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Falling quick for someone who wants to take his time
I recently met this guy at the college I am attending. He works at the textbook store, so when I appeared there constantly, he always teased me, saying, "You're here again?" He would smile and be very helpful. It wasn't until a few days ago we actually got to talking. He was leaving work and he saw me reading on a bench, and he said, "You're still here, huh?" So I nodded and smirked, and I asked him if he wanted to sit with me. He did and we talked for maybe two hours until he had to go to class. He asked me for my number and texted me regularly, but he replies slow. He is saving money for a car, so he gets rides from his parents. It's actually irritating because I don't have any chance to hang out with him outside of school.
Anyway, the other night, we met up when I had to go to the school for a movie night. We met in the library and talked usually. He was being very flirty and would touch me and he even hugged me when he had to go to class. While he was hugging me, he poked me in the eye, and then when I said ouch, he kissed my eyelid and hugged me close. He was being so sweet and romantic. After his class ended a half an hour later, we met up and played with a batch of puppies someone had in the field. We then spent the night on the track in the field talking and looking at the stars. He is so flirty and sweet, I have to fight my urges to kiss him and throw myself on to him. We seem to have amazing chemistry and I just can't get him out of my head. However, when I asked where his interests lie, he said I was sweet and cute, but he was still in the "friend making" zone. It hurt a little bit, but I agreed and went along with it. I have fallen for him so fast, but he wants to take it slow. Face to face, he seems so interested, but through text, he seems very bored of me. I told him I felt he was uninterested, and he denied that and said, "Look, I said I like you and I got your number, didn't I?" He told me not to make assumptions and not worry what he thinks of me. He informed me he really just wants to take his time. Any advice so I can stop being so impatient and worrisome? I get huge butterflies over him, and I feel like he really likes me, but I can't seem to take it slow...and there's another catch...he's 28...
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Well most girls would understand how you're feeling. When you meet a guy and you really like them, you wanna start dating them.
Most of the guys I know aren't so interested in texting, so they reply slow or they have really boring answers. So he really is interested in you.
As for taking it slow, it's going to be difficult but I think what will help the most is reminding yourself that you'll push him away if you keep trying to move faster. It's a tough situation because it really is all about self control. So you pretty much have to control your head. I'd say when you're not talking to him and you don't want to start texting him a lot, go find something else to do. If you're with him and you have to hold back, you're just going to have to do just that. Hold back. Just give him your attention, and just don't fall all over him.
So far you've been fine, I'm pretty sure you have all the self control you need. Just keep reminding yourself of it.
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