tasuki's advice column

hey does anyone know a different type of "blog" journal thing besides myspace and xanga.. i want something different from everyone else.. but kinda along the same.. sorry if its confusing ill rate high!

livejournal is the best, since it's the original and um...the best!

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hey, i'm a fourteen year old and i've never kissed a girl in my life, idk how, and i'm too shy to do it, a lot of people think i'm good looking and i've had a lot of gf's, i've just been too shy to do it, and i don't know how, so, yeah, any tips?

You're just gonna have to take a deep breath and do it. There's no other way. Don't worry about being bad, you'll get better the more you do it.

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ive never made out with a guy im 14
and i dont know how can any one help me like what do i do and how and please no rude comments and answers

thx in advance

Who cares? Why do you HAVE to make out with a guy? What's the point? It's just licking and moaning and getting his SPIT all over you and even in your mouth. It's disgusting. Plenty of people older than you have never done it. Why rush things? When you get the oppurtunity to make out with a guy, just let it happen and no, you don't have to do anything specific, there's no guidelines and nobody can teach you how you will just have to DO it and learn from the experience. But still, don't rush it, it will happen eventually for now just go buy some new shoes, which trust me, is a lot more fun than making out.

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Alot things have happened to me lately..my parents split..my dad moved out..and my friendships are coming and going. I'm depressed. How do i get over this?

You can't get over it right away, it's natural to be depressed about it for a while. But just try to look at the brightside, and concentrate on all the wonderful things in life. If that doesn't work, think about all the people who have it way worse than you...women who are sold as slaves to pay their family's debts...babies with AIDS...lobsters...it might help make you think, "Hey. My situation isn't really that bad!"

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Is Limewire legal? My friends have been telling me it is, but I'm not so sure.

It's even more illegal than your face.

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hey my sister just got over cancer and she gets all of the sttention!! she was always like the "specila child" so i wasnt surprised when my mom and dad kind of forgot about me when she got sick. one night they just left to go to the hospital cuz she had a fever but they didnt tell me they were leaving so i woke up and knowbody was in my house (except for my neighboor). they didnt think i would care if they left and they didnt want to wake me up but bull crap. i dont really care i would have liked to know. and then one night we were out to eat with my grandparents and one of my grandpa's friends were there he went to introduce my family and he left me out!! i was sitting right there next to him and he said every one else's name but he didnt even say any yhing about me!! i know my sister had it bad but i mean would it hurt someone to say "hey how are you doing today"?? my friend recently died of cancer and we were really close. her brother would stya with us when she had to go to the hospital so when she was sick i didnt want him to feel like i did and i tryed to talk to him as much as i could about his sister. when she died people came up to him and said it is kk i no how you feel but they dont no how the siblings of cancer paticents feel!! i love my family but they just dont no any thing about me!! i dont think they care any more. what should i tell them? please can you help me??

It's probably not that they don't care, they just might think that you're too sad to talk about it. I mean, your friend just died of cancer and then your sister had it too, so they might be thinking "oh she's depressed, we shouldn't try to upset her." But by not talking to you, they are upsetting you. If nobody is talking to you...talk to them! Go to your mom and TELL her how you feel, because then she won't KNOW.

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k so i have this friend who is really annoying and a lot of our friends know it. we used to have group get to gethers with everyone. shes never invited anymore but she always calls me and stuff for sleepovers and i just cant say no or tell her how shes annoying.dont say that whole sit down with her shit im not interested in that kind of advice..:D thanks

Well since you don't want to be a reasonable person and sit down and talk with her...hm...tell her she sucks! Those are your only legal options.

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iS THiS LEGAL ??

No! And Limewire will give you viruses, too! I learned that the hard way!

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what's giving head?

You chop your head off and then give it to someone.

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I am very concerened. One day i went to my boyfirend house and him and 3 friends were there.and they ad sex with me all 4 of them. i think i am preg nate i got my period tho but like i have sore boobs and morning sickess and whenever i masterbate i like feel ouch al the time. what why uhh im confused!

You sound pregnant to me. What I don't understand is how come you don't get why you're pregnant. You're pregnant because you had sex!! I'd go to a doctor right away to get an official test, and also get tested for STDs. Cause four guys, that...I'm sorry, but your boyfriend and three guys who you sound like you didn't know very well, that just screams high risk of HIV. Definitely go to a doctor.

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Okay, I don't know what to do. Should I shave my bikini area? I've shaved it before and it was really itchy and painful. I don't know whether it's normal to be shaved or not. Is it?

You can shave it or you can't, either way is normal. Of course, it's more natural not to, but some people like it hairless. I don't do it, because I'm a total klutz and I'd probably cut myself really bad and bleed to death. But if you think you can handle it, then by all means do it.

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do you know any good cartoom porn sites?

No. I never was much interested in cartoon porn. Only Harry Potter porn. And um...classic novel porn, too. Jane Eyre is so hot. But cartoon porn is just...ugh. I don't really go for that. I mean, it's cool if you do, but personally I don't like it. But if you are really, really bored you might want to check out homestarrunner.com. It isn't porn, but it is animated and it's pretty friggin funny. And I guess you could masturbate to it, if you wanted to. I never have. But you could.

Okay, well that's all we have for you today. Bye-bye!

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What does an orgasm feel like?

Um...well...it feels orgasmic. Yah. =)

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ok so there is this counselor at my camp and she is gross. she talks annoing, not to mention she has sweaty armpits with wet all around it everyday at camp! i would expect a teenage GIRL to be a little more sanitary. i mean boys its ok but its just disturbing with girls. ick! and it is also kind of gross the kind of bra she wears. she has like e cup boobs (if there is any lol) n she wears like an a cup!!!!!! its like pushing into her skin and its even more gross in the front. im the camper, she is the counslor. i dont think that sounds right. what can i do to tell her about this gross problem without actually telling her? i hate going to camp now!

Okay, first of all, clear your mind of all prejudices. Get rid of male/female double standards. It's okay for a guy to be disgusting but not a girl...this is not a good way to think...now, take a deep breath and say to yourself that you're just going to ignore it. Accept that she's a disgusting pig, and move on, and don't look at her so much! And maybe you can talk to one of your friends when she's around and say how you don't really like to wear bras because they're mostly too small for your breasts, and maybe she'll get the idea not to wear bras, which I know is still gross but atleast better than bras that are too small. Maybe you can do the same thing and say like, "I wear men's deodorant because women's is weak and doesn't stop me sweating."

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I'm 12/m and sometimes when i'm around girls my penis starts hurting and gets really hard...is this normal?

Nope. You're a freak of nature.

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why is virginity and breaking virginity such a big deal? like oh, you had sex for your first time. whats so big about taht? all it is is having sex except the first time. im serious can someone tell me why this is so big?

I dunno. Our whole culture is waaay too sex-obsessed.

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this is a very embarrising topic but i have a gf who has done numerous things to me (sexually) the problem is i truly dont know the perfect way to finger a girl.....very embarrassing but please help

It's okay not to know. How could you? You've never done it before. Well, it's basically something that you should learn for yourself, but here is a hint: don't just stick your finger in. Kind of rub her vagina, slowly (but not too slowly), and go in circles and sort of work your way in. If you still have problems, ask her for details on what she wants, cause really, how are you supposed to know what she likes unless she tells you?

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Okay, I asked the discharge question like an hour ago. My period just came but i dont know how to tell my mom cause someone from her work is here so shes working with her. How should I tell her, i dont wanna call her upstairs, that'd be too obvious but i dont wanna go downstairs to tell her either! HELP!

You don't need to tell her right now, just go in the bathroom and put a pad in your panties...then when that person is gone you can tell her.

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hi, ive been going out wih my girlfriend for like 4 months now. we are in love. now i know what your gonna say, its only been four months. well, screw you. if your gonna say stuff like that please dont answer, because you dont know the whole story. anyway, im a virgin, and i want us to make love. i am waiting until i am sure who i want the first person to be, and ive found her. im not nervous of i or anything, but i want to know it is a good idea. I mean i love her, i really do, and i dont want things to get screwed up because of this. shes had sex before, so she warns me that you can take back your first time, and i know that. but im sure, i just want outside input... thanks

Go for it. But be safe!

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