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I recently met this guy at the college I am attending. He works at the textbook store, so when I appeared there constantly, he always teased me, saying, "You're here again?" He would smile and be very helpful. It wasn't until a few days ago we actually got to talking. He was leaving work and he saw me reading on a bench, and he said, "You're still here, huh?" So I nodded and smirked, and I asked him if he wanted to sit with me. He did and we talked for maybe two hours until he had to go to class. He asked me for my number and texted me regularly, but he replies slow. He is saving money for a car, so he gets rides from his parents. It's actually irritating because I don't have any chance to hang out with him outside of school.
Anyway, the other night, we met up when I had to go to the school for a movie night. We met in the library and talked usually. He was being very flirty and would touch me and he even hugged me when he had to go to class. While he was hugging me, he poked me in the eye, and then when I said ouch, he kissed my eyelid and hugged me close. He was being so sweet and romantic. After his class ended a half an hour later, we met up and played with a batch of puppies someone had in the field. We then spent the night on the track in the field talking and looking at the stars. He is so flirty and sweet, I have to fight my urges to kiss him and throw myself on to him. We seem to have amazing chemistry and I just can't get him out of my head. However, when I asked where his interests lie, he said I was sweet and cute, but he was still in the "friend making" zone. It hurt a little bit, but I agreed and went along with it. I have fallen for him so fast, but he wants to take it slow. Face to face, he seems so interested, but through text, he seems very bored of me. I told him I felt he was uninterested, and he denied that and said, "Look, I said I like you and I got your number, didn't I?" He told me not to make assumptions and not worry what he thinks of me. He informed me he really just wants to take his time. Any advice so I can stop being so impatient and worrisome? I get huge butterflies over him, and I feel like he really likes me, but I can't seem to take it slow...and there's another catch...he's 28... (link)
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Well most girls would understand how you're feeling. When you meet a guy and you really like them, you wanna start dating them.
Most of the guys I know aren't so interested in texting, so they reply slow or they have really boring answers. So he really is interested in you.
As for taking it slow, it's going to be difficult but I think what will help the most is reminding yourself that you'll push him away if you keep trying to move faster. It's a tough situation because it really is all about self control. So you pretty much have to control your head. I'd say when you're not talking to him and you don't want to start texting him a lot, go find something else to do. If you're with him and you have to hold back, you're just going to have to do just that. Hold back. Just give him your attention, and just don't fall all over him.
So far you've been fine, I'm pretty sure you have all the self control you need. Just keep reminding yourself of it.
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I have a boyfriend now but before I had him I talked to another guy. I liked that guy a lot but I let him down, lied to him, and said no to going out with him. Now he has a girlfriend. I really like him still and can't get him off of my mind. I'm hurt with thinking about how things with me and him ended. I can't stop blaming myself because it was my fault! He won't talk to me anymore and I just can't go on living like this with so much regret. I miss him and want him back. What should I do? Sorry this is so confusing I don't know how to put it into words... (link)
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It seems like the kinda thing "You don't know what you have till it's gone."
You need to let this guy go. He doesn't want to talk to you anymore and he has moved on.
I don't know how you feel about your boyfriend. But you could end up doing the same thing to him if you decide to go after this guy.
So either stick with your boyfriend and move on or break up with your boyfriend and move on.
Either way, this other guy can't be in your life and you know that.
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well yesterday a girl messaged me on facebook and she basically said my boyfriend was cheating on me and she sent me pictures of the messages between her and my boyfriend. so i screenshot what she said and sent it to him but he said she played his friend tim so he played her to get back. he put it on his moms grave, and god. i mean i dont know what to do should i believe him or what? do i keep questioning him ? and i know that he wouldnt lie on his deciesed mother but i dont know im just confused.
btw one messahge he sent said : aww baby i lov you. yoiu makin meh blush but i like it
2. when she leave but she taking a shower baby you wanna get freaky baby ( a while later ) do you baby
3. oh sorry i lost my fone baby dis my friends stuff but baby ima try too call you ima see if he tripping i love you thoo
but after he told me all that he messages her and told her he was just playing her and she sent me the messages. like wtf do i do ?
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Ok whether or not he really was "playing" her, it's not ok.
He's going over your boundaries. It also shows other people that he doesn't respect you. It shows that girl he was talking to, his friend, and anyone that girl decides to show the messages to.
He seems really immature. All these people seem to be playing games. They're not talking this seriously. This girl he was talking to, she knew he was dating you and probably wants to screw up your relationship. He think it's ok to mess with other people just because they did it to someone else. None of this is ok.
Whether he was serious about this or not, he was cheating. That is what you consider cheating, you had no idea about any of this.
So you don't stay with someone who plays stupid games like this. You move on with your life and find someone who actually takes his relationship seriously.
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So about a month ago I went to this summer camp for violin and so during the camp, I hooked up with my teachers son 2 nights in a row who is like 6 years older than me ( I'm 17 he's 23) . What made me feel bad afterwards was that I have known this guy for the longest time of my life( I've taken lessons with his mom ever since I was 5 years old ) ... Although we never talked until that time at camp I just felt like it was so weird you know ? Especially since my teacher is like my aunt to me ! And like I only did it because I felt lonely and haven't been feeling wanted for a while and because of my raging hormones ! So when I did it with him I felt so dirty and sick of myself cause I never imagined myself doing that with someone I didn't love. I felt hollow and empty . But the thing was that I think the guy may have started developing feelings cause when we got back from camp he would message me to come over to his place and chill. I didn't answer his message but then he kept messaging and so then I told him off that I didn't want anything to do with him and that what happened was just a one time thin and that I would gladly like if he could just leave me alone . And so after that he was like fine. I just wante to keep my options open you know ? This will be the last time you'll ever hear from me . And then after that me befriended me on Facebook and I just feel so bad and terrible ! I don't like him ... But I just feel like i may have been too harsh ! The thought that we may still bump into each other cause I'm still taking lessons with his mom kinda makes me feel a bit antsy! Should I be feeling bad ?! Although my other friends say that I can never please everyone all the time and that i shouldn't feel bad and that I had to make myself clear , I would like other people's honest perspective of the whole situation (link)
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You shouldn't feel bad. You were completely honest about what happened. It seems like he wants some more action and he's clearly not getting the hint that it was a one time thing.
Like your friends said, you can't make everyone happy. But it's important to keep yourself happy first.
So don't feel weird if you see him around from time to time. I mean, it's a lesson learned.
So just let this one go and hopefully he'll just have to see that you're not interested. If he starts messaging you on Facebook, don't answer and block him if you want.
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Hi, I'm a 18 year old girl in a college in the US. I'd REALLY appreciate any advice.
I am not sure what to do this Saturday. A few days ago, I invited two girls I met at church called Sally and Christina to hang out this Saturday. Sally is Chinese and in charge of international outreach at church, and she wanted to invite my 4 hallmates who happen to be Chinese International students too. I said that was fine and we decided to hang out downtown and have lunch together this Saturday.
Now one of my hallmates wants to invite her Chinese friend, and Sally wants to bring along about 3 more Chinese students. I like Chinese people, especially my hallmates, but the problem is whenever they are together they like to speak Chinese to each other. I'm Asian but I can't speak Chinese, so I prefer to spend time with just 1 of them so we can speak English and communicate. I don't want to spend my Saturday with 8 people who insist on speaking chinese because then I can't understand what they're saying to each other. Christina and I will feel isolated.
The problem is, last week I tried to organise a get together with CHristina and Sally last week but then I had to withdraw at the last minute because I was sick that day (I get migraines).
How can I get myself out of this Saturday get together that I myself started? I don't want to offend anybody or burn any bridges. Am I stressing too much over nothing? Should I just tell Sally and Christina the truth about how I feel?
There's another girl called Mandy who's only free on Saturday this week, and if I can withdraw from this large group gathering, I'd much rather spend time with her because I barely get to see her.
Hope that wasn't too confusing. Thanks for reading! (link)
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I would let your friends know how you feel. I'd tell them that you don't feel very comfortable hanging out with people who you won't understand and see if they can keep the conversation in English.
It makes sense that you don't want to hang out with them because of the language barrier but if you're just going to back out without saying anything, it won't do you any good.
So let them know you'd love to hang out with them but that's the problem you are having.
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What to when your mom calls you a hore and stupied and you buy a gift for her and she throws it in your face and threatens to beat you with fishing pole (link)
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You tell somebody about this. Like a teacher or another trusted adult.
It's not ok for parents to abuse their children so the way out is to get some help. They'll help you get through this and they will end your problem with your mother.
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hi my name is shonetta im in a relationship for 3 years now and me and my boyfriend we love each other very much but we seems not to understand each other anymore and now we not talking to each other and I cant seems to get over it at all I cant do anything without him in my live so I need him back in my life but I don't know how to go about it cause im scared please tell me how and what to do to get him back in my life
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You're going to have to talk to him about it. If he's not willing to try to work it out, then the relationship is over and it won't work.
Maybe the relationship has run it's course and it's time to move on to try to find someone who does understand you.
In my opinion, he doesn't sound like the right guy either. If you think you need him and can't do anything without him, then somethings not right.
So I think you need to work on that as well.
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how may i know that my gf is truly love me ?because our relationship is iligal . & one tym i caugh her that she is flerting to other guy in a message on a facebook when i open her account i read in tHier chat that my gf is denied me As her bf . when the guy ask her if she have a bf. (link)
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When you truly love someone, you don't go telling other people that you're not dating. So she most likely doesn't love you.
You also went through her messages and it shows that you don't trust her. Relationships without trust don't work.
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I'm 15 years old, 5"4' and 106 pounds. I lost my virginity a week ago to my boyfriend who I've been with for a year and a half. It was both our first time. We used protection, and found it difficult. He couldn't insert it at first, and was only halfway in when he did get it in because I was in too much pain. He went fast at first so that I could loosen and then went slowly. He pulled out a couple of times and that was about it. The condom was all wet when he pulled out but id imagine it would be since he was in me. I remember my legs felt tingly and the day after I had a little bit of blood ( very little, it came out pink). I noticed it the whole day everytime I wiped myself after urinating. It's been a week since and I'm very worried. I've been needing to use the bathroom a lot, I feel depressed, I get my appetite randomly and lose it easily, i felt a little bit of tenderness in my breasts last night and they almost look like they got a little fuller (but then again i think that a lot, its just a pigment of myimagination because I've been a 32a forever so I'm always hoping they'll get bigger), I find it a little bit harder to tuck in my stomach (even though I've always had a belly I feel like I need to put a little bit more effort into it), and I just feel a lot of bubblyness and movement in my belly. My boyfriend says that I'm just over thinking it and that it's just me feeling symptoms because I think I'm pregnant when I'm not. I've felt this way before whenever we've messed around prior to us losing our virginty. Could I possibly be pregnant? I have no way of telling with my period because it is irregular. (link)
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You probably have nothing to worry about as long as the condom didn't break.
Over thinking it and stressing out about it isn't going to help even if you are. If you're still worried about it in a couple weeks, take a pregnancy test to be sure and to ease your mind..unless you get your period before then.
I'd also suggest if you are going to be having sex again, to get on some form of birth control. You don't want to be freaking out each time you have sex and you don't want any accidents to happen.
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Question Posted Wednesday August 21 2013, 3:37 pm
Hi there my cousin and i have been together for 6 yrs secretly we hve a 5 yr old daughter together and no one knows about it weve managed to keep it a secret this long but late last year she decided to end it recently saying she cant pretend anymore and alota people will get hurt if they found out i know shes my cousin but i just fell in love with her and even now im stil madly in love with her i havent seen or spoken to her in a month now and im heartbroken is it true u cant choose who u fall in love with? and i miss my daughter too and ive Also been told by people shes been seen with another guy this is just a very big mess at the moment i dont know what to do
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I think I saw your question, you live in New Zealand correct? I don't know the laws there about being with your cousin as I live in America and that would be illegal here.
So I'm gonna put that aside, and start with your daughter. Did she take your daughter with her? If so, that's where you get a lawyer involved because I'm sure you want to be in your child's life.
You can't bring her back and make her want to be with you. So if she's trying to move on, so should you.
So get your life back on track and get out there and move on. Work on getting back into your child's life.
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Im 18/f and I've been dating my boyfriend who's 21 for 4 years now he's rude and selfish and I've been forced to live with him for two years cuz I have.no family where we live. I've recently been cheating on him and I confessed to him and he forgave me because I forgave him in the past and to be fairly honest I did not want him to forgive me. I want to be with the other guy because he is the sweetest and most kindest man I've ever met. But my boyfriend treats me lime a five year old he needs to babysit and is smothering me I hate being around him but I feel guilty when I think about leaving how can I get out of this or make him leave me..hes so bad his own family doesnt come around (link)
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You just leave. How are you forced to live with him? You can get an apartment as well, or live with a friend, ect.
Cheating to make him leave is just a dumb idea because a lot of people actually forgive them.
You're not happy, you're stringing him along, he doesn't treat you right. I don't know why you feel guilty about leaving him. You should feel guilty for staying with him.
You just need to move on with your life.
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I'm a thirteen year old girl. This question is for people ages 21 and up, but I suppose 18 is ok too.
These days, schools are really drilling the message into us that we shouldn't drink beer or take drugs and everything else like that (I don't know if they did that when you were little). So what I'm concerned about is that right now I am SOOOO against alcohal. I won't TOUCH a can of beer or a bottle of wine. All of the adults on both sides of my family drink but I am totally against it. I'm afraid even though I despise alcohal now, that I'll just start drinking or be pressured into drinkimg when I'm older.
Were you this way when you were younger? If so did you start drinking, even just a little? Do you think I'll start when I'm legally old enough? Please help I'm soooo scared. (link)
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The reason why they drill you at school is because when kids drink alcohol, they normally drink to get drunk and end up doing stupid things.
I hated alcohol when I was younger. Mostly because of what I was taught. My whole family drank and I didn't have a problem with them doing it, I just never would. But I grew up, got involved with the wrong friends and would go drink and get wasted. So I can totally understand why they would teach you this.
I don't think you'll be pressured into it when you are older. I mean maybe if you go out with friends and they all start to drink, they'll be like, "Come on!" but I know tons of people who just say that they don't drink and their friends leave it at that.
I don't drink anymore, because I'm 18 and everyone who bothers with drinking at my age just gets wasted. I've seen some horrible things happen because of alcohol and don't want to get involved in it anymore.
I think when you're older, you'll have a better understanding and you'll either just not drink or drink casually. Like if you go out, you'll just have one glass. So really, it's all about you and your beliefs. If you think you can get swayed into peer pressure, then you probably will. So you should probably work on that if you really don't want that when you are older.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. He is my everything, my rock, my supporter, and my best friend. We click perfectly. I can never cease being myself around him, even when I haven't showered and smell...haha. He does a lot for me, even paying for my college funds I don't have the money or time for. He provides me with so much support and gives me confidence and understanding. We're like best friends, and it feels like I could never get tired of him, even when he aggravates me. We fight, but only little arguments. I am definitely a handful, but he hasn't quit on me yet. He has a steady job (but no car...), and we share a lot of common interests in videogames, tv shows, music, and life itself. We plan to marry after college.
I started college Monday, August 19th. Classes were fun, but I lack friends and seem to only be able to talk casually and comfortably with guys, never girls. I don't know what it is, but I have a very hard time conversing with girls. I feel judged or nervous. I made a friend at the college bookstore today. His name is Anthony. We chatted for hours, and he sparked a lot of my interests and we shared a lot of common hobbies and likes. Anthony really caused quite a stir in my stomach. I developed a lot of butterflies and nervousness when I was around him. I wanted to know everything about him, and I developed a huge crush on him after a few hours of chatting face to face. He got my number and we started texting in a friendly manner.
This situation has happened before, where I fall for another while I am still with my boyfriend. We got through it and continue to get through it, since I can't ever seem to stop flirting. It's not sexual, I just get bored and lonely sometimes when my boyfriend is busy. I feel like a bad person, a really bad one. My boyfriend and I are absolutely perfect for each other, and every time I think about being without him, I cry. I can't fix this. I have talked to other guys before and flirted like this before several times. I love my boyfriend, but not as much as I thought if I keep doing this. I am 18, and he is 19...and Anthony is 28, which my parents would never approve. I can't shake Anthony out of my head, and when my boyfriend texts me, I get sad it's not Anthony. My boyfriend and I have drifted apart in my eyes, I just don't feel any interest now. I am such a bad girlfriend...someone please help me. I don't want to have another problem when this relationship is so perfect... (link)
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It's normal to have crushes when you're in a relationship, but it's obviously not good to act on those feelings.
So this is where you make a decision on what you really want. If you are truly unhappy with your boyfriend, then don't string him along.
If I was in your situation, I'd stop talking to Anthony for a little while, block his number for a little while and see how you're feeling about your boyfriend then. If you still want to be with him, then there you go, you're going to have to work through your problems. Like moving on from your crush and talking to him about the things that have been bothering you about what he's been doing.
I don't think you should act impulsively on your feelings. If you're still unsure about this after awhile, you should probably take a break from your boyfriend.
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Hi, I'm a fourteen-year-old girl. So a little over a year ago, I met this guy. We were in class together this past school year. He and I just really clicked. We both really just understood each other, and we have a lot in common. It got to the point where I ended up liking him. As for him, I don't know how he felt. We've never really gone out, but we have gone places together. The problem is that he's eighteen soon, and I guess whatever we thought we might have would be illegal. He said he wasn't "breaking up" with me (which means I guess he thought we were dating?) , but he just wanted to remind me of the fact that he's nearly four years older than me. I guess that he liked me though, or else he wouldn't have said that. He was really nice about it, too.We haven't kissed or anything like that. So now that just leaves me. I don't even know what we are/were. I want to still be friends with him, but I guess we still have a thing for each other. I know he still cares about me because he's not a jerk.I just don't know how to deal with this, I've been just crying for the last hour and a half because I feel crushed. He's the only person I have left. I don't have any other real friends. He was the only person I would talk to, and now I feel like I don't have him either. Please help?! (link)
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I think you should just straight up ask him what you guys are. I mean you guys are good friends right? You should be able to be honest with him.
So just ask him what exactly they are because when he said, "breaking up with you." You didn't know what you guys are because you aren't exactly dating.
If he truly is a good friend, you won't lose him. You guys obviously can't date because of the age difference but he probably does have some feelings for you, he's probably just making sure that you both are friends.
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Im 31 years old woman.my period was last month 14th of july.18th of july my husband do sex with me and next morning I take contracepetive pill.then 19th of july again my husband sex with me and I forget to take pill.now this month till 20th of august my period is not happened and im worried.i don't want to be pregenant so help me. (link)
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When you forget to take the pill, you can end up pregnant. Was your husband using any other protection like a condom?
Anyways, you shouldn't stress out about it. You should just go get a pregnancy test just to be sure you're not pregnant.
There are tons of reasons why your period is late and stress from thinking you're pregnant could be one of them.
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would any body care if i ended my life? my mom dont want me nether does my grandma. my dad lafted us when i was 3 now i am 17 about to be 18 and am getting married nexted yr. (link)
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Well firstly, people are answering your question because they do care.
There are lots of people who go through this. So you're not alone. They feel like no one wants them and they feel hopeless.
Besides that, you are getting married. I'm pretty sure your fiance would care very much if you ended your life.
You should probably go see a counselor or therapist and they can help you get through the problems you are facing and get through your suicidal thoughts.
Humans like to feel needed and wanted. You seem to not be getting that, but that doesn't mean you give up. There are so many things you can do and so many more people to meet and they will care about you. Just because a few people don't really care, doesn't mean that nobody else does.
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how may i know that my vergin gf 21yr old is willing to sex with me if i ask her and what is the clue her move if she want to sex with me when we our bonding at that day? and for the last how can i convince her to sex with me if i really want that they (link)
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I think the best way to find out if she wants to have sex is to ask her and talk to her about it.
Some girls will give off the feeling that she wants sex by getting close and touching you but you don't know how far she wants to go without asking her.
You shouldn't try to convince her to have sex with you. If she's says no or that she's not ready, you need to respect that and stop asking her.
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I'm a thirteen-year-old girl, and I have an amazing mom. She does so much for me, and I want to show her how much I appreciate her. She's always there for me when I need to talk to her or if I need help with something. Recently, for instance, she let me try home school when I was so unhappy with regular school.
She does so much for me, and I want to do something for her, too -- something that will show her I really care about and appreciate her. Thank you! (link)
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I'd probably give her something homemade. I mean you could go out and buy her something and she'll love it but I think homemade gifts are more meaningful.
Whenever I wanted to let my parents know I loved them, I'd write them a note. You could draw her something too if you'd like or make her a card. You can bake food for her like cookies or brownies. Anything you do, I'm sure she'll love it. Just be creative.
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How to get a boy to fall in love with you (link)
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You can't make anyone fall in love with you. I think when people have a connection, they fall in love.
If the guy is attracted to you, like not attracted to your body or the way you dress, just plainly attracted to you as yourself, then you probably have a better chance with him.
So pretty much, be yourself, talk to him and be a nice. If he doesn't fall for you, then there's nothing you can do and it means that he wasn't the right guy for you.
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Hiii.... I'm 14 yrs old F... So let's start. In 2009 my dad died of cancer. It was very drimatic for me. It was so bad I had to go to a doktor. My mom dated ever since but it allways ended up badly* and you know how mothers are* So she took it out on us. Recently she started dating a guy. And ever since she did she is like pushing me away..* when she goes and visit him she just leaves us at my grandma. And when she is back she is allways screaming on me.* I tried to talk to her but it makes things worts...* there is nobody I could talk 2...* so if you have any advice I would apriciate it.* thX!!
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It sounds like she's grieving and handling this the wrong way.
She cares, she just doesn't have a good way of showing it.
I would suggest telling your concerns to your grandma and then maybe she can talk to her.
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