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Cheating
I've always had this view on cheating. I never understood why people would cheat. I always thought that if you wanted to be or do things with someone else then why not break up with whoever you're with? You obviously didn't care about them if you wanted to cheat on them.
I still think of it that way but I recently was in an incident were I made out with another guy. I completely went against in what I believe in. I knew it was wrong while I was doing it but I couldn't help myself. And at the time my boyfriend and I were not speaking. I know those are not excuses and I have no idea what to do know. I can't even talk to my boyfriend. He was supposed to come over today but I told him not to because I have a load of homework.
How do I handle this? 17/f
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Well, you went against YOUR morals when you did that, and it's obvious you feel guilty. Try telling him, and explaining that you didn't mean to get yourself into that situation, etc. Good luck, please let me know how it works out! (=
♥ Melissa
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Be honest. If you guys break up, well then you shouldn't have cheated on him. You're responsible for your actions, and this is a good time to learn. He might forgive you though. Some people out there somehow have it in them to forgive cheaters. So just be honest, lying to your boyfriend about cheating on him is like cheating on him twice.
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You need to let it go.
You know it was wrong and will feel some guilt over it for awhile.
If you really care for your boyfriend then why hurt him to ease your conscious? Just keep it to yourself.
The only exception would be if he finds out about it. Don't lie. Just don't volunteer something that will hurt him.
PS. Stay away from the other guy! :)
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Well you obviously feel guilty, and not sugaring the pill, you probably should. You set yourself high moral standards and failed to live up to them. But, fair enough, you recognised what you did wrong and feel bad about it. What's important know is that you don't back away from it. The worst thing would be to lower your own standards and make like it doesn't matter.
So you made a mistake- big deal, it happens, but you have to do face up to it. Are you gonna feel guilty till you tell your boyfriend? You might just have to bite the bullet and come clean. Like I said, everyone makes mistakes, so at least you can learn from this one (and in the long run kissing isn't the end of the world. It's not like you slept with the guy).
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Exactly the same thing happened to me- almost word for word! Basically you have two options: You tell him and be completely honest with him. You say that it was a spur of the moment thing and that you only did it because you had an argument and were not speaking. He may take it badly but then again he may be better than you imagine about it and you will feel better as you have been totally honest. The other thing you could do is not to tell him. Here you run the risk of him finding out from someone else which would be awful or having to hide it from him forever. However, if you're sure that this was a one off and you feel sure in yourself that it will never happen again it may be worth keeping it to yourself to spare his feelings. The question is can you do this? Personally, I had to tell my boyfriend as I would have preferred to be dumped than live a lie. Luckily he forgave me and all is ok again. Ultimately it's up to you- you have to question whether you did it because secretly you're unhappy with the relationship or because you were simply unhappy with that little argument. Good luck
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