it if you'd feel better.
In the midst of being all sexy and provocative, you could add a "remember last time you were here...?" and see what he does.
He may get the hint and go for it. If not, then move in and see what he does.
Hope I helped a bit!
-Siren =)

Aww =(
Tell him what you just told us.
Explain to him that you feel like the friends he's been hanging out with lately don't approve of you, and you're afraid that they'll influence his opinion of you and all that. If you tell him what you just told us, except use "you" instead of "him," then it should work. Make sure you talk to him about it, though. Everyone should have an honest relationship. If not, nothing will ever get resolved!
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

To get to the bottom of your confusion, you really have to straight up ask the girl if she likes you or not. Just walk up to her one day and ask to talk to her for a minute. Tell her what your friend said, tell her what you think is going on, then ask her what really IS going on.
If you don't, you'll never know the truth. As much as it sucks to admit, friends generally just confuse things more. That's why I say "get straight to the source."
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Guys are less mature than girls to begin with, and hanging out with guys even younger than you is probably not the best thing for your self esteem, lol.
I think you should just ignore them. I mean, you know he likes you and isn't going to dump you, and your opinion - at least in this situation - should really be all that matters. Don't let them get to you.
Does it bother you that he spends more time with them than with you? If it does, you've gotta talk him. Miscommunication is baaaaaaaaaaad for relationships.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Hey ya!
It's great you're writing. More kids should.
(and aww, I'm glad you like my advice!)
Well, I can only give you the advice Doug Allyn gave me. He told me to run to the library and check out Writer's Market 2004 (or 2003 if they won't let you have the 2004 edition (didn't let me...Lol)) and/or Writer's Handbook. Both are good. They have sections filled with literary agents.
Write down some addresses and send out some queries, etc, and an agent may bite!
Mr. Allyn also warned me to be prepared for rejection, but to be optimistic. Just keep sending stuff out until someone accepts.
I wanted to send my stuff out to publishers, but then I discovered that the ones that publish my favorite writers only take manuscripts from agents.
Agents don't get paid up front - they take a percent of your profit from your book. If they want pay, they're not a real literary agent.
Good luck with this - if you get published, lemme know!
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I can, but you'll have to contact me via AIM - my screen name's SirenCytherea - that way I can ask you about specifics I might need to know. I'm a little rusty, but I'll probably still be able to do it, if you want me to try. ^_^
-Siren =)

Sounds to me like you need to talk to your boyfriend. If your guy friend is right, then your boyfriend should be the one talking to you, not your guy friend.
Ever thought of the possibility that your guy friend might like you, and might be trying to kill your relationship with your guy?
Might be unlikely, but you never know...
You should brace yourself, though, 'cause you might get hurt anyway, but you do need to talk to your boyfriend. Tell him what your guy friend told you, and ask him what's going on.
I hope things work out!
-Siren =)

I don't think guys have an aversion to flat girls...I mean, I don't have the biggest boobs - 34B - and guys pay attention to me.
Don't worry so much about guys not paying attention to you. A fourteen year old guy is about as mature as an eleven or twelve year old girl. At least, that's been my experience.
It does not sound stupid. The only stupid questions are the ones left unasked. ^_^
You probably are girlfriend material. Guys your age are really...stupid. (No offense, guys)
Really, though - wait. You'll find a guy who'll like you for who you are and not what you look like. (Or for both. Guys like that are great. Lol)
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Sweetie, just ask him "do you love me?"
You're dating, right? That gives you the right to ask him anything you want to. I use this advantage a lot. ^_^
It's handy.
But if you're absolutely determined not to ask him, you can tell by the way he looks at you, the way he touches you, etc...
I'd just up and ask him myself, but I tend to be kind of bold in that area.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Have you spoken to her about the way you feel? Explain to her that you're not a little kid anymore. You'd like to be able to stay out late with your friends - you don't have to get up early, etc...give her valid reasons, and ask her why she feels the need to stop you from doing these things.
Try not to be accusatory or she may get mean. Keep your cool, no matter how she responds, and try to avoid using the word "you."
Good luck!
-Siren =)

You should talk to her parents. Let them see what a great guy you are.
I mean, whenever my boyfriend and I wanna hang out somewhere mom doesn't want us to, I have him talk to her. By the end of the conversation, they're laughing and she's extending my curfew. Lol.
It's amazing, the effect guys can have on a girl's parents. Give it a shot - see if you can make them change their minds. I'll bet you can.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

It's debateable.
If you like the whole "chase" thing - you know, liking a guy, not knowing if he likes you, the mystery... - then it's fun to be single.
It can be fun to be single anyway. I was very happily single for over seventeen months after getting my heart stomped on, but then I met my current boyfriend, and I honestly believe he's the best thing that's ever happened to me.
It can be nice to have a guy who likes you, who you like back.
If real love comes into the picture, it's really...great. I'm in love for the first time, and it's the most amazing feeling ever. I can picture myself with him twenty years in the future and all that jazz - the kicker is that he can, too. ^_^
When a guy looks at you with love in his eyes, it's an awesome feeling...
But it can be fun to not be tied down to someone so you can flirt with all the guys you want. ;)
A good boyfriend like mine is nice to have, but if you have a jealous guy, or anything like that, having a boyfriend can get annoying.
It's really an opinion thing.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

The right age is whenever you're mentally, emotionally, and physically ready for all the risks you take when you have sex. I lost my virginity a few months ago to my boyfriend, and I knew I was ready. I wasn't sure I would be, but I don't regret it.
Good things to do...
Use a condom.
Try to be on the pill or some sort of birth control. Saves you a lot of worry. The first two times I had sex, I wasn't on the pill and I worried like hell until my period came.
Make sure he's gentle - it may hurt the first time.
Don't let the guy push you into doing anything you don't want to do.
Don't be afraid to tell him what you want/don't want.
Relax. Helps with the pain a little ^^
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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