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im 12 and i am 5 weeks pregent and no one knows apart from the dad of my baby hwo is 14 and it bad anoth that my mum an dad dont like him and i really want to know what to do at the moment i just want to kill my self.

Don't kill yourself. That is not an option. You would be taking two lives away. Just come out and tell your parents. Yes, they will be mad. Yes, they will scream. However, they will help you through this. You should also go to Planned Parenthood to get help to figure out what to do. You need to tell your parents so they can take you to get ultrasounds and such. The doctor will help you decide wether you should abort it or not. Your body may not be able to handle the pregnancy because you're young or it won't be able to handle the abortion. No matter what you need to tell your parents. They will give you the support you need even if they hate the father.

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i have gone and had my ear priced at the top and i dont kown how to tell my dad with out him going mad

My friend just did the same thing and she has the same problem. The easiest way to tell him is leave him a note before you go out with your friends somewhere. That way he can cool off while your gone. He is still going to be mad but he will choose his words more carefully and won't be as hard on you.

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i really like this guy he's in 6th year im in 2nd i've liked him for at least a year.. he is good lookin , but he's known to be a bit of a freak, i dont know why , i've never spoken to him before,but we have this eye thing goin on, why does he sendin me mixed signals?? i cant help liken him ,, help write back soon , Allyx.x.x..,

Start talking to him. It's the only way anything is going to happen. Do you both have AIM? If so get his screenname and start talking to him online. Or start e-mailing him. If you have seriously never talked are you sure he knows who you are? Anyway communication is the key.

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any cool sights where I can meet cool people.. besides myspace?

xanga.com
livejournal.com
habbohotel.com
frappr.com
deadjournal.com

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Lord help me.

I am a 13 year old girl, and for a while, I considered myself "straight." Now, I'm really freaked out. I have a big crush on my lesbian English teacher (FYI, she's made it public that she's a lebian---I'm not just assuming). I'm so scared. Having a crush on a teacher is bad enough, and on a female teacher is awful. Mind you, I don't have a discrimination against homosexuals, but I don't like to think of myself liking someone of the same sex. I feel like such a creep. Does this make me a lesbian as well? I mean, I've liked only guys of my own age (but those were huge, long-term crushes), but still...I am so scared.

If anyone at school finds out about this, my life is over.

~Stella Luna~

Don't worry. You are 13. At one state in their life everyone wants to experiment with the same sex. You are lucky you are going through this stage young. You still have a lot of time until you figure out what orentation you are so don't worry. And if you don't want anyone to find out about it it's simple: don't tell anyone.

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hey
I was wondering, how come everyone all of a sudden hates preps?
Like my friends and I were at the movies tonight. And i hate labeling myself but im deffinetely in the prep catogory. And all these punk emo girls were mocking us and and following us saying " like omg im like such a prep like omg" And all this other stuff. MY friends thought they were jelous but i dont know. Does anyone know why everyone doesnt like preps? Like on myspace people are posting bulletins saying " Wow i hate preps" and all this other stuff. Im just being myself,and who i am.
Does anyone know? thanks

It's because everyone's in to labeling now. It's really annoying. The deffnition of prep to everyone is: rich, snobby, popular, mean. Therefore, people assume every prep is like this which is not true. A lot of my friends are preps and obviously I don't hate them because they are my friends. Seriously, now-a-days you buy one Abercrombie shirt and you're a prep. Don't listen to people. Be who you are. There is nothing wrong with being a prep. Screw these born haters.

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I usually go on this website alot called habbohotel. And I know I have never given out my email address to anyone on there! EVER! But now on msn, this guy I knew off habbohotel is talking to me telling me I give him my hotmail address and I haven't its scary what should I do!

If you know you haven't, then you really haven't. The best thing to do is block this person and get a new e-mail account. It's about the onlything you can do. Is there anyway to block someone on this website? If there is block him. Cut out all possible contact you may have with him. Just a warning he could know a lot more about you than you think. If you still live with your parents tell them. By the way if you want a g-mail account tell me your current e-mail address and I'll send you an invite. No matter what you do delete your e-mail address somehow.

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I have to do a community service project for school and I can't think of anything to do. People are already doing the whole nursing home scene; and like donating stuff to charity. Anyone got any clever ideas? Thank kiddos =]

Maybe clean up a road. It's pretty easy. Most people wouldn't think of doing that so it would be orginal. It would only take about a day too.

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I'm 13 and I'm not sure who to be. Sometimes I feel like cuddling with my stuffed animals like a little kid, but sometimes I want to have a boyfriend and be a teenager. Is this really stupid or what? I'm not sure which I am...

You could be both. Most 13 year olds have stuffed animals and boyfriends at the same time. It's not stupid at all. I love my stuffed animals and I'm 14 and an experienced grinder. Just be who you want.

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I am almost 15 years old.My boyfriend is 16 turning 17.I dont get along with either of my parents. Is it normal to want to have a child at this age? I talked to my boyfriend about it he doesnt help to much. He has told me he would do anything i want because he loves me so much. I told him i think i would want to wait till i am 16 at least. At the moment i dont no i feel like i want to take hold of the responsibilty now.Ill Rate High. Please help me extra ideas etc would be help full thank you.

Yes, it is normal. However, you cannot do it. You would be cheating your baby out on a good life. You're so young and you have your whole life ahead of you to have a child. At 15 you have not matured mentally enough to have a child (I'm not saying you're immature, just young). Wait until you have a steady job and can live on your own.

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i really dont know who i am...

sometimes i feel happy and i want to wear designers and bright colors.

sometimes i feel stupid and i feel like wearing baggy pants and black.

sometimes i feel like a laid back skater punk and i want to wear DC and converse....

tough one, right. can i keep switching like this??? WHAT DO I DO!

Keep switching. It's who you are. You don't need to choose just one, most people don't.

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I recently read a few pages of my gf's journal (I know, I know, I shouldn't have) and she mentioned another guy that she is interested in. She writes about how happy she is when she sees this guy. Should I confront her about it or just see what happens?

No, you should not confront her about this. You made the mistake by reading her journal. You really have no right to know that so you don't have a right to be angry at her about that. If you tell her she'll be very mad. You invaded her privacy so if you tell her it's defininetly going to be over. She may still like you more than this guy so don't blow it.

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well, im talking with this kid and were about to go out. we go to the movies and dinner a lot but where else is there to go besides bowling dinner and movies? thanks!

Here are some ideas:

Mall
Ice/roller skating
if you have under 21 clubs around
just taking a walk
school dances
to each others houses
th McDonald's playpen (believe me playing around in there with him will be fun)

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This question has been bothering me for quite sometime now...

If someone is depressed why wouldn't they want to reach out and get help?

Thanks

Hey, my cousin is suffering serious depression right now. She can't reach out because she doesn't think to. There is a chemical imbalance in depressed people's brains that make them think differently. They need someone to get help for them.

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this guy I like asked me to my schools valentines day dance. I accepted, but im nervous becuase of one thing- grinding. Everyone will be grinding with eachother and Ive never done it before and im not sure if i would feel comfortable with it. My question is, what do i do if wants to grind with me? x0x

There are two ways too grind. Since you're not too comfortable you should do it by him grinding from behind you. You just stand there and he'll go behind you and grind with your butt. Or if you feel more comfortable then grind on each others legs. Put your legs between each others legs. Like your right leg then his left then your left the his right. And you two face each other. It's very confusing. However, if your not comfortable at all with it then just tell him you don't want to.

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hey there!
im a girl scout and im at the point where i have to start thinking of ideas for my gold award. for those of you who dont know what the gold award is .. its a project that takes 65 hrs to complete(including planing, and actually doing it). it needs to benefit the community in some way. does anyone have anyideas what i could do?

p.s. the people participating are going to need some kind of motivation to do this.

Well, what I'm doing for my silver is fixing up the local resthome. It is literally disgusting and a horrible enviorment for them. Try fixing up that or voulenteering at a local pet shelter or something. If you have some kinda of park by you try to beautify it. Clean up and plant flowers and install benches. A great motivation is setting a reward for yourself if you complete it. For example, throwing a huge party when it's over with.

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A couple of nights ago at a school dance, the boy I like and I were getting pretty close. We danced together like the whole time (only fast dancing though). I was asking him about who he liked. I told him to tell me online but he said he was grounded so I'd have to call him to talk. I told him he could just tell me in school. However, now I want to give him my number. But how do I go about doing it? He's not in any of my classes so it may be awkward. Thanks in advanced.

Woah, the exact same thing is happening to me (that's why hottcheerie answered like that...she thought it was me). However, I got an idea about how to give it to him. Are you friends with someone who's really good friends with him? Maybe you guys could three-way talk.

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Everytime I post a question, it gets deleted because it's rated level 1 by the moderators. But I have perfect spelling, grammar, and punctuation. Why does it keep being deleted?

It could be because your question has been asked a lot. Search to see if a question has already been asked before you ask it.

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I live on my own and I'm out of groceries. Tomorrow I have to go shopping, and I never know what to buy. I always end up getting junk food or fattening stuff. Can anyone give me a grocery list that has healthy, sensible foods that I can prepare nutritious meals with? My budget is about 80 dollars.

I'll split this up for you so it's easier.

Breakfest:
Cheerios (anyone can make cereal!)
Eggs
Yoguart
Pop-tarts (nott he best for you but it's fast and easy

Lunch:
Sandwhich stuff- low-carb bread, non-pasturized cheese, cold-cuts, and whatever else you like on it
Soup
Salad

Diner:
Spagetti (high in carbs but very easy)
hamburgers
Chicken
Potatoes
Freezer Pizza

Snacks/dessert
fruit salad
oatmeal cookies
pickels
more yoguart
low-carb ice cream

Drinks:
Water
1% milk or soy milk
water
Crystal light drinks
water
orange juice
water (yep I know I said it four times but its the best thing for you)

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