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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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There's a group of girls at my school who have been cutting themselves. I talked to my counseler and he said that it was the right thing to tell him, and he would have me remain anonomys. One of the girls and she found out from my counseler. She got mad at me, and she said that I should mind my own buisness. Was she right, or was that the right thing to do?!? Please help!!!!!!!!!

Lily

It was good of you to say something especially if someone is putting themselves in danger. It is to bad she found out it was you though. You were only tring to help her, and now she is mad at you. I would talk to your counsler again and ask him how exactly she found out when you told him in confidence. By law he has to keep your name anonomys.

A bunch of my friends keep complaining that they do not have dates for prom. They have even stated that they will not go if they do not get a date. Some of them have gone so far as to say that they will not go unless someone asks them.

I, for one, have a date, because I got off my sorry ass, swallowed my pride, and asked my best guy friend to go with me, because I'd rather have fun and have fond memories of prom than ruin it by going with anyone I'm remotely romantically attached to - I learned my lesson at my ninth grade social. Whenever my friends complain and I tell them that maybe they should do something about it, they pretty much tell me to shut up because I have a date and "I'm not one to talk." Which is fine, but why complain to me when I took care of the situation already?

I really want my friends to be there, and it's not like they don't like my date or anything. This is the only time of their life they'll get to do something like this, so why don't they want to go? I understand that money can be an issue for some people, but not going because you don't have a date is a stupid reason to give.

What should I tell them the next time the situation arises?

You don't need a date to go to prom. Tell them they should just all go in a group together. Most people hardley dance with their date, you dance together with all your friends. The prom is a big party, you don't need a guy to have fun at it! Tell them to get over themselves and have some fun.

My sister, who is almost 20 years old, is with a guy who is totally wrong for her. He never takes her out on dates, or buys her anything, (not meaning that material things are that important but come on...), and the second she gets her paycheck he turns around with his hand out, telling her that he deserves some money for some reason or another. She is in college right now, and I can tell that this guy is ruining her life. She has dropped a lot of classes just because she doesn't have time for them because she has to go help him with his kid (from a previous relationship)or some other chore that she really has nothing to do with. He wont let her hang out with her old friends, because they might make her "disloyal" to him, in his opinion. I keep telling her that she needs to back off and find a better guy who has her interests at heart, but her response is "you haven't been in a relationship like tihs, when you're in love you have to make certain sacrifices" I don't know, maybe it's just my opinion, but when you're in love, you normally don't break up at least twice a week. (4 times so far since the beginning of April...today is the seventh...) Am I overacting or am I right in trying to convince her to ditch the guy? And how do I go about convincing her?
Concerned Sister

Well all you can really do is keep telling her you are worried about her relationship and that you care about her. But don't give her too much crap about her boyfriend, because it's her boyfriend, and if you affend him, you affend her. She might end up getting mad at you. so just be careful about how you approach telling her that her boyfriend sucks.

Unfourtantly it is her life, not yours, and she has the right to make the choices she does.

dear, any one
one of my friend is a gay/lisbaian
person i dont think its tht bad but it goes alout against my religion is it wrong of me not to care even tho my religon says that they will not go to heaven at least thts wat my mom says but im 16 and 16 a very confussing age
*The confussed 16 year old*

If your her friend, be her friend. It will be God that will judge her life in the end.

Please tell me what you think of the song. It is alternative/pop so please tell me, i need a song for an audition and i might sing this

This is who i am, This is who i wanna be
I can be an eagle soaring through the breeze,
I can be a mermaid swimming in the seas,
But this is who i am, This is who i wanna be,
And i won't change just for you, cuz i need to be me

Chorus
You always look at me like i'm who they say
And trying to tell me to be this way,
Did you ever think i may be too much
to do a certain dance (a certain touch)
This is who i am this is who i wanna be,

I'm not a supermodel,
I'm not your barbie doll,
Don't expect from me
A beautiful fantisy,
Cuz i'm already beautiful,
Inside my soul
But this is who i am, This is who i wanna be

Chorus
Guitar solo
In the mirror is where she comes face to face with her fears
Her own reflections now fatal after all these years,
All of her life she has tried to be something besides herself,
Now she's someone else with regret

Thanks a bunch!
Lizzy

I think you have some real talent, but no matter how good your song is I don't know if using it for your audition is the best idea. Use a song that the judges are familar with, they will relate to you better, they will listen to you rather that listening to a new song. Once they see your talent, you can say you also write and show them this. They will apprciate it more I think. But that is just my opinion.

I just started dating this guy and he is really sweet in all but he never talks to me in school or on the phone.And I justed found out that he was just using me to get his ex-girl friend out and I just dumped him.Was that a good choice?because now all my friends have boyfriends and I dont, and all the guys are like takin'.What do I do? and did I make a good choice?

-cheated and used

Yes, you made the right choice and you know it. He is a jerk and that is why you dumped him. I hope you realize that boyfriends are not a neccessity of life. Just because your friends have a guy doen't meen you have to have one. Your not going to find a good boyfriend by snatching up the frist avalible guy. Wait for a guy that you actually like and share the same interests with before making him your boyfriend. You don't want to be associated with a bunch of jerks.

hi please can u help,i met my now hubby 4yrs ago,from the start our relationship was a lie all his lies,he lied about not being married but separated he lied about his debt he hid from me,& as you can imagine this tore us apart but then after a few weeks we managed to sort it all out & work it out but in the short time he was gone i found out he had a one night stand so he says but i think he was actually living with this girl,im 36 with 2 teenage kids,we got over that & i married him i say i got over it i dont think i ever have,the problem is im so unhappy,hes lazy,he hates hard work he hates doing odd jobs around the house,i have kidney failure & im not able to work & we need him to bring the money in do over time look for another job,i would think more of him for doing so,but its like talking to a brick wall ive tried everything,hes a taker but he gives nothing in return,i dont think he loves me like he says he does either by the way he treats me,i reckon he came back as it was convinient for him,he says no but im not so sure,he has no freinds i get no space or privacy.please help me many thanx cindy.female.

I am so sorry, it sounds like you have been through a lot. You say your husband gives you nothing, but he is the one providing for you. He must like you in some regard if he is the one sticking around supporting you and your children. I don't think he will ever change, so if you want out of this unloving realtionship you need to start to fend for yourself. Do you have any family you could live with for a while. Can't you get social securtiy if you are unable to work because of a dissability? If you want your life to change, you have to make it happen. Stop being dependent on your husband, otherwise nothing will ever change.

I don't wanna clean my room! should I?

It depends, if your parents are telling you to, then you have to cause it is their house. But if not, then who cares, live like a slob.

I have a 3 year old daughter with an UNCONTROLIBLE temper and she slaped my friend in the face what should I do?

Consistancy will help her learn the difference between right and wrong. Next time she gets upset, let her know that it upsets you, tell her no, and sit her down by herself for 5 min. If she gets upset again, do it again. I am not saying that you do, but don't spank her or anything, if she is slapping you don't want to let her think that hitting is accaptable when mad.

my mom has a friend and her daughter erased my game on my gameboy and I almost beat the game
how can I confront her?

That's upseting, my brother has done that a time or two to me. There really isn't much you can do. Just ask your mom if she could keep a better eye on her friends and their children when they are playing with your things. And if you know they are comming over put away things you don't want them to touch.

I want a boyfriend but no one wants to go out with me, i found out that me crush back at my old school before I moved would've gone out with me because my friend that still goes to my old school told him what should I do? Sincerly, The new girl

Just feel good knowing that he would have gone out with you. Unfourtunataly you have moved away, and so must your heart. Since you are at a new school, I would worry more about making friends and making a positive impression with your new peers rather that trying to find a boyfriend.

I just moved here and we have neibors and a boy that is my little sisters age and they are both 5 years old and we have to be to him and she doesnt like him and she told him that she doesnt like him and then he said,"you wont get no kisses from me."

Signed,
confusedGirl

Hey confusedGirl, you've got me confused too. Who cares what a 5 year old says, just don't let your sister play with him if he is not nice.

Ok I have my own room and its great but ever since I moved out of my sisters room she is taking all my stuff out and planning how it made her so much happier and hauled all my stuff out she is acually happy im moving out!!!!!

Signed,
My own room blues

It's not like you are moving away, you moving to a new room. She is just excited to have her own space to make her own. It's natural to want to make something your own. Why would she want to keep your things in her room? Isn't that why you moved out of the room, so you could have your own space? Now you both have your own space! Be happy for eachother!

I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and now I just found out that he's gay. Do you know if he could be lying to just make me jealous or grossed out? I don't know what his intentions are...

Why does it have to be about you? Maybe he is gay, and has no statment whatsoever to send to you. Who cares what his intentions are, he isn't your boyfriend anymore. Move on.

I want to get breast surgery to make my boobs larger, but I wanted to know what you guys think. Should I get breast surgery? I am only an A cup right now and I don't feel comfortable wearing tank tops or any clothes that show my real size. I want to make them at least a B cup. If I do decide to get surgery, is who should I consult to get on with it? Has anyone already got surgery who can tell me the price and the side-effects? Thankyou for your help

I think most boob jobs look very unatural, and usually unflattering. Have you tried a Wonder Bra? I would look into other alternitives first before ploping down $5000 or more for slightly bigger boobs and scars. I could think of much better ways to spend the money.

i have been sleeping with 5 guys for the last 3 months and they dont know about each other. Recently my best friend and i got into a fight and she told 3 of them about each other. Now i am 1 month pregnant and i dont know who the father is. The guys that know about each other now dont want anything to do with me and i am really hurt. I dont know why they wouldent want a beautifull sexy girl like me in their lives. Please help me in deciding what to do.

Well every action has its consequence, doesn't it. I think you should have the baby, and then give it up for adoption because it sounds like you are too selfish and not responsible enough to raise a child.

Hey im a boy and 13 so theres a girl i like and she likes me. And im tryin to find a way to ask her out, because she doesnt have any messengers i dont think and im to shy to ask her on the phone or in person.What do i do?

-confused

Hey I know how hard it is when you are shy, but you can do it. Ask her in person, you are going to have to be able to talk to her if you want to go out with her. And if you know she likes you, then what do you have to be scared of? Swallow your nerves, be confident in yourself and ask the girl out. You'll be glad you did.

ok

Um, what question are you referring too???

I have a crush on a guy who I call him jerry he doesnt like it what should I do.Should I say hi Should I tell him.

He doesn't like that you call him Jerry or that you have a crush on him? I don't quite understand.

If he doesn't like you, than I would take that as a clue to move on.

Their is a boy I like and their is a three year age difference. He said I'm too young. Am I really? He's only two grades higher than me, but that is my brothers best friend. Do you think it would be wrong to go out with him?

When you are older you will find that age doesn't really matter. But for kids, a year or two can sometimes make a big difference. You probably are too young for this guy you like right now, especially if he is your brothers best friend. He doesn't want to date his friends little sister. So don't feel too bad. If a guy two grades younger than you were to ask you out what would you say?

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