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is it fair to tell the guy i like that i like him even though he has a girlfriend? because i feel like he has the right to know since we are also good friends. but then i don't want to be mean to him and ruin his relationship.
thanks!
Yeah, its deff fair to tell him but first think about when and how you want to let him know how you feel. Usually, itâ??s much better to show a guy friend how you feel, by flirting and being sweet to him, than to tell him in words. Since youâ??re already friends, you have some idea of what activities and events he is interested in. Sports (playing or watching), movies, video games, cooking, chess, photography, shopping - whatever floats your boat. Find ways to do things that you both like doing, together! When you and your crush/friend have five minutes alone, tell him you had a dream that you two were boyfriend and girlfriend. Say that the dream was really happy and felt so natural... and see what he says. If his reaction is negative (he says "as if" or "that's sick!"), then you know to back off. Save your pride - just laugh and say something like "I know, it was the stupidest dream!" But if he blushes, wants to hear more about the dream, laughs nervously or seems flattered by what you said, it's a sign he is open to the idea of dating you. In that case, say to him "maybe we should go on a date and see if I'm psychic or something." Hopefully, he'll say "great idea." One of the biggest fears for many girls in asking out a friend is "ruining the relationship." Get over it. If he says no, do you really believe he won't be your friend anymore? If heâ??s your real friend, it might be weird if he says no, but heâ??ll most likely be flattered and get over the awkwardness. Besides if you never ask, you might never know if he felt the same but was too shy to say it! You should ask yourself honestly if you two would probably be better staying friends, or if your feelings are growing stronger with love and canâ??t be ignored. If youâ??re crushing hard enough, itâ??s worth the risk. Being casual about asking him out can help to avoid strange feelings later. If he backs off and acts awkward after you ask him out, give him time to get over it. Distract yourself with other friends, and pick up your friendship again when he seems ready. Don't feel bad or think you were stupid to ask him if he ends up saying no. You've been really gutsy to try it, which is quite cool. Plus you have let him know how you feel about him, honestly and openly, and that is never a bad thing. Now that he knows you like him, heâ??ll be thinking about you differently. Sometimes it takes some time for that to sink in... he could end up turning around and asking you out when he feels more ready! Never, ever ask someone out more than twice if they say no. That will just makes your friend feel uncomfortable, and heâ??ll feel like youâ??re not listening to him. This can make it hard to go back to normal in the friendship. Donâ??t tell everyone youâ??re going to ask him out. For one thing, if he says no, you have all those people to tell and that would be totally embarrassing. For another thing, you donâ??t want him to find out that everyone knew how you felt about him before he knew, because that cheapens the emotion. Tell your best friend, but until you know his answer, keep this situation pretty private.
good luck hope i helped
I'm allowed to wear make up and I do want to but there's something like holding me back..
I always believed in natural beauty but I feel really ugly and the fact that I'm the only one in my class that doesn't wear make while all the other girls do and looks good( beautiful, not slutty) makes me want to.
But I don't know how to wear make up or select colours for my face.
Is make up when you wear EVERYTHING: eye liner, blush, those things that are the same colour of your skin and you put it all over your facem lip gloss, etc? Or just liek eye liner?
I guess I just want to wear ONLY the essentials like mascara and maybe cover up but I don't want to be dependent on it. I saw picture of girls wthout make up and it looked ABSOLUTELY scary!
Does make-up damage your face? My skin is super sesitive.
What's your opinion of this?
Well you can still have "natural beauty" when your wearing makeup.
Try this site, it will tell you what kind of colors look best with your skintone/eye color.
http://www.myjellybean.com/style/makeup/makeup.htm
hope i helped
there is this girl i like but i have not talked to her in ages. she is having a party and i wsa invited but i dont think she knows i like her. Should i go to the party and what should i do??
She obvoiusly invited you for a reason.
You should deffanitly go.
Have fun.
ok so this boy is going to ask me out and i always feel like sick in my stomache when i think about it.... how do i get over these nervs..... and when we are dating again how do i get over these nervs??!?!?! thanx
Talking to boys is pretty easy, once you realize that they are just people, no different from you or your friends. Of course, this can be hard to remember when you've spent all morning obsessing over his cute freckles and writing his name in your notebooks. But think about it: Boys are just kids. So when you see the boy you're crushing on, picture him doing something goofy and kid-like, like shopping for underwear with his mom. That will bring your image of him down to earth, making normal conversation so much easier. Just like your mom says about spiders, boys are more scared of you than you are of them! Believe it or not, most teenage guys are way more nervous than girls when it comes to talking and making a good impression with the opposite sex. Lots of guys (even the hottest ones) think that girls see them as gross or weird. So just by making the effort to talk to him, you're giving him a reason to like you, because you're showing him that he's worth your time. If you can make him feel at ease, he will be grateful... and impressed. Once he knows that you exist, start building up a relationship with your crush by making a friendly comment whenever you see him. Since you don't know him, your comments should be general and cheerful. For example, you could smile and say, "Only 2 months 'til March Break!" Or give him a compliment by saying, "Cool shoes, I love them!" He'll start looking forward to seeing you, and with any luck he will pick up on one of your comments and talk back... hey, that's actual conversation! Remember, walk slooowwwly past him or he won't have time to say anything back. Girls who are truly great conversationalists have mastered this trick. It's about focusing on the other person's comfort level during a conversation. Think about it this way: If the conversation goes smoothly and he gets to talk about himself, he'll leave thinking you're fun and interesting to talk to. To make that happen, all you need to do it keep your focus on bringing him out. Don't worry about having something to say that's interesting. Just get him talking about himself - use questions (yes, questions again!) to find out his favorite band, if he's involved in any after-school activities, if he has any plans for college yet - and so on. Master this move, and you will appear very confident. And that’s very attractive! When talking to a guy, it's always better to be the one to walk away. That way you won't run the risk of going on and on, or blurting out something weird when there's an awkward silence. Even if the convo is going great, leave when it's good and you will leave him wanting more. So after you've chatted for a bit, when it feels like a good point for the conversation to wrap up, say, "It was nice talking to you" and be on your way. If you're just too shy or nervous to pull off talking to your crush, think outside the "one-on-one" idea. Why not plan a girl-guy outing with several of your friends and get someone to ask him along? Go out for pizza, or invite the gang over to your house to play some games. This is better than watching a video, because it will allow you to interact and become more comfortable around him, and that can lead to conversation. Don't expect to become best friends right away, though. Like any good relationship, it will take time to develop. As you spend time with him in small group settings, your nervousness will probably fade. You may even find yourself wondering what caused your jitters in the first place. good luck!
ahh! so i have this big problem =(
i get reallly shy around this guy i like.
and its getting worst every day!
ahh. in the beginning it wasnt that bad but now its getting worst and worst. ahh and i hate it. i mean i try to pull myslef together and get a grip and face him but im just too scared to!! why do you think that is?
also i want to be around him but once im there i pretend i dont know him and he wont talk to me either, hes the same as me.
but its weird becasue we used to talk in school a lot and we talk online almost everyday for atleast an hour!
this like almost never happens to me.
well it does everytime its a guy i like before im freinds with him =(( help me to get myself to RELAX and talk to him already!
Talking to boys is pretty easy, once you realize that they are just people, no different from you or your friends. Of course, this can be hard to remember when you've spent all morning obsessing over his cute freckles and writing his name in your notebooks. But think about it: Boys are just kids. So when you see the boy you're crushing on, picture him doing something goofy and kid-like, like shopping for underwear with his mom. That will bring your image of him down to earth, making normal conversation so much easier. If your crush doesn't take the bait and start talking to you, it's time to ask him a question. Questions are excellent talking tools because they pull people into conversation. Just make sure to ask open-ended questions - if you ask something that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no", there's a risk that your convo will be over in seconds! (For example, "What do you think of dogs for pets?" instead of "Do you have a dog?") You could also try asking him for directions (maybe he'll escort you where you're going), or if he's on the school football team, ask what a defensive quarterback is (say you heard the term on TV). When he answers, be sure to thank him and give him a big smile. When a person is nervous, it's common to just blab and blab for the sake of keeping the chat going. But guys get irritated when girls talk just for the sake of talking. If he barely knows you, he's probably not interested in what your little sister did on the weekend, or what you dreamed about last night. Keep the discussion light and in the present. Also, avoid talking about ex-boyfriends, family or friend problems or anything else that's too heavy or negative. If you two get to know each other better, there's lots of time for sharing secrets then. When talking to a guy, it's always better to be the one to walk away. That way you won't run the risk of going on and on, or blurting out something weird when there's an awkward silence. Even if the convo is going great, leave when it's good and you will leave him wanting more. So after you've chatted for a bit, when it feels like a good point for the conversation to wrap up, say, "It was nice talking to you" and be on your way. If you're just too shy or nervous to pull off talking to your crush, think outside the "one-on-one" idea. Why not plan a girl-guy outing with several of your friends and get someone to ask him along? Go out for pizza, or invite the gang over to your house to play some games. This is better than watching a video, because it will allow you to interact and become more comfortable around him, and that can lead to conversation. Don't expect to become best friends right away, though. Like any good relationship, it will take time to develop. As you spend time with him in small group settings, your nervousness will probably fade. You may even find yourself wondering what caused your jitters in the first place.
okay so i am finally over this guy that i have liked/loved for almost two years. Now there is this other guy that i am getting close to and we might be going out. But for some reason none of my friends are supporting me... and the reason they arent supporting me is because they want me to go out with my bff who is a girl!!! I have no clue what to do and i really need your guys help. I REALLY lie this new guy and all my friends to is talk shit about him to me. And right now my "BFF" tells me that she thinks this guy is using me because hes depperate. I dnt want to believe what she is teling me but idk. Should i ask the guy or just forge5t aboutit.....
The problem with doing whatever your friends say, is that it might not always be what your heart wants. Keep on letting others make your romantic choices, and you could end up with a boyfriend who everyone approves of... but who doesn't really make you happy.
Forget the fact that if these people were really your friends, they would accept who you choose as a boyfriend, no matter what clique he's in. Forget that if you bossed around some of these people, they'd probably either ignore you or tell you to MYOB. Forget that you're the one who has to spend time with the guy you date, not them, and it doesn't matter what your friend thinks. Forget that in not too many years from now, school will be over and cliques will be meaningless anyway. Yep, forget all that.
Just worry about this. In life, you can choose to be a leader (at least of your own self), or a follower. The life of a follower is generally a lame one. You end up being pushed around at the whims of others, and never doing what you really desire, because you're afraid of what the crowd (or your inner circle) say.
My advice to you is, date who you like, and don't date who you don't like. Period. Simple as that. If you like your boyfriend, stick with him. Don't give in to peer pressure, or go back to a more-popular ex. If all your friends approved of your current guy, do you think you'd still miss the old one so much? Most relationships break up for a reason, so maybe it's best that you're in a new relationship and moving on.
Of course, only you know what's really in your heart. If you feel that your ex was and is the best guy for you. try striking up a friendship (or at least a conversation) with him again. Let him know you miss him in your life, and wouldn't mind hanging out. You can always see how it goes as friends, and if he treats you well. If so, you can think about whether you should be with him again.
But for now, give your geek a chance. Tell your so-called friends that you like this guy, and as long as he treats you with respect, you're going to date him. Be clear that they don't have to love him, but they do have to respect your right to choose your own boyfriend. That is, if they want to continue to call you "friend".
How do you know if you're in love?
SiGNS Y0U L0VE HiM ;;
so i like this guy, but he is very shy when it comes to talking about who he likes and stuff. I am 90% sure that he likes me, and i want to tell him that i like him. How can i say it without just being like... i like you. Cause i want a way that wouldnt be ackward and that would be like ... cute or funny i guess..THANKS. 15/F by the way. If there are any guys that could tell me how they would like to be told that a girl likes them then that would be great too.
Give your crush some clues that you like him. There are many ways to do this. In a conversation with your crush, mention casually that you are not going out with anyone. Mention places you miss going to or a movie you really want to see. Talk about things you know both of you would like doing. The goal is to let your crush know that if they ask you out, you are available. (Don't be desperate though - keep it casual). By doing this, you also let him know what kinds of places you would enjoy going on a date (just in case he was wondering!). good luck keep me updated!!
k well i might hook up with this guy at the movies, and like wed make out. and i dont know how because i never have.
can anyone tell me like how to make out, like could i pratice on a pillow or something.
that sounds lame, but like if i cant he might not like me.
First of all, don't worry if you are not an experienced kisser. Guys can't tell if you have kissed before. Since everyone kisses differently, you always "start from scratch" when you kiss a new person. Plus, in most cases a guy will be so thrilled that he's locking lips with you, he won't be judging the way you kiss! So never be embarrassed that you're not a kissing pro. Kissing is easy - and fun - when you know a few basic rules. Let's move onto them now...Let's start with your kissing equipment: your lips and mouth. Keep your lips soft and kissable by applying lip balm every day. It's especially important to keep your lips moisturized in the winter months, when drier air can make them feel scaly. Don't neglect your breath either. Good breath is one of the most important ingredients in a good kiss. Keep yours fresh by brushing and flossing twice a day. Keep sugarfree mints handy in your purse or pocket, for situations when you need to freshen up fast.When it comes to the actual kiss, keep your lips soft and gentle. Think of kissing something very tender. You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Go with the flow, and let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going. When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each other. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing. As for your eyes, keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss. Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. A valuable Jellybean tip: guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material. That's all you really need to know about kissing... except for one more, very important reminder. ENJOY THE KISS. Staying in the moment and enjoying the experience has a lot to do with what makes a memorable kiss. The best way to kill a kiss is to dwell on how you're doing, concentrate too hard on getting the "right" kissing technique down, or let your mind wander to what your partner thinks about you. The single most important thing to remember about kissing is to BE IN THE MOMENT and enjoy the kiss for itself. This is what it's all about... the simplest and greatest of pleasures, the soft friction, the tender wetness, the heat of his face so close to yours... kissing is great. Possibly the greatest. So kiss with confidence... and have FUN!
i like a boy, but whenever i try to talk to him i get so nervous & i cant think of anything to say. he also has a sense of humor, so i wish i could joke around with him but i'm too nervous. do u have any advice on how to talk to him? thanks
okay well first of all if you worry too much about what you're saying and how you're saying it, you'll seem distracted and not very interested in the person you're talking to. Instead of being wrapped up in yourself, focus your attention on the guy who's talking to you. Don't think ahead to what you're going to say next! Really listen to what he is saying and respond with thoughtful answers that show you've been listening.Don't let fear of rejection or bad experiences from the past make you paranoid about a conversation that's happening in the present. Try to relax and focus only on the person you are talking to. Remember that he is probably more nervous than you! If you have to, fake being perfectly at ease and it will turn into reality. The best flirts are girls who can do it without expecting anything to come of it. Guys love flirting with girls who seem like they could get anyone they want. Develop that attitude! Try to think of flirting as an enjoyable activity in itself, without always worrying about the final result. It's kind of like shopping - you can have fun cruising the mall and trying on clothes, even if you don't end up buying anything. Of course, your ultimate goal is to score "the perfect outfit" - but don't be in a rush, or you'll scare off guys by seeming desperate. Practice flirting with guys you aren't that interested in, and soon you'll be able to flirt with the guy you adore and still seem casual. good luck!!
okay well my sisters boyfriend is like 18 and he likes me?! and im kinda freaked out. im only 14. and he always comes in my room and lays in my bed when im in it. and the one day my boyfriend was over and me n my bf got in a little fight. and i went in my sisters room to ask her what to do. and my sister was in the bathroom . and jake (sisters bestfriend) started to hold my hand..i let go and told him to stop...and he got pissed..im really freaked out..everytime hes over i lock myself in our computer room..but somehow he always gets in..please help!!
wow. alright well you deff need to tell your sister. if he got angry when you wouldnt hold his hand, he might get really mad if he tries to do something else and you refuse. soo yea you really need to tell your sister he doesnt sound like a good guy at all.
please keep me updated id like to see how everything works out.
Hey! I was wondering, would you all rather get an ipod nano or a coach tote for you 15th bday? thanks!
ipod nano..the purse will go out of style but you'll have the ipod for awhile.
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ok so my ex boyfriend (from last year) logan got this new girlfriend this year. he even gave her a little engagement ring!! i see pictures of them making out and that makes me sad because i still have feelings for him and i hate him because i cant stop thinking about it.
plz, wut should i do? hes giving me advice 2 flirt with him but if only i could tell him how i feel without him taking it personal...
signed,
love bug.
love bug-
okay it sounds like logan really likes his new girlfriend and i know its hard because he obviously still has a big piece of your heart but you have to try to let him go. this isnt something thats going to happen over night. it can take forever to get over a guy you really liked/loved. so while your waiting for your heart to heal, try doing things you like to do, something that has nothing to do with boys, like hanging out with friends or playing a sport. your obvously not going to cut out guys from your life alltogether but dont throw yourself at every guy trying to replace logan because then your just forcing yourself to see how impossible he is to replace. and then when your ready you'll meet someone knew and hopefully then you'll be able to give your heart away to this new guy
hope i helped..keep me updated
Hey guys I really need help about this!!!Well theres this guy(who turns to be my best friend)that im MADLY in love with.But he has a gf(...)so I figured the best thing to do is to move on on and let go...but I dont know how!!!plz HELP..i really need to shut my feelings for him because it hurts to watch him being in love with some1 else while im sitting here waiting on him.so please tell me what to do so i can 4get about him.i really have to.i cant stop thinking about him and it makes me cry.i cry almost every nights...please tell me what to do but,please dont tell me to do activities because theres not much to do where I live.just tell me what I should do toward him and stuff!
im waiting for your help.
thanx in advance
well moving on isnt something that happens over night you have to make sure your really ready to let go. but untill you are its okay to think about him and miss him theres nothing wrong with that he had a big piece of your heart and obviously still does. so dont throw yourself at every guy trying to replace him because then your just forcing yourself to see how impossible he is to replace. and then when your ready you'll meet someone knew and hopefully then you'll be able to give your heart away to this new guy;; hope i helped
I get jealous very easily. I really like this guy, but I've noticed that he talks to other girls just as much as he talks to me. (We're not going out or anything though.) He has 7 girls, and only 1 guy on his top Myspace friends. I met him a about a week ago, and he immediately moved me as number 3 on his top 8. Do you think that means something? We talk almost every day, and our conversations get very deep. Last night, he mentioned something about "you should have a boyfriend." And I asked, who? And he just said, "
you deff have a chance. it sounds like this guy really likes you, even if he has other girl friends maybe thats really all that they are...friends that just happen to be girls. it sounds like this guy is very intrested in you..go for it!
ok i have thick hair, and when i straighten it gets smooth and shiny, and looks good and healthy, but its too thick for me, like it's wherever i go, my hair goes, it's so annoying, is there anything i can do to get it thinner?... i get it thinned out at the salon, but is there anything else i could possibly do? thanks :]
you could try getting more layers..or maybe putting half of your hair pulled up and the other half down.
I cut myself (for personal reasons) but i do it below the wrist. And I try to hide it. But I can't. It's not cold here, so wearing long-sleeves doesn't make sense. When people see it, they get really freaked out. What are some reasons, that make sense, which I can tell people, so they won't think I'm cutting myself?
well first of all you deff. shouldnt be cutting yourself. it's one of the worst addictions out there. you should call a teen hotline.
1-800-366-8288
I have a pair of blue and white seersucker bermudas that i love. But I have no idea what kind of top would go. any suggestions?
these are them:
http://www.polo.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2598136&cp=1760783.1760912.1767596&akURL=http%3A%2F%2Fpolo.imageg.net&pageDisplay=actfam&pageType=family&int_nextBucket=0&totalProductsCount=17&pageCount=2&pageNum=1&SMR=1&int_prevBucket=-1
I would maybe try a white shirt with maybe something with that color blue in it somewhere (like maybe a hco shirt that says hollister in light blue letters)
This may seem like a stupid question..but when you kiss someone, like a boyfriend, are you supposed to feel something? You know what I mean..
well if you are really attracted to someone when you kiss them you usually get butterflies in your stomach or you feel all tingly, if you dont feel this with your boyfriend anymore you might just not be atracted to him or maybe the sparks are just gone..but if you do still really like him maybe try switching up how (or where you are) when you kiss him, and maybe the sparks will come back
I like a guy a year older than me, and I want him to like me back and know that I like him without being like obnoxious or telling him. How can I flirt with him. What things could I say??
Thanks
Don't Dwell on Your Performance-
If you worry too much about what you're saying and how you're saying it, you'll seem distracted and not very interested in the person you're talking to. Instead of being wrapped up in yourself, focus your attention on the guy who's talking to you. Don't think ahead to what you're going to say next! Really listen to what he is saying and respond with thoughtful answers that show you've been listening.
Don't Wait for Him to Flirt First-
Most guys in their teens are notoriously shy about talking to girls, even girls they like! Make the first move. Chances are, he'll appreciate not having to move first and be flattered that you want to talk to him. 95% of teen guys says they love it when a girl makes the first move.
Don't Put It All Out There
A sure way to be a flirting flop is to act overly sexual by talking dirty or hinting at your vast experience with guys. Guys tend to divide girls into two categories - easy to get, and hard to get. Guess which ones they like more? If you seem ready for too much too soon, he'll think you are like that with everyone - not the impression you want to send the guy of your dreams. Be a little mysterious - flirt, show your interest by being friendly, but don't be overly obvious or offer more than you intend to give.
Leave Him Wanting More
The first few times you talk to a guy, be the first person to end the conversation. When you feel like it might be winding up, or after a few minutes of one-on-one talk, break away by smiling and saying "It was nice talking to you. I have to go meet up with (your friend's name) now." This makes you seem in demand, and not desperate to talk to him. Bonus: if you're a bit nervous about flirting with him, it takes the pressure off you to keep it going.
Have Fun
Everyone likes being around someone who doesn't take life too seriously. Be playful and light-hearted. Don't cover your mouth when you laugh. Let everyone see you enjoy having a good time!
Drop Hints
Give your crush some clues that you like him. There are many ways to do this. In a conversation with your crush, mention casually that you are not going out with anyone. Mention places you miss going to or a movie you really want to see. Talk about things you know both of you would like doing. The goal is to let your crush know that if they ask you out, you are available. (Don't be desperate though - keep it casual). By doing this, you also let him know what kinds of places you would enjoy going on a date (just in case he was wondering!).
Don't Panic Over Pauses in Conversation
Everyone, no matter how confident they seem, gets nervous sometimes in social situations. Cut them - and yourself - some slack. Don't flip out if conversation seems awkward at first, especially if you don't even know each other that well. Just remember to keep up eye contact, smile and ask questions about him you really want to know. If you get too nervous to continue, excuse yourself and leave the flirting to another time when you're feeling more assured.