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It's Finally a Divorce
I'm 16/f and my parents have finally had it with each other. My father drinks too much, he hides most of the money so he can go purchase more beer and now the house that we live in is going under forclosure. My mom, my older sister and I are moving into an apartment... and my dad just doesn't want anything to do with us anymore. I've lived in this house for years and I don't want to leave, it's my home. How do I get through this?
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When I was living with my dad when I was 16 (my mom had just died) he was an alcoholic. I got through it by focusing on going to college and by taking it one day at a time.
I found a program in a city that forced me to leave home and whenever I got depressed about my living situation I reminded myself it was temporary and that I was leaving.
Get a part-time job to save money for college (Which will take your mind off your home life). Also, see if there is some counselling available to you at your school. I wish I had done that when I was your age, because I eventually had to go when I was 23. It catches up to you. Definitely talk to someone.
Leaving your lifelong home is hard. I know. I can promise you that time will heal that wound. Your mother is very strong for removing your dad from your life. Drunk fathers who don't care make life way worse than it needs to be. She's someone else you can talk to.
Journalling is really good, as well. It gives your feelings a voice and it can be therapeutic.
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It hard when parents get divorced, especially for children because you've got to go through a lot of change and one of those things is getting used to moving out of the one place which you considered home.
I kinda know what it's like to move from one place to another when you feel safe in one place. When I came to board at my current school, that was hard because it would mean that I would have to leave the one place which I considered safe and even worse, I would be living with people whom I'd never met before is very unfamiliar surroundings and the only way I kept in touch was a call to home in the morning and evening and back then, it was hard because it would remind me that I'm not at home. But over time, I got used to my surroundings and the people around me and I now can safely call my boarding school my second home, but with just a much larger family!!!
Give it some time. It will not be easy at first, it never is. But in your case, at least you're surrounded by familiar people around you so you can comfort and support each other. And gradually, over time, you will be to settle down in your new place.
I hope this helped,
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