I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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Does anyone know what song is playing in the beginning during the Mariah Carey clip. It starts around 0:18. I would assume it's Mariah, but I can't figure it out. The only word I THINK I can make out is "crazy." Here's the clip...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8FFAyrkbEs&feature=channel_page
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I'm a MC fan and that's no song of hers. I've typed up the song the word 'Crazy' on google, but didn't get very far but here is a link to some of the people with a song called crazy:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crazy
I hope this helped a little,
triquetra
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What are some classic Christmas songs?
Thanks :) (link)
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Depends upon whom you ask. For me, these are:
All I Want For Christmas Is You
Christmas (Baby Please Come Home)
Santa Clause Is Comin' to Town
Joy to The World
Hark! The Herald Angels Sing/Gloria (In Excelsis Deo)
God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen
Silent Night
O Holy Night
I hope these helped,
triquetra
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I'm going to study History, Sociology, Art and Philosophy as my main subjects next year...
but I was wondering..what careers/jobs would involve these?
I really enjoy history(not in a nerdy way), but I don't know about Sociology and Philosophy yet:P
Any help?
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Already, just looking at that list tells me that you've got a limited amount as to what you can do with those subjects.
Typing those into google came up with more or less one thing: teaching.
They're good subjects, but in the long run, you've not got a lot of options unless you teach what you learnt.
Personally, I think you need to re-think about these options and see which ones can get you a good job because I highly doubt that you want to go into teaching for the rest of your life.
Just out of curiosity, is this for A level? I ask because from what others tell me: history and philosophy are big essay subjects, not so sure about sociology but I'm sure there will be essays in that. Art...no idea but I'm guessing that studying/making/writing about sculptures will take up time as well.
I'm not trying to dissuade you, just show you that though the options may look good at first, they may not reap any benefit at all.
Talk to your teachers about your chosen subjects and see what they say.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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well, there isnt much music to it. but its like "tonight is the night.." or something.. and it is a rap song. or hiphop. whatever you want to call it. i was listening to it like non stop at a party but i got a little drunk so i dont remember much. but it seemed like ALOT of people knew it considering they were singing along with it. (link)
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Here are some songs which might be the right ones, I'm not sure:
http://old.yoursonglyrics.com/tonights-the-night-gonna-be-alright-rod-stewart/
http://www.tsrocks.com/r/redman_texts/tonight_s_the_night.html
Sorry I couldn't be anymore help,
triquetra
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ok so they think ryan likes me.. i dont think he does. like i ask his sister if he likes me and she says he does then or not and like i dont lnw if he does.. any tips to get him to like me or notice me thanks in advance i will rate (link)
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Why don't you ask him as to how he feels about you? I mean, clearly, the people whom you've been asking don't know anymore than you do and I think it isn't good that you try to make yourself known to him when he doesn't notice you or doesn't like you.
You can't get somebody to like you, it just doesn't work that way, but what you can do is to try and be around this guy more often and you know, be friends with him and see how it goes. The bottom line may just be that he likes you, but only as a friend and that is one thing which you must bare in mind.
I'm sorry if I couldn't be of anymore help,
triquetra
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this guy. We went out for about a year. I think i was inlove with him. When we used to fight, i would ignore him for a while because i didn't want to deal with him, then i would talk to him later after. days later. I miss him so much. he's told one of my friends that he still likes me, but i guess i'm not supposed to know, even his best friend thought that he mite still like me because he was talking about me a lot at his school...i still love him...i can't stop thinking about him...and it makes me super jealous to know that he seems to be doing fine without me....i'm just so depressed. Life is going straight downhill, and i'm hanging in there. I just need advice about this one issue. So one of my ex's friends called me saying that my ex told him to call me. And i didn't understand why. i was so confused. and at the same time it hurt me because it was like he was calling me a slut or easy or something. And i didn't understand my why he would call me a slut because we never did it. I'm not planning on that anytime soon. We just made out and kind of grinded on each other, and it was almost like we were doing it, but not really because our clothes were on...i guess this could be counted as a slutty, but...what do you guys think? just tryna get help and get myself up... thank you! (link)
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Do you honestly think that he would tell somebody to call you and tell you that you're a slut or things of that nature? Do you really think he's capable of that? Do you even know if your ex told his friend to call you? How do you know whether it isn't his friend just saying that? The answer to that honey is no.
He may look like his handling this breakup well, but that's just on the outside, inside, he may be feeling the same way about you: he can't stop thinking about you. And one thing which points that out to me is the fact that he talks about you. I know from experience that when you've got somebody constantly on your mind, you keep on talking about that person because you're confused as to why you're thinking about that person in the first place, even after a break up.
Talk to him about that call and see what he says and ask him whether it really is as to how he feels about you. Then tell him how you feel. I can tell that this relationship could still work, but only if the two of you are ready to take another shot at it and be a couple, not two separate people.
He needs to explain what he meant by what his friend said because it's not fair on you: he tells his friends that he still likes you, but then asks one of his friends to tell you that you're a slut, something isn't right there.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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14/f
There is this guy I've liked for a couple weeks...I found out he likes me. I never told anyone about it till yesterday. My friend kept asking me if I liked him because he liked me. He wanted to ask me out but he wanted to see if I even liked him. So he was supposedly gonna ask me out today but we barely even talked. I can tell he does like me. Just the way he is. And he did talk to me for a little but after that we didn't say much and he walked away. He said bye to me too. I really don't know what to do. I'm not gonna see him till Weds. Please help, I really need it! Thanks soooo much! (link)
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Firstly, don't worry about it. It takes a lot of courage to tell somebody that you want to go out with them and this can happen even if you love that person with all your heart and soul.
Secondly, are you sure that he likes you? I mean, it's good and all that your friend told you, but I think you need to find out from him yourself as to how he feels about you. I know that you said that you know he loves because of how he acts, but personally, I think it would be best that you talk to him and see what he says and take it from there.
All you need is patience and just wait until he's ready to ask you out.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i would really appreciate it if i could get some oppinions on my writing.
tell me things i could do better,
actually
if i just down right suck,
go for it and tell me.
and you left. you left almost as easily as you submitted, only with out hesitation. i remember watching you walk. no, run. i remember watching you run, attempting to fleet, as swift and quick as you possibly could. an inconceivable scene layed out for a perplexed mind. i was baffled. But skeptical. I would wait, until you returned, only to take me into your arms. Your strong, warm arms. and confide to me, how sorrowful you were, to leave me here, secluded. I was sure you would return.
And so a week came and passed. Still, i was assured your return would come hastily. I found my self often drifting into revere. I dreamed of you coming back. How relieved i felt, as i would see you stampede down from the hill that foreparted me. You so anxious. Your keen eyes, set on me. As you would come closer, i would see your smile. as exultant as any human being could possibly be. And then you would kiss me, with lips i have grown acustom to. The lips ive been craving for, the only set of lips I wish to touch.
And then, i was startled. Cold, hard hands shook me from my revere. I was almost dissapointed, untill I looked up and saw your face. I stumbled up, and held you. my face burried in your chest, as tears dripped from my eyes. I went to look up at your face, sure to see you smiling back at mine. But you were expressionless as you focused at the twilight sky. I stared at you, untill you met my gaze. You sort of shook me off you and continued to leer. I was puzzled, as i continued to stare up at you. Your clandestine expression, let on nothing, so i whispered to you, "whats wrong?" you finally looked down at me. Your face now looking pained, as your lips parted and you whispered back, " I...I need to leave." You attempted to walk away, untill i clutched you by the arm, and turned you back around to face me. You looked scared, and unsure, it terrified me. I was nervous, my skin was crawling, and for a second i wanted to cup my hand over your mouth. I didnt want to know, didnt know what i was getting myself into. I waited a minute, and then another, untill i couldnt wait any longer. I was so anxious, i could hardly breathe now. tears crawled down my face, and gathered at my chin, as they then decent to the ground below. Their pace quickend as you continued to say nothing, to convey nothing. Your gaze then followed to the ground in back of you. I turned you back around to look at me, and stuttered, " Please..", under my breathe. You sighed, and took a deep breathe, my heart pounding so quick, i was afraid it would rend right out of my chest, killing me, before i even knew what you needed to say. Another minute passed, and it seemed like hours untill you finally spoke," I can't stay here. I can't...stay..here.. here.. with you anymore.."
I then relized what you were trying to appoint. you didnt want me. No, No, of cource this is a joke. A cruel gag. I smiled through my tears and waited for you to hold me and assure me none of this was true. Though, as i waited, your expression didnt change. you still looked pained, and uncomfortible. I started to chuckle out loud. You looked confused. I began to howl, with laughter, so hard my stomach began to ache. Tears rolled down my checks once more. You looked scared and confused, your eyes hard. There was no amusment in them. You gave no reaction to my tantrum. You just looked away, ashamed to meet my gaze.I then realized, you weren't joking.
Then i couldn't breathe. Well, not so much i couldn't because i could, I was sucking in as much air as i could. I sucked and sucked, but it seemed as though air wouldn't satisfy my deflating lungs. Tears streamed down, faster then before. They leaked from my eyes, and fell much more rapidly to the ground. No,no..NO. You started to walk away as i grabbed your arm. " You cant do this to me ! how could you do this to me. Common, you cant leave me here alone. I'm..i'm.. NO" i nearly screetched at you, you shook me away. I grabbed you again " Please, please, just listen to me. What did i do wrong? what did i do? ill do anything to make it up to you.. Answer me, damnit!" i punched your chest, it obviously had no effect, because you continued to walk away. I grabbed you once more, and you struck me to the ground before i could plead with you . I watched you run, as i stayed pressed against the ground. I then bowed my head in between my arms. My face kissed the ground, and i wept. I wept untill my eyes were dry. I would have cried for days if i physically could.
I then lost my melancholic emotion. I felt no sorrow, i no longer felt depressed. I was livid. This overwhelming sense of anger settled apon me. I trashed about, kicking and screaming. Cursing. I punched the air, and threw myself to the ground. I was so tense, so depraved. My skin was crawling again, and i was anxious. I was anxious for you. I was anxious to hurt you as you hurt me. I desired having the power, to make you feel depressed, to make you weep as i wept. I continued this routine untill my body was bloody, and sore. I fell to the ground, languid and injured. As i lay on the ground, I relized how much easier it was to be angry, then sad. relized how much easier it was to hurt, then to be hurt. I then concluded i would never put myself in a situation where i could be hurt again.
I would stay secluded here. There was no one else adjacent. No one i could hurt, no one who could hurt me.
A profusion of emotions clobbered me. I could pick out the pattern in which they seemed to form. First, i would become depressed again. The simple sight of the hill, i imagined you running from, or the evening sky you stared apon, triggered these emotions. I would cry. I would cry all night, or all day, non stop. I couldn't stop, and i felt as though i had no controll over my body. I talked to myself. I shreiked at myself,assuring that everything would be okay, but if only i would stop crying ! I felt as though if there was any way i could get in contact with you, i could beg you, plead with you untill you would take me back. State all the reasons why i needed you. Then, I would become angry, once again. I would fume about. Sinister thoughts would fill my head, so many at the same time. I couldn't escape them, so i would venture through them. Images of me torturing you with my words, I could not make out. Seeing you fall to you knees, with your hands sheltering your face. You, wishing to retreat from my words, that seemed to hurt you so much. It almost delighted me.
I was so angry. I couldn't emphisize enough. I began to relize, how corrupt, and truculent humans are. Humans in general. How man could turn on another. How swiftly he could afflict pain. Uncorrupted he could feel afterwards, because he shed no blood. How untouched he could feel after divulging his brothers blood, only to be thankful no blood of his was shed.
In comparission, how you could leave me here to reel here in my pain. How you couldn't even look me in the eye and listen. Though, you may not change your mind. You couldn't just listen. So narcissistic you could walk away, knowing i was in pain, but it simply did not trouble you.
i realized,life is a wicked game. the object, to scourge pain before it can be afflicted on yourself. Your in this singlehanded, and no one can be trusted.
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It's your classic heartbreaking plot with a boy leaving a girl behind for whatever reason and she's not allowing herself to accept that because of her love for him.
For these kind of stories, you either love 'em or you despise 'em.
I loved it.
Word of advice, don't use complicated words when trying to express emotion. "A profusion of emotions clobbered me" is a good line, but using simple words sometimes can express what you feel a thousand times more. Use less, to give more.
Spelling as well needs to be addressed, such as 'cource' - 'course', 'relized' - 'realized', 'common' - 'come on' etc.
You're very good at expressing what the girl feels and from what I've read, it seems as if something similar has either happened to you or to somebody else whom you know because the way you described it made me think and feel those emotions so well done on that.
When a new person is speaking, ensure that the speech begins on another paragraph.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Ok.. this is complicated and long.. so don't even start to read if you aint gonna finish... :)
I met this guy in February of 08 lets call him E he is a kind of a quiet person but i liked him a lot hes really cute and he liked me to. We would spend hours talking on the phone at night constantly text.. Well we started dating in the following March.. many people like his exs warned me that he was a player.. i didnt listen i thought they were just bein haters.. ever since i went down a path of drama with other girls, break ups and more problems. He would always see one of his ex girl behind my back but she aint a problem she moved but.. needless to say he talks to a lot of girls and he still texts that ex girl.. Ok.. well we broke up lots and got back together. No matter how shitty i was treat i went back to him. Well we stopped dating for a while and I started talking to his friend " d" who isn't usually what i would go for at all cause he is a bigger guy. Anyway "d" is really funny, i love being with him.. i dont even think about E when i'm with him like hes amazing. Well E didnt want to get back together until he seen me talking to D... he still claims that its not why but whatever...I really do love E we have had a lot of time together and i love being around him.. but i like D too.. D isn't so innocent himself he had a few girl friends at one time but he claims he would drop them all for me.. I aint his average chick... My problem is now i dont know who i want to be with E who i love but has treated me bogus in the past but seems to have changed some what or D who is funny amazing and claims he aint playin games that he drop all his ladies for me. Who do i go for? A shot at love round 483983492 so me an E get back together well we have been back together for a week problem 001.. this girl he been kickin it with read texts i sent to him and sends me shit talking shit.. okkk now E is a dude who has an excuse for everything... I told him that I didnt want him to hang out with her anymore cause all she gonna do is cause drama.. I gets mad and says im stupid for trynna tell him who to kick it with.. Do i like not have a right to want him to hang out with her cause she starting drama trynna break us up...? So he gave up and told me he wasnt going to talk to her no more.. well she text me telling me he still talks to her. I really like D but its hard to know if he is forreal about only trynna make me his lady.. I really love E we have history and I love being around him. I lay out the pros and cons of each..
E- PROS- He cute.. We have stuff in common.. Hes built (i find that sexy )... i love him.. we can talk for hours.. CONS- girls always trynna call me startin shit.. he talks to a lot of girls.. hes kinda stubborn.. he used to blow me off all the time..
D- PROS-He cute.. we have stuff in commmon.. he is funny as hell.. cool to hang out with.. got money.. he tells me im beautiful.. CONS- has a history of bein a man hoe i guess u could say..he still has his exs shit.. he kind of a bigger guy.. he E's friend..
im so confused.. i dont want to go for D and find out he is still talking to his exs and lose my chance with e cause i still love e and have a big weakness for him.
i dont want to go for E and waste time.. find out hes just going to be bitch again when it could have been time spent with D.
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I've got some questions which you should ask yourself which should help:
With whom do I feel safe with?
With whom do I trust to be there for me should I need it?
With whom do I think about more?
With whom do I think is more trustworthy? As in, whom do you think will tell you the truth and not hide things behind your back.
With whom do I think will treat me the way I'm supposed to be treated: with respect?
With whom do I think a relationship will last?
As from my point of view, from what I've read, E isn't the guy for you. You've had endless attempts to get a relationship going, yet it hasn't worked. I hate saying this but I think E is a lost cause now. Even you've said it.
On a personal side, I think you need to think as to what you want in a man. All you've said about the two guys is very sweet and everything, but none of the reasons which you've listed about them is a good reason to love them. 'Got money' is possibly the worst reason to love somebody because eventually, the money will run out and then what have you got? Compliments, jokes and having stuff in common isn't going to last either. You need to find a real reason to love either of them. Do you love them as a person, excluding what they've got? That way, you can have a clearer idea as to whom you want to be with.
I know, you're probably going to give me a low rating or something of that nature after that, but seriously, think about it: what do you want in a man?
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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17/f
okay, not to sound pathetic or anything, but ive never had a real boyfriend, no first kiss, a few hugs here and there from guy friends, but nothing serious.
i feel so pathetic and everything, i know i shouldnt, but i really do. ive always been the best friend of guys, nothing more. i feel pathetic because middle schoolers get more action than i do. by the time most people turn my age, theyve had tons of relationships and everything. i dont want a ton of relationships, i just want to have at least one serious relationship before i graduate.
i honestly think my friends feel bad for me. im always the one with no dates to the dances, so i just stopped going to them altogether. i feel like im missing out on the high school experience... you know, walking through the halls with him, feeling amazing in his arms.
i dont know what to do anymore, i dont want to try to be someone im not to get a boyfriend, because then it would just feel so wierd.
am i sounding pathetic here? honestly, do you think its actually normal for a 17 year old to still not have her first kiss, not even a little kiss in middle school or anything?
ive just been feeling so down about myself, so awkward standing with my best friends and their boyfriends. so uncomfertable walking down the halls watching couples have what i want.
i stopped caring about it for a while, but then it just bothers me. everywhere i go, everyone i know has someone. im always the third or fifth wheel when i hangout with friends, so i stopped hanging out with them altogether.
im getting so mad at myself for being upset about this. but tell me the truth, any 17 year old girl out there would feel like i do if theyve never had a relationship or a kiss before.
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I'm in that situation at the moment, so yeah, I know what it feels like.
Seeing friends with their partners is kinda upsetting and I sometimes wonder whether I'll ever be in a relationship. However, I don't do anything. Why? Because I believe that I will find the one without going out with every Mary, Jane or Anne who comes across my path, love is something which you can't find, it finds you and sometimes in the most unexpected ways like it did for me a year ago. I fell in love, but for personal reasons, it never got off the ground and it took me over a year to recover and seeing friends in relationships reminds me of what I never had and that's hard.
But for me, I'm just so happy that they're with somebody and seeing them happy, makes me happy, because to me, nothing else is more important to me that seeing my friends happy...they may not think that, but I do.
Don't cut yourself off from your friends because they've got partners, no relationship I think is permanent unless they get married, and from what I've read, it will be a while. Some people think that they've found the right person, but then something happens and that is that.
Honestly? I don't think that this is pathetic at all. For some people, it's normal for this to happen.
Cliff notes version:
Stay with your friends, even if they're with their partners, just interact with them, find out more about who they are and just be there for them. Cutting yourself won't do a bit of could. Be happy for them. Don't be worried about not being in a relationship right now, you've got the rest of your life for love to find you. And when it does, you'll know.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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What is the cover of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows trying to depict? What is being illustrated? I'm frustrated because I can't really tell what's going on or what exact action it's showing. (link)
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It's basically showing the three breaking into the Gringotts bank account of the Lestrange's with the goblin on Harry's back with the sword. You can see that they're being burned by the treasure by the red smears on their skin.
Don't worry, it took me a while to work it out as well.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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list some of your guys favorite songs! mostly slow rock kind of songs about love and heartbreak! (link)
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They may not be rock, but they do fit the category of love and heartbreak:
We Belong Together
Don't Forget About Us
Love Story
Thanx 4 Nothin'
I Stay In Love
Can't Let Go
Someday
Love Takes Time
Heartbreaker
All I've Ever Wanted
My All
I Still Believe
Circles
Just To Hold You Once Again
All by Mariah Carey
I hope these help,
triquetra
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my ex and i had dated for over a year a few years ago and then we dated other people on and off until july. we started dating and we were both really happy but i starting noticing that he was becoming more distant and so i talked to him about it many times. so we're both in highschool, same grade..all that jazz.
so it was almost four months and we started getting really tense, so i feared the worse.
then a week before four months he says he cant decide if he's happier with or without me..
so i wait all day, i went into school late, skipped lunch because i was scared to cry infront of him and i had been crying all morning.
so i went the rest of the day without crying and finally at one i broke down in his arms and i felt bad. so we talked a little bit in person but we started texting and he still couldnt decide so at like eleven that night i broke up with him hoping he'd be happier without me.. not so much
its been almost two weeks, and its not getting any easier. he said that if i was the same i was in the summer then he would date me again (happy, go lucky, enjoyable me) but i dont know how to be like that anymore.. any advice helps. thanks soo muchh!
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It's very clear to me that he still isn't yet ready to be committed to a relationship yet, because if he was, then we wouldn't be answering this question.
I think you should ask him how he feels for you because I think it is the only way in which you can decide what to do next. I know you've talked to him already but I think this time, you need to be serious because as far as I'm concerned, this guy is playing with your heart by making you wait for his decision as to whether he will be happy with or without you and it's clear that you love him a lot.
He needs to decide now as to whether he wants to be with you or not. He can't say "maybe I'll date you in the summer", because summer is quite a way away and you can't wait for that long. From what I've learnt from this site, when a relationship doesn't work after the third try, then it doesn't ever seem to pick up afterwards. I know that wasn't what you wanted to read but....
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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To all you girls out there, I have a question/scenario. Here is your chance to give some good advice to a confused man. I had been dating this girl for about 4 months. Everything thing was going FANTASTIC! I played it cool - didn’t rush anything - Just had the most amazing time together. I came over a couple of days ago and she did a complete 180 on me and said it was not working for her anymore. That’s fine, we all go through it – Here is my question: She also told me that when she realized that she loved me - she realized that she could not be in a committed relationship. How do you take that? What do you do about it? Should you do anything? She said she was in basic panic mode and felt uncomfortable in any relationship. She had been single for 6 yrs before she met me. Any advice here is good and appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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Okay, this is kinda odd since you asked this directly to me and I don't know if you meant to or not but hey. And another thing, I ain't a girl
I can see why your confused, even I am!! Um, so she's scared of being in any relationship even though you've been dating her for 4 months and she's slept with you. The fact that she was single for six years is irrelevant.
I think you need to give her some space and let her sort out her feelings about this relationship because there's no point is just continuing on when one of you isn't exactly fully committed.
I would also question her feelings for you because anybody whose been in love, and I know this from a very personal experience, wouldn't care about fearing to be in a relationship at all and all they would care about would be the feelings which they've got for that person and the fact that they're sharing the love which they've got for the other person with them if that makes any sense.
So, cliff notes version: give her some space to sort out her feelings for you and the relationship and take it from there. Give her as much time as she needs.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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so saturday night mom and i had a big argument.. and i ended up leaving because she said to get out her house and give her my keys.. my cell phone.. everything...
i lasted out till about 11 something when we (bf and i) got to the precinct... now my mom classifies under 'emotional abuse' but i clearly see the authorities want physical abuse.. emotional means CRAP. i had to go back home with my parents -_- now everytghings worse... well at least she's leaving me alone... but now i definately know im on my own. Is there any way i can avoid this awkward feeling waking up along with her? any advice in general? all will be appreciated :) (link)
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Well, there is no easy way to get around this. The only way which I can think of is to talk to her.
Talk about what you argued about and work through it. Be open minded and understand her point of view and help her to understand yours. You need to make up and move on, you can't let one big argument get in-between the two of you. Make up and move on but I can clearly see that you won't be forgetting it anytime soon. I don't know how old you are but you can't feel as if you're on your own. At every point in our lives, we turn to our parents for help and if we can't do that, who do we turn to?
Talk to her and listen and see what happens.
Good luck,
triquetra
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Does it say that it is wrong to masturbat in the bible? (link)
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No. No where does it say it's wrong. If it did, then all the churches in the world would be saying that and a lot of people would be damned (joking!!!) :-)
triquetra
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I am not sure what category this goes under but, For starters My periods haven't been regular since I gave birth to my son. Although, July, August, Sep. I had a period and October I didnt. I thought I was pregnant. The pregnancy test i did take was wrong because it took 5 hours to develop an answer. I got in a car accident yesterday, walked away shook up and shaking but that was it my son and I were fine. My dad said the way we hit the car should of rolled a few thousand feet and we should have been in body bags but we were lucky. An hour and a half after that i had to go to work I was having sharp pains and stuff but didnt think anything of it. that night when i got home i went to the bathroom and it looked like a blood clot but it was hard. (not a lot of blood) then while sleeping i had some blood and its bright red usally i bleed dark. Im not really bleeding now except when i go to the bathroom when im done there is a little thats bright red on the toliet paper thats it... sorry for all the details i just need to know a answer? could i have had a miscarriage. a friend of mine told me she had a miscarriage the way i just told her. (link)
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Go to the doctor. If you're having sharp pains after the crash and if you thought you were pregnant, it's incredibly important that you should get the doctor to take a look and see if anything is wrong and also, get him to check to see if you where pregnant or not. Tell him everything that you've said above so he can get a full picture of what happened.
It's no good that a friend told you, you need professional people who know what to say to tell you what has really happened or not.
That's about the best advice I can give you right now.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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my ex and i broke up but we have been talking now to work things out. but i do get sad thinking about him. i knw its normal but how do i explain it to him. he thinks that i just get sad thinking of him so why try to work things out and be together again. any help would be appreciated. (link)
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Thanks for inboxing.
I'm going to take a shot in the dark and guess that this was a long term relationship.
The reason I say this is because with short term relationships, feelings have yet to fully form and so with you being sad about him, makes me think that this was a long term relationship.
So with that in mind, I'm going to now guess that the reason as to why you're feeling sad about him, is because you're wondering as to where the relationship went wrong, after going for... I don't know how long.
So seeing him at the moment reminds you of that relationship and the break up and you're sad because I guess at one point, you thought that the two of you would never break up but when that did happen, naturally as you said, you felt very sad about it.
Talking to him right now I think isn't the right time. You're evidently still affected by the break up so I suggest that you give yourself some 'me time' when you just take it easy for a while, sort out your feelings and go from there.
As for your ex, tell him that you need to have some alone time so you can sort some things out and decide as to where to go from where you are.
I know it wasn't what you asked, but seriously, I think that a little break from him would be the best thing right now.
Should you have any further questions, don't hesitate to drop another question in!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i have to read this really stupid short story i wrote to the class this week. like i don't know whats wrong with me but i can't read something like that i write to the class. like a reasearch report or soemthing i can and i'll be fine ha. but i'm getting so worked up about having to read it like i want to cry. my story sucks. i dont know what to do. any advice? (link)
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I remember being in a similar situation a few years back, when I'd written a story and was asked to read it out loud to the class. I was thinking "Oh my god this is so corny and what will they think?" etc. and I lost faith in what I'd written because of the fear of what the class would say. They could've either laughed about it or accepted it. So, how did it turn out? Pretty good actually because as I read it, I began to have some confidence as to what I had written because I'd enjoyed writing it and tried to make it even more interesting by putting some sarcasm where it was needed and putting one some attitude.
Play out what you read. And if you feel confident, add some bits here and there to make it more interesting. I'm not a confident speaker either, but not rushing and just interacting with the audience is what I do to pass the time and just bring them into what I was doing.
Research papers I can understand because you didn't write it, so you know that the class won't make fun of you if it's bad because you're only reading it out and wasn't involved with the writing process.
To calm down, I take a deep breath and as I breath out, I feel all the fear leave with the breath and I find confidence within myself to being speaking.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I'm 16/f and my parents have finally had it with each other. My father drinks too much, he hides most of the money so he can go purchase more beer and now the house that we live in is going under forclosure. My mom, my older sister and I are moving into an apartment... and my dad just doesn't want anything to do with us anymore. I've lived in this house for years and I don't want to leave, it's my home. How do I get through this?
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It hard when parents get divorced, especially for children because you've got to go through a lot of change and one of those things is getting used to moving out of the one place which you considered home.
I kinda know what it's like to move from one place to another when you feel safe in one place. When I came to board at my current school, that was hard because it would mean that I would have to leave the one place which I considered safe and even worse, I would be living with people whom I'd never met before is very unfamiliar surroundings and the only way I kept in touch was a call to home in the morning and evening and back then, it was hard because it would remind me that I'm not at home. But over time, I got used to my surroundings and the people around me and I now can safely call my boarding school my second home, but with just a much larger family!!!
Give it some time. It will not be easy at first, it never is. But in your case, at least you're surrounded by familiar people around you so you can comfort and support each other. And gradually, over time, you will be to settle down in your new place.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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