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One for all...all for one...
Alright. This is going to be extremley confusing. I'm in a relationship with this guy named *Tom*. We've been dating for 2 months. We only hold hands and cuddle. We don't make out or anything. Haven't even kissed. I kind of regard him as an older brother now.
Now there's this other guy, *mark*. we've been wanting to date for over 7 months, but couldn't because of different reasons. Now we want to go out together. We are fine to talk, cuddle, make out, and even do some physical stuff together. And I really care for him. Deeply.(BUT I HAVE NOT DONE ANY OF THIS WHILE I HAVE BEEN WITH *TOM*)
Now I recently, as in two days ago, met this guy named *Pat*. He's really sweet and fun to talk to, and he likes to treat me sweetly, kiss my hand, hug me, hold hands...but he knows i have a boyfriend. I feel so helpless. like it's not right to say no. He wants me to break with *tom and go with him, but I don't know...*mark* wants me to break with *tom* to go with him too..
I honestly don't know what to do.
I've gotten into a mess...
Please give me valuable advice....
I will rate high
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Okay, if you're calling *TOM* an older brother, then he's obviously not the one to be with. If you get single and date *PAT* then you'll probably lose your chance with *MARK* because it would look like you were just leading him on the whole time. If you don't plan on dating *MARK* then TELL HIM, and date *PAT*. If you're going to date *PAT*, tell *MARK*, and appologize. Hopefully it works out, let me know what you decide please? (=
♥ Melissa
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Alright *Tom* seems like he would be an older brother. Get rid of him ASAP. But do it nicely. He may be hurt at first, but he will get over it and realize that you guys are too much of friends than to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Just tell him that you see him as a best friend and you want to keep him that way.
Also, *Mark* must really like you, for your looks, and wants in your pants. Not a good idea. There are way better guys out there honestly. *Mark* should of been patient with you and not done any of those things unless you guys were going out for awhile. Doesn't it seem kind of weird that he has all the time to do all of this stuff with you, but doesn't have the time to date you. He obviously wants one thing. He's not the kind of person that you should want to be with.
*Pat* seems like an all around sweetheart. I would choose him. He obviously is caring and wants to treat you like a princess, which is how guys should treat us girls :). I would choose him.
--BUT...follow your heart. Let it guide you. If you feel no chemistry with 2 and a lot with the other one, the one is the one you should go with.
I hope I helped and Good luck!!
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Okay, first of all, on Miliko's advice: No. I'm sorry, but real life doesn't work like that. You're not going to see fireworks explode when you see the person you'll spend your life with. This isn't a movie.
Now, your relationship with Tom seems to have never started. I mean, if you never kissed, you were more best friends than boyfriend and girlfriend.
Pat, on the other hand, seems to be moving in far too fast. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, but don't jump into a relationship with him without waiting to see if he's really interested in you, or if he's just a "playa".
Mark seems to be the one you like the best, and if he's interested in you, well... there ya go. I hope everything works out for you.
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If any of them were the one, you wouldn't have to ask.
In regards to your condescending comment, I want to add that you claimed you wanted 'valuable' advice. I assumed when you said 'valuable', you meant 'valuable' not 'tell me what to do because I can't think independently'.
My mistake.
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Go for the guy you like the most. Sure it might hurt Tom, but in the long run it'll hurt him more if you like someone else better. Follow your heart, not who will get hurt the least. Getting hurt is a part of life.
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well, it looks like the flame is gone for *tom*, so the first thing you should say is "life has been really hectic for me these days and i don't think that things will go too far with us and i'm really sorry because i have no other way to say this." or something..your break-up speech and see about *mark* and *pat* and look at their PERSONALITY NOT LOOKS..guys consider girls shallow when they go otu with somebody for their looks. personally, pick a guy who is fun and wont bore you because you seem like a girl who gets bored easily and make sure they are GOOD guys, no potheads or nazi lovers or something. it's all true what angelfire said..
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Dont listen to what your hands or lips want you to do. listen to your heart. Guys dont like girls that skip around and cant make up their minds what they want! Think about who would be the better of the 3. Dont choose 1 over the other because you want to get more physical with him. Look at every aspect.
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