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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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13/f

thanks for a lot for the help. it sucks like hell. i seem to have all the symptoms except i havent thrown up though ive felt like it about 3 times. ive felt like this for the past 3 days as well. on top of it i have my period so i feel bloated and crampy.. ugh this winter vacation (after xmas) has totally sucked cuz of it.

If it's a virus, then there isn't really anything you can do but let it run it's course.
You can try medicines like Pepto Bismol to help alleviate symptoms.

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Where does rain stop? Is there a pattern to this? I need to take pictures and I am wondering if the next town over will be rainy if mine currently is.. how far away do I have to go to "sun"?

It depends on the size of the storm system. The easiest way to figure out kinda where the rain ends is to access yourself to a local live weather radar. You may be able to download a desktop radar from one of your local news stations.

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my hair has been falling out a lot lately. i'll be washing my hair and like 10 hairs will be on my hands. my hair never used to fall out so much but my eye lashes have been falling out a lot too. which they never really have before. any ideas what is happening or how to fix it? thanks!

Another thing that can cause hair loss is chemically treating your hair, such as perms/relaxers and bleaching/dye.
Those wouldn't cause your eyelashes to fall out, however.
If this is something that keeps happening, you should consider going to your doctor about it. If there is some underlying cause, they will be able to figure it out and solve the problem before it gets severe.

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whats the concequences on teen pregnancy? i know school and everything but i see alot of girls 15-17 pregnant and they love it. and how come everyone says it messes up the economy and that the government spends way to much money on teen pregnancy? i dont see how teen pregnancy costs the government any money.

Because teen mothers and their children a lot of times end up living off of government funds. Food, cash assistance, medical, etc.
It costs a fortune to raise a child, and actually they often have to go to the doctor just for check-ups. Consider that is just one kid- now try to imagine thousands dependent on government assistance.
I suppose it is hard on the economy because the money doesn't just come out of nowhere- it comes from the pockets of every person you see who holds a tax-paying job.

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was matthew perry taking drugs before? why? and about the losing weight ? how? it was supposedly in the 6 - 7 th season of friends... what happened to him? Did he do drugs?


hes such a good person! what happened?

Well, it's like this:
I'm not a tabloid.
I'm here to give advice.
That's what this site is for- advice.
Not questions like this.
I'm not helping to change your life in any fashion by answering such a question.
You are more than welcome to leave me a question in my inbox if you are needing actual advice.
It is very rude of you to waste my time, and the time of other columnists with questions like this.
Matthew Perry doesn't matter when some kid out there is needing an answer to a serious question that actually has bearing on daily life.
Next time, look up your celebrities bio's on the internet. Such questions aren't appropriate to be asked here.
Like I said, they are a waste of our time.

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Im a 25 year old single mother of 2. My mother has been filing my 9 year old on her income tax all his life. Previously when I mentioned me wanting to claim him, she got all upset so I left it alone. Now mind you my mother is not rich but she does have wealth. I am struggling, she does do a lot for my son such as clothing him and buying him things he stays with me, I do the rest. Recently She loaned me about $4,500.00 for a car and to pay some bills. She made me sign a promisary note,once again I mentioned the income tax because of the debt to pay her and she got all upset and doesnt want to do so. She says that is rotten of me she talks about disowning me and my children behind it. What should I do? I really need the money my mother doesnt get any money for filling because she has to pay taxes. How could a mother feel that way?

She may buy him clothes and she may buy him things, but what grandma doesn't do that for her grandkids?

He doesn't live with her. She doesn't support him by providing him a home to live in, food on his table, electricity, heat, etc. He is not her dependent, he is dependent on you. For her to claim him as a dependent on her income taxes is tax fraud.

File him on yours. If she don't like it, too bad. If you have to, send a note with your returns explaining to them that he is your dependent but your mother may try to claim him as hers. Whoever does your taxes for you (H&R Block, etc.) should hep you do this.

I mean, really, if she is going to disown you and your children over tax money that isn't rightfully hers, then she doesn't deserve to see you anyhow.

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heyy ok i really like this boy and he likes me but wants to keep it a secret for now...also he says it might become something more but he doesnt know what he wants yet. since new years is coming up should i give him until then to make up his mind and start frsh or just keep waiting. it hurts soo much to wait but i really really like this boy. please help!
thank you
jess

You can't wait on someone forever. Any respectable guy won't expect you to, either.
Tell him that he has until New Year's to figure out what he wants.

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Do you know of any online sites / comunitys (like myspace) where people with STDS can come together and talk and meet people?

It would be very apriciated If you guys could help me out and give me a GOOD site where i could meet new people w/ stds

thank you
I will rate high
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Try these:

http://www.positivesingles.com/?tid=af20005641

http://www.positivesingles.com/?tid=af20005641

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can depression affect your period?
cause i know i get depressed in the winter
and last year my stomach was all wacked. i cant remember about my period though. ive had my period for a year ( it will make 2 in june) and its been normal for the most part. but for 2 months i didnt get it and i just figured it was normal cause its still irregular and whatever. then the beginning of this month i started to get it. it only like started though like it was brownish blackish and then finally after about 4-5 days it stopped. im kinda freaking out cause i hate doctors so much ohh and i wouldnt be pregnant either. so im just hoping cause its winter and cause im depressed and stuff

I think it can because of the stress.
If you are having a period that has blackish stuff in it, then that is strange.
You may not like the doctor, but shying away from the doctor's office when you think you should go is never a good idea.
Your health is far more important than your dislike of doctors.
If I were you, I would go to be on the safe side.

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just this school year, ive becoming lazy, less active, and im eating alot more than i used to. i am a very skinny person, people jockingly call me anorexic sometimes, so ive gained a little wait which is fine with me. But for some reason, my face has gotton bigger. like my cheeks and everything...is actually becoming fat! ive always had a round face with sorta pudgy cheeks...but it's getting bigger like swelling! i really dont like it, is there anyway to get it back down to normal size...like eat less or something? please help im despreate! thanks

When you put on weight, it happens through your whole body, including your face.
There is no way to lose weight in just your face, you have to lose weight in general.

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Ok so i'm 13/f/UK and i've got a boyfriend who goes to the same school as me and we love eachother lots etc... but he asked me to go into town tomorow and i said that i wasn't sure what i was doing tomorow (but i'm actually free all day). I mean, i'd love to go but i haven't told my parents about him yet (but i'd only tell my mum though). But the thing is.. i don't know what to say to my mum.. (to go into town).
I was just wondering if anyone had any good ideas..(?)
I've got a few ideas..
-Ask my mum 'can i go into town tomorow please?' and hopefully she'll say yes and who with? and i'll say 'just this guy from school' and then it'll all come out etc.
-To tell my mum that i was aranging to go into town tomorow with one of my friends..
They any good?
But please tell me of any good ways to tell/ask my mum.
Thankyou all in advance. :)

Be honest with her. A parent always respects your honesty. It shows maturity.

Tell her you have a boyfriend from school and he wants you to go with him to spend the day in town.

If she ends up saying no, well at least you can be rest assured she will surely know that she can trust you to be honest about where you are going, what you are doing, and who you are going with the next time you ask to go somewhere.

But you don't want to whine and beg and plead. That throws all maturity you have shown out the window.

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What's the name of the type of photography where you only take pictures of nature and objects? Thanks.

Nature photography:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nature_photography

Still life photography:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Still_life_photography

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Can what you eat affect your dreams?

I've been having dreams lately that's REALLY out of there and I just started thinking about what I'm eating (healthy things).

And then I started remembering shows when people wake up and say "Gosh i should stop eating ___"

I don't know if that is fact or myth or what.
I have heard that certain foods can trigger certain types of dreams. For example: supposedly spicy foods can trigger nightmares.
I've never, personally, connected what I ate in a day to dreams I had that night. Usually something from the day sticks in my subconscious memory and it comes out in my dreams. For example: I see a fallen tree in the woods, don't think anything of it other than the initial observance, yet that night I have a dream a tree has fallen on my house. Or something along those lines.
I don't know, maybe that's just confusing and doesn't even answer your question.

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19/f
him 18/m

my boyfriend almost always initiates sex. like 8 out of 10 times he initiates it. he wants it all the time, probably about 6 times a week. since he wants it so much him initiating it has become a turn-off for me. and when i say no then he begs. he's not forceful like abusive or anything close to that but he'll sit next to me and beg for at least half an hour and no matter how many times i tell him he doesnt realize that begging isn't a turn on. when i do initiate sex of course he's thrilled but its rare because im normally so sick of it from all the other times we do it.

how do i get it through his head that when he begs its a huge turn off.

When he starts begging, ask him if he is a dog, because dogs beg for treats. I would, but then again, I'm just bold like that. I mean, seriously, if a guy was being rude to me by begging like that, I would be rude right back by saying what he is acting like.

Don't give into him when he begs, because like a small child, when he begs and gets what he wants, he will get worse every time knowing you will eventually give in.

He's 18 years old. Of course he wants sex all the time, but he needs to realize that the more you do it, the less exciting it is.
He needs to also realize that when you don't want to, then, dammit, YOU DON'T WANT TO. To beg you to have sex when you don't want to is disrespectful, selfish, and rude.

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i'm 15, and yes im going to be having sex with my boyfriend in the next week. the problem is, i cant even imagine a penis going into my vagina because, well the hole is so small. no, i have the right hole. when i finger myself, i can barely get two fingers in! how is a penis supposed to fit? i need to know, so please help!

It just does because it is meant to.

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Less than a year ago, I bought an LG enV from Verizon Wireless. A few months ago the battery connector broke, so they told me that I could pay $50 & replace it with a refurbished phone. I did that & less than a month later, it was lagging & both end keys stopped working. It also would shut on & off randomly. I took it back to the store & they replaced it with another. I had that phone for a few days & one of the main keys on the front were falling out completely after only using it to text. I took it back & explained to them that this is my third enV & if I can get a new model. They said no & that they will only change my model if its my third refurbished phone. My third refurbished phone will be coming in the mail soon, but I'm concerned that it will fall apart like the others. Every refurbished enV I had did not work at all & I haven't even had them a month. If something goes wrong, what should I do? Go back to the store & ask for a new model? Or are they going to give me a hard time about it? I do not want another enV. Would it be better to just call customer service? Thanks!

This will be your third, right?
They said after the third phone falls apart (which seems to be the trend...) then they will replace it with a different model, right?
If something happens to this one, demand the new phone they promised to provide. If they don't supply that phone, call customer service and complain about it.
It sounds like their refurbished phones are junk. You paid $50 for a phone, and they give you crap that doesn't work.
For $50, you should be able to get a good phone OF YOUR CHOICE. It's not like they are giving these to you free of charge, you paid them good money for a phone that actually works.
If you end up having to call customer service over this, be sure to tell them that if they don't straighten this out, then come contract's end, you will pay a monthly fee to another provider who will actually give you a phone that works.
Otherwise, you are paying monthly for a service you can't even use.
That is a bigger waste of money than the $50 you spent on a crap phone.

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13/Female


ok
so i am having a new years eve party atmy house

it is from 9 - 12:30 am


so i need party ideas
♥order pizza
♥listen to music
♥buy confettii and blasters and stuff
♥bring out board games

there will only be like 2 boys there
so no spin the bottle or 7minutes in heaven or anything like that

also no drinking... i am only 13

please please please give me some ideas


i will rate and comment

You could have everyone gather around a table and play poker.
What we do is play "dealer calls it" poker. After every hand, the person to the left becomes the dealer of the next hand.
Dealer calls the variation of poker to play (such as 5 card draw, 5 card stud, 7 card draw, 7 card stud, 7 card no-peek, etc., etc.), and wild cards, if they even want any.
We generally play all night, especially if there are several players. We bet with chips (only for fun bets- no money), but if you don't have chips, you don't have to bet.
Or if you want, you can take $20 or so (depending on how many you'll have playing. The more people, the more rolls of change), to the bank and get rolls of change to use as bets. (It won't break you, because the change should be returned at the end of the game.)

Here is a link on how to play poker, and if you want to learn variations, there is a link to click. My personal favorite is 7 card no-peek, and my husband's is Jacks to open, trips to win (which one hand of that can go for quite a while).

http://www.pagat.com/vying/poker.html

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Ive got a problem. I really lke my neighbor. Im 20, hes 27. I have known him for about 2 years now. The problem though, is he is engaged and very much in love with this fiance. I realize that, and would never do anything that would ruin his realtionship with her, but I still cant quit thinking about him. Im writing to see if anyone could give me ideas on how to get past my feelings for him. I dont think I could just up and quit talking to him, as I realy value the friendship that we have and we come to eachother for support or advice when we need it. I think I feel the way I do for him because we spend a lot of time together, seeing that his finace does not live with him, and he gets bored living in a house by himself. Just today we went and dropped off movies (he had rented one, and I had also, and they were due back on the same day, so him and I went together.) Then afterward he was all like "whatta ya buyin me for dinner?" I just rolled my eyes and laughed at him....He askes me this pretty much on a daily basis and always gets the same answer. We eneded up going to arbys and while we were in line he was whining because he had a ton of dog hair on him, and again I just laughed and told him thats what he gets for having two dogs that shed. Well I was standing in front of him in line and the next thing I know he is hugging me from behind, trying to get some of the dog hair off of his shirt onto mine. He also likes to play fight with me a lot.When we go places and end up eating he will usually pay for my meal, or if we go out to the speedway he will usually pay for the admissions ticket. I feel guilty having him pay for these things, as I have the money to pay for it, but he sees it as "no big deal." Then when we're at my house he always sits right next to me....we have this big huge couch (I still live with my parents) and he sits right next to me where our legs will be touching. Do you think he possibly likes me?

I shouldnt feel the way I do for him, but with him flirtng with me (or what I think of as flirting) I get caught up in it and forget that Im supposed to be "not liking him in that way" Ugh.

I know Im in a "Catch-22", by wanting to get past my feelings for him, but still wanting to be friends with him. I know my first step would be to stop spending so much time alone with him, but where do I go from there? Has any one ever been in the type of pridicament? How did you deal with it? Any tips on what I could do? Thanks, I Appreciate it!

Sorry if it seems like I strayed off topic, took forever to get to the point, or was really random....Guess I just needed to get this off of my chest. Thanks for reading though.

Well, I don't know if this helps you any, but think about him flirting with you...
Now think about how you would feel if you were his fiance and he was flirting with the neighbor girl, buying her dinner, and taking her out...
I know that doesn't change your feelings any, but you should keep in mind that he is obviously the kind of guy who has no problems playing with other girls while he is planning to get married.
That's not the kind of guy you really want to like, is it?

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we're planing to move in together and we are both excited... our parents are fine with it and all but i just have a question... as a girl is there anything anyone could tell me about moving in with a guy? i mean the quirks? when we sleep together the light? the bathroom? habits? i don't know, all the stuff that bug married people when they start to get to know each other at first? i don't know how things are going to be and i am very careful and hate the unknown so i'd like to be prepared for these things so I'd like to have some kind of first hand experienced person telling me how it's like... i really love this guy and don't want to loose him over tiny dumb things... i really believe he's the one...

Well, first off you need to get it out of your head the worry of losing him over dumb things that really don't matter.

He may leave the toilet seat up, but hey, you leave it down (That's what my husband says). He may hog the covers, but you may hog the bed. He may have his quirks, but you have them too.

The life you two are about to share will be much easier if you don't sweat the small stuff.

And no matter what everyone else's experiences are, you will still be going into a realm of unknown. Every person is different, as is every experience.

Just always keep in mind that most things aren't even worth fighting over.

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I have been dating a man for a little over 2 years. I invited my him to my house for Christmas Dinner which he accepted, but because his back was hurting he did not come. After dinner with my kids and my Mom I took a plate over to him. Once I arrived at his house he wanted to go to visit some of his friends and his brother. While at his friends house he had to make sure that I took pictures of him with his friend and her family. That of course was after he shovled their sidewalks for them. Then at his brother's house I had to take a picture of him and his cousin by marriage whos husband passed away several years ago. He has always told me that she has had a big crush on him. She started flirting with him the moment that we arrived. She made it very clear that she was currently single. This annoyed me. When we got back to his house he made the comment of "Well I at least got pictures of who I wanted" I felt a little hurt because out of the 2 years that we have been together we have had one picture taken of us together. Hard to believe, but true. Yet, he did not ask anyone to take our picture together. Heck he didn't even take one of me alone. After all of this I really felt like me and my family were not worth much to him. Am I being over sensitive?

I don't think you are at all.
My question is, why is it he can go to all these places and have his picture taken with these other women, yet his back is too hurt to come to dinner with your family?
I strongly suggest you sit down with him and tell him your feelings on this.
I know I would, because I would be hurt to no end over this whole deal.
It doesn't have to turn into a fight or anything, and if it does, walk away and try again after things have cooled off. Just say this is how I feel about what went on this Christmas, and ask him why he behaved that way.
The problem can't be worked out if he doesn't know what is going on inside your head.

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