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Am I being over sensitive?
I have been dating a man for a little over 2 years. I invited my him to my house for Christmas Dinner which he accepted, but because his back was hurting he did not come. After dinner with my kids and my Mom I took a plate over to him. Once I arrived at his house he wanted to go to visit some of his friends and his brother. While at his friends house he had to make sure that I took pictures of him with his friend and her family. That of course was after he shovled their sidewalks for them. Then at his brother's house I had to take a picture of him and his cousin by marriage whos husband passed away several years ago. He has always told me that she has had a big crush on him. She started flirting with him the moment that we arrived. She made it very clear that she was currently single. This annoyed me. When we got back to his house he made the comment of "Well I at least got pictures of who I wanted" I felt a little hurt because out of the 2 years that we have been together we have had one picture taken of us together. Hard to believe, but true. Yet, he did not ask anyone to take our picture together. Heck he didn't even take one of me alone. After all of this I really felt like me and my family were not worth much to him. Am I being over sensitive?
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He is a worthless idiot. Even if these people are the world to him, he should have not let know about it. He has no manners or feelings for you and you kids. Move on, coldly, quickly, dont look back- teach him a lesson.
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No you are not at all over sensitive. This guy is either totally stupid or totally mean. Which guy would you rather date? Hopefully neither one. Two years is a long time to waste, so don't waste the next two days being with this guy. You need to assert yourself and ask him why he treats you this way or at least tell him that you don't like it and that it must change. However, unless you see dramatic results and effort being made, I would forget about him. There were a lot of lonely single men that would have jumped at the chance of going out with you over the last two years...it may take a little time to connect with one of them that meets your standards, but do not give up and do not make it impossible to find happiness by staying with someone who does not value you or the relationship. Start the new year off right by doing some emotional housecleaning and dump the expectations that this guy will ever change or improve.
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everybody gets a little jelious every once in a while... so i dont think that you are being over sensitive.
you just have to understand that he just wants his family to feel loved for the holidays. . . but that is No reason for him to leave his girlfriend left in the cold. maybe you should tell him that you are glad that him and his family are close, but you believe that holidays are also for people to feel the romance and love between each other.
i hope this helps
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I don't think you are at all.
My question is, why is it he can go to all these places and have his picture taken with these other women, yet his back is too hurt to come to dinner with your family?
I strongly suggest you sit down with him and tell him your feelings on this.
I know I would, because I would be hurt to no end over this whole deal.
It doesn't have to turn into a fight or anything, and if it does, walk away and try again after things have cooled off. Just say this is how I feel about what went on this Christmas, and ask him why he behaved that way.
The problem can't be worked out if he doesn't know what is going on inside your head.
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