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Long story short, I've been dating my current boyfriend for exactly two weeks. We're both 21, in college, and follow Roman Catholicism fairly seriously in most aspects.
From the start our relationship was different. I don't want to sound cliche at all because I didn't believe this really happened before I met him (and I have been in previous long term relationships) but it was like the very first time I saw him something in my world changed and two days later after a magical first date, we were officially a couple. We get along so well and he's everything I want in a significant other so I'm really dedicated to making this work because I can really see myself being with him for a long time.
Luckily, he feels the same way and seems head over heels for me. I also know about the whole honeymoon phase thing, but I've been in those before and this isn't the same kind of feeling.
The only thing I'm kind of worried about is that he's only had sex once before and his other sexual experience is very limited. I've had sex a few times (with my previous LTR), but otherwise my experience is also a bit limited so I was hoping I would be able to take things slow in that department so we could learn together. However, that hasn't really been the case. We're both set on not having sex until we're at least engaged which is great, but already we've gone pretty far and I'm worried about it.
He says he doesn't want the physical part of our relationship to overwhelm the rest of the elements because he thinks that's unhealthy, but then every time we're together in one of our rooms he gets physical with me very fast, even when I try to talk him out of it. I also don't mean to make him sound pushy, but I just can't imagine how long we can go being on the brink of almost having sex without giving in to that when we're only 2 weeks in and I feel like we've already gotten very close to that.
The previous person I had sex with I was engaged to and a marriage seemed imminent, but looking back at it now I wish I hadn't had intercourse with him because obviously marriage didn't happen and I don't want to make the same mistake twice. However, I'm not even sure how much it really matters when neither of us are virgins. It doesn't seem like that big of a deal at it's core because it's not like we'd be doing anything we haven't before, but it's really the sanctity of our promise to not do it again unless we're engaged and I take that very seriously and he seems to as well, but our actions lately might lead to that promise being broken.
I think it sounds like we're moving too fast, but I also feel like I can't say anything about it because I don't want to scare him, especially knowing how religious we both are. I don't want to make him feel like he's doing something sacrilegious and then have him end our relationship out of fear of that.
I don't know what to do. I tried to slow things down last night, but it just didn't work and now he's already talking about what we're going to do tonight and I know if I put my foot down that he's going to see it as me not being comfortable with what we did last night and he'll get scared and feel like he did something wrong.
Any advice would help...
I'm not sure that any of us can truly give you an answer to this question so I'm going to make some suggestions one of which is my patented answer for any questions about sexual relations between two people.
Neither of you are virgins making being a virgin on your wedding night impossible. From a religious standpoint the only thing not having sex until your married does for you is that neither has carnal knowledge of the other before marriage. Is this really true if you two are making out. How far do the make out sessions go? Do you allow him to finger you, do you masturbate him? Have you engaged in oral sex? If you have engaged in any type of this sex play then you have carnal knowledge of each other so the question now becomes why wait. This is a talking point the two of you need to discuss.
For any relationship to succeed, this is the patented advice, there must be trust and communication. Both of these are dependent on each other and can be built. In order to have a good sex life partners have to be open to each other about their likes, dislikes and needs.
No one can tell you if your moving too fast as everyone moves at their own pace. What comes next is when to have sex. Since neither of you are virgins and you seem to be into each other then why play the virgin game if what you really want is to have sex? Why run up to the edge and put the brakes on just before going over the edge? For one thing this is not healthy for either of you.
You both need to sit down and discuss your sex life just as you would and should discuss any other part of your future life together. Do you both truly want to wait until the wedding to have intercourse because from the sounds of what you have written that's all that's missing.
I believe you will find, if you are honest with each other is that you really want to have a sex life together and possibly look forward to living together before you actually marriage. This is the way things are today. While it may be against the church's doctrine it is not against the way life is to day for about 85 to 90 percent of young people today.
While you two are deciding this question you should consult your doctor about birth control as well as keep condoms handy. Keep some in your purse for when your at his place. Condoms are a must and not just for pregnancy prevention and need to be used even if you are on birth control until you are both tested for STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus. Once you are checked and both can prove you are disease free then you can stop using condoms if you wish but I would suggest you continue as condoms + birth control meds are 99.999 % effective in preventing pregnancy.
So I've been bisexual for the past 6 yrs, and I've always liked everything abouyy guys, but the past year its been really hard for a guy to be pleasing. Im attracted to guys, like I can kiss, hold hands, make out and be 100 percent attracted, but sexually guys aren't appealing or pleasing. I have to really concentrate to be satisfied. Am I gay? Or is this just a teenage phase?
While it would help if I knew your age I can say with much certainty you are not gay. You may be bisexual or depending on your age you may be like most young people still discovering your true sexuality.
Why I can say with certainty that you are not gay is the fact that doctors and scientist now feel that gay people are born gay. That being Gay is not a learned trait but in one's DNA. Bisexuality on the other hand they are not as sure about.
Young people going through puberty will have some form of a gay sexual experience. It is part of the learning experience of what sex is, what your sexuality is and how to have sex. Even though it is with the same sex it is not truly gay sex for it is experimentation and learning.
Those people who are truly gay or lesbian have known this from a very early age. some report knowing they were different from as early as 3 or 4 years of age. If you are having problems with the opposite sex there is another reason for this but not because you suddenly developed into a gay or lesbian person.
Well me and my partner had sex a week from today it was our first time right and well since I wasn't on birth control we decided to use condom, he came inside the condom but took it out straight away not gonna lie I was panicking (this was Saturday night) so on Monday morning I went to get the morning after pill to be safe. But I keep thinking if im pregnant, I've been eating way more this week than I was before, I know deep down I'm not pregnant cause we used protection and I had the morning after pill. But it's like in my head so I can't stop thinking about it please help !!! I'm 21 btw ;O
This may be a physiological reaction to the morning after pill. Between the condom and the morning after pill it is very doubtful you could be pregnant.
If you continue to stress out over this and worry if your pregnant I can guarantee you will miss your period. Stress and worry cause more missed periods in young people then pregnancy. Stress at school or at home and even at work can upset the natural balance causing a missed period.
If you are unable to calm down and continue to worry then wait ten days from the date you had sex and get a home pregnancy test kit. Follow the directions as to when and how to test.
Note: These test have more false positives so if you do test positive don't freak. Wait ten more days, buy a different kit and test again.
I really believe though you have nothing to worry about.
One thing I know for certain is if you do not stop stressing out about this you will miss your period. Stress more than pregnancy causes more missed periods in young women. This is the only reason I am suggesting you take a home pregnancy test; to put your mind at rest.
I'm a female who happens to be 32... I've been single for about 7 years now... Men who's my age never approach me, unless it's some weirdo... Most times I get approach is my men in their 50s and 60s... I've been out of a relationship so long... I come from a big family with seven sisters, seven happily married sisters... And I'm the only single one... So yesterday I thought what the heck... I was off the weather was superb... I dressed up nicely applied makeup, and I went out to a bar I use to work at... And then walks in my crush... I mean I had a crush on this guy for like a year now... So I walked over to him, started up and convo... We talked a bit, and I offered him my number... He put it in his phone... 2 days past... Well today makes it 2 days and nothing... No call, no text... Nothing... How do I feel hurt embarrassed, half of my old co workers and friends were there and seen the exchange... And I'm thinking wow he don't even like me... Ugh! Like what should I do? I'm bummed out because I'm so sick of being lonely
I can't say for certain why the man has not called you. It could be for a multitude of reasons. He could be involved with someone, he could just be busy and will eventually call you. The last thing you should be is embarrassed. If he wanted to embarrass you he would have refused the offer of your phone number.
I understand being 32 and lonely. My son is a bit older than you and because of a very bad relationship in his early years he was quite gun shy to commit to another relationship though he had many. You may or may be not be a bit like him in that your looking for a custom fit in an off the rack world. Which is exactly what I finally said to him.
I suggested he join one of those dating sites like Match.com. He did and he met some fantastic women. As the saying goes the third one was the charm. I'm finally about to become a father in-law. They have moved in together, combined their finances and made several joint purchases to follow their combined passions.
My son has opened her eyes to new passions and she to him. She has strong points where he is weak and vice a versa such as she is a great money manager where he never has been. My son is the problem solver and the calm head in a crisis. She goes to pieces in a crisis. They are just about a perfect fit. Best of all I'm a big tease and I tease her and she hands it right back to me and has since day one.
My wife and I are a perfect fit because we met at work in a place you could only work if you had a passion for the job. TO day finding a custom fit is next to impossible without some help. This is where these dating sites come in. Through these sites you can for the most part order up the person you are looking for in a spouse.
Therefore my recommendation is you try a dating site. some of the religious dating sites are free. Sites like Match.com. charge a fee. It might also be worth while sitting down with a psychologist to talk about what is holding you back from having another long term relationship. While you have not said so I think something in your last relationship may beholding you back. If your employer has an EAP program then ask them to find a psychologist for you and most likely they will pay for the first few sessions then your health insurance will take over.
It take a much longer time for me to cum.Why?
There are so many reasons why this could be happening I hesitate to even guess. TO give you any type of reasonable answer I/we need more information from you. This information would include things like:
!. Your age.
2. Are you male or Female.
3. Do you Masturbate? How often?
4. How much and what type of foreplay to you have before intercourse?
5. Are you under any type of stress at work or school.
6. If male are you circumcised?
7. Have you been ill recently?
Even with all that information, which admittedly is quite personal, we would still be guessing. What you really should do is speak to a doctor is you are truly concerned.
One thing I will say is as we get older it does take longer to reach a climax. Though when I say older I'm talking about mid 30's and up in age before there is a noticeable difference.
Now if you are over 14 but under 18 this is probably not something you wish to discus with a parent. So you are asking how can you ask to see a doctor.
The answer is quite simple, if you are over 14 a Federal Law called HIPPA allows for Medical Confidentiality over your Reproductive System. What this means for any problems or questions you might have concerning your reproductive system this law which congress passed allows for you to make appointments to see any doctor of your choosing or any clinic without parental knowledge or permission.
Congress included this clause within this law not to promote teenage se. But to promote young people to seek medical advice for those thing they might be too embarrassed or too afraid to approach a parent with. In other words a problem just like the one you have written about.
The doctor can examine and treat you without parental permission in most cases, short of a surgery, and they can never be told why you have been seen or what you were treated for without your written consent to the doctor. No judge can issue a court order for the release of this information to your parents.
My advice is that rather than ask for our uneducated advice is you see a doctor for this type of problem is generally an indication of another POSSIBLY underscore possibly but necessarily more serious problem.
My bf precummed and he dont remember whether he put it back inside his pants with left hand or right hand..after a while he used left hand to fingerat at that time his hands were dry completely der ws no precum on it so what a chances of me getting pregnant should i take ipill?
If his hands were dry then the sperm were probably dead. The chances of you being pregnant are near zero. sperm does not live long out side the body as they need the body temperature of normal temperature to live.
Okay so hi, I had sex with my boyfriend on February 4 and on February 11. We used protection. My period was supposed to come on the 16 or 17. It's know the 18 and in getting a little worried, I've had most of the pms signs for getting your period.
It's like it's their but with no blood?? I don't know what's going on! Please help could I be pregnant?!!
IF the condom didn't break or leak then you should not be pregnant as they are 85% effective in preventing pregnancy. The 15% of pregnancies is caused by breakage, leaking or worn incorrectly. On 2/11 you were well past the date of Ovulation and in your safe period so that sex would not have cause a pregnancy. The sex you had on 2/4 would have been in the time of your cycle when you are most fertile. For most women on a 28 day cycle they are most fertile between the 7th and 21st day of their period. This is when you ovulate and eject and egg.
Since you used a condom both times I doubt you are pregnant. Most likely you will get your period soon or it will be missed because you have been stressed out over getting pregnant. Stress more than pregnancy is the cause for young women to miss or have late periods.
To relieve your stress and to prevent having a second missed period I suggest you get a home pregnancy test. Follow the directions on the package as to when and how to test.
NOTE: There are more false positive in these test so if you do test positive do not freak. Wait ten days by a new kit from a different manufacturer and test again.
There's one other thing you can do if you are really concerned about being pregnant. The morning after pill or Plan B pill has been known to be effective up to 7 days after intercourse. Today is the last day of that window. If you want you should go and get a plan B pill and take it.
how can i have a good relationship
This is a very good question though it needs more depth in order to answer.
Is there something specific you are looking for such as a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend. If so we would need to know your ages and a little bit about each of you as well as what you would like to have in this relationship.
If it is just relationships in general then we need to know a lot more about you starting with your age and sex.
well me and my boyfriend had our first time on saturday night and we used condom of course because I'm not on birth control at the moment. He cummed inside the condom but took it out as soon as he did (obviously with the condom still on), I was a bit paranoid the next morning so I decided to take a morning after pill yesterday which calmed me. But ever since Saturday I've had this craving to eat sweets or chocolate for some reason and I feel like I've been eating more since I had sex with him, is it normal to crave chocolate or sweets days after sex??? Please I'm so confused!!
This may be a physiological reaction to the morning after pill. Between the condom and the morning after pill it is very doubtful you could be pregnant.
If you continue to stress out over this and worry if your pregnant I can guarantee you will miss your period. Stress and worry cause more missed periods in young people then pregnancy. Stress at school or at home and even at work can upset the natural balance causing a missed period.
If you are unable to calm down and continue to worry then wait ten days from the date you had sex and get a home pregnancy test kit. Follow the directions as to when and how to test.
Note: These test have more false positives so if you do test positive don't freak. Wait ten more days, buy a different kit and test again.
I really believe though you have nothing to worry about.
My ex and I broke up unexpectedly a few months ago (he dumped me). During our relationship, I had spent a lot of time with his family in a different state, visiting with him whenever he went home. I became very close with his family, especially his mom. When he dumped me, I realized, devastatingly, that I would never see his family again, and that I never got to say goodbye.
On a scale of 1 to psychopath, how crazy would it be to write his mom a short, sweet note just thanking her for welcoming me into their home, that I will treasure the memories, and that her family has a special place in my heart? Please consider from both her perspective and that of my ex, who would probably hear about it.
I think it would be a very nice thing to do.
You keep the letter between you and her after starting with words like. "John and I broke up so expectantly I did not have a chance to say good-by or for the warm welcome I received from you and your family."
From there you can go on to say what you enjoyed doing with her and what you will miss by not seeing or being with her. Keep it short and to the point. You can close with something like, "I hope the break up between me and John does not mean we can't still be friends.
This closing leaves the door open for her to respond if she wishes.
Hi I'm June and I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17 soon to be 18. You've probably heard this sort of situation tons of times but my boyfriend wants to have sex and we've had this conversation multiple times of how I feel I'm not ready and I have told him my decision was no and the other night the subject came up again and I told him I wasn't ready but he wasn't really accepting my answer and he was like if you trust me you'll let me do it. I trust him a lot and I really like him and he knows that but I myself just don't feel ready and he kept pushing for me to change my mind and I gave in and said I'd have sex with him and now I'm gonna see him sometime this week and he wants to do it, idk what to do I'm scared and I'm not ready to have sex but he doesn't want no for an answer what should I do. I love him a lot but I'm just not ready, any advice is helpful.
I don't know where to begin there are so many things wrong here.
1. Do not go out with him he does not respect you and DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM. Any guy who says things like, "If you love me you will have sex with me," or as your boyfriend said; "if you trust me you'll let me do it." These guys do not know the meaning of the word love and certainly do not feel love as you do. What they feel is lust and confuses that for love.
2. You have said NO. That is the end of conversation under the law. To continue to harass you or push you to have sex with him is SEXUAL HARRASMENT is PUNISHABLE UNDER THE LAW AS A FELONY.
3. You should not have sex with anyone until you are ready. IF you intend to remain a virgin until you marry that is your right and no one has the right to coerce you to have sex with them before you are ready. If you have sex with him it is not consensual sex even though you said you would because he has coerced you into doing so. Sex with him now would be RAPE.
4. While I cannot speak to the true legality of your situation of the moment. To my mind I would say based on what you have written at the present time a case could be made for attempted rape based on how he has coerced you into having sex with him. If you have sex with hi then it is rape.
I'm old enough to be your great grandfather so I've been around for some time. I was around for the sexual revolution and free love era of the 1960's. What this means is I have seen a lot and I am offering you the wisdom of my years.
This boy is just plain horny and he lusts for you. He does not feel love the way you do and he does not love you the way you love him. Tell him you are not going to have sex with him and if that is all he wants from you tell him to take a hike.
I know it is easy to say and hard to do but in this I know what I am speaking off. I know this feels like true love but it is not. It is a first love and there will be more. Hopefully you will not suffer many broken hearts before you find Mr. Right. Mr. Right will be the guy that wants you first and what you can do in bed second. You will understand this better in a few more years. I had a few broken hearts in my younger years. Then I met my wife and come July we will celebrate 45 years together.
So like this past month my hair have been growing boobs been growing and I'm starting to eat a little bit more than what I usually eat like some days I can eat some days I can't and I just had sex with my boyfriend and it just felt so different like he wasn't inside me really but I did feel when he put his head of his penis in me it felt so big n it felt like he was going real deep some strokes but he was barely going in idk its weird am I pregnant?
Granny might be able to tell by looking at you as a woman gets a little thicker in the waist when she becomes pregnant. It is not always a sign but something people of grannies age looked for when they were looking to see if someone was with child.
There is really not enough information here to make any type of judgment so the best advice I can give you is not to stress out over this as this will cause you to miss your next period. That I can almost guarantee.
Buy a home test kit and follow the directions on the package for testing. If it is positive follow up with a visit to your GYN.
I had sex for the first time and we used a condom,two days later I had stomach cramps BT they have stopped and the condom didn't burst bt am so worried I tod my boyfriend and he assured me that nothin will happen to me,at timz am having lower back pains and stomach cramps is there any possibilities that I could b pregnant evn wen the condom didn't burst coz I cnt seem to get it off my mind but its not time for my periods jst waitn for the day that i do my periods. Pliz help me pipo is there any possibility? THANK. YOU
If you keep stressing out over this I can almost guarantee you will miss your period. Stress causes more missed periods in young women then pregnancy. Especially over things like having sex, trouble at school and at home. Taking any kind of medication even over the counter medication can upset the delicate balance causing a period to be missed or be late.
Condoms are statistically 85% effective. This statistic is based on them being worn correctly and not breaking or leaking. If the condom didn't break or leak the chances of you being pregnant are slim to not.
There are other factors to take into consideration such as where in your cycle you were when you had sex. The average woman on a 28 day cycle is most fertile between the 7th and 21st day of her cycle. This is when her ovary is most likely to eject an egg. This is called ovulation and every women should know when they ovulate. Knowing this tells you when not to have sex even when using condoms or on birth control and for when you do want to get pregnant. Having sex 3 days before or three days after ovulation is when you are most likely to get pregnant.
Do the math, you know when you rlast period was and when you had sex. IF you do the math you will know if you were in your safe weeks. That plus condoms decreases the chances of pregnancy.
While I do not think you are pregnant and only to put your mind at rest; take a home pregnancy test. Note there are more false positives in these test so if you do test positive do not freak. By another test kit from a different company and test again in ten days.
You haven't said how old you are though if you are between the ages of 14 and 18 and sexually active you should be on birth control. A federal Law called HIPPA allows you to ask any doctor or clinic for birth control medication without parental permission or knowledge. With in this HIPPA LAW is a section that gives young people between these ages medical privacy over their reproductive system.
No one not even a parent can know why you visited a doctor for anything having to do with your reproductive system. Congress passed this law not to promote sex in young people but to promote medical assistance for those things you might be too embarrassed to talk to a parent about. By virtue of this law young people between these ages can make appointments, be seen and treated by doctors without parental consent for anything related to their reproductive systems. Because of this you can ask the doctor for birth control medication and the doctor must write a script for it if there is no medical reason not to.
Neither the doctor or the pharmacist can tell anyone about your visit or your prescription without your expressed written permission. To do so is punishable by 5 years in jail and a $5,000 fine.
With this information there is no reason not to be on birth control. You can go to any free clinic and ask for it just mention HIPPA and bring proof of age. Continue to use condoms as condoms prevent the transmission of many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus. Plus condoms and birth control are 99.999% effective in preventing pregnancy.
I'm sorry, but I spend 8 hours a day, 5 days a week around her. I really don't want to be rude to her as she's really nice and helpful. We all work in an office setting and often times I have to sit right beside her and her breath smells very bad like a rotting corpse. I want to tell her but I don't want to be mean and afraid she will take it wrong, but honestly it's very bad. I wouldn't mention it if it wasn't really bad, I can smell it even if she just walks by me.
It's not just her breath but sometimes I can smell her breath even when her mouth is closed.
What is the best way to go about this? I don't think I can work along with her anymore until she does something about it, and she won't do anything unless someone says something. Please help.
Extremely bad breath could be a sign of other more serious and even life threatening problems or it could be she has serious tooth decay problems and needs to see a dentist. My best guess is she may have some health problems you may not be aware of.
If you count her among your office friends you might want to ask her if her health is okay before running off to the HR department or a manager. It is quite possible she is ill and does not wish to share this with coworkers.
My wife had a coworker with a similar problem. She had an inoperable cancer that left open sores. The odor from the sores was very much as you describe this lady's breath. Management approached this coworker and offered her the choice of working from home or they would find a quiet office for her to work in by herself. The women chose the office as she wanted to continue to work as long as possible.
I cannot say for certain this is the problem with your coworker and I hope it isn't. Approach her first, be tactful and ask her if she is aware of her bad breath. If she is and does not give you a reason for why or why she has done nothing to correct it. Then co to HR or a manager.
When I'm horny I like to masturbate but I've noticed that fingering myself doesn't turn me on like it does for most girls and to get off I use the old " pillow hump " way and it's so much helpful so why isn't fingering getting me off is there something else I should know about 😂😂 idk I know this is weird but I really want to know
Relax your normal. When it comes to sex there are two types of women; vaginal and clitoral. You are most likely a clitoral women one who is sexually stimulated through her clitoris. This means you will need to stimulate your clitoris more during masturbation then through vaginal penetration.
This also means that in order to enjoy sexual intercourse you are going to need to tell your partner you need clitoral stimulation in order to climax. You will need to do this because most of us boys and men know only one way to stimulate a women which is mostly what we have learned watching porn or making out with other women fingering them.
You will also need to find positions in which your clitoris is stimulated more during intercourse. There are many and they can be found by searching the Internet.
You are very lucky to be clitoral as a clitoral orgasm, according to my wife is much more powerful than a vaginal. My wife is both vaginal and clitoral and prefers clitoral stimulation for the orgasm it brings her.
DO NOT USE HOUSEHOLD ITEMS SUCH AS AN ELECTRIC TOOTHBRUSH TO STIMULATE YOUR CLLITORIS AS IT IS NOT MADE FOR THIS. BUY A SEX MAGAZINE OR GO ON THE INTERNET AND BUY A PROPER VIBRATOR.
I have sex for the first time 4 weeks ago. Used a condom but he didn't get the chance to release anyways because someone walked in. I am now 2 weeks late on my period and it's literally impossible to be pregnant. Sometimes I feel like it's about to happen but it's always a false alarm. Please help me figure this out..
I'm 18 and from Canada
I don't think you are pregnant. Counting backward from now to when you had sex would put you at the very beginning of your fertile time. I will explain.
For about 85% of women with a 28 day cycle they are fertile during period from the 7th to 21st day of their cycle. It is during this time that you ovulate. Sometime during these 14 days is when your ovary ejects an egg. If you have sex 3 days before or 3 days after and do not use a condom or on birth control you will then most likely get pregnant.
Every woman should know when she ovulates for condoms oar only 85% effective. Meaning they have a 15% failure rate due to breaking or not being worn correctly. Birth control medication is 98 % effective and birth control Medication with condom usage is 99.999% effective.
Most likely stress from fear of being pregnant has caused you to miss your period. Stress causes more missed periods in young women then pregnancy. Stress from work, school, problems at home can all act to upset the delicate balance the body has in place to regulate itself. When this happens it will shut down what it doesn't need to support life.
This is why it is important to take a home pregnancy test. A home test will confirm whether or not your pregnant. Note there are more false positives in these test results so if you do test positive do not freak out. Buy another test kit and wait ten more days. then follow the directions as to how to test.
My honest opinion is you are stressed out over this and this is the problem. If you have taken any medications in the past four weeks, even over the counter medications this too could cause you to miss a period.
My advice is to relax, take a test or you will miss your next period as well. IF you do then you will have to see a GYN for it is not good to miss two periods in a row for any reason if your periods are regular. I say that for you did not give your age.
so I was using a condom when I was having intercourse with my boyfriend and it was during when I was ovulating and the internet from what I understand is that when you're ovulating those Are
the most unsafe days to have sex if you don't want get pregnant so I would like to know if you're using a condom while your ovulating can you still get pregnant
Unless the condom broke or leaked your chances of being pregnant are or should be zero. Most women about 85% ovulate sometime between the 7th and 21st day of their cycle. If you know exactly when during this time you ovulate it is best not to engage in sex for 3 days prior or three days after that time. For the other 15% of women they can ovulate at any time during their cycle even during their period which is usually a safe time to have sex.
It is important for every woman to know when she ovulates. There are charts and kits available to help you track when this happens. For some this is a very painful time during your cycle as when the ovary ejects the egg you can sufferer severe pain or cramping in that area when this is happening.
Until you are in a long term committed relationship condoms are a must whenever you have sex. Condoms protect YOU from the transmission of many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus. You should also be on birth control. Condoms + Birth control are 99.999% effective in preventing pregnancy.
If you are over 14 there is a law called HIPPA that within it allows you medical privacy over you reproductive system. Meaning you can see a doctor without parental permission, be treated by that doctor and no one can know why or what without your expressed written permission to the doctor to release any information on your visits. Because of this law you may request and the doctor will prescribe birth control for you on demand. All you need to say are the words I want this visit under the HIPPA Law." If mom is with you she will be asked to wait in the waiting room.
This law was written to allow young people 14 years of age and older to seek medical help and information they might be too embarrassed to ask a parent about. They may seek out any doctor of their choice, medical clinic or hospital, purchase condoms or birth control without parental permission or challenge.
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I started seeing this new girl. We have been on several dates and they've always been good and fun. Last Tuesday we went out and it was great but she has been kinda distant with me since. I'm not delusional we made out at the end and everything so I know it went well. She had mentioned that she was getting her period soon so maybe that's what I'm thinking she's been distant all of a sudden. Up until this week we've been texting non-stop and whatever.
So I guess my question is do girls on there periods, not saying all girls, act in this kinda off way?
Also we did go out for food yday and it was fun but she said she wasn't feeling great so I'm probably just answering my own question here.
Welcome to the world of men and women. Gone are the days of boys and girls. Once a girl gets her first period she literally and figuratively is a women who for the next 40 or 50 years could suffer from period problems.
PMS is real and it affects each woman differently. Younger women suffer more with PMS than older women because of all the new hormones associated with puberty which starts their period. Boys also suffer with the new hormones puberty brings to them. Since there is no physical reason for this problem in boys parents usually refer to it as a phase or teenage problems.
Another problem for girls is the younger they are the more embarrassed they can be by their period even if they suffer no problems with it. Given how sexually aware today's teenagers are I find this strange as puberty is normal as is the changes it brings on to both boys and girls. If you have had Health and Sex Ed in school there should be no reason for this embarrassment.
My advice is to just hang in there as she deals with this. She will come back to you after she is feeling better and not having to deal with cramps, heavy flows, feeling slightly out of sync and other feelings she may have associated with her period.
If you have any long term feelings for her. when she is feeling better you might want to tell her that and that you would just want to be there for her when she is dealing with this and you will understand if she is not herself during this time. She might appreciate having you to lean on during this time. Just holding and cuddling her can be a great comfort for her.
You don't go through our struggles. When have you been taught in your 7th grade sex ed that you're not normal, been bullied, ashamed of yourself to suicide, and told by your church that you've developed an emotional connection to your an abomination. In what country have cishets been killed, beaten, and discriminated against? When have straight children been bullied at school for being straight? When have you been told, like bisexuals asexuals and pansexuals, you're not real or valid. Where is your marriage not legal? When have you had to fight to get a kid? When have you had to fight people to bake your wedding cake, take your photo, and sign your license? When has heterosexuality been considered a mental disorder? When have straight kids been sent to conversion therapys where they're shocked, and develop mental disorders. When have straight kids been kicked out of their houses for being straight, and told it's a choice. Gotten disowned. Is isis throwing heteros off buildings? Nope. Are people kicking you out of restaraunts, and holding up signs saying "God hates heteros!" Are you treated like an adult topic? Have you ever been told you're too young to know? Do your men get put into fanfiction by people who hate your women, and do your women get fetishized to the point where it's seen as nothing more than a porn genre by people who hate you?
Like transgenders (including nonbinary and intersex), have you been murdered, beaten, humiliated, bullied, and disowned like transgenders for being trans? Do you get told your not real and never mentioned? Are you treated like a pest of society? When have cisgenders faced even a tiny bit of discrimination. And been treated like weird ugly useless creatures, dehuminized and sexually abused? Especially transgendered people of color? Are people on your case for not being like the gender you identify as 100%? Do people want you to die? Is it hard for you to get your surgeries and name change, so you are constantly living with dysorphia and self hate? To suicide?
You aren't opressed cissy hettys, get over it. Also, allys, you're still cisgendered and heterosexual. You face nothing, and can ignore issues when you want to. For supporting us you are a decent human, no badge for that. If you're a good ally, you wouldn't need the "a" in LGBTQIA, which belongs to asexuals.
So why do cissy hettys want pride parades?
Sincerly, a fed up lesbian.
I wish I had a good answer for you; I do not. These are a relatively small group of people who want or need attention. They see Gays Lesbians, Transgendered and others getting attention and feel deprived when in reality they are somewhat depraved for feeling that way for you are correct when you say they have not suffered the indifference you and others have.
Now if these people really want attention I would call them the affluenza generation. People who have been given everything in life and have never known failure or the suffering you have unfortunately suffered. what they know is they are missing something and have to have it.
My advice is to ignore them. They are too few to waste your time on in the first place. In the second place it is time they learned they can't have everything just because they want it. Some things come with suffering others have to earned. It is time they learned that lesson.
my boyfriend and I made out last weekend and he came on my underwear (which was so light) I felt it on my vagina.. Am scared of getting pregnant cos am a virgin..but I quickly changed my underwear 5minutes after he came on me.. can I be pregnant?
I would like to put your mind at rest and say that there is no chance your pregnant. That would be wrong as there is maybe a 1 chance in a 100 or a chance in a 1000 that a pregnancy could happen.
There are a number of factors to consider. It would be harder for the semen to get through certain parts of your panties such as the gusset and even harder if you were wearing rayon or silk rather than cotton.
There are also a number of other factors to consider such as where in your cycle you were. Were you in your fertile time or safe time. Most women on a 28 day cycle are most fertile between the 7th and 21st day of their menstrual cycle. It is during this time that a women ovulates and ejects an egg. An Egg can be fertilized for about 3 days after it is ejected from the ovary. Every woman should know when her fertile time is and should know when she ovulates.
The best advice I can offer is you wait another week and get a home test kit and take the test. IF you don't and you continue to stress out about whether you are pregnant I can almost guarantee you will miss your next period even though you are probably not pregnant. Stress more than pregnancy in young women causes missed periods as stress upsets the natural balance of your menstrual cycle. Take a test and know for sure. Should it come out positive do not freak out. Test have more false positives than false negatives. By another brand test kit and follow the directions as to when to test; then test again.