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living together
we're planing to move in together and we are both excited... our parents are fine with it and all but i just have a question... as a girl is there anything anyone could tell me about moving in with a guy? i mean the quirks? when we sleep together the light? the bathroom? habits? i don't know, all the stuff that bug married people when they start to get to know each other at first? i don't know how things are going to be and i am very careful and hate the unknown so i'd like to be prepared for these things so I'd like to have some kind of first hand experienced person telling me how it's like... i really love this guy and don't want to loose him over tiny dumb things... i really believe he's the one...
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Well, if you're about to move in together, you probably have a pretty good idea of his basic personality. That is, I'm sure you already know whether he's a slob, a neat freak, or somewhere in between. It's the quirky little habits that will only reveal themselves after you've started living with him.
The main thing to remember is: you're both coming from different home environments, and you're both used to doing things a certain way. Chances are, some of those things will be different, perhaps even opposite extremes. For instance, you may need total darkness to sleep, and he may need a light on.
The key is compromise. You both have to be willing to accept that neither one of you can have your way with everything.
There will be some things that you can reach a happy medium on. For example, if you both HATE cleaning the toilet, you can take turns to make it fair.
But some things will have to be either your way or his way. If you need silence to fall asleep, but he needs the TV on, one of you will have to give in. So be selective in what you demand. If there's a certain thing you absolutely MUST have your way, you have to be willing to let him have his way with something else.
So talk about this before you move in. Let him know that you don't want to fight about silly little things, and make a deal with each other that you'll both be willing to give and take in order to make things work!
Good luck!
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Well, first off you need to get it out of your head the worry of losing him over dumb things that really don't matter.
He may leave the toilet seat up, but hey, you leave it down (That's what my husband says). He may hog the covers, but you may hog the bed. He may have his quirks, but you have them too.
The life you two are about to share will be much easier if you don't sweat the small stuff.
And no matter what everyone else's experiences are, you will still be going into a realm of unknown. Every person is different, as is every experience.
Just always keep in mind that most things aren't even worth fighting over.
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has he never stayed the night at your house before? if you dont know some or most of his quirks then maybe you shouldnt make such a drastic step in your relationship.
In my past expieriences with moving in with a boyfriend I knew what I was getting myself into. I had him stay at my house for the weekend, I was able to see how he lived and I was not pleased. He was a complete slob, I had him move in anyway because I loved him but all we ended up doing was fighting because I was a neat freak and he was a pig.
I would start out with a weekend sleepover and observe his behavior before having him move right in
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