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love life....or lack there of
17/f
okay, not to sound pathetic or anything, but ive never had a real boyfriend, no first kiss, a few hugs here and there from guy friends, but nothing serious.
i feel so pathetic and everything, i know i shouldnt, but i really do. ive always been the best friend of guys, nothing more. i feel pathetic because middle schoolers get more action than i do. by the time most people turn my age, theyve had tons of relationships and everything. i dont want a ton of relationships, i just want to have at least one serious relationship before i graduate.
i honestly think my friends feel bad for me. im always the one with no dates to the dances, so i just stopped going to them altogether. i feel like im missing out on the high school experience... you know, walking through the halls with him, feeling amazing in his arms.
i dont know what to do anymore, i dont want to try to be someone im not to get a boyfriend, because then it would just feel so wierd.
am i sounding pathetic here? honestly, do you think its actually normal for a 17 year old to still not have her first kiss, not even a little kiss in middle school or anything?
ive just been feeling so down about myself, so awkward standing with my best friends and their boyfriends. so uncomfertable walking down the halls watching couples have what i want.
i stopped caring about it for a while, but then it just bothers me. everywhere i go, everyone i know has someone. im always the third or fifth wheel when i hangout with friends, so i stopped hanging out with them altogether.
im getting so mad at myself for being upset about this. but tell me the truth, any 17 year old girl out there would feel like i do if theyve never had a relationship or a kiss before.
i just feel soooo stupid, is there anything i can do to change this???
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I'm in that situation at the moment, so yeah, I know what it feels like.
Seeing friends with their partners is kinda upsetting and I sometimes wonder whether I'll ever be in a relationship. However, I don't do anything. Why? Because I believe that I will find the one without going out with every Mary, Jane or Anne who comes across my path, love is something which you can't find, it finds you and sometimes in the most unexpected ways like it did for me a year ago. I fell in love, but for personal reasons, it never got off the ground and it took me over a year to recover and seeing friends in relationships reminds me of what I never had and that's hard.
But for me, I'm just so happy that they're with somebody and seeing them happy, makes me happy, because to me, nothing else is more important to me that seeing my friends happy...they may not think that, but I do.
Don't cut yourself off from your friends because they've got partners, no relationship I think is permanent unless they get married, and from what I've read, it will be a while. Some people think that they've found the right person, but then something happens and that is that.
Honestly? I don't think that this is pathetic at all. For some people, it's normal for this to happen.
Cliff notes version:
Stay with your friends, even if they're with their partners, just interact with them, find out more about who they are and just be there for them. Cutting yourself won't do a bit of could. Be happy for them. Don't be worried about not being in a relationship right now, you've got the rest of your life for love to find you. And when it does, you'll know.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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