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he begs
19/f
him 18/m
my boyfriend almost always initiates sex. like 8 out of 10 times he initiates it. he wants it all the time, probably about 6 times a week. since he wants it so much him initiating it has become a turn-off for me. and when i say no then he begs. he's not forceful like abusive or anything close to that but he'll sit next to me and beg for at least half an hour and no matter how many times i tell him he doesnt realize that begging isn't a turn on. when i do initiate sex of course he's thrilled but its rare because im normally so sick of it from all the other times we do it.
how do i get it through his head that when he begs its a huge turn off.
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well i cant sympathise ....i want sex ALL the time and so does my boyfriend, its easy for me to orgasm and i get addcited to the feeling so i love how he wants it a lot. i also love feeling close to him all the time. I would take it as a compliment :P xx
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Take him to this site, show him the question and answers to it and tell him you wrote in. That's the easiest option. You need to tell him exactly what you told us here in your question.
Let him know it's not a turn on and no amount of begging will get him what he wants. Tell him you aren't interested in having sex every night of the week. He can masturbate, it won't kill him to do so. Let him know that this is actually killing off the relationship. Don't cave ever.
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When he starts begging, ask him if he is a dog, because dogs beg for treats. I would, but then again, I'm just bold like that. I mean, seriously, if a guy was being rude to me by begging like that, I would be rude right back by saying what he is acting like.
Don't give into him when he begs, because like a small child, when he begs and gets what he wants, he will get worse every time knowing you will eventually give in.
He's 18 years old. Of course he wants sex all the time, but he needs to realize that the more you do it, the less exciting it is.
He needs to also realize that when you don't want to, then, dammit, YOU DON'T WANT TO. To beg you to have sex when you don't want to is disrespectful, selfish, and rude.
ygs-29/f
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okay so heres what i think of this... i am a female and i am actually a nympho... i mean i love sex all the time... so i know how he feels... i understand that there is more to a relationship and that is probably your biggest point... but honestly if he doesn't understand why you don't want to all the time... explain to him that you just want to cuddle or go hang out... whatever it is that makes you happy and if he still begs give him some lotion and tell him that your done with him... you could get him to go to relationship counseling but it's all in what YOU want... good luck
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