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people don't like my older boyfriend
I really like this older guy and he likes me. The age difference is quite big, he's in his mid 40's and I am 27.
We both like each other and have been on a couple of dates, but I'm worried about other people;s reaction to us.
For example, we had many raised eyebrows when we went out to a restaurant together. Someone asked me if he was my father!!
Also other friends of mine that have met him don't find him attractive and don't know what I see in him. I've always gone for guys with nice personalities than good looking guys who were jerks. So what if he's a little overweight and going grey?
He treats me well and I feel like I can talk to him about anything.
What should I say to everyone who is trying to break us up?
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My parents are 12 years apart. I don't see anything wrong with dating someone that much older than you if you are in your mid twentys. If you really like him..go ahead pursue your relationship. My parents have been together for twenty years and are still madly in love.
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Tell them to SHUT UP! If you like this guy their opinions shouldn't effect you. If they were really your friends they would support you. Theres a difference between your friends telling their opinion once and shutting up or constantly ragging you about this guy. If you really like this guy who cares?? My grandparents had the same situation. My grandmother was 12 when my grandfather was 19. My great- grandparents from both sides hate the idea of my grandparents being together but they've been together since 1965. So Go For It!!!
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If YOU think it's right, then go for it. It shouldn't matter what other people say. You're both adults, so don't let High School-like comments ruin your relationship.
♥ Melissa
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You tell them nothing because it is not your responsibility to explain your private life to other people.
If anything needs explaining, it is the judgmental attitude and behaviour of people who need lives of their own to pay attention to.
If they do insult him in front of you or talk down to you, just use your wit and charm. Chances are, the same people who are judging you, do not have a stable relationship.
Never-the-less, you don't need to explain what you do to everyone. You're a 27 year old independent woman. If your friends are not supporting your decision, appreciate their honesty and move on. If they can't move on, give them a verbal swift kick in the ass.
The next time someone asks if he is your father, tell them he is your brother and then kiss him. It is always best to make light of a situation.
Think about it this way, if you had kids with him, whenever someone asked if he was your father, you would point to one of your kids and say '.. and she's my mother'.
A little moxie goes a long way.
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Hi There. I think I can sympathize with your situation a bit. I've currently been involved with a man who is 11 years older than me for a little over a year now. I'm 23 and he's 34.
I have always been on the mature side for my age. I experienced a lot during my 'wild' phase while I was younger and didn't really get into the college-type dating scene of hook-ups and picking up jerks at bars. He is definitely young at heart. He tends to be goofier than I am, and a lot of his friends are more towards my age. Somehow I think we meet in the middle.
My friends and family raised their eyebrows a little when they heard the description. Paticularly because he had been previously married and has a six year old daughter. But when they met him, and saw how hapy I was, they got to know him as a person and things got better. Not everyone is dying to see us walk down the aisle, but more and more people acknowledge we are in fact a good match.
The point is, he meets my needs. I am comfortable and happy around him, and miss him when he's gone. We live together and look forward to the future.
What is important is how you feel about him. Behind closed doors, that's all there is... you, and him.
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other people can tell you what they see, you decide if you want to take their advice, very much like this site.
Tell those people what YOU think about the situation, if they respect you and love you, they will have to accept you choice.
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Hi there!
First of all I'd like to say congratulations on finding someone you are happy with!!
Do not listen to what these so called "friends" and others say - it is your decidion and if they were true friends they would be happy for you whether he's 40 or 140!
You should try (I know it's hard) and ignore them and if they persist, despite seeing you so happy, then firmly tell them that it is none of their business and that by making these comments that they are upsetting you!
Stay happy and don't listen or take any notice of what Joe Public thinks, it's your life - not theirs!
Mel xx
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hey if you think you love him then shouldnt say anything to anybody and tell them if they dont like it o get over it.it is your life and you found somone to complete it so if they dont like it im sry to say but tuff shit i hope i could help you in any way
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don't even listen to them. love doesn't go by age & it isn't like you're in hs, and he's a senior & your like a 6th grader. you both are very mature & both are adults. you should date whoever you feel comfortable with and like/love whatever it is you feel about him. juss tell them that you're happy & that's all that should be said. you wouldn't want to let a great guy go juss because of what your friends er other people think.
-hope that helped!♥
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