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PLZ helppp!!
Hey guys I really need help about this!!!Well theres this guy(who turns to be my best friend)that im MADLY in love with.But he has a gf(...)so I figured the best thing to do is to move on on and let go...but I dont know how!!!plz HELP..i really need to shut my feelings for him because it hurts to watch him being in love with some1 else while im sitting here waiting on him.so please tell me what to do so i can 4get about him.i really have to.i cant stop thinking about him and it makes me cry.i cry almost every nights...please tell me what to do but,please dont tell me to do activities because theres not much to do where I live.just tell me what I should do toward him and stuff!
im waiting for your help.
thanx in advance
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well moving on isnt something that happens over night you have to make sure your really ready to let go. but untill you are its okay to think about him and miss him theres nothing wrong with that he had a big piece of your heart and obviously still does. so dont throw yourself at every guy trying to replace him because then your just forcing yourself to see how impossible he is to replace. and then when your ready you'll meet someone knew and hopefully then you'll be able to give your heart away to this new guy;; hope i helped <33
alright i already answered this ? but after i did i found this thing and my magazine for you
start small--
ine day this week take yourself off the market and do whatever you want to do without even thinking about the guy relating ramifications will your outfit get his attention who cares you like it so your wearing it will more guys be at the skate part of the mall who cares you fgeel like lying out on your deck and reading a book by bedtime you'll realize that the day wasnt a total wash just because you didnt flirt with any guys and you'll remember how fun it is to tune into your random impulses and favorite habits without worrying about anyone else..aka your bf
reconnect with friends--
hanging out with your girls actually releases maegadoeses of oxytocin a bonding hormore in your brain that helps you feel connected sure you see your friends every day but its important to make time for those super intense sessions where you really talk to eachother about something other than boys so get dressed up and split appetizers and desserts at a chichi resturant and go ahead and order extra onions on your quesadillas- no boys to kiss tonight so its okay!
see guys as people--
of course you dont have to cut guys out of your life altogether your next step is to begin thinking of them as more than just date material start by giving your gull attention to whomever your talking to regardless of wheather its someone who could be a crush or someone you'd never consider going out with. now that your just simply being friendly you dont have to limit yourself to the guys that are your "type" and when you do meet someone you like which is bound to happen since youve gotton to know your senf bettwe and youve washed off the stink of desperation there is no reason the two of ou cant becomre better friends give it a few more weeks and if it turns out your really into him that is breaks over! when you feel like you want a bf rather than feeling like you need one its a good sign that your ready for love again So once your happy with your own like your next relationshop doesnt seem so stressful because you know if it doesnt work out you can still be content with yourself...
alright i really hope that helped because it took FOREVER to type lol so u better keep me updated <33
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aww honey thats my lie excatly and ims till not overhim
all i can say is that for now it sux tahts being honest but with time and i mean as much time as your heart will give you you wil lget over him
dnt give up so fast
u have to say to ure self that u dnt needhim and that there aer other people and things out tehre
seeing him make syou want him more so try not to see him as much
hang out wih friends alot and focus on school and family
a great guy will come alomng and will make you very happy
crying is wat i iused to do at least 3 times a day
and to me it woudl just make me more volnurable
so wen you see ure gonna cvry stop ureself think about somethign play a game reada book go online occupy ureself so you dnt feel the pain
im reli sorry that ure going through thiss
let me kno how your doing!
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Hey!
OMG I can't believe I almost missed this question! I had already gone through all of the pages and I was bored so I was liek hey I'll look around one more time and I foudn your question. I have all the moving on tips in the book, so if you need some help, I think I've gotcha covered.
K, there are a lot of steps to moving on, and every situation is different so every person has a different step that is easier than another.
So the first step is to get involved. I know you said theres nothing to do where you live. But thats kinda a key step so if you can find anything thats better than nothing. Volunteer, walk your neighbours dogs, babysit the kid across the street. If theres absolutely nothing, then make your own thing, grab some friends and make a bowling team or set up a mom and daughter night and go with a bunch of your friends and their moms to a movie every month. Find something that you can do thats unusual and keeps your mind off of him.
The second one is fun, It's "me time" you need to find something that you can do on your own that makes you smile. Some people go out for lunch by themselves(but the reverse is if you see a couple out to dinner you might feel upset) some people take bubble bath or light candles and watch a movie.
The next one is expressing yourself. You need to find something that you can do to make yourself feel better, whether thats drawing, or painting or writing or playing basketball.
Then you need to set goals for yourself. set ten goals and start to tick them off, one can be clean your room on a regular basis or something but one can be stop obsessing about _____.
I know, you're thinking this advice sucks, I wanna know how to stop liking him. But thats one thing that all of this stuff will help with. If you're too busy planning the bowling night, are you thinking about him?
K the next one is finding friends. Usually activities help with this but it sounds like it wont work where you are. SO you need to find someone in everyone of your classes and focus on them. Maybe they're that hot guy you never really thought about dating, so flirt, maybe its the quiet girl in the corner that doesnt really have alot of friends in that class. try and meet someone new in every class. No don't ditch your friends, but reach out to others. And if you find a hot guy, well enough said.
As far as the fading of the crush, it may fade right away, or it may take months you never know, one day though it will fade and you'll find someone else. So basically, how do you stop from crying everynight? You focus on other things, and if you still have to cry everynight for a bit, well that may be the case. Each crush fades differently. When you're around him you'll hurt, but you just have to think about all of those great ways you're bettering yourself in life by setting those goals and spending time reaching out to others.
This is a hard situation, and I know how you're feeling it sucks. But I can help you out okay, so if you need anything else, or if those don't work, thats okay, I can give you some more, those are just a few ideas, and they may not work but something will and you'll find it. Good luck, and I hope I helped. Lots of love,
Angie91
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Aww!! this one is kinda hard!! it's so sad...please don't cry at night!
This KIND OF happened to me once...this girl is a really close friend of mine and im also close with her bf soo much! like i talk to him about everything! then i started realizing that he's such a great guy and i would have him anytime! but before falling for him too deeply i ended up staying away from him as far as possible! But i miss him sooooo much its crazy! He says he misses me too! And he still wants us to talk and all that! but i don't want to think like that again!
Anyways!! Back to your story...you really can't help your feelings...they're just feelings that can't be turned on and off easily! I think you might have to stay quiet and try not to think of him as this perfect guy that you really love...just think of him as a good friend! If you do what i did you might end up getting hurt really bad..and so would he! You could try and see other guys that you might be interested in.. I don't know if i've helped you much...but if i think of anything else i'd let you know! Anyways tell me how it goes later on! tc <3
Edit: I think ammo is so right!! <3 Im sorry hon. but there's no easy way out for this...=(
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Aww. :[ I know how you feel, I've gone through this all too often.
Look at it this way, by waiting around on him you might well be giving up on someone else who likes you about as much as you like him and who might even be better than him for you. You can't shut out how you feel because we don't have an off switch to be able to do that, although it would be a great addition. All you can do is try and move on knowing that at least he is happy with whoever he is with. Usually that's the only comfort I've had when I have been in the same place as you.
It will take time and it won't be easy but the sooner that you do realise that you could be waiting around for him for a very long time (even after which there's no guarantee that he will feel the same way) the easier it will be to let go and slowly move on. As I said it does take time though, there's no real shortcut when it comes to things like these. Just give yourself time to get over him and then move on and enjoy yourself. You will *find* someone, it's a big world and plenty people out there. I'm sorry that I can't really be of more help though. :[
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