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My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.


I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

advice

Well, there's this guy, omg where do I begin....I love him sooooo much, and I know this for a fact because in the past I've had two bad relationships, and I vowed to myself that I can never love a man again....until I met, well let's call him Jack. Jack and I work together, and we've actually gotten alot closer throughout the time we've worked together. I've liked Jack now for 7 months now. I found out a while back that Jack liked me too, but I never really believed the people who told me because I've been rejected quite a few times. So yeah, I'm like deeply in love with him, and where I work @ we're about to get laid-off, but he said we're gonna keep in touch and besides we live close to eachother. So should I break the ice? Our management staff (cause we're both on it) has this blog thing, I write on it how I feel about a certain someone being jack, be he dosen't know it. But everyone thinks we date, we act like a married couple, and we just basically enjoy eachother in eachothers presence. We're almost like best friends, cause he's been there through alot... so I want him to know how I care about him but I dunno how, and i'm afraid that I'll loose what I already have with Jack. Do yall think there's a possibility that we could date?

There's obviously a chance if you are already friends. Just tell him how you feel, and ask him out. (=
♥ Melissa

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ok so my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months, but we've been close friends for about a year. when we first got together, everything was great.. we were so happy together!!! but then over the summer i went on a family vacation for alomost a month (i kept in touch with him as much as i could while i was gone, but i was overseas and it was hard) and when i got back (on his birthday! wouldnt think that was a good present? lol) he acted like he didnt care about me anymore. and it gets worse.. im a senior and he graduated last year, and he works two jobs, so it makes it hard to see him. when hes not working he "forgets" to call me and goes fishing or some other manly thing with his friends. now, i dont have a problem with his friends, but for some reason, his friends dont like me. whenever my boyfriend is with them, he acts like he doesnt like me either. for example, the other night he called me when i got off of work, and then in the middle of my sentence i could hear his friends come over and hes goes "look b!+

Explain to him how you're feeling. If he says he's going to change, or try harder, give him a couple days. If he doesn't react to that, or says he's going to change then doesn't, you need to end things. You deserve someone who will treat you right nomatter who they're around. (= Hope it works out!
♥ Melissa

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sorry it's so long, and please look at this in an open-minded manner, and i'm not looking for answers that say you're waiting for marriage so i'm a slut. i'll rate high if you tried, and low if you're ignorant.

my ex-boyfriend broke up in august and aren't dating exclusively, but we still hook-up from time to time. hooking up meaning having sex. we had sex today, and then i went to the movies with one of my close guy friends. we went back to my guy friend's house and we had sex. i really want to forget it ever happened and not tell anybody, though. the guy promised he wouldn't tell, and i trust him. the thing is, if it gets out somehow, and my ex-boyfriend finds out, he'll hate me. should i tell him or just let it slide? by the way, i'm on birth control and i only have sex with a condom.

If you aren't having exclusively dating your ex, then he can't actually do anything about it. He's probably going to be mad though, because that's what sex does. If you're going to be hooking up with him, then you need to tell him about this other guy. It's not fair to him, relationship or not, that you're having sex with other people and not telling him. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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i seem to be targetted by vandals at my home
whilst on holiday vandals climbed over an 8' gate and broke a window in my vehicle - police didn't bother to come out!

I have had missiles thrown down the drive hitting my rear door and garage

Banana skins dropped at the top of the drive

and an 8' cane thrown at the drive gates

this has been going on for some months now - I have never seen anyone to be able to identify them

not sure how to react - do i just ignore it and hope they get bored?
I am on my own and getting very restless about this I can't understand why i am being targetted

any suggestions would be gratefully received.

You need to call the cops. If they don't come to your house, go to them. Tell them what's going on. Something should be done & it shouldn't be going on.
♥ Melissa

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I'm a senior and I just cannot get into school this year. I already have 7 absences and school has barely been going on for 2 months. My skipping school doesn't get in the way with my grades though. All through high school I've been in honor classes and gotten nothing less than a B. What it is messing with though is me graduating or not. They only let you make up a cretin amount of EAs and at the end of the semester I might have too much. I need to get over this senioritis. What can I do?

You need to realize that you aren't going to get out any sooner by skipping school. In fact, that's just causing more problems for you. Calm down, and realize that you have to wait just as long nomatter how much time you spend skipping.
♥ Melissa

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How can i losen up my back like strech it more so that i can do a back walk over?

Do backbends, splits, handstands. If you aren't already taking a tumbling / gymnastics class, try to take one. They'll start you on cartwheels, roundoffs, back/front walkovers, back/front handsprings & tucks. It's a really good way to keep in shape and after a couple classes a back walkover will be REALLY simple to you.
♥ Melissa

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Is the independent variable the one that changes or does change?

Independent variables can stand alone without being affected. A dependent variable depends upon something else. [Normally the independent variable.]
♥ Melissa

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well me and my boyfriend broke up 4 or 5 days ago, and I talked to him today and I mentioned that I am talking to a x bf of mine,and he didnt sound very happy, I asked him if he was ok he said yea....but he didnt sound like he wanted me to date another guy, when he broke up with me he told me from his heart that I was the hardest girl to break up with cause he really cared for me, and he barely has emotional feelings for girls but he was CRYING on the phone when he told me that he just wanted to be close friends.... can ya please give me some advice on if he still cares for me...

I think he still cares for you.. but that doesn't mean he wants to DATE you. You need to talk to him and just ask; you DO need to know what's going on. So ask him!!
♥ Melissa

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Well see about 8 months ago I wouldnt care for you know like when My mom yells at me and then I met this guy that feels like he changed my life....but then we broke up and now my friends are worried that I will go back to being my oldself....they like the kinda new me... what do I do???

If YOU like the new you, keep acting that way. It shouldn't matter if the boy's around or not.
♥ Melissa

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Hi

i was wonderin if these types of bows would look weird in your hair
http://babygiftsupply.com/prodimg/bow-colors2.jpg

because some people wear bows like that but their like..different and i don't know where to get them!! do any of you know? and where can you get those little hair clips that are plastic and sparkly and they have them in different colors and their like little birds and flowers and stuff like that..if you please let me know where to buy the 1)bows 2) the hair clips ..please i really want them they are soo cute!! ♥ thanks a lot!

Okay, for the bows, just buy ribbon, cut it to the size you want, and tie it into your hair. Clips can be found at beauty supply stores, or places like Wal-Mart and Target. I suggest Claire's. (=
♥ Melissa

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how do you know for sure you are ready to have sex?

If you're asking, you're not. Period. You just know. If there's any doubt [which there obviously is] then don't do it. It's that simple.
♥ Melissa

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If you are cheerleader can you help me? I am trying to pull a lib but it just isnt working! The first day I did it, it was like clockwork, but the last 2 days have been a GIANT PAIN IN THE BEHIND trying to get it...please help!

First of all, you're probably just tired from doing it RIGHT. CONGRATS ON THAT BY THE WAY!! (= Just keep working at it, and make sure that you have a steady group and you aren't switching all the time; that'll make it harder to learn it right. But once you have it try switching around & practicing more. And try to do some drills, stuff like walk ins, on your own, just so you have the general idea.
♥ Melissa

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i'm going to a small party on saturday night, and i know there's going to be like kissing games.... what do i do if i have to be the one!? what if i'm too shy and stuff? also, any sites on how to help me like lear how to kiss right and stuff? haha thanks!

If you don't want to kiss, don't. (= Lol it's that simple. And don't worry about how, it'll come naturally! Just enjoy it (;
♥ Melissa

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hey how do i make something in word a landscape instead of a portrait ? i can use either microsoft word or microsoft works so if you answer please specify which!! quickly please if you know !!! =]

Microsoft WORD;

--> File
--> Page setup
--> Under view, click landscape
--> If you want it to fit on only one page, click "fit to" 1.

♥ Melissa

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I've always had this view on cheating. I never understood why people would cheat. I always thought that if you wanted to be or do things with someone else then why not break up with whoever you're with? You obviously didn't care about them if you wanted to cheat on them.

I still think of it that way but I recently was in an incident were I made out with another guy. I completely went against in what I believe in. I knew it was wrong while I was doing it but I couldn't help myself. And at the time my boyfriend and I were not speaking. I know those are not excuses and I have no idea what to do know. I can't even talk to my boyfriend. He was supposed to come over today but I told him not to because I have a load of homework.

How do I handle this? 17/f

Well, you went against YOUR morals when you did that, and it's obvious you feel guilty. Try telling him, and explaining that you didn't mean to get yourself into that situation, etc. Good luck, please let me know how it works out! (=
♥ Melissa

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I really like this older guy and he likes me. The age difference is quite big, he's in his mid 40's and I am 27.
We both like each other and have been on a couple of dates, but I'm worried about other people;s reaction to us.
For example, we had many raised eyebrows when we went out to a restaurant together. Someone asked me if he was my father!!
Also other friends of mine that have met him don't find him attractive and don't know what I see in him. I've always gone for guys with nice personalities than good looking guys who were jerks. So what if he's a little overweight and going grey?
He treats me well and I feel like I can talk to him about anything.
What should I say to everyone who is trying to break us up?

If YOU think it's right, then go for it. It shouldn't matter what other people say. You're both adults, so don't let High School-like comments ruin your relationship.
♥ Melissa

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Alright. This is going to be extremley confusing. I'm in a relationship with this guy named *Tom*. We've been dating for 2 months. We only hold hands and cuddle. We don't make out or anything. Haven't even kissed. I kind of regard him as an older brother now.

Now there's this other guy, *mark*. we've been wanting to date for over 7 months, but couldn't because of different reasons. Now we want to go out together. We are fine to talk, cuddle, make out, and even do some physical stuff together. And I really care for him. Deeply.(BUT I HAVE NOT DONE ANY OF THIS WHILE I HAVE BEEN WITH *TOM*)

Now I recently, as in two days ago, met this guy named *Pat*. He's really sweet and fun to talk to, and he likes to treat me sweetly, kiss my hand, hug me, hold hands...but he knows i have a boyfriend. I feel so helpless. like it's not right to say no. He wants me to break with *tom and go with him, but I don't know...*mark* wants me to break with *tom* to go with him too..

I honestly don't know what to do.

I've gotten into a mess...

Please give me valuable advice....

I will rate high

Okay, if you're calling *TOM* an older brother, then he's obviously not the one to be with. If you get single and date *PAT* then you'll probably lose your chance with *MARK* because it would look like you were just leading him on the whole time. If you don't plan on dating *MARK* then TELL HIM, and date *PAT*. If you're going to date *PAT*, tell *MARK*, and appologize. Hopefully it works out, let me know what you decide please? (=
♥ Melissa

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Ok before this question i've asked another on similar but this question is like the sequeal to it. So the qustion before this was I still like my exboyfriend who now lives in L.A. and i'm practicly inlove with him but i'm only 13 so I finally took the peoples advice who answered this and got his number from his friend that I know. So know I really want to call him but i'm nervouse because after I broke up with him for a really stupid reason we havn't talked for like a year but I know he still remembers me because his friend told me that he would always talk good about me. So what i'm asking is should I call him and say that his friend wanted me to call you and tell you that he can't call you because he got grounded would that be good so then we can just lead on from there or what because I refuse and really don't want to say that I just called him just because I want a good exuse( i'm a shy person somtimes) Thanx will rate for helpfull answers( will rate high!)

Just call him, it doesn't matter why. If he asks, say you were just calling to see how he was doing. Don't stress so much about the reason, it doesn't actually matter that much!
♥ Melissa

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heyy im 13 and im 5'4 5'3 and i weigh 87 pounds i eat all the time and i play basketball and cross country and also tennis im relly concerened im underweight...could someone plz tell me
C H A S I T Y ♥

It's not a bad thing that you're underweight. If you're doing sports and eating healthy, it's fine. Enjoy it!! (=
♥ Melissa

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my navel piercing is really bruised i got it done a couple of months ago and it is still bruised i am pretty sure its not infected what is wrong with it and will the bruise ever go away??? :

Everyone's body is different. Mine stayed bruised for about a month or so. If you're worried, go see a doctor. (= Or your school nurse.
♥ Melissa

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