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i have been sleeping with 5 guys for the last 3 months and they dont know about each other. Recently my best friend and i got into a fight and she told 3 of them about each other. Now i am 1 month pregnant and i dont know who the father is. The guys that know about each other now dont want anything to do with me and i am really hurt. I dont know why they wouldent want a beautifull sexy girl like me in their lives. Please help me in deciding what to do.
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well no offense but sleeping around isn't beautiful or sexy. It's slutty. Now I'm sorry about the baby, but unless you can be sure to provide a good home for it under your care, you should probably give it up for adoption. And y'know, you seem insulted that your "boy toys" have turned on you, but helllooo??? Did it NOT occur to you that they're hurt too that you cheated on them? Sorry to be mean, but it's true. Oh and you should get tested for STDs. If you got pregnant, were you guys not using protection? Then you and all your partners are at risk.
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Lady,ur in BIG trouble. Depending on how old you are, i dont think u should be sleeping with 5 guys!!! It's called the Maury show!
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im sorri gurl but u got a serious problem!!! i havnt done anything yet so i dont know how u feel but i think u should keep the babi and chose the guy u like the most. n please dont get an abortion but itz ur babi
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ok, so far no one has given you any real counselling, so I'm going to try:
1. Did you use a condom every single time you had sex? A dental damn for cunnilingus if there was any? Protection, protection, protection EVERY SINGLE TIME? If the answer is no, then you must go to a clinic and get tested for AIDS, and various other STD's and STI's that you are at risk for.
2. Have you been to the gynocologist? If not, for heaven's sake, go! It is for your own personal health and safety and that of the baby, should you choose to have it. Also, if you choose abortion, you may need a referal from a gyno.
3. What are you going to do with the baby? From the sound of your question it sounds like you plan on keeping it, but you need to decide if that is the right thing to do. Can you support a baby for the rest of its life? Can you love it and care for it at all hours of the day and night, sacrificing your every desire to keep it warm and healthy? Can you provide for its health at all? Do you even want this baby? If the answer is no, then you might want to consider abortion or adoption. Many people posting answers to this said that abortion is evil, and many people share this belief, but depending on what country you are in you should have full legal rights to abortion if you want it. It is not in fact dangerous, it is a safe medical procedure that will not affect your future fertility and only you can decide if that is right for you. Not everyone is plagued by guilt, as some would have you believe, because abortion can be the right choice for both you and the baby. Talk to planned parenthood about this. www.plannedparenthood.org
Adoption is also a very real option for you. What happens is you contact an adoption agency during your pregnancy and tell them that your are however many months pregnant and that you wish to give the baby up for adoption. They will give you the names of couples or single people willing to adopt, and you will be allowed to choose the people/person to whom you will give your baby. In some cases you will be allowed to visit it and be involved in its life. That is usually the choice of the adoptive parents. This is all totally up to you. For more information on birth control, diseases, and abortion rights and procedures, here are some websites:
www.scarleteen.com
www.womenshealthcanada.com
www.womenshealthclinic.org
www.legaldirectory.ws
www.adoptionservices.org
I hope this helps you in some way. Good luck in the future.
And to some of the other people who posted responses to this question: What were you thinking? A pregnant girl came here looking for help and all you could think of to say is that she is a slut and that it is all her fault? You are not here to pass judgement, you are here to help people who do not have the answers. How she lives her life is up to her, and all we are here to do is help her make the right decisions in her times of crisis, that is, when she asks for help. She did NOT come here to be insulted and she is in a serious enough situation that I for one am ready to overlook personal disagreements with her lifestyle.
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they probably don't want u back because you lied to them.you have to do something about the baby because it's probabaly gonna be hard for the baby to grow up with out a father.but only concieted bitches like you have this problem it's your fault to. THE TRUTH HURTS.
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I feel bad for you but why would you sleep with 3 guys?? Now that you are pregnant you may have serious struggles in your future life! You need to talk to a parent or docter. Be more careful in the future......Because basically you cant do much (unless your parents agree to abortion *which is evil* or adoption...) Still, its your baby.
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This is a hard question. You had it coming. Get DNA samples when the babie is born.
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Oh my god...wow...*blinks*...D-do you even HEAR yourself when you speak...
YOU CONCEITED BITCH!
Go on Jerry Springer...
man...I feel BAD for your baby...
you asshole.
~WISH YOUR BABY LUCK~
*~gessyka~*
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Ugh! Ignore those insults and crap. Even I dislike them.
Anyway, you were sleeping with all five of them at the same time? If so, then maybe you shouldn't have gone behind their backs. Maybe some of them thought you two had something going on. It wasn't you that was hurt emotionally, but them.
If not, screw them. They just wanted a piece of you and end it there.
Your friend shouldn't have done that anyway. It was mindless...what kind of fight would make her do that?
Well, your beautifull and sexy, but what <b>good</b> did it do? Nothing. You shouldn't care about them now, but your baby.
Unless your going to abort it. But that is painful and dangerous - you hvae to tell your parents or whoever it is taht your living with.
You can also take a DNA test to see who the father is.
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You can always contact me.
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To me it seems you got caught up in your little game. Im sure the guys are hurting to nobody likes to be played. You just made yourself seem alittle sluty and right now you need to focus on your child and being there for the child and quit running to all these guys if your such a beatiful girl then why you wasting your life on some many men you desevere better but they did desvere way much then what you gave them. Friends can do that but you just have to get past it.. I mean it's better a friend tells them then one guy telling the other and then the whole town knows. I dont know dont worry about how they dont want anything to do with you cause you brought that apon yourself now you just have to deal with worry about who the father is, how you are going to support your child and you? What about were you are going to live? Work? Get money until you can find a job? QUIT WORRYING ABOUT THE 3 GUYS YOU CHEATED ON WHEN YOU JUST WILL MAKE YOURSELF IN A BIGGER HOLE.
Sincerely,
Angel
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Its your own fault!!! Duh!!
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you should not be such a BOPPER
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Well every action has its consequence, doesn't it. I think you should have the baby, and then give it up for adoption because it sounds like you are too selfish and not responsible enough to raise a child.
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Sleeping with five guys at the same time wasn't a particularly good idea. I really hope you were using protection, because all sorts of diseases can be transmitted sexually these days. To find out who the father is, you'll have to go to the hospital and have tests done when the baby is old enough to have them.
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I really really want to provide you with an honest answer from the bottom of my heart. But I can't. I read the terms of service and they don't like abuse. So I'll stay quiet.
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I'm sorry to hear that your life is falling apart, but if there is no father to take care of your child then you're going to have to face the facts and make a choice on whether or not to keep the baby. I'm sure that you are a very beautiful and sexy girl to have 5 men at the same time, but I would advise you to just follow your heart and let the guy do as they shall. If they want to leave you then maybe they don't love you enough to forgive your mistakes and you can't do anything about that.
~Joce
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I'm sorry to say but you shouldnt even be sleeping with 5 guys at once...YUCK , can you say aids!!!Its ur fault thats ur pregnant and dont know who the father. Have a little more common sense, And second of all thats something that shouldnt be said to anybody, cause if it got out AT ALL.You'll never hear the end of it..so if I were you i'd get my act and priorities straight..
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i think that you need to stop thinking that your soooooooo sexy, becasue thats the only thing they are. i think you need to change your image, does your mom know about this, how old are you, why do you do it¿
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WHy the hell are you sleeping with 5 guys in the first place? For any guy that is just a turn off when you find out so naturally they wouldn't want to be in your life not just because your sleeping around but because your pregnaut. They only thing to do is get a blood test when the child is born and make the father pay his support and get a test for stds because you could have them. And trust me for future reference on your part most males 15+ don't care if you a beautiful sexy girl because you have been around and a girl with experience is ok but a girl that has been around the block more than a few times is not worth time, and if she is pregnaut she comes with a past, and a past is something males don't do to well with.
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Wow! what were you thinking. Were you using protection. Well if i was one of those guys i wouldn't want anyhting to do with a cheating women either. ok now that i have expressed my opinoin down to business. Do you have a roof over your head? How old are you? Try to get a blood test done from all of the fathers you are goin to have to tell the other guys what is goin on. If you were using protection then either there was a mess up with the condom or you forgot with one of them. If you forgot try to remember who all you did when and with protection or not. Try to contact a help line. Do your parents or Gaurdian know. I hope you will respond to me. With somw of these answers,. Good Luck
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