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Special Birthday Sex
My boyfriend's birthday is coming up and I want to do something special for him in a sexual sense, he shares his birthday with his daughter so most the day we are going to be doing children things, and then go to dinner with his parents. He won't have much of a chance to do his own thing and I wanted to surprise him when we got home, I bought some nice lingerie but I'm not sure what to do beyond that.
When it comes to sex he does mostly everything, I want him to just sit back and relax though. But I don't have a clue, when I'm on top we just can't get in rhythm with each other, I don't know what to do and I don't want to feel foolish when I make an idiot of myself in the bedroom, it's his special day and I want to make him feel special.
Any tips or advice?
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This might be too late of an answer, sorry if it is, but you didn't give a date!
If it doesn't really work when you take control, don't try it, there's other things to do. Like you say, you want it to be special, not awkward.
What about stripping/dancing for him? Have you ever done that? Even if you look a little foolish I'm sure he'll like it. Even if you've done it before, it's a nice way to show off your new lingerie. It's definitely a way for him to sit back and relax! Put some wrapping paper on or something and make a whole show of it. Practice a little before hand in front of a mirror and trust me, you'll look a lot sexier than you may feel. After your show, you can have sex like normal and the entire experience together should be really special for him. Good luck! :)
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The key is to relax. Is there something that he particularly enjoys? You could maybe ask him. Don't make it obvious though. Just casually ask.
There are many positions you could 'use'. You can get a book from a store or the library, or of course check online. Pick a few you think he would like, and just try them out. Don't worry about looking like a fool - you should be completely relaxed around each other.
You could also give him a massage. Check out hot oils, or maybe a 'nuru' massage, if you don't mind getting a little messy.
But the key will be to relax, and find out exactly what he likes. Remember to take it slow, so you both last long.
Have fun!
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