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questioning...
Lord help me.
I am a 13 year old girl, and for a while, I considered myself "straight." Now, I'm really freaked out. I have a big crush on my lesbian English teacher (FYI, she's made it public that she's a lebian---I'm not just assuming). I'm so scared. Having a crush on a teacher is bad enough, and on a female teacher is awful. Mind you, I don't have a discrimination against homosexuals, but I don't like to think of myself liking someone of the same sex. I feel like such a creep. Does this make me a lesbian as well? I mean, I've liked only guys of my own age (but those were huge, long-term crushes), but still...I am so scared.
If anyone at school finds out about this, my life is over.
~Stella Luna~
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Hey,
Omg, I am going through the same thing as you are. I keep questioning myself if I am gay. To answer your question though, liking a lesbian, doesn't quite make you gay. Your a fresh teen, and your still trying to find yourself. You may have a small crush on your teacher, but that could just be a phase. I used to think that if I thought a girl was cute, I was a lesbian. But it's not true. If you DON'T want to become a lesbian, then you should find other things to keep you busy. This isn't anything to be afraid of, just remember that w/e your prefrence is people shouldn't judge you. And most iportantly don't judge yourself. Liking girls is not a bad thing. All I can say is, Chill Out. Focus on your english-not your teacher. And if you still have these feelings for girls, then you might just be curious. I say, fulfill your curiosity. If you don't wanna do that, try some online quizzes that test your gay-osity lol. Hope I helped. :)
♥Momo
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A lot of the time people like other people because they like them. Lets say you found out that someone by the name of George had a crush on you. You'd view him differently and think of him in a different way. You may end up having feelings for him, but what would have happened if you didn't know that he liked you? Probably nothing. You didn't have a crush on George. All that happened was that you found out he liked you. Going from that, you just found out that your teacher likes girls. I'm in no way implying that she likes you, but in your mind, something has changed about her. You are looking at her in a different way and you are mistaking your changed perception about her for a crush. It's almost like you have put her in the "datable" or "guy" category of your mind. What if you found out that a guy you had a crush on was gay? You'd likely stop liking him and put him in the "girl" or "undatable" category of your mind. So what happened to the crush? You mistook your changed perception of the guy for not having a crush on him anymore. Ever had a dream about kissing or doing something like that with someone that you didn't like? Just because you're thinking about it doesn't mean that it's true! I hope that I didn't overly confuse you with all that. Liking a female teacher that's lesbian doesn't make you a lesbian. This is the time in your life where you will be figuring this kind of stuff out so naturally you should be thinking about it. Remember too, that even if you do end up being lesbian or bisexual, it's okay. Your life isn't over. There are lots of people out there that like the same sex and if you don't tell anyone no one will find out so nobody can pick on you. Eventually you'll have to let people know, but it's good to keep something like that to yourself for awhile. Other people your age aren't mature enough to handle that yet. I hope I helped you and good luck.
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your fine your just young it may just be that you think shes pretty and you like the way she teaches or something you will get over it soon.
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Don't worry. You are 13. At one state in their life everyone wants to experiment with the same sex. You are lucky you are going through this stage young. You still have a lot of time until you figure out what orentation you are so don't worry. And if you don't want anyone to find out about it it's simple: don't tell anyone.
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oh dont worry about it.. your just going through an akward stage right now. most people go through it. if you are more attracted to guys then everything is fine. i mean it might not even be a crush on the teacher.. you might just admire the way she teaches in a non creepy way. but hey if you are a lesbian which i dont think you are theres nothing wrong with that either <3
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