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so I have 2 boyfriends. I'm not a hoe like you would think. I mean I'm nothing like that. but the first boy I am going out with I am prob going to dump after his birthday which is tomorrow. cuz there's too many things. i really don't like rude guys and he's rude. and then my other boyfriend i just started to go out with yesterday. i know i'm doing the wrong thing but i know that i'm prob gonna dump him. it's not that i want the other guy it's just i dont like my first boyfriend anymore. i'm sorry but i'm not sure what to say to him. please help me. thank you.

If you have two boyfriends then sorry, yes you are a hoe. And if you're so ready and willing to dump them then you really are a skank. Tell them both what you did and end your relationship with both of them...and don't date anyone until you get your priorities straight.

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My mom pushes me with grades. She made me study all day for 5 days for one test, and I got a 77. Now I'm grounded for 2 weeks and have to study even harder and longer. I have no social life during the week and rarely on weekends because my mom always makes me study. I'm just not that smart. My first language is Chinese, so school in America is difficult and my mom doesn't care. She hit me with the textbook once because I didn't take notes like she told me to. My friends and I agree that I'm doing the best I can, and adding even more days of non-stop studying won't help. What do I do?

Talk to a counselor at school about getting a private tutor who could help you after school or on weekends. Good luck!!

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This is going to be really long, so please stick with me.

Last week, I found out that my boyfriend was flirting with someone that hangs out where his sister works. I was kinda sorta okay with it, since I know that he means nothing by it and its just his personality. But then one of my cousins went to go get her hair done by his sister while he was there. My boyfriend doesn't know my cousin. Well, this girl was really like seriously flirting with him and he was just trying to tell her that he loved me and would never cheat on me and to stop flirting and all. But she didn't stop.

Well I'm death in one ear, and 50% in the other, so when I talk on the phone, I can only hear what the person who is talking on the phone is saying. Well, he called me and she (the slut) was flirting with him and yada-yada. And I heard her say, "If you didn't have a girlfriend, you know you would want to hit this" and he said, "Yes, but I have a girlfriend and I love her and wouldn't want to hurt her" Well then she said, "even if you did?" and he said "never"
Do you think he will cheat on me with this girl?

Okay, well he goes to "trivia night" at a place around here with his sister, her husband and their friends and that girl went. Well, they ran out of chairs and she sat in my boyfriends lap. He didn't do anything about it.

Well, we had this really long talk about it and he said he wants to marry me and he loves me and never wants to hurt me again.

I told him that I called the girl and she said that he kissed her and he made her sit in his lap and he was always flirting never her. (I lied, I've never talked to this girl) He got really mad and upset about it. Well, a lot of rumurs go around about him and he said that I never believed any of the other rumours why should I belive this one? So, does that mean that my lie is really what he did? Or did he really not do anything?

He said he would never talk to her again, and I believe him. Just, do you think that what I lied about was the truth? Is that why he got so mad about it?

Please help, I really love him and don't want to loose him.

He is always telling me I'm the best thing that ever happened to him and he never wants to loose me, and when I talked about breaking up with him he got really scared and cryed. I'm just really confused. Please, help. Thanks.

You have to keep in mind that anything "the slut" (nice nickname for her, she sounds like one haha) says is probably a lie or exaggeration to make you feel jealous or to get you to dump your boyfriend. So don't listen to her. If he says that he loves you and wouldn't cheat on you, he probably won't. But if he's still agreeing with the slut when she says things like "if you didn't have a girlfriend, you know you would want to hit this" it's still innapropriate and you have every right to be pissed off. Tell him this.

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ok basically my school lunches are horrible. they serve pizza & bagels every day. their salad is watery & brown. you get my point. i need ideas for lunches to pack. i was thinking of either pb & j with fruit, but obviously i don't want that every day. anything that would be good?? just remember-- it will be sitting in my locker [i can use ice packs] & also i don't want packaged food such as 'meals'.

thanks!!

PB&J, PB, J, fruit, veggies, yogurt, crackers, chips, fruit snacks, granola bars, trail mix, cookies, juice, soda, water, milk, soup/coffee/tea in a thermos, muffins, scones, candy, pop-tarts...

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How can I give myself a bruise? This is a VERY important question. I hope it doesn't get deleted by the moderators. Don't ask why, but I REALLY need to know how to give myself a bruise.

I'm guessing you're asking this because you want to pin it on someone else that they are abusing you. Don't be an asshole. Seriously. It's a crime to file a report against someone for physically abusing you when they didn't

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Is concealer bad to use?
People keep telling me it is.

I've been using it for a while and it hasn't made me break out.

They say it's oily and bad for your skin.

Is it?

I find it.. healing my acne though. My acne is less red [when I'm not wearing makeup] and it's smaller.

So no concealer or what?

It's bad for you if you do not wash it off before going to bed. If you're concerned about it being bad for your skin, go for a non-comodegenic concealer because non-comodegenic products do not clog pores. As long as it's not making you break out or irritating your skin and as long as you're removing it before bed, you're A-okay.

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what is the best local home made cure for chicken pox? how many days does it take to wear out + my boyfrind got it once will he get it again

Try taking a lukewarm bath with oatmeal mixed in it (I know it sounds gross but it makes it feel a ton better) and applying calamine lotion. And if your boyfriend has had the chicken pox before, he won't get it again from you. Get better soon!!!

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I curentally live with my boyfriend and his great family. Everything is great except I wonder one thing, he is 19 years old and anytime we go anywhere he mom calls to see where we are and when we are going to be home, he also cant go a day without talking to her, and can never stand up for himself when she says no. She also calls him habebe whichs means "my baby", and she says she dosent like it when he is out late. I understand she is worried but he is 19 years old and I thought at 19 they would be a man. Mabye I am wrong but I was thinking of marring this guy because he is the love of my life but I dont wanna marry someone who is attached to there mother and can never grow up and be a man. Mabye its just me But i would really love any advice anyone can give me! Thank yOU!!

She sounds just a little bit posessive or whatever, but if he's over 18 and lives with his parents, he needs to obey their rules and treat his parents with respect.

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tristan buys a computer for 3600 dollars for tax purposes, he declares a linear depreciation of 600 dollars per year let Y be the declare value of the computer after X years . What is the slope of the line that models this depreciation ?

Like I care.

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If a gurl is 17 in her boyfriend is in his 30s is it still rape! Dont answer if you are not sure!!

If you are under the age of consent in your state, then it is considered aggravated sexual assault. I don't know why everyone says it's "rape" because it doesn't even fall into that category. Visit www.ageofconsent.com to see what the age of consent is in your state.

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advicenators,
i've tried putting on liquid foundation before but i can't seem to find the right shade for my skin tone. its really frustrating! Are there any tricks to finding the right shade from looking at the bottle in the store? also, when i put foundation on in a duller light in my bathroom it looks fine, but if i turn on a brighter light it looks incredibly horrible!...like you know how everybody had very very light, almost invisible facial hair (i guess)..all over your face, well they become more visible i suppose. but i am not sure if its supposed to be like that. AHHH please helppp!

When you buy foundation, try the tester at the store or hold up the bottle to your jawline and compare it to your skin tone. As for the weird facal hair situation, use more moisturizer to tone it down.

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14/f. i'm starting school soon and i have two questions:

1) i dont know what to wear on the first day of school. i want to wear jeans, but my school has no air conditioning, and i don't want to be hot. so i thought i would wear a jean skirt, but i think that everybody will wear skirts, and i don't want to be like everybody else. oh and i really don't like wearing shorts, so any good ideas?


2) also i have a problem for school picture day. i always straighten my hair, and that is what i want to do on picture day. but since my school doesn't have air conditioning, i'm worried that my hair will curl and frizz by picture time. i have my pictures taken 7th period, which is the second to last period of the day.


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Ew your school has no air conditioning? Sucks for you! Anyway, I'd suggst staying away from vests, leggings and skinny jeans because that's most likely what everyone will be wearing since it's in style this month. Go for something unique. As for your hair, use John Frieda Frizz Ease Spray. It's great and it usually lasts all day! Good luck!!!

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I just got a job at Guess? and I'm meeting my manager and staff for the first time on thursday.
Should I get my nails done? Like get a new set. A lot of the people who shop there have fake nails. I have a gift certificate for this nail place so I was wondering if I should go ahead and get them done. The last I had them was for my prom and I really liked them. I just don't want to be slow on cash or folding or having them think I'm too snobby to do any work but I'm pretty sure that they want everyone there to look really good.
Right now, my nails are pretty wrecked because I pulled off my fake nails from prom and they're really gritty and stuff so I thought it's better to get them. What do you think?

Fake nails are kind of a waste of time unless you wear them for prom like you did. Like what if you were to go ahead and put fake nails on for the first few days or week of work or whatever and then you didn't have time to make them look nice when you pulled them off? Then you'd have crappy nails. I'd say you should just invest in a good manicure instead because it'll last longer but look nice and be your natural nail. Good luck with your new job!!

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For the past 2 years I have gotten really close with this guy who is A LOT older than me. He's 36 and Im 14/f But latley we've gotten really close. Like were dating? I don't know. its not like he's a pervert or anything. But I've i guess fallen in love with me. We're both musicians and we share an amazing passion together. I can stop it whenever I want to , but i can't. I guess you can't help who you fall in love with. The thing is that no one knows about it and hes married! So im really confused. but if i tell my mom or anyone there goes my lessons with him and band and everything ive worked for. and i love him. what should i do and is this okay that were together?

No, it's not okay to be dating someone who is 22 years older than you. It's sick. Please tell your parents about it or cut off your relationship with this man for your own sake.

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All day my sister has been stratching me pinching me hitting me and kicking me. Everytime we have the littlest arguement which is litally every 2 seconds, she has to hurt me in some way. She even bites me! I have marks all over my skin from everytime shes ever hurt me. My arms and legs are covered in stratches blood marks and brusies from her. I know all sisters fight with eachother but sometimes I feel like it gets outta hand. Today, she got mad at me and stratched me and she wouldn't stop I kept yelling get away from me and stuff and she wouldn't stop so I pinched her so she would get the fuck away from me. One little pinch sends her into tears and she runs to my mom and of course no matter how much my sister hurts me, if my sister is in one little pain of discomfort and blames it on me my mom will always take my sisters side. I showed my mom all of the marks, and she goes good I'm glad she does that to you, if you got hit by a bus right in front of me it would be hard for me to PRETEND like I actually care. I never care what people say to me but when it's my actual mom I break down crying because I hate knowing people don't care about me. My sister pinned me down on the floor and handcuffed my hands with my dads old handcuffs (he used to be a police 20 years ago) and she started kicking me so hard and pinching me I couldn't move I felt like I was going to burst and just die. My mom was 2 feet away watching all of this happen and kept saying hit her harder, hit her harder. My mom doesn't care what happens to me. So I was still pinned down in hand cuffs so I tried to kick her with my leg to get her away from me but I was closing my eyes and by mistake I LIGHTLY kicked her "bad arm" to make her stop torturing me and she starts balling her eyes out. Of course my mom yells on the top of her lungs "GODS GOING TO GET YOU DONT YOU DARE TOUCH MY BABY YOU USELESS PEICE OF SHIT GO SLIT YOUR WRISTS." I said "mom did you see what she was doing to me she had me pinned down in hand cuffs what did you expect me to do just sit there." And she goes "I don't care what she does to you I hope you die." and she walked away. I ran up to my room crying. And then about 20 minutes ago my sister got mad because we were playing a ps2 game and she lost so she pulled my long hair so hard a huge chunk of it came out and I didn't cry but I tried to hit her but she ran away so fast so I popped her balloon that she got 3 days ago from a restaurant. My sister told my mom (but of course left out the part about her pulling me hair) and my mom started yelling at me and threw me on couch and just started beating me she hit my head so hard about 9 times it still hurts and she tried to choke me with the balloon and tried to stuff it down my throat. I managed to get away and I ran up to my room. I'm 13 and my sister is 10 so of course she never gets in trouble. My sister gets so much clothes and toys and cds and anything she wants she automatically gets no matter how stupid it is. My parents don't buy me any clothes I have to wear the same clothes from 2 years ago that don't even fit me any more. They don't buy me any nice things and when we go out to eat they don't even let me buy a drink and make me order off the kids menu when I'm 13 and I'm skinny but I eat A LOT and I finish the kids meal in 5 minutes and I'm starving while my sister 3 years YOUNGER then me is munching on a huge steak with 3 sides. I hate it!!!! My sister never gets hit and I always do. My mom throws me against walls and she even does it infront of my friends!!!! I can't stand this my sister always hurts me and I always get in trouble. I tried the police, but my mom lies so much so of course they believe my mom. My friends help me out so much and make me feel so much better but if they arn't at my house they can't see whats happening to me and its up to me not to get myself killed because no one else cares.

What do I do? I'm sick of living like this. My mom and dad won't even let me have a talk to them about it.

The fact that your mother has caused you physical harm and is allowing your sibling to cause you physical harm without any intervention is in itself child abuse. Please tell someone you know immediately. A teacher, a friend or friend's parent, a relative...anyone who will listen and not take your parents' side on the matter. If you are too freaked out about telling someone you know, call 1-800-422-4453 which is the national child abuse hotline. I'll be praying for you, I've had foster siblings and my mother that have been through the same thing and I know it's absolutely terrible. Even verbal abuse causes you a lot of hurt and pain in this case. If there's anything else I can do for you at all, feel free to IM me (my AOL Instant Messenger screen name is kkkermiiit) or send me another question on this website.

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i am 16 and have had braces for 21 months but i dnt want them anymore they were just put on to close gaps but theyre sort of closed now and i was wondering if a 16 year old is allowed to stop treatmeant?

I would highly highly highly recommend you keep them on. Seriosuly, if you get them off now, your teeth will be extremely screwed up shortly after you do so. And it'll be extremely painful. They'll shift around and it won't be pretty. Even if it looks to you like your teeth are all "fixed", according to your orthadontist, they're obviously not. And under your parents' jurisdiction since you're still a minor, I'm pretty sure you cannot contest to treatment against will anyway. Sorry, hun. Oh and if you feel like you've had them forever, just think of my cousin who had braces for four years and then didn't wear his retainer so they shifted around and he had to get them again for six years.

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I was really late to catch up on the trend, which is probably like a year old, that's why I begged my mom to let me buy a miniskirt. B4 the whole legings thing my mom would never let me look at a minskirt when were shopping. I ended up buying a mini + leggings and was planning to wear it on the 1st day of school. Is this a good idea or would i end up looking like the fashion disaster i can always be when i try to go for a look diffrnt than the usual [jeans + tee]? What i fear the most is what evry 1 else is gonna say. School starts in 2 wks and i cant make up my mind. The 1st day is one of the only days i get to look especially nice. The outfit i was planning to wear looks nice w/ or w/o, IMO. I have to wear the mini and leggings to school or my mom would deem me as wasting her money. This isnt the 1st time i would look at something and say "Oh,that's cute" and buy it and wear it to school, to then realize its not that cute of a shirt or whatever and never wear it again. Like last year when i bought a bright pink cropped hoodie/sweatshirt... Lets just say that color pink was definetly not my color.
Anyways, what should i do?

Personally, I'm pretty sick of the leggings trend. Because they totally kicked ass when they first came out...like I'm the first person out of people I know that wore them. I still like the trend but it's like everywhere and I'm guessing skinny jeans and miniskirt/leggings will be all anyone wears the first day of school. So if I were you, I'd pick something different to wear.

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but..i don't know. sometimes i enjoy it & other times i'm not so sure. my parents will be disappointed if i don't pursue varsity swimming at my school. but, idk if i want to. i enjoy it sometimes, but ither times i hate it. it's so boring & kinda hard. idk how to explain it. i just don't enjoy it too much. :(

please help asap!!!

Sometimes I think it's really boring and hard too but I'm keeping with it and I think it's the best thing to do because it keeps me healthy and I love it like 75% of the time (haha). So think through it really well before you make any other decisions. Also realize that swimming gets harder in high school and will get better as you get more used to it. Good luck!

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im going school shopping tomorrow. i get like $100-200. but my style is like delias but they are pretty expensive so i dont want to waste half my money on one outfit. what are some stores that have those kind of clothes but are cheap? thankss.

Delia*s is my all time favorite store. But yeah, it's super expensive. I'd say buy things there that are on sale but also check out Wet Seal, Charlotte Russe, and Forever 21 because places like that are starting to get the same type of clothing styles.

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What does it mean to get your hair "blown out"
at a salon?

Blow dried. They call it "blown out" because it gives it much more volume.

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