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in social health care indentify occasions where the public have raised concerns regarding issues within the sector (link)
We really aren't here to do your homework.

It's extremely important to do your own work, or you won't learn.

If you are struggling, speak to your teacher. They will be more than happy to help you further.

Good luck


I need to go to the toilet nearly every 10-15 mins. Could i be pregnant as had unprotected intercorse! (link)
You may be pregnant.

It is also a sign of diabetes.

Go to see a doctor as soon as possible, it's extremely important. It may be something very serious.


how do you have sex (link)
If you need to ask this question, you are not ready to have sex.

Speak to your parents. They are often happy that you come to them to ask them. It may be awkward, but it's worth it.

Either that, or read some books.


Im 17 years of age and female. I want to text and talk to someone. I like talking to random people. If you are with optus then text me at 0411358284 (link)
Urm, sorry, but this is not a personals website.

I'm not even sure how this question got through to be quite honest.


um i was wondering becuse if i was married i would want only one daughter and not have too many kids what can i do to prevent having too much children please help me (link)
Are you asking how to prevent pregnancy?

Or are you asking how to find out how many children are too many?

For the first, it's obvious. Use protection. If you both agree, either of you can get permanent birth control in the form of surgery. Either a hysterectomy or a vasectomy, for men or women, respectively.

But this is a very serious decision to make, and you should both mull it over together. Of course, this only makes sense if you both want to not have any more children, and if you both see each other as life-long partners.


To the second question, only have as many children as you can afford. Although it's amazing to have more children, it's pointless if you cannot care for them. So figure out how much money you have, and if you can afford to take time off work. Then figure it out that way.

Be sure to speak to your financial adviser/doctor regarding any issues you have. Good luck :)


My boyfriend fingered me last month and this month i expected to get my period October 1 but it didnt come.. But am getting cramps (link)
Does your boyfriend happen to have a penis where his finger should be?

What I'm saying is, you can't get pregnant from someone fingering you.

You should see a doctor, because it may be something serious.


hello! 3 months ago me and my boyfriend had nicknamed sex but he cummed outside near vagina and then i was afraid to get pregnant , but after month my period came normal ,and my period is usually come late every month , but this time has gone 40 days .
so i want to know if it is impossible to get pregnant or not? or whats the problem why it come late ? or why it does not come till now?
am afraid!!
thanks. (link)
See a doctor.


im ready to quit construction and find a differant job a job that will allow non smoke breaks and a day off as in not going to work everyday so please what kind of jobs are there ps no construction jobs thank you (link)
Well there are all sorts of jobs that aren't construction. Every single job out there where you aren't building something, has nothing to do with construction. And so it really depends on what experience you have.

Just have a look at the types of jobs that require the experience you have. There are many job search sites out there. But without knowing your qualifications, and the type of jobs you want to do, it's impossible to really advise you further.

However, it is terribly hard to find a job in this economy. So be sure not to quit your existing job until you get a new one.


Good luck.


My boyfriend's birthday is coming up and I want to do something special for him in a sexual sense, he shares his birthday with his daughter so most the day we are going to be doing children things, and then go to dinner with his parents. He won't have much of a chance to do his own thing and I wanted to surprise him when we got home, I bought some nice lingerie but I'm not sure what to do beyond that.
When it comes to sex he does mostly everything, I want him to just sit back and relax though. But I don't have a clue, when I'm on top we just can't get in rhythm with each other, I don't know what to do and I don't want to feel foolish when I make an idiot of myself in the bedroom, it's his special day and I want to make him feel special.
Any tips or advice? (link)
The key is to relax. Is there something that he particularly enjoys? You could maybe ask him. Don't make it obvious though. Just casually ask.

There are many positions you could 'use'. You can get a book from a store or the library, or of course check online. Pick a few you think he would like, and just try them out. Don't worry about looking like a fool - you should be completely relaxed around each other.

You could also give him a massage. Check out hot oils, or maybe a 'nuru' massage, if you don't mind getting a little messy.

But the key will be to relax, and find out exactly what he likes. Remember to take it slow, so you both last long.

Have fun!


How do u get ur bf to be all lovey dovey with you (link)
If you want him to act this way, speak to him.

But realize that this sort of behavior is not for everyone. If he doesn't want to, he shouldn't have to force it.


can anyone tell me wat happens in the book lygaya i have a test tmrw and i dint read the book... PLZ HELP ME!!! (link)
I doubt anyone will. I have googled it, and it is a French book. I don't know of any French users on this site. Maybe someone who has studied French may have read it.

But seriously, this may be what you need to teach you a lesson. It sounds harsh, but you have to learn that there is a point of homework. It is to expand your mind beyond school. So if you were told to read it, you should have. Failing the test may just give you the motivation to do what is asked of you in school. If you are struggling however, it is best to speak to your teacher.

Good luck.


So I have wavy hair and I really want beach waves. I don;t feel like using any heat products just because I hate using heat items. I just want beach waves from ike braiding but whenever I braide my hair it looks crimped and I tried bigger braides but it just wore off. Don't even get me started on salt spray. I used it once. Ugh it was terrible. At first it looked cute but, further on it started to seriously mess up. I hated it. And my hair got dry too and tangly. So Is there any other methods? Not like that bun one too unless you've got a great tutorial. Last time I tried that it just went funky. Thanks fro reading! Please help meh (link)
Hi,

I think salt spray is seriously the best option. I use it sometimes. There are quite a few brands out there, so experiment and try them out. They're not all bad. I find Bumble & Bumble is a good brand.

Also, try "Samy Fat Hair 0 Calorie Thickening Spray". It's similar to salt spray, but doesn't leave that horrible grittiness you sometimes get with salt spray. I use this product nearly everyday.

You could also try a powder boost. It's a powder that you put into your roots, and then massage in. I'm not a scientist, but I'm guessing that it sucks up all the moisture. This gives it a really powerful boost. Again, it makes your hair sort of dry and your roots will feel disgustingly dry for a while.

Also, a little mouse (hair mouse) will help give that flicky texture.

Hold it all together with hairspray. I use Samy Fat Hair 0 Calorie Thickening Hairspray. The products are pricey, but I buy all mines when it's a buy 1 get 1 free promo. And whenever I go to the shop, it's ALWAYS on promotion.

So go for this -

1. Wash hair
2. Keep it in a towel until damn
3. When damp, spray your spray of choice. So this will be either salt, or thickening spray
4. Either use a hairdryer (be also sure to use heat protection) or let it dry loosely.
5. When nearly dry, put a little bit of mouse in your hands, and rub. Then apply to your hair. Not just on the outside, be sure to get your roots and inside too.
6. When your hair is completely dry, get some powder boost, and sprinkle it onto your roots (after you've parted it). Rub into your roots, and finish.

If I had to guess on how to go for the style, I would take the above approach.





Good luck!


Hey! i want to know how to do anal sex? (link)
Firstly, you give very little detail. Will you be penetrated, or penetrating?

Secondly, no-one will give you graphic details for this type of answer. May I suggest a Google search for this type of query?


I bumped into this girl who i knew of back in high school but we never realIy hung out or talked, anyway so i got her number and i called her the following week and talked to her but didnt ask her out. then i called her twice more after but both phone calls were short because she said she was busy doing things. So at that point I thought she was not interested at all, then a few days later I got this text " sorry for being so short on the phone with you when you called, but I have been really busy.i will message you if and when my schedule frees u. Have a good one". So is she interested or she's just being friendly? What should I do? (link)
It's hard to say. She may actually have been busy when you were speaking to her. Either that, or she just didn't want speak to you.

My advice is to wait a couple days, and then ask if she wants to go out for a beverage or lunch. If she say no, then ask her to suggest an activity or day/time she prefers. If she doesn't get back to you, it's safe to assume she isn't interested.

But don't keep messaging/ringing her. It'll come off as desperate, needy, and pathetic. Play it cool.

But that's the only way to really know to be honest. Remember, if she says no, leave it at that. Don't get down or upset. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and move on.

Good luck!


19/f

I'm taking a Japanese Culture class and I was told to come up with some questions to ask an international Japanese student about my topic. My topic is Japanese Cherry Blossom festivals. I have to come up with questions that the students would be able to understand and some research questions for myself to research. I have to write a 5 page double spaced paper due to these question's answers. I'm not asking for the answers to these questions, I'm asking for what questions I could possibly ask. Here's the format:

Research Questions: (general but critical/analytical questions for you to discuss in your paper)

Questions to Japanese partners: (need to be concrete and specific so that non-native speakers can handle them)

These are the ones I came up with so far:
1. What is the Japanese Cherry Blossom Festival?
2. When is the Japanese Cherry Blossom festival held?
3. What activities are in Japanese Cherry Blossom festival?

Please answer ASAP if you can think of questions quickly, I am terrible of thinking of any. :(

(link)
How do people celebrate the festival?

Do different areas celebrate the festival differently?



How do you set up a pre-paid funeral? I don't want my family to have to deal with this when I pass away. Who do I talk to to do this? I am afraid that if I did it with the local funeral home and then I passwed away on a trip it wouldn't count and they would still have to pay for my burial. How does this work? (link)
Hello,

I've never heard of pre-paid funerals, but there are some more conventional steps you could take:

1. You could open a bank account, and put some money aside in there to help with the funeral. In your will, you can state that this is what you would like the money to be used for.

2. You could take a life insurance policy out. Google some insurers, and ask around. Be sure you're getting a good deal though. There is no point paying in $50 a month if you are very young at the moment, because the payout will probably be much less. This is how they make their money. Be sure to also check the terms and conditions. Many insurers don't pay out if the deceased has committed suicide (which I hope you are not planning on doing, because it is never the answer).

But googling "pre-paid funerals" has seemed to bring up a few results. I'm from the UK, and so if you're from another country, I'm not sure how much what I've found will be useful to you. You could always ring the funeral homes up and ask if you could pop round for a quick chat. Then discuss any issues or questions you have.

Good luck!


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It's been a while sense I had sweaty hands but it only seems to happen when I feel this pain on my stomach it's like pressure I aways use gum and mints to calm me down and it works but it only lasts a little because I get sick of the chewing but its like a presure that I could sometimes control by puting less force on my musles or taking air.. Any advice is great thanks!(: (link)
This is a matter for your doctor. Stomach pains and sweaty hands (overly sweaty) are not good signs. It could be something serious!

Good luck!


Is it more bisexual to get your dick sucked and rubbed or suck a dick and rub them? I would want to expierament maybe once and see if I like it but I still wouldn't be bi or gay I I don't like it? That's what I think. I think I'm hit a curious teenager going through puberty (link)
Bisexuality is not something that is measurable. So you can't be more or less bisexual. That's like saying, "I'm more sleeping now than I was earlier".

Experimentation is completely normal. If you enjoy it, then it's okay. If you don't, then it's also fine. But during your age, your hormones are all over the place, and so you'll be confused.

But yes, bisexuality is not measurable.


So for the past couple of days I have been really stuffed up. I cant breathe through my nose and my throat hurts really bad. I dont have a fever and otherwise I feel okay. It's worse in the morning when I wake up. Then as the day goes on I take Sudafed and Ibuprofen and that seems to help a bit. Is it allergies or does it sound like I have a virus or cold? (link)
There is really no way to know to be honest!

Your best bet would be to see a doctor. Not only for a diagnosis, but also ensure that you don't take too much of the wrong medication (which can have negative side effects).

Hope I helped!


I am a twelve year old girl from NZ. I keep getting bullied by this girl in my class, and her guy friend (NOT boyfriend)One of them is african, and one is mexican. They always call me really mean things, and sometimes shove me and other stuff like that. They walk the same way home as me so I have to suffer it for 20 mintues everyday.Telling a teacher won't help, as the bullies will do it anyway (already tried) and I can't tell any other adults because they just make the problem worse. Please help me! (link)
You should tell your parents. If they speak to the school, they will take it more seriously, because the top rank of the school is much more afraid of what parents will do.

So tell your parents to speak to the school. The school will hopefully tell the bullies' parents. Every child will take their parents more seriously than a teacher. The chances are that the parents don't know that their children are bullies. So they will have a word with their kids and tell them to stop.

So definitely tell your parents! It may seem like a conversation you don't want to have, but it's really the only way to help it. Bullying is a terrible, terrible thing. It's really best to stop it as soon as possible before it gets worse, and before they start terrorising loads of other people, in childhood and adulthood.

Good luck!




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