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Help Me....Please???
Ive got a problem. I really lke my neighbor. Im 20, hes 27. I have known him for about 2 years now. The problem though, is he is engaged and very much in love with this fiance. I realize that, and would never do anything that would ruin his realtionship with her, but I still cant quit thinking about him. Im writing to see if anyone could give me ideas on how to get past my feelings for him. I dont think I could just up and quit talking to him, as I realy value the friendship that we have and we come to eachother for support or advice when we need it. I think I feel the way I do for him because we spend a lot of time together, seeing that his finace does not live with him, and he gets bored living in a house by himself. Just today we went and dropped off movies (he had rented one, and I had also, and they were due back on the same day, so him and I went together.) Then afterward he was all like "whatta ya buyin me for dinner?" I just rolled my eyes and laughed at him....He askes me this pretty much on a daily basis and always gets the same answer. We eneded up going to arbys and while we were in line he was whining because he had a ton of dog hair on him, and again I just laughed and told him thats what he gets for having two dogs that shed. Well I was standing in front of him in line and the next thing I know he is hugging me from behind, trying to get some of the dog hair off of his shirt onto mine. He also likes to play fight with me a lot.When we go places and end up eating he will usually pay for my meal, or if we go out to the speedway he will usually pay for the admissions ticket. I feel guilty having him pay for these things, as I have the money to pay for it, but he sees it as "no big deal." Then when we're at my house he always sits right next to me....we have this big huge couch (I still live with my parents) and he sits right next to me where our legs will be touching. Do you think he possibly likes me?
I shouldnt feel the way I do for him, but with him flirtng with me (or what I think of as flirting) I get caught up in it and forget that Im supposed to be "not liking him in that way" Ugh.
I know Im in a "Catch-22", by wanting to get past my feelings for him, but still wanting to be friends with him. I know my first step would be to stop spending so much time alone with him, but where do I go from there? Has any one ever been in the type of pridicament? How did you deal with it? Any tips on what I could do? Thanks, I Appreciate it!
Sorry if it seems like I strayed off topic, took forever to get to the point, or was really random....Guess I just needed to get this off of my chest. Thanks for reading though.
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try to talk to other guys, and think about the negatives he has haha! It might take awhile, but it will pass,and you will move on. But for now you have to look at the possitive side of things, and focus on something else. It will get alot easier when he moves away with his girl. GoOd LuCk!!!
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Well, I don't know if this helps you any, but think about him flirting with you...
Now think about how you would feel if you were his fiance and he was flirting with the neighbor girl, buying her dinner, and taking her out...
I know that doesn't change your feelings any, but you should keep in mind that he is obviously the kind of guy who has no problems playing with other girls while he is planning to get married.
That's not the kind of guy you really want to like, is it?
ygs-29/f
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