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i don think any one in my family likes me
hey my sister just got over cancer and she gets all of the sttention!! she was always like the "specila child" so i wasnt surprised when my mom and dad kind of forgot about me when she got sick. one night they just left to go to the hospital cuz she had a fever but they didnt tell me they were leaving so i woke up and knowbody was in my house (except for my neighboor). they didnt think i would care if they left and they didnt want to wake me up but bull crap. i dont really care i would have liked to know. and then one night we were out to eat with my grandparents and one of my grandpa's friends were there he went to introduce my family and he left me out!! i was sitting right there next to him and he said every one else's name but he didnt even say any yhing about me!! i know my sister had it bad but i mean would it hurt someone to say "hey how are you doing today"?? my friend recently died of cancer and we were really close. her brother would stya with us when she had to go to the hospital so when she was sick i didnt want him to feel like i did and i tryed to talk to him as much as i could about his sister. when she died people came up to him and said it is kk i no how you feel but they dont no how the siblings of cancer paticents feel!! i love my family but they just dont no any thing about me!! i dont think they care any more. what should i tell them? please can you help me??
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Ok, here's what to do. Try talking to your parents. Explain what they have been doing and that you miss being a part of their lives. Tell them that you waant to be a someone in your family. When you have dinner, try saying those. Make a schedule with them. For example,schedule fishing time with your dad in the weekends and schedule a mother daughter movie time. Let me know what happens.
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It's tough dealing with an older sister. I have an older sister and she travels all the time so I don't have a choice. I always have to go with them. Just talk with your parents and they'll understand what you're going through. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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They neglect you because you can't spell. In your free time - which, you should have a lot of because no one pays attention to you - read a few books and investigate the riches you may find in the dictionary.
Your Feedback: A lot of the errors you have aren't a result of a disability. Don't try to guilt trip me you wiley broad.
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you need to tell your parents exactly what you just wrote. if you dont tell them what the problem is, they cant fix it. understand? your parents havent forgotten about you, and your family does care. you just need to sit them down (probably without your sister) and tell them EXACTLY whats on your mind. let me know how everything goes.
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well i cant say i kno how you feel all the way but i sord of do my parents, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and sisters, all ignore me and they spend so much time with my sisters, i dont really say anything cuz i know they arent going to listen, i deal with alot of stress and have gained a ton of weight in the last 3 years,, but i am going to tell you that you should talk to your parents, ask them if they could each spend sometime with you atleast once every week and tell them you love them and want to spend time with them
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wow it must be hard for you. i know how you feel.
you are sad for the thing that happened to your sister but you have to be treated as an equal child too.
so here is what you do. Set aside a time for a family meeting. say its really important and you must make a time for it, and if they dont listen then go talk to a trustworthy adult and tell them about your problem and ask them to help you.
and if you do have a time for meeting then you have to let them know how you feel left out and all the things that made you feel left out to support your story.
and you have to do this soon because believe it or not, they dont realize you are hurting unless you tell them and i hope this works for you and i hope i helped~
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okay well they deffiantley love you, and they probably think you are too sad and depressed to even talk about it because you're friend just died of cancer and your sister just went throught it...but uhmm if it is really bothering you then you should try talking to them like if you are sitting down with them, tell them how you feel about it...but i gtg hope i helped ...Dzenana
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First of all, I'm sorrry you're having such a hard time in your life right now. I'm sure it doesn't seem like it but it will get better.
Although families aren't supposed to have favorites, they often do. Other than talking to your family and letting know how you feel, there's not much you can do. Even though I don't know exactly how you feel, I have been in the situation of feeling slighted because more attention was given to a sibling. It finally took me and my other sister flat out telling our parents "Yes we love her too and understand she really needs you right now, but WE NEED YOU TOO."
If someone forgets to introduce you at a gethering, speak up. A simple "Hi I'm Sarah (or whatever your name is). Pleased to meet you." It's possible that the person simply had a brief memory loss. You know how it is when you think you did something, but you're not really sure.
I hope this helps. Even though it seems like nobody cares, believe me someone does. Good luck and best wishes.
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aww im sorry !! im sure your family loves u just as much as they love your sister but i think you need to bring it up one day when your mom or dad or both are sitting down and just like ask them why dont you pay attention to me?tell them how you feel about it i've had to do that before to my mom especialy my dad though and now their always talking to me and asking me how my day was so yeah try it and let me know if things pan out =) ly , hope i helped
*ciao*
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It's probably not that they don't care, they just might think that you're too sad to talk about it. I mean, your friend just died of cancer and then your sister had it too, so they might be thinking "oh she's depressed, we shouldn't try to upset her." But by not talking to you, they are upsetting you. If nobody is talking to you...talk to them! Go to your mom and TELL her how you feel, because then she won't KNOW.
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I don't think its that they don't care. I think they just have so much else on their minds that they are just not thinking right. Let them know how you feel. Tell them you are feeling neglected and why. I am sure they don't realise what they are doing. :)
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